12 Things Every Man Should Know About the Female Orgasm

Written by on November 7, 2018 in Conscious Living, Relationships & Sex with 38 Comments

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It is exciting, sexy, and interesting, but the female orgasm is also complicated and contentious. Sex researchers brought this topic into the spotlight 60 years ago but we are still debating how and why it happens. “Female orgasm is shrouded in many mysteries and misconceptions and as a result it can cause discordant expectations among partners,” says Susan Kellogg-Spadt, director of female sexual medicine at the Academic Urology Center for Pelvic Medicine and medical reviewer for HealthyWomen.org. While being focused on orgasm as the Holy Grail of sex is a bad idea, knowing what an orgasm is, how different women experience it, and how it's most often produced can not only increase the chances of reaching one, it can make a relationship stronger overall.

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(1) Why Women Fake It

In case you haven't heard, some women fake orgasms. (About 53 to 67 percent according to various research.) A survey of about 400 women found that there are many reasons for the practice, such as feeling insecure about possible sexual dysfunction, increasing arousal, and simply wanting to be done with that particular bedroom romp.

(2) Not All Orgasms Are Earth-Shattering

Strictly defined, an orgasm is a physical reflex where the muscles that were tightened during sex relax, bringing the body back to its pre-arousal state. Some women experience warmth, bodily vibrations, and altered consciousness — hence the euphemism “la petite mort” or “little death” — but some women won't even notice their orgasms.

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(3) About 10 Percent of Women Have Trouble Reaching Orgasm

Regular difficulty reaching orgasm is called anorgasmia. It can happen for lots of different reasons — physical, psychological, and situational. Some women experience anorgasmia even though they've been able to achieve orgasm previously.

(4) Men Aren't the Only Ones who Ejaculate

Ejaculation in both men and women is a separate bodily function than orgasm. While the two often occur together in men, it is estimated that anywhere from 10 to 50 percent of women also ejaculate fluid during orgasm.

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(5) Orgasms Used to be a “Cure” for Hysteria

For centuries, hysteria was a catch-all term for lady problems like fainting, irritability, and nervousness. Medical professionals sometimes used orgasm to treat hysteria because it was thought to release toxic female fluids.


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  1. 506055966224271@facebook.com' Cantor Llamoso Florence says:


  2. 1509019072749523@facebook.com' Kat Hazelle says:

    Daniel Bottrell

  3. 1642730039309479@facebook.com' Murray Scott says:


  4. 1050283325004318@facebook.com' Doug Chapman says:

    Jakup Jeffers

  5. 10153628933765953@facebook.com' Kurt Graham says:

    Care factor: zero

    • 846414435380494@facebook.com' Revolution de Mind says:

      I agree Awesome comment

    • 10207912231230849@facebook.com' Dominique Aguilar says:

      Must be gay then,

    • 10153628933765953@facebook.com' Kurt Graham says:

      Nope, just don’t give a rats bout your crap article.
      Or did u some how interpret that differently and decide my sexual orientation was for my own gender?
      bet your fun to hang out with .
      Enjoy ur day Dominique.
      ( guys name aint it? Or would i be jumping to silly conclusions?)

    • 10208261191111616@facebook.com' Gordon Slape says:

      Totes over it. I thinks it’s a very small percentage of the population that ” don’t care at all” … but come on.. seriously over the rate of a man’s ability to ejaculate being “a problem” Let’s face facts about the animal kingdom… it’s taken tens of thousands of generations of men getting their gear off and job done in the fastest possible time… and now in the space of the last 20 – 30 yrs… it’s time to undo evolution and make this… “a problem”
      Over it.

    • 1114296165249912@facebook.com' Amanda Jade says:

      The only reason you should care is that a woman who can enjoy multiple orgasms with you will want you to have sex with her a hell of a lot more; that can’t be bad? However, given women’s ignorance about their own bodies and unrealistic expectations that it’s a mans ‘job’ to give her an orgasm, I understand your apathy.

  6. 846414435380494@facebook.com' Revolution de Mind says:

    Who else loves this

  7. 10206542453974997@facebook.com' Mollie Holtman says:

    Link has been taken down? Error, page not found is what I got.

  8. 10154293839402538@facebook.com' Alexander McNulty says:

    404 error: this page does not exist.


  9. 990263920997186@facebook.com' Ambar Culhane says:

    well I wanted to know…but link isn’t there…naughty!! Are you keeping this one a secret?

  10. 10153200013962753@facebook.com' James David Morrison says:


  11. 10153595046790630@facebook.com' Mark David Alcock says:

    What’s an orgasm….actually forget it…we dont really care 😉

  12. 924206557656952@facebook.com' Frank Trim says:

    i’m blushing ..

  13. 426064990916356@facebook.com' Javier Octavio Tinajero says:

    Lol noobs

  14. 10208261191111616@facebook.com' Gordon Slape says:

    Agree… how many of these articles do these guys want to promote. Let’s change it up. .. how about next week’s article. ..
    “Ladies.. it’s not all about you… how to work your man to help him.. help you… !!

    • 1114296165249912@facebook.com' Amanda Jade says:

      I personally think that its the woman’s responsibility to know what her body is capable of doing and teach her partner. Its unreasonable to expect another to “just know” how to give you pleasure, after all we are all different. And like wise, it’s just as important for a woman to know what turns your man/partner on too.

  15. 10153760090446474@facebook.com' Caz Barradell Mathers says:

    Martin trimby

  16. 966953730032995@facebook.com' Brandon Mccarty says:

    Where’s the aspirin she’s got a headache

  17. 10153239852110095@facebook.com' Dawn Sigurdson says:

    If a woman doesn’t feel the organism, chances are she hasn’t had one.

  18. 10204946736803412@facebook.com' Brittnie Latiolais says:

    Chris Farraro

  19. 10203786764629050@facebook.com' Stewart Fanning says:

    Well that was boring

  20. 1500921866874470@facebook.com' Suzanne Porras Zamora says:

    Man should learn more about it.. Make a happy woman..makes a man jump …from the floor.

  21. 10206677578410767@facebook.com' Phil Pott says:

    Its not that difficult !

  22. 1114296165249912@facebook.com' Amanda Jade says:

    Vaginal orgasms rare? Only because men and women don’t take the time to learn about the female body. Once you understand anatomy and take the time explore, you wont regret it. It’s like any muscle use it or lose it. It surprises how many women don’t take the time to learn what they are capable of achieving when it comes to sex. Unless something is wrong physically, All woman can: Ejaculate and have multiple vaginal orgasms.

  23. 894027767343157@facebook.com' Rachael Streight says:

    I feel, at least for me, and orgasm is reached by like 75% mentality and 25% physical touch. Us women need to be tuned into our sexual nature and reaching an orgasm would likely no longer be an issue. I never ever fake an orgasm. No need for it!

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