Letting Go of the Worry That Weighs Us Down

Written by on July 15, 2017 in Conscious Evolution, Conscious Living, Thrive with 0 Comments


By Lisa Jeffs | Tiny Buddha

“Worry pretends to be necessary but serves no useful purpose.” ~Eckhart Tolle

As a child, I remember my daily walks to elementary school. It was an uphill walk for the most part. Quite symbolic of later years, now that I think about it.

I would walk to school every morning with my backpack filled to the brim with things that weren’t even necessary for my day at school. I had extra clothes, toys, and books. It was so heavy that after a few months the straps would begin to break down due to the pressure.

Fast forward a few decades and the backpack I was carrying was a metaphorical one yet just as heavy, if not more. A backpack filled with spinning thoughts and unnecessary worries.

I often visualized it as a backpack filled with bricks, with every spinning thought and worry symbolizing its own brick. I’m fairly sure I had enough bricks to build myself a 10,000 square foot home.

It got to the point where the bag was so heavy, some days all I could do was stay in bed and sleep to relieve the pressure.

The constant worry over every aspect of my life, big or small, would consume me.

On any given day I could wake up and worry about things such as my social anxiety escalating to the point of a panic attack to not consuming my protein shake in an adequate time after my workout.

It was exhausting, yet on some level comforting because I believed I was maintaining some level of control with all the worry.

However, it wasn’t control at all; it was simply another uphill walk carrying a heavy, unnecessary, self-imposed weight on my back.

I didn’t unload my backpack overnight, but gradually as I strengthened my trust muscle.

I strengthened this muscle when I started letting go of the tight grip I was trying to maintain over my life and trusting that everything would work out for the best when I stopped trying to control everything.

When you think about it, gripping something tightly with your hands is forceful, hard to maintain, and tiring.

And it’s no different in life.

When you choose to have faith that everything is going to work out for the best, when you release the struggle, that is when your backpack will become lighter, and you will no longer have to spend your life walking uphill.

Do you remember being a child and running down a hill? How you could go so fast, it almost felt like you were flying.

You didn’t think about where you would land at the bottom. You didn’t try to control your speed. Heck, you didn’t even worry that you could possibly trip and take a massive face plant.

You just ran with all your might. And if you fell and scraped your knee or maybe even took that face plant, you would cry to fully release the pain but you knew you would be okay and would be back to run that hill again.

I now believe you will know you have emptied your backpack of all its bricks when every day becomes like running down a hill like a child.

So here is what I learned on my journey to lighten my backpack filled with ‘bricks.’

Other people’s bricks do not belong in your backpack.

I believe the sensitive souls and the caregivers of this world tend to carry the greatest amount of other people’s bricks.

Let’s take my backpack, for example. For years I carried around my parents’ worry around having enough money for basic necessities.

After witnessing and emotionally absorbing my parents’ struggle from being financially abundant in the 1980s to desperately trying to keep their business afloat during the early 1990s recession, my backpack was overflowing with a weight that was never meant to be mine.

It wasn’t until about five years ago that I realized I had been carrying around these worries needlessly.

I wasn’t struggling with money; in fact, I was doing quite well financially, yet I had this underlying fear of not being able to provide for my daughter and that my financial means would be taken away suddenly.

I was basically recreating my parents’ worry from twenty years prior.

So how do you lessen the weight of others?

Often all it takes is the realization that other people’s expectations and worries about the world do not need to become ones you hold for yourself.

They cannot become yours unless you allow it.


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