How to Make Peace With the Scariest Parts of Our Past [VIDEO]


Chances are pretty good that at one time or another, we have all done something we aren’t proud of. We’ve all told a little white lie or two…or three, and perhaps even some bigger, darker ones. Whatever your fancy, one thing we all seem to have in common is having a skeleton or two in our closet. While this is perfectly normal, this can definitely mean different things to different people.

We can lead happy and productive lives with these skeletons in our closets tapping at the proverbial doors of our conscious minds, as long as we don’t allow our past to haunt us, or furthermore haunt those we care about. Relationships are an excellent way for people heal trauma, learn a great deal about themselves and others, but unfortunately, many of us don’t take advantage of this fact and hang onto relationships as simply a source of need or obligation only.

However, if we use the opportunity to learn, grow, self-reflect, and heal past trauma that relationships allow us, we are continually making peace with our past by using our down falls, poor choices, mistakes, etc. do what they were meant to do; teach us life lessons. Believe it or not, when we do things we are not proud of or we consider failures, these things are not meant to stay with us and torture us eternally with guilt or feelings of worthlessness.

Image result for heal your pastForgiving ourselves for actions we feel guilty for is vital to keeping a healthy self-image and keeping peace with yourself and others. Until you can tell your story without getting heated, upset, or ending up in tears, then you have not yet healed and will still have the tendency to bring toxicity into your relationships. Awareness of this fact is the first step in changing negative behavior; however willingness and effort to change must be present or the ego will fight to the death to keep that skeleton scratching at the back of your mind.

If you are able to forgive yourself, which is no easy feat if you are new to self-love, then the next step would be a simple shift in your perception about the actual act you are attaching the negative thoughts and feelings to. In other words, let’s take the skeleton out of the closet and have a good, shall we?

Go over the event best you can in your mind after first making sure you are in a calm, peaceful place and have focused on your breathing for a few minutes. Now, think back to your intentions while you were doing the thing you now feel so guilty about. Was this you back then in pain? Did you just get hurt recently? Most likely the answer will be yes…And you will find that most hurtful acts (unless you are just an asshole, of course, but I don’t think that’s the case if you’re reading this!) are because we too, were hurt at one point and the energy flows on. It takes a certain level of awareness to sit with and redirect that kind of energy and make a different choice.

And there’s no time like now to change your mind! If you are feeling guilt, this shows you carry empathy, so please show empathy towards yourself and know in your heart that you were acting from a place of fear and hurting. Feel the release of emotion and let it come as it will. If you feel anger, sit with it and allow yourself, then let it go. If you want to cry, do that. Whatever comes is right for you. This is shadow work, this is healing and there is no right or wrong way. While peace feels the same to ALL of us, it looks unique to EACH of us. <3


Please enjoy this very insightful binaural beats meditation below to assist you on your healing journey. 🙂

Video Source: Thomas Hall


tamaraTamara Rant is a Co-Editor/Writer for CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, heart-centered Graphic Designer and a progressive voice in social media activism & awareness. She is an avid lover of all things Quantum Physics and Spirituality. Connect with Tamara by visiting Prana Paws/Healing Hearts Reiki or go to

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