Last week I wrote about why we ‘crash' after coming back from a retreat or from an epic personal growth workshop. I talk about that ‘ache' here in The Power of Taking Small Steps.
But sometimes, there is a feeling of loneliness. Different from the ache, this is a feeling of ‘empty’
When one has done deep work, quite often they have released non-serving beliefs, released their story and, released their undeservedness.
But here is the thing… we have made our ‘stories' our friend. We have made our ‘beliefs' our friend. We have made our ‘undeservedness' our friend. We have catered to them. We have tended to them. We have showcased them. And now, as we let them dissolve, there is an emptiness. We feel lonely.
That feeling is PEACE.
We have not become accustomed to peace yet. We have allowed the stories, the dramas and the traumas to dictate our lives. And with those suddenly disappearing, it can feel lonely.
But notice the actual feeling and discover the difference… Is it, it’s actually the feeling of ‘empty.’
You have emptied yourself from that which had governed you.
You are now a-new.
It is tempting to call upon your old friends because we have been habituated to life with them. But the opportunity here is to create a new friendship. The one with peace. The one with empty.
Empty allows for that of your choosing to enter into the space. Be vigilant with your choosing.
Be uncomfortable with peace until you are uncomfortable no more.
She is your best friend.
Farhana Dhalla is a #1 Best Selling Author, International Life Coach & Speaker, and Creator of the transformational Thank You for Leaving Me Journey. She is the visionary and leader of the enlightened divorce movement and the ultimate ‘go to’ person for shifting perspective. As a ‘suddenly single mom’ to three small children, she intimately knows the overwhelming fear and pain – -and the liberation of stepping into the highest version of oneself. Check out her free webinar Divorce Is Not Your Fault and connect with her on Twitter and Facebook