I’m Afraid of Committing in a Relationship, HELP!

“Do you REALLY love her?” I asked.

“Yes, but I am afraid, I just don’t know if I can commit to her”.


How many times have you heard this, or said this yourself?

Many of my friends have recently expressed to me that they are afraid of committing to a relationship.

Ponder this:

The real commitment is to Love itself.

When you commit to love itself, it’s then that you are truly free. All forms will change. Your lover will change. They won’t be the same person that they were when you met them. You will change. You will grow, mature and evolve.  The relationship itself will also change.


When you commit to Love you commit to what is real. There is never a guarantee that a relationship will work out or that you will feel the same way 10 years from now, let alone 10 months from now.  When you commit to loving then no matter what happens to the relationship you “win”. Whether you stay together or not, you grow, evolve and expand.

What you can offer is the most authentic expression of your heart to your lover, moment to moment, with the intention of growing together.

In reality, you never know what will happen tomorrow. Whether you will be alive, or not? What you can be honest with is, what you feel most deeply now.

As you keep doing so, it leads to another now, and another now, and that now might last 1 year, 5 years, 25 years, or the rest of your life.

What you can commit to is being true to yourself first, and then true to your lover.  Your relationship can then remain a fresh and alive adventure.

We are often afraid that:

– It won’t work out.

– I can’t just be with one person.

– He/She will leave me.

– What if there is someone else better out there?

– I will lose my freedom

– What if I am making a mistake?

Even if you do break up, that doesnt mean you failed. Breaking up can also be a sign of commitment to your self and your partner, if this is your deepest truth. And staying in a relationship, might actually reveal not being committed, if it is not your truth.

Let your commitment be to serving the evolution of your lover’s soul and not just their physical form. Then you become a true SOULmate.

Commit to serving the SOUL in your lover. Recognize that your lover is a portal into the Infinite.  Your lover is a manifestation of the Divine in a human body. Your lover is a sacred temple in whom you have the opportunity to serve.

When you remember who you really are, you recognize who your lover really is, and in this place committment takes on a deeper dimension. You are committed to way more than another “body” or personality.

In this commitment surrendering into love is a deeper freedom. You surrender your fears, insecurities, mind, control, and open to something bigger than yourself.

What we often think of as being independent and free isn’t necessarily freedom. We must be careful not to become slaves to our fears, and resistance in the name of “independence”.

When you know who you are, then you trust yourself, and in doing so trust who you are choosing to be in relationship with.

As you find the freedom within yourself, the real commitment is to a deeper surrender to your partner as GOD.

Then you are God’s and Goddess’s in a dance of relationship, sharing the freedom of Love.

Love.Now

Kute

P.S. Women: If you a ready for big love, and to transform the hidden blocks that keep you from having the love you deserve. Join me at The Man Breakthrough Experience (Workshop) May 15-17th in Los Angeles. You can still get the early bird price!

EDITOR’S NOTE: I attended Kute’s Man Breakthrough Experience and can honestly say it helped me magnetize my life-partner soul-mate, Ross Pittman (Editor of CLN). I can’t recommend it highly enough! Love and blessings, Vicki

 

Kute BlacksonKute Blackson is an utterly unique visionary in the world of human potential. Unlike those who promise to simply help people “get” what they want, Kute’s life work instead reveals to people what they have to give, by liberating who they are most truly and deeply. The focus: Freedom.

At 8 years old, Kute began speaking in front of thousands of people at his father’s churches. At 14 years of age, he was ordained as a minister, given the mandate to take over a spiritual organization spanning 300 churches. At age 18, through a series of spiritual awakenings, he left everything behind. His entire life has been dedicated to understanding who we are, what we’re here for, what makes us truly happy and how we can achieve our highest potential.

World renowned for creating revolutionary results and a world-shift in consciousness, Kute is widely known as a transformational facilitator, speaker, and leader. Today, the venue for his message may be one-on-one, a vast stadium setting, experiential seminars, and transformational travel intensives all of over the world.  And his uniquely inspiring cutting edge videos have reached millions of people worldwide.

Kute works with clients from all walks of life, ranging from billionaires, celebrities, entrepreneurs, circus performers, politicians, mothers and children in over 20 countries, and for the past 14 years has been a trusted advisor and coach to CEO’s and world leaders.  Acclaimed worldwide for his life changing, one of a kind, transformational experiences, he is considered one of the leading voices in the fields of transformation and spirituality.

Kute is an inspiring modern day spiritual teacher and a bold voice for a new generation. He leads transformational journeys to Bali (get more info here).  He also helps women overcome any and all obstacles to love with his “The Man Breakthrough Experience” , the Women’s Seminar.

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