Chronic Boredom: 6 Ways to Use Existential Fatigue to Your Advantage

Posted by on October 28, 2015 in Conscious Living, Happiness & Humor, Thrive with 4 Comments

Aletheia Luna | Loner Wolf

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Most people are already dead. Their minds are constantly preoccupied in past thoughts and resentments, and future worries and plans. We go about our days fully absorbed in any thought, recollection or feeling that pulls us away from completely tasting life as it is right now. And most of us don’t like challenging and pushing ourselves to the limits of our soulful capacity: instead we make our lives as comfortable, numbed-out and sheltered as possible, as though we’re already lying in our graves. We’re surrounded by the living dead … we arethe living dead.

Sol said these words a few days ago. It was a balmy night and the sun had just set. Mosquito’s buzzed around us pricking the back of our hands as we mused over the monotony of human activity in front of us.


“This is as alive as you will ever feel,” Sol said suddenly, and I realized he was completely right. Although watching cars go back and forth wasn’t exactly glamorous or fascinating, I realized that it didn’t have to be. You don’t need to travel to some fancy location to feel alive. You don’t need to go on an expensive vacation to feel joyously awake. You don’t need to have the perfect job or perfect life to taste the experience of Being.

But as usual, we think that external situations and fixes will soothe our chronic boredom, our existential angst. And so we go chasing after the next form of stimulation – and the next, and the next – until we end up with depression, or some other form of mental or physical illness.

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If you are a chronic boredom sufferer who finds life mostly an insufferable and tedious string of predictable events, keep reading.


6 Ways to “Recycle” Chronic Boredom

You may not know this about me, but I suffer from boredom quite a lot. I can understand people so well that socializing – which also follows a predictable pattern – has little interest for me (although I do enjoy connecting deeply with others on an emotional level). Routines and habits also bore me, people’s drama bores me, celebrations bore me, food bores me, travelling bores me, romance bores me, and I even bore myself at times.

Chronic boredom has been an awkward little companion that I’ve carried around for a long time. I like to picture boredom like a piece of spat-out-gum that has the nasty habit of lodging itself under the shoe of my life, making everything so damn annoying. Wherever you walk, it’s as though you’re always aware of this imperceptible presence that sullies the experience with its infuriating stickiness.

But although chronic boredom can feel impossible to shake, I have managed to emerge from the grave of the living-dead life to learn and grow from the experience. I want to share with you what has worked for me in the order of relevance/ importance below:

1. Use your chronic boredom as a wake-up call (here’s how).

Whenever you feel yourself lapse into that state of apathy and lethargy, pay attention. You will almost always find that the cause behind your boredom is taking life for granted. Feeling bored is like saying “Yeah yeah. I’ve been there, done that, seen that before. None of this is good enough. I need more, I WANT more.” But do you? Have you really seen, done, or experienced every nuance of the present moment before? In my experience boredom is the perfect wake-up call because it reminds us that we are lapsing back into our living-dead state of existential monotony. When we feel bored it is as though our soul is reminding us that we are living too much in the past or future, and not living each day as though it is our last.

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I find that the best cure for chronic boredom is acceptance – but not the passive kind. Accept your state of unhappiness and remember that it is serving as the perfect wake-up call, but also balance that with actively seeking to reprogram your mental restlessness.

2. Let your chronic boredom reveal to you what you’re unhappy about in life.

Not only does chronic boredom reveal that you’re not appreciating the present as it is, but being bored also points to some deeper form of discontentment in your life (but not always). Perhaps you need to quit your dead-end job and find something better suited to you and your dreams? Perhaps you have too many draining commitments, and need to “cut away the fat” from your life? Perhaps you aren’t taking enough risks, or you’re taking the easiest path when you would benefit from the harder path? When you ask “Why don’t I find any joy in life right now?” and pursue the question until it’s answered, you might be surprised by your answer.

3. Is ingratitude your frenemy?

I often find that my boredom comes as a result of forgetting to be thankful for what I have. When the mind is in the habit of constantly finding gratification in a future-orientated thought or feeling, present moment life can never quite feel “good enough.” Not only that, but when we take for granted what we have, we often expect it to be even better than what it is capable of being by imposing our beliefs, desires and expectations onto it. For example, if you feel bored in your relationship right now, have you ever considered that you might be taking your partner for granted? Of course, there are many other causes for feeling unhappy in relationships, but one common cause is ingratitude. If you only had one hour left with your partner, would your feelings towards them change?

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Ingratitude is like a frenemy (friend/enemy) because it fools us into believing that there is something perpetually “better” than what we have, while at the same time causing us great unhappiness.

The best solution I’ve discovered for ingratitude is stopping everything you’re doing for a few moments and savoring your surroundings. I like to find at least 5 things I’m thankful for, e.g. “… for the fresh breeze,” “… for how considerate my partner/friend/co-worker is,” “… for this comfortable chair,” “… for the challenges that help me grow,” etc.

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  2. 10205965509590689@facebook.com' Knud Sandbæk Nielsen says:

    My cause of boredom is the irrational bureaucracy of capitalism (ownership) and protection of rights. The fact that we’ve come no further than to compete childishly about being the best, when we all know nobody is, and everybody dies in the end.

    The immaturity of religious beliefs, the heartless ignorance of popular science, and the pointless power greed of the powerful.

    The waste of time we are all comitting to with lies and with the acceptance of ownership – we own ourselves, but an elite owns our world – what hypocracy.

    I am only bored because the world is ruled by boring conservatives, whos fear glands and fear of losin even a smidgen of their enormous wealth or ownership of slaves or worlds drives them to ignore scientific facts – and support tea parties full of ignorants.

    I am bored with the stupidity of the world.

    And before that, I was bored with life as such.

    So the idiot power adicts have added to my life…

  3. 1509977495983619@facebook.com' Gary Davies says:

    Why dont the editors of your site read this article before you publish your next paranoid conspiracy article????

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