How To Change Your Negative Beliefs

Written by on April 3, 2015 in Conscious Living, Happiness & Humor, Thrive with 0 Comments

Emily Maroutian | Collective Evolution


One of the most frequent questions my readers ask me is, “How do I change a belief that I no longer want?”
First, we have to understand what a belief is. Beliefs are repeated thoughts that we have continued to observe in our experiences. We first notice an event and have a thought/feeling about it. This could have happened in our childhood or later in life. Then, we begin to notice similar events. Those following events reinforce the initial thoughts/feelings about that first event. It only takes a few reoccurring thoughts about similar events to create a belief.
Let’s say you believe that people are not kind to you. Your previous life experiences have created that belief. Someone at some point was unkind. You noticed it, felt horrible about it, and maybe even wondered if it was personal. Then, another person was unkind. Now you’re starting to wonder if it’s you. You have more feelings and thoughts about it. You start to expect more unkind people and experiences. Now it feels like people are not kind to you.
How would you begin to change it? The same way you installed that belief: through focus. Our focus changes our attention, our expectation, our feelings, our energy, and our beliefs. As I’ve explained in my newest book, The Energy of Emotions, “Energy is the currency of the universe. When you ‘pay’ attention to something, you buy the experience of it.”
The first thing you would do is make a conscious effort to notice people who are kind to you during your day. Maybe it’s someone who offers you a warm smile, or lets you pass in front of them in traffic; maybe they hold the door open for you. Regardless of how small you judge the kind act to be, consciously notice it. Open the notepad on your phone and write it down. Make it a game and see how many kind acts you can find during your day. It can involve strangers on the street, co-workers around the office, or someone in your own home.
As you focus on the opposite of a current belief, you begin to introduce doubt: “Maybe it’s not everyone. Some people are kind to me.” As you introduce doubt, your expectation begins to change. Now you have a better chance of noticing more acts of kindness. As you become open to this, you begin to notice in the world around you. You see people being kind to others or you notice positive stories in the news, and you begin to believe that kindness is very much alive and very much possible for you.

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