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How to Attract Positive Relationships (& Drop the Negative Ones, Too!)

Written by on October 3, 2015 in Conscious Evolution, Conscious Living, Thrive with 7 Comments

Do you know how to attract positive relationships into your life, or do you often feel surrounded and overwhelmed by negativity?

One thing I have heard from lots of people who are interested in the Law of Attraction is that they often struggle with the negative people in their lives.  When you want to live a more positive life, it can be especially frustrating to be surrounded by people who constantly complain, or who are rude or judgmental. 

I too had this experience for a long time, and I still deal with negative people from time to time.  However, I have found a few ways to improve the quality of the energy of the people who surround me.  With a little bit of tweaking, I’ve found myself surrounded by more positive folks, and the negative people in my life have either stepped back a bit or they have become more positive when I am around them.

If you would like to attract more positive people into your life, or if you would like for the negative people to make themselves scarce, here are a few things I recommend:

Focus on the good in people:

Particularly when you find yourself angry or upset with someone, take a deep breath, and then take a moment to reach for the best feeling thoughts you can find for them. 

For example, perhaps I absolutely loathe my brother-in-law’s unkind comments and constant complaining.  In an effort to attract more positive energy from my brother-in-law, I can take some time to list out his redeeming qualities.  Through he might say rude things and be selfish, he might also be a good athlete and have a funny laugh.   Maybe he always helps clean up the dishes when he comes over for dinner or he plays with my kids.  

Now, this doesn't mean that I have to compliment him or be “fake” as some might think.  All I really have to do is offer a few intentional thoughts about his finer qualities.  That's it.  Of course, a compliment won't hurt, but it certainly isn't necessary-especially if it feels uncomfortable to give one.

By choosing to focus my thoughts on the good in my brother-in-law, I will simultaneously be reducing my focus on his negative traits, and therefore I will be less of a vibrational match to the negative aspects of his personality.

I’ll admit, with some people this approach will be a stretch at first, and might seem pretty counterintuitive.  Luckily, though, as we start looking for the good in people, the more good the Law of Attraction will reveal to us about them.

Always remember, when we focus on the good in people, the people around us will be more inclined to show us their best.  We all shine a little brighter when the people around us notice our redeeming qualities.

Avoid complaining about the negativity: 

Sometimes it is really frustrating to be around someone who is very negative, I get it-trust me!   

Unfortunately, though, when we complain about the negativity we ourselves dip into a more negative state of mind.  Once this happens, we become an even greater magnet for more negative people to walk through the door.

So, as it turns out, your mom was right:  If you don’t have anything nice to say, just keep quiet!  The negativity in others will never be remedied through complaining about it.  In fact, it only makes things worse!

Strive to be a person you'd want to have a relationship with: 

Though some people believe that with the Law of Attraction you get what you want, in actuality with the Law of Attraction you get what you are. Because of this, the more we project kindness, compassion and generosity, the more of those traits will be expressed in the people around us. 

Therefore, instead of waiting for positive people to come to us, we can become the people we want to meet, and then more of these kinds of people will walk into our lives.  Sure, we may have our bad days and it’s ok if we aren’t “perfect,” but a little extra effort to be positive can go a long way, so it’s always worth a shot to be more loving, generous and tolerant!

Replace your mantras about people in general:

Once we come to expect negativity from people in general, it becomes inevitable that we will continue to experience negativity from others.  You can tell that someone expects negativity when they say things like “people suck,”  “you can’t trust anyone,” “everyone's just out for themselves,” or “it’s a dog-eat-dog world.”

Replacing our negative mantras about people can have an awesome effect on not only our relationships, but also in our encounters with strangers on the street. Instead of generalizing the bad in people, replace these mantras with statements like “we’re all just doing the best that we can,” “there's good in everyone,” or “there have been lots of people who have been kind and helpful to me.”  Then, when you find yourself feeling a little frustrated with the people around you, remind yourself of these new mantras.

When we default on positive (rather than negative) expectations of people we find that most of the people we interact with are decent human beings.  Changing our mantras about people is an easy thing any of us can do to improve our relationship with humanity.

Attracting positive people and relationships into your life can be a fairly simple process.  Simply focus in the good in the people around you, avoid complaining about the negative people, replace your mantras and strive to become the person you would like to have a relationship with.  This approach is highly effective and will have a profound effect on the quality of your social life.

Have you found any other ways to attract positive relationships and drop the negative ones?  Comment below and share your thoughts!

Best Wishes Always,


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About the Author: Andrea Schulman is a former high school psychology teacher and mother of two who specializes in Law of Attraction education.  She's passionate about yoga, technology and spiritual living.

This article was originally published on Raise Your Vibration Today.

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  1.' Julie White Oliver says:

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  3.' Gareth James Evanz says:

    I haven’t read this but I find the heading a bit shallow no one is positive all the time and the way help a negative person is to show them positivity and have them around positive people to lift them

  4.' Cathy Simon says:

    There is no positive or negative its in your mind learn not to judge first and listen if you don’t like it walk away ?

  5.' Kim Reda says:

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