How To Deal With People You Love That Don’t Want To Change!

So what do you do when someone you love is stuck, angry or in pain, but they are unwilling to do what it takes to change?

They simply don’t want to let go yet, or just aren’t ready to make a shift at this time.


We all have people in our lives who we love and care about. Whether it’s a spouse. A child. A good friend. A co-worker. Or a sibling.

It can be frustrating at times to see them stuck or in pain, especially since you love them, want what’s best for them and can see their potential.

We must always remember that every human being has their own journey and unique life lessons that they need to learn.

Their life lessons aren’t your life lessons. You do not have to take them on.

And not everyone will learn those lessons at a pace that you think they should. Every soul has its own perfect timetable that’s right for them.

Ultimately, you can’t change people. People only change when they are ready. You can be supportive by providing the environment, the experience and the invitation to shift, but they have to be ready and committed.


If you really love someone, stop trying to change them. Accept them exactly as they are and give up the idea that they should be any different.

Then you can truly be in relationship with who they are rather than your ideal of who you think they should be.

Freedom is when you are no longer in resistance.

If someone you love is stuck and they aren’t ready to shift, simply love them without any judgment. Allow them the dignity of their own process. And trust that they will come through it when they are ready.

Rather than preaching about who you think they should be, or telling them how you think they should live their life, simply be the presence of unconditional love in their life. This creates a space of compassion and safety that they will feel.

Let how YOU live your life inspire those around you to make changes and grow to their next level.

Who are you BEING?

They may not be receptive or ready to make changes now, and you can judge them for where they are at, which serves nothing.

Or you can keep your attention focused on seeing the magnificence of who they really are and reflecting that back to them.

You can also silently bless them with love and kindness.

You can’t change anyone. But you don’t have to let them change who you are being in the world.

Those you love who are stuck or unwilling to change are your best teachers, giving you the opportunity to practice unconditional love more deeply.

Simply… Love them.

Love.Now

Kute

Kute BlacksonKute Blackson is an utterly unique visionary in the world of human potential. Unlike those who promise to simply help people “get” what they want, Kute’s life work instead reveals to people what they have to give, by liberating who they are most truly and deeply. The focus: Freedom. Acclaimed worldwide for his life changing, one of a kind, transformational experiences, he is considered one of the leading voices in the fields of transformation and spirituality. Kute is an inspiring modern day spiritual teacher and a bold voice for a new generation. He leads transformational journeys to Bali (get more info here).  He also helps women overcome any and all obstacles to love with his “The Man Breakthrough Experience” , the Women’s Seminar.

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