Have you Made Your Valentine’s Resolution?


By Robert O'Leary, JD, BARA


So how about it: a Valentine's Day Resolution? What, you may ask? But I made a “New Year’s Resolution” just a month and a half ago and I’m struggling to keep up with that one!?!

Or you never made one back then and just don’t have the time.

But please indulge me on this for a moment – or 2, depending on how fast a reader you are :-).

If you think Valentine’s Day is just “a day”, you’re only half right. Valentine’s Day is really a culmination of the year before… and has the power to set the tone for the year after.

Now, I’m not trying to add pressure. Believe me, by the time you’re finished reading I’ll have a suggestion for how to make your Valentine’s Day even better and, yes, easier.

So, here’s how it can work. You already have your regular Valentine’s Day preparations set. You may already have your reservations set a year in advance, and the itinerary for your favorite place to grab a card, flowers, and gift. You’ve got that well covered, so I urge you to do as you normally would. But, here’s a cherry you can put top of your preparations.

And this will take a little thought…

So, take a walk or a break from your work. Take a breath and clear your mind and think about some of the rough spots in your relationship in the past year. And let’s just think about the little ones. Just observe them as if you were a fly on the wall; let any emotions, which you may have about them, pass on through. Take another breath.

Then grab a pen and piece of “scratch” paper and write them down … 1, 2, 3 … a few words will do for each one. Finally, pick one that you think you can spend some time in the next year working on.

Now your resolution will be your own and each guy or gal in a relationship will have his or her own. Your resolutions could consist of such things as:

-Finally getting to a project you’ve been putting off;

-Putting away the electronics and connecting a bit more during the day;

-Listening more and judging, or “fixing”, less;

-Finding time for intimacy; or

-Being more spontaneous.

Once you have your resolution take a nice piece of stationery or a blank card and, in your best penmanship, write something like the following:

“My beloved,

In addition to the other gifts I bring you today, I want you to know that Valentine’s Day to me is not just a day; it's an acknowledgment, of the importance of the year we've had, and the promise of the one to come.

In honor of that, I make the following Valentine’s resolution: [your resolution here].

A New Year’s Resolution as you know is very personal, and about me…

But this kind of resolution is about you and me”

Love [your name here]”

Once this is done, find a separate little box or small decorative gift bag and place it inside. Then sit back and enjoy a special time with your special one.

Since the best Valentine’s Day gifts are the ones that are one part “beautiful” and one part the thought that goes into the gifting, your Valentine’s Day Resolution covers both of these aspects, as it is a beautiful gesture and commitment, but also comes from the heart.

And then, once the day has passed, put some time into putting this resolution into action, making it a part of your routine. We’ve all heard of the 21days needed to make something a habit, so do your best to make this resolution real – you have a year to work on it. And ultimately, even if you cannot fulfill the resolution, your efforts at doing so will most likely touch the heart of your loved one. But do put in the effort because the sense of accomplishment and the reward to your relationship will be more than worth it.

In my experience as an attorney, representing a lot of divorcing parties and unmarried individuals addressing property and child-rearing issues over nearly 20 years of practice, I can tell you that I wish that I could have talked with them like this even before they hit my office doorstep. Any opportunity, to rekindle the proverbial romantic flame and remind each person of the spark that first drew them toward one another and fused them together, is a chance to keep their relationship away from the abyss of irretrievable breakdown of a relationship and, instead, on a path to a better future.

What I have suggested in this quick article is one such opportunity. I urge you to look for other opportunities in the future, listening to that little voice inside you (from intuition, your angels, divine inspiration, what have you) that can guide you to do what is best to make your relationship long and enduring.

In closing, my wish for you, on Valentine’s Day and in your coming Valentine’s Year, is for abundant peace and love.

Robert O'Leary, JD BARARobert O’Leary, JD BARA, has had an abiding interest in alternative health products and modalities since the early 1970’s, and he has seen how they have made people go from lacking health to vibrant health. He became an attorney, singer-songwriter, martial artist and father along the way and brings that experience to his practice as a BioAcoustic Soundhealth Practitioner, under the tutelage of the award-winning founder of BioAcoustic Biology, Sharry Edwards, whose Institute of BioAcoustic Biology has now been serving clients for 30 years with a non-invasive and safe integrative modality that supports the body’s ability to self-heal using the power of the human voice. Robert brings this modality to serve clients in Greater Springfield (MA), New England and “virtually” the world, through his new website, www.romayasoundhealthandbeauty.com. He can also be reached at romayasoundhealthandbeauty@gmail.com


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  1. redrocket2002@aol.com' Carol Clark says:

    Nicely stated Robert, what a nice simple way to express gratitude and appreciation for one another. Most often it is the most simple heart felt gesture that gets noticed the most.

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