A Date With Myself: How I Danced With The Ocean & Discovered My Beingness

Written by on January 7, 2015 in Conscious Parenting, Relationships & Sex with 0 Comments

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Joy-compressed (1)One holiday season, while the children were with their dad for the holidays I decided to do something a little uncharacteristic. Instead of using that time to ‘punch out a bunch of work’, I opted for a sun and sand vacation in the Dominican Republic.

Who did I go with? I went with myself.

I was not alone. I was WITH myself.

This powerful distinction took the sting out of a typically lonely time as I became curious about me and my own wants and wishes. I enjoyed ‘dating’ me. I revelled in the silence and often had a smile on my face; amused by my own thoughts.

I wanted to mark the beginning of the new era with some form of ceremony. I decided that sunrise immersed in the ocean would make a lovely temple for meditation.

Here are the thoughts taken directly from my journal après worship…

“I went swimming in the warm Atlantic Ocean fully intending on taking in the sunrise but the sun goes up and down so quickly around here that it can be missed in a blink. Nonetheless I went, originally planning to swim naked but with the sun up and early risers walking the beach, I decided to stay suited for my romp with the ocean.

I wanted to usher this powerful energetic time with a meditation but not a single meditation came to mind. Instead, I was mesmerized by the waves. I danced with them and fell in love with the way my body moved with the ocean. I found myself laughing and giggling with my ocean playmate.

I was in full appreciation knowing that the salt water was removing toxic beliefs from my body. I could feel the generosity of the ocean lovingly taking all erroneous beliefs and all toxic thoughts away from me.

I felt the wholesome love and support of the ocean as I moved and I appreciated the ocean letting me cut through it effortlessly and never leaving me in any way. I felt its forgiveness and it unending support. And I heard its' message that there was nothing to forgive. All there was is love and support.

I sang out loud – as loud as I could – a little song I learned many years back from international artist Julie Blue. I belted out “Spirit inside me, I call on you to guide me. Breathe into the heart of me  – oh oh oh. Breathe into the heart of me – oh oh oh”

I frolicked some more and when I was complete, I skipped back onto the soft white sand and walked my way back to my room at the resort. I was thankful of the silence, the moments with myself and the moments with the ocean.

Suddenly, I wondered to myself if I had ‘missed’ something profound by not doing an actual meditation and almost instantly, I laughed.

I WAS in meditation. The whole time.

I was in joy. I was in dance. I was in love. I was immersed in love.

I was in the purest form of meditation.

I was experiencing trust and love and receiving at it’s finest.

THIS is what we are being asked to move towards in this new era.

It is no longer a doingness being called of us… it is a BEINGNESS.

Be in Joy. Be in Dance. Be in Play. Be in Love. Be in Trust.

This is meditation. This is how the Greater wants our relationship to be.

Then I thought – oh shoot, I forgot – Deb (my Shaman friend, the 8th Wisdom Keeper, Debbie Gibbs) had told me to reclaim my Medicine Name while I was in the water.

I had to laugh again because the song that I had instinctively sung was the same song that I had sung when I had first taken my Medicine Name several years back.

And then a whole body, cellular smile came over me as I saw the perfection of my experience with the ocean and my Medicine Name:

I am Dancing Woman of the Waters.

I didn't have to ‘reclaim' my Medicine Name  –  I WAS my Medicine Name!

I remain in awe that when I listen to the impulses of my heart and pay attention to the soft voices that have for decades gone without my notice but patiently awaited my return, I experience my life as poetry. As I enjoy a more playful relationship with The Greater, I now realize that the devotion to joy has always been the way in which they want to communicate with us. Our individual journeys lie in our ability to trust that and allow for our playful communion.

We have entered the time in which the soft voices are easier to hear and our heart communicates our truth with more clarity. Trust. Trust yourself. Trust the inklings. Trust that it doesn't fit the norm. You were not born normal. Thank Goodness. You were born Magnificent. This era is for you to experience yourself as just that.

If you are seeking, seek us with joy. 

For we live in the kingdom of joy.

Do not give your heart to anything else. 

But to the love of those who are clear joy,

Do not stray into the neighborhood of despair. 

For there are hopes: they are real, they exist 

Do not go in the direction of darkness. 

I tell you: suns exist. 

Jalal-ud-Din Rumi

Let me hear your thoughts.

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Farhana Dhalla is a #1 Best Selling Author, International Life Coach & Speaker, and Creator of the transformational Thank You for Leaving Me Journey. She is the visionary and leader of the enlightened divorce movement and  the ultimate ‘go to’ person for shifting perspective. As a ‘suddenly single mom’ to three small children, she intimately knows the overwhelming fear and pain – -and the liberation of stepping into the highest version of oneself. Check out her free webinar Divorce Is Not Your Fault and connect with her on Twitter


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