Five Simple Steps for Transforming ANGER


It sure seems like there’s a lot more anger around lately. Think of all the movie characters that have “Anger Management” issues!

Wikipedia has entries for, among others, Anger, Anger Management, Rage, Road Rage, Air Rage, Computer Rage, and even Wrap Rage, which is defined as “heightened levels of anger, frustration and violence resulting from the inability to open hard-to-remove packaging.”

Come on; raise your hand if you’ve ever felt a little bit of frustration trying to dismantle the 12 inches of bulletproof plastic wrap surrounding some tiny little flash drive!

Now, I want to make it very clear that I’m not a proponent of anger. However, I’m also not an anger-basher (is that an oxymoron?)

After spending more than 30-years of my life doing everything I could to deny, suppress and control my anger, I’ve spent the past 2 decades learning how to come into a more empowering relationship with this emotion that, in my opinion, gets a bad rap… before it even has a chance to get expressed…

Which actually explains why it gets a bad rap.

Most of us were taught from a very early age that anger is not ok. So we learn how to bottle it up and keep it “safely” hidden inside.

The problem is… that just doesn’t work.

You’ve probably been around people who have “bottled up” their anger (maybe, like me, you grew up with someone like this!)

If you’re at all empathic or intuitive, no matter how hard they try to hide that anger, you can feel it swirling around inside of them.

Eventually, even the tightest cork is going to pop and that anger is going to come out. And if you’ve been around someone when that cork comes flying out, you know that it’s not fun… in fact in can be downright dangerous!

Now I’m a firm believer in the power of emotions to catalyze our awakening journey. And the emotions that typically get labeled as “negative” including anger actually serve an extremely valuable purpose:

They point out the places where we are resisting our growth!

Anger is one of the most powerful expressions of resistance.

When you feel anger bubbling up it’s a sign that there is some internal block. And, while anger never feels good, knowing that you’re blocking your awakening is actually a good thing!

Anger is filled with energy and movement. Harnessing that energy can help propel you to the next level. But you need to do it in a healthy way… a way that doesn’t hurt yourself or others.

And that’s tricky because so few of us have been taught how to experience and express anger (or other “negative” emotions) in a healthy, beneficial way.

When I sense an undercurrent of anger within clients or students I’ve come up with a simple protocol that is very effective at helping them effectively navigate the powerful energies contained in the emotional body.

It’s just four simple steps.

First, stop denying and pushing the anger away.

Take a deep breath and see if you can let go of the beliefs that anger is “bad” or “wrong.”

Second, remember what anger really is… using this acronym:


This is such a powerful reminder… when you reframe anger in this way it can instantly shift the intensity and open you to a deeper awareness of what the anger is awakening in you.

Third, appreciate your anger.

Yes, actually thank your anger for helping you see that you are resisting some new awakening.

Fourth, give yourself permission to express the anger… safely!

Punch a pillow. Go out in the woods and bang on a rock with a big stick. Go for a drive on a back road and yell and scream.

Or find a qualified emotional release practitioner and allow yourself to be held and witnessed in the process of letting go of that anger.

Fifth, Awaken to the New Growth that was Encountering Resistance.

Let yourself open to the new energies, insights and information that were being held back and blocked.

So the next time you feel anger starting to bubble up to the surface, don’t push it back down.
Instead, remind yourself that it is Awakening New Growth Encountering Resistance and see what you can do to open up and allow that new growth to come through.

I’d love to hear your thoughts, stories or insights about anger. Use the comment form below to join the conversation.

Edward Mills - Abundant MysticsEdward Mills is The Abundant Mystic, an Awakening Catalyst for Modern Day Mystics seeking Purposeful Prosperity. He is a bestselling author and the creator of the transformational Elemental Repatterning Process. Click here to download a free Appreciation Activation Recording that will tap you into the manifesting powers of Gratitude. And you can connect with Edward and other Abundant Mystics in the Abundant Mystic Tribe Private Facebook Group.

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  1.' Revolution de Mind says:

    Awesome post 🙂

  2.' Trent Johansen says:

    Chris Smith

  3.' Malcolm Serra says:

    Why complicate life was the point on that

  4.' Malcolm Serra says:

    One step don’t expect nothing of now one

  5.' Neels Button says:

    I wonder why?

  6. Anonymous says:

    Very good article, anger is a powerful expression of resistance, I agree!
    I find singing loud helps lol

  7.' Elaine Abraham says:

    Quite a read…

  8.' Greg Dale says:

    Two things about emotions and anger that many don’t stop to consider: first, anger, in many cases, is a very caring emotion. If you didn’t care about what was happening, you wouldn’t be angry. Second, our reality is fundamentally emotional. Emotion drives our behavior, our choices and are at the root of the rewards we experience. In order to experience this fully, we must know ourselves emotionally. Gender has nothing to do with it. All of us are human and all of us have access to the full range of our emotional self. To know yourself, each of us much explore this critical part. We cannot be a whole person if we don’t.

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