Source: Rachael Jayne Groover
In her work with female clients, Rachael Jayne Groover is often asked, “What should I do if my partner is less evolved than me?”
Occasionally, it's a valid question, because the woman asking has a partner whose life approach is totally contrary to hers. He's being lazy, drinking, and watching TV all the time.
But often, the question itself needs to be questioned, because Rachael Jayne will meet one of these so-called unevolved partners and find that he is really quite evolved!
Personal evolution can take on many different forms and men are different than women. If you feel that your spouse or partner is less evolved than you, consider that the judgment itself is not very evolved, open you mind and heart and consider these 3 things.
If you think your partner is less evolved than you, try this:
1) Watch how critical and fixated you are on your spouse and make sure you are putting way more attention on yourself. Spending lots of time focusing on the flaws of your partner is usually a way of avoiding your own evolutionary path.
2) What specific shadow qualities are you resisting in your partner? You can find out what they are by honestly filling in this blank:
She/he is so _____________
Do it as many times as you need to get all your judgments down on paper. Then look at each word in the blank and find examples of how YOU are that way.
3) Make sure you have other fulfilling relationships. You evolve and grow from all your relationships, so you should make sure you have lots of different fulfilling ones.
Again, remember to question the question. Asking, “What should I do if I'm more evolved than my partner?” contains an implied assumption that you are more evolved than your partner, and thinking that is ironically, a rather un-evolved way to look at evolution.
I can’t believe you post feminist garbage like this. If you’re going to deal with a touchy subject you should be very careful to be fair to anyone the article might speak to. This is just shallow, self-indulgent feminist fluff garbage. Feminism has gotten really ugly.