Self-Love: The Path to True Empowerment

Many of us have been taught that when we need something, that it must always be a struggle to get it. That we must somehow suffer to prove we somehow deserve objects of our desire, to satiate any feelings of righteousness as to not over-inflate our egos. Or perhaps we’ve been taught to feel guilty any time we have something nice or good in our lives; as we’re reminded not everyone is so fortunate.

There are many reasons we may struggle with the natural flow of life, which believe it or not, is to keep you in a state of peace. The Universe knows nothing else, and as a pond will return a ripple to stillness after a pebble has been tossed, it will continue its natural motion to resettle in “neutral”, to re-center at Zero-point.

Of course life has its obstacles (I prefer to call them opportunities 🙂 ); how else are we to learn, grow and expand? But as far as using what we‘ve learned to assist us in creating the lives we want for ourselves, why does THAT continue to be a struggle for so many of us? Why are so many good-hearted, talented, intelligent people still finding themselves in jobs they deplore? Or perhaps they aren’t be challenged enough in or not getting to use their gifts and abilities? Why do so many us still find ourselves attracted to people that are no good for us? People who continue to draw up old wounds and cause us pain?

After pondering on such things for quite some time, I’ve come to one conclusion and that is before the skies clear…before that truly life-altering epiphany finally hits us, there is one simple thing that must occur.

That one thing is self-love.

Once you learn to love yourself above all else, it’s almost as if the puzzle pieces of your life come out of the shadows and reveal themselves to you.  You may not entirely see how they all fit together yet, but that’s okay. You now see the magic and fun in that and look forward to putting them together with your new outlook; with your new eyes.

I’m not speaking of self-love in the egoic sense of the word. True self-love means you finally see yourself in those whom you used to hold in a higher regard. In other word, you realize there is no difference between you and those you idolize. You can now see the connection in all things and this inner knowing forever instills a sense of being cared for on a cosmic level that ultimately cannot be explained in words.

You only need to make this realization once, and while you are human and may happen to mistreat yourself at some future point in time, perhaps letting someone take advantage of your kindness, you will be forever changed in how you see yourself and your place in the world. Because once you learn to love yourself, you also learn the fact that it’s really the only way you can ever truly love another, or ever let another truly love you back the way you truly need to be loved.

You will begin to see your relationships change for the better because you are no longer with people subconsciously to fill something that is missing with yourself, since now that there is nothing missing, you are free to be in a relationship, simply to love and enjoy the other person and their company. There is neither absolutely nothing more freeing nor more empowering and to me this is the definitely of what true love means and what most of us are continually striving for. But until we fully learn what it means, and that it is vital to first achieve self-love, then sadly most will continue to repeat old patterns as well as the same old relationship habits.

And circling back to allowing things you desire to come into your life gracefully, and without loading yourself up with an extra heaping of guilt, you will soon discover after you learn to love yourself just how simply you literally surrender to the flow and allow the Universe to answer the calls of your heart. Now, this isn’t to say some magic genie will appear or that one would be wise to get caught up in visions of grandeur materialism, but rather that when one is literally living IN LOVE, in that vibration of creative force itself, we are more in tune with our ability to manifest in our lives and just how much responsibility we actually do have over what “happens” to us. This is beyond empowering and unleashes a whole new field of view when it comes to playing the game of life. You innately begin to see a bigger playing field. You have a better scope on the other players, and you are a hundred times more confident in your own abilities.

This is the power of love… <3



Tamara Rant is a Co-Editor/Writer for CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, heart-centered Graphic Designer and a progressive voice in social media activism & awareness. She is an avid lover of all things Quantum Physics and Spirituality. Connect with Tamara by visiting Prana Paws/Healing Hearts Reiki or go to RantDesignMedia.com

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