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How To Love Someone Who Doesn’t Love You Back

Sometimes you can love someone and they don't love you back in the way that you would like.

You might feel a deep connection with them in your heart.  You might have had dreams about them. You might feel you are meant to marry them and have children.

It can be painful to love someone and that love not be reciprocated, especially if you feel so much for that person.

It can be so painful sometimes that you might be tempted to close your heart and not feel it.

It can also be easy to feel rejected by the other person and spiral into feeling that you aren't good enough. That if you were, they would love you back.

But this is not true.

Whenever you close your heart and stop loving, it's YOU that loses. 

To keep your heart open even when another person is loving you back, you must let go of the relationship that you think you should have with them. We sometimes have our own idea of how we think a relationship should be with another and we impose that onto them. This only creates suffering.

So stop projecting onto them and having an imaginary relationship with them in your mind.

It's not loving to control and impose your idea of what you think the relationship should be onto someone else. It simply limits love.

Just because you meet someone and have a deep connection doesn't automatically mean romance or whatever you make up in your mind.

Let go of the person and surrender the relationship beyond how you think it should be. Then you make yourself available for the highest expression that is meant to be between you.

If you keep your heart open and remain curious then the authentic relationship can blossom.

Real love allows for the highest good and is unconditional. Real love requires surrender, and when you surrender, you not only open yourself to miracles but you are truly free.

Surrender is the key and a major life lesson that we are here to learn. 

Trust that what is meant for you will be YOURS. Nothing can change that. So it's pointless to force someone to try and love you.

If you force and manipulate someone to love you, you might succeed for a moment. But deep down there's always a fear that they will stop.

When you let go and remain open, you can have peace in knowing that if they love you back then it's real.

When you choose to not let someone's loving you or not loving you determine your loving then you are free.

When you depend on them loving you back or responding to your love in a certain way, then you have given your power away.

Remember that:

You are LOVE.

You ARE love.

YOU are love.

And when you love, you always win.

When you open your heart and love, YOU expand. Whether it's reciprocated or not. Whether the other person notices or not.

Each time you love, you open and you grow. No one can take this away from you. It's your expansion.

When you love big, you open yourself to receiving at the same level at which you loved. 

Consider this: The person who doesn't love you back in the way that you want is an angel in disguise inviting you to love unconditionally.

Sometimes it's those that don't love you back that teach you the most about loving unconditionally. It's easy to love when you get what you want.

What about when you don't?

Can you embrace the bigger opportunity for your soul to love?

It may mean that you need to let the person go completely and simply love them from a far. But you do not need to stop loving them.

If you love them, then love them because that's what you are committed to doing for YOU.

Loving is an inner commitment. 

Commit to being BIG love.



Kute BlacksonKute Blackson is an utterly unique visionary in the world of human potential. Unlike those who promise to simply help people “get” what they want, Kute’s life work instead reveals to people what they have to give, by liberating who they are most truly and deeply. The focus: Freedom. Acclaimed worldwide for his life changing, one of a kind, transformational experiences, he is considered one of the leading voices in the fields of transformation and spirituality. Kute is an inspiring modern day spiritual teacher and a bold voice for a new generation. 

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  1.' Where there is love there is life says:

    Don’t be afraid to start over. It’s a new chance to rebuild things. This time better. The way you want it. — Unknown.

  2.' Kathryn Miller says:

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  4.' Sunshine Camacho says:

    Very good article

  5.' Debi Anoatubby says:

    Thank you, great article

  6.' David Thrasher says:

    ” sometimes the ones who don’t love you back teach you the most about loving unconditionally”….

  7.' Scott Robb says:

    You should not be giving love with the expectation of reciprocity. That is ego, and based in fear. Love just is and is not conditional. I will tell you though that if you live in a state of loving, it will be reflected back to you from the most unexpected places.

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