Manifesting Reality: How We Make Things Happen
Todd Werner | trans4mind.com
At some level, each of us has always known that we have attracted people, things and events into our lives based on our thoughts. The recognition of that is in our daily speech, such phrases as: “What you put your attention on grows,” “Be careful what you wish (pray) for,” etc.
Thought is a quick, light, mobile form of energy that manifests instantaneously. It is now time in our evolution to consciously embrace our divine nature and to truly experience what has always been promised to us: “Ask, and it shall be given to you.” For me, manifesting is an active form of prayer in which we are more consciously aware and focused. It is what many call “co-creating.”
As many of us now know and understand, we are, along with the rest of what we see and experience, made up of a miraculous interchange of vibrating waves of energy. When we create something, we always create first in thought form. One law of energy is that energy of a certain quality or vibration tends to attract energy of a similar quality and vibration. Another important law of energy is whatever we put out into the universe is attracted back at us: “As you sow, so shall you reap.” Which means, whatever we think about the most, believe in the strongest, expect on the deepest levels, or imagine the most vividly about, shall be our experience.
I would like to briefly offer an outline of my interpretation and suggestions as you move toward a clearer understanding of manifesting. We know that our thoughts and feelings can alter our energy field and influence the collective experience of others. We are in a constant state of co-creating with the Divine whether we are conscious of it or not. Some early books which described the process of manifesting were oriented to obtaining more possessions and satisfying the ego’s desires. I believe this has been a necessary experience for us in the previous millennium as we began to recognize and appreciate our ability to co-create. However, as we evolve our understanding and remember who we are and our purposes here on earth, we can begin to consciously manifest our gifts that each of us bring. This paradigm shift along with this higher energy can now focus on transforming the world and ourselves for a higher purpose that reflects and expresses our souls desire(s).
Here are a few tips as you venture toward consciously manifesting.
- Know that you unconditionally deserve love, attention and miracles because you are a perfect creation of God.
- Find time to be quiet. Amidst the clutter and chatter of our minds and everyday life, it is very difficult to listen to the gentle messages that our soul gives us. Many people have lost touch with the inner direction that we are constantly afforded. It is then no surprise that we do not know what our true desires are. We are then left to listen to the constant demands of the ego, which eventually leaves us disappointed and feeling empty. Throughout the day remember to breathe and remember your Spirit.
- Instead of getting caught up in what you have created in the past, you can decide right now, at this moment, to start creating more of what you want in life. You don’t have to seek anyone’s approval or permission in order to claim your Divine Birthright. Your divine inheritance is abundance, peace, and your ability to create what you want. Your soul knows that these things make up it’s true existence. Choose now to accept these things as being part of existence at the personality level. For as you bring more of these qualities into your own life, you will be serving the Divine by making it easier for others to follow your example.
- It is important to set goals. Discover what you specifically want to create in your life that serves to bring you joy while serving others in some capacity. Do not focus on what you don’t want or want to get rid of in your life. Remember, what you put your attention on grows. However, be a little flexible and allow the Universe to guide you along paths that may bring you more than you have asked for. It is perfectly natural for goals to change and evolve as you grow and evolve.
- Visualize achieving your goal and experience the feeling, like it has already happened to you. Remember that we operate within the time/space illusion of the physical world. However, within our Sacred Space there is no such illusion.
- Continue to send your creation positive energy. Outside your meditation times, you can focus on your goals in a clear and relaxed way during parts of your day. It’s important not to feel like you are striving too hard for it, or put an excessive amount of energy into it, which tends to hinder things rather than help.
- Let it go. Let go of your desire to control or affect the specific outcome. Once you get an intuitive feeling that it is developing into a certainty, stop asking for it. Develop a faith that the universe immediately conspires to construct your vision, which happens in a way and a time that is for your highest good. We need to recognize that our attachment to the outcome comes from our ego. Our soul intuitively knows that we are never separate from our Creator, and everything we need is streaming toward us, now and forever.
- Be aware of the guidance you are receiving that follows the manifesting process, and be willing to follow it. If you are feeling stuck, ask yourself: “What guidance have I received that I’m not following?” Guidance comes in so many different ways which usually follows a pattern, such as “stumbling” across a book at the right time, a message that directly speaks of your condition unknowingly delivered by a friend or stranger, a song, a feeling, etc.
- Be Grateful. Many of us don’t stop to recognize the blessings we have in our lives in this moment, and acknowledge that what we have in our lives right now has been created by us. When we put our energy into recognizing our gratitude, we honor the creative process that we are a part of, and develop a sense of reverence for everything in our lives. Gratitude raises our energy to a higher vibration, thereby enhancing our ability to manifest.
- Don’t be afraid to ask for help and guidance from the spiritual masters that you relate to, such as Angels or your Guide, Jesus, Buddha, God or Goddess, etc. Think of yourself as a team member within the spiritual realm. All members of that team are working and helping to achieve a common goal.
Watch: Insights on Finding and Living Your Life Purpose
Source: Lilou Mace
Some doors are closing while others are opening so that we can get clarity on what we really WANT. Lilou Mace shares personal insights from her own journey to enjoying a purpose-driven life.
3 Things You Need to Stop Doing to Get Started with What You Truly Want to Do
Henrik Edberg | The Positivity Blog
“What is not started today is never finished tomorrow.”
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
“It is never too late to be what you might have been.”
Getting started with doing what you truly want to do in life can be hard.
No matter if what you want is to start exercising, create your own business on the side, write a book, see other parts of the world or something entirely else.
But often we make getting started a lot harder than it needs to be by standing in our own way.
So in today’s article I’d like to share 3 things you need to stop doing to step out of your own way and make it so much easier to actually get started instead of just keep dreaming about it over the summer.
1. Stop making it a huge and vague thing in your mind.
The more you think about whatever you want to get started with the bigger it tends to become in your head. And as you keep thinking about the various ways this could go it tends to become scarier and scarier.
So do this instead:
- Get knowledge from the others who have been where you want to go.To defuse vague fears about what could happen if you got started and about the unclear unknown, get information from people who have already gone where you want to go.
It is easier than ever to find them today. Look them up online and read what they have written and said or send them an email. Or go ask someone you know in real life that has done what you want to do.
- Ask yourself: Honestly, what is realistically the worst that could happen? Take a couple of deep breaths to calm down your mind a bit. Then ask yourself this question. You’ll realize that in most cases the worst thing that could realistically happen is not that bad. It may sting for a bit. But it is something you can handle. And it is a situation you can find something to do about if this worst case scenario were to happen.
The clarity you get from this question can – in my experience – reduce worries quite a bit.
2. Stop trying to control everything.
Being prepared and knowing some things certainly helps.
But it can become a trap when you try to control it all or think things through 50 times to be on the safe side and to not risk making mistakes, fail or look like a fool.
What to do instead:
- Realize: you will stumble and that is OK. It happens to anyone who steps outside of his or her comfort zone. It has happened to everyone you may admire and who have lived a life that is inspiring. It is simply a part of a life well lived. And if you reflect on what you can learn from a mistake then that will be invaluable to help you grow and improve.
- Learn to set time-limits for small decisions at first. If you have trouble with overthinking then set a time-limit for when you have to make a decision. This might seem a bit scary though. So start small and set a 30-60 second time-limit when trying to decide if you are going to work out or reply to an email. Do that for a while and then move on to slightly bigger decisions. And then even bigger ones after that.
3. Stop thinking that you have to get started in a big and spectacular way.
If you have a big goal or dream or even a medium sized one then it is easy to think that you have to take an action of the same size to get started or to get where you want to go.
That is most often not true though.
What to do instead:
- Go small. Just ask yourself: what is one small step I can take today to get the ball rolling with my goal/dream? Then take just that small action. And tomorrow or later on today you can do the same thing again. If that question still lands you in procrastination then ask yourself: What is one tiny step I can take to get the ball rolling?
Fast Fix: Gratitude and Timeline Therapy
Lately I’ve been practicing a quick technique that I call “The Gratitude Timeline.”
It’s quick and easy, and I don’t need to be near my gratitude journal. See if you agree.
First – I think of something I am grateful for that happened in the past…any area of my life where I feel fortunate that things happened as they did.
Next – I think of something in my life right now – “the sun is shining…it’s a perfect temperature…I am free to do as I want today, etc.”
Next – I think of gratitude in advance for something that I wish to have happen in the near future, eg. “I am grateful for meeting the perfect contacts today at this conference.”
This gets your subconscious mind working for you in the desired direction of what you want.
Spend a little extra time savoring each item on your timeline.
Over time, this practice helps you to be able to recall events to mind and be in the sacred space of gratitude more of the time.
If you keep the process light and fun, it also helps you to think about and clarify what you want without being attached to it or getting into conflict over it.
About the Author: With 25 years experience in helping people find solutions and make positive life changes, Carol Solomon is a natural teacher and coach. She enjoys helping people incorporate a healthy lifestyle, decrease stress and strengthen their resources. Carol has written 5 books and produces a weekly email newsletter with over 16,000 subscribers.
How to Change Your Frequency and Your Reality
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Science Beyond the Superstitions of Materialism: Rupert Sheldrake and Deepak Chopra
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In this gentle, mutually respectful discussion between Deepak Chopra and Rupert Sheldrake, bestselling author of ‘Dogs That Know When Their Owners Are Coming Home,’ we hear an intriguing new assessment of modern day science that will radically change the way we view what is possible. In Science Set Free (originally published to acclaim in the UK as The Science Delusion), Dr. Sheldrake, one of the world’s most innovative scientists, shows the ways in which science is being constricted by assumptions that have, over the years, hardened into dogmas. Such dogmas are not only limiting, but dangerous for the future of humanity. According to these principles, all of reality is material or physical; the world is a machine, made up of inanimate matter; nature is purposeless; consciousness is nothing but the physical activity of the brain; free will is an illusion; God exists only as an idea in human minds, imprisoned within our skulls. But should science be a belief-system, or a method of enquiry? Sheldrake shows that the materialist ideology is moribund; under its sway, increasingly expensive research is reaping diminishing returns while societies around the world are paying the price. In the skeptical spirit of true science, Sheldrake turns the ten fundamental dogmas of materialism into exciting questions, and shows how all of them open up startling new possibilities for discovery. Science Set Free will radically change your view of what is real and what is possible.
Heaven and Back: 45MIN Near-Death Experience
Source: Suzanne Stratford
Brian Miller survived a massive “widow maker” heart attack but then suffered V-fib while in ICU. For 45 minutes a team of doctors and nurses worked on reviving him. When he finally returned he talked about being in heaven….with his mother in law who had recently died.
Mentally Plan Your Day to Reinvent Your Reality – Dr. Joe Dispenza
What is the greatest ideal of myself that I can be today? That is the question that Dr. Joe Dispenza asks himself at the beginning of each day and has become part of his spiritual practice.
Collapse of Civilization and Spiritual Realignment
Openhand | June 3rd 2014
The mainstream hoodwinks people that it’s ‘business as usual’; that we can continue living as if today were yesterday. But the facts are increasingly stacking up that civilisation and our biosphere are in terminal decline; it’s just happening in slow motion, so that in these early stages, it’s possible to ignore for a while the magnitude of what’s taking place all around us. We need to get real. We need to open our eyes and embrace the truth. Because only the truth can set us truly free. What’s needed now is a wide scale Spiritual Realignment. That’s the message we captured in this video. We believe it’s of upmost importance and therefore thank you for sharing widely…
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Interactive Reality Creation – Collapse of the Wave Function Into Heart Centered Awareness
Melissa Joy Jonson | Wakingtimes | June 1st 2014
Collapse of the wave function is a common quantum physics term that stems from the famous double-slit experiment popularized by physicist Richard Feinman. The double-slit experiment demonstrates that matter and energy can display characteristics of both waves and particles.[i]
Simply stated, scientists were interested in exploring the nature of an electron and wanted to determine whether it was a particle or a wave. When they were in the room observing the electron, it behaved as a particle, which conformed to their expectations. When scientists left the room and were not observing the electron, but videotaped the activity, the electron behaved like an indiscriminate wave. Scientists concluded that the expectations of the researchers collapsed the wave function, changing it from probable wave states to particle-based fixed forms. They concluded that, indeed, the consciousness of the observer collapses the wave function.
So why are we concerned with what a particle may be doing or whether it is waving or not waving when we are not looking at it? When we understand that our observations and expectations actually influence the apparent behavior of reality, then we are empowered to actively play with interactive reality-creation. Reality is neither particle nor wave. It is both and neither simultaneously, and as co-creators with universal consciousness, we influence how reality shapes itself.
Likewise, in our continual observations of our reality, and ourselves, we repeatedly collapse the wave functioninto a state of sameness, or a state of no-change. We perceive through the same lens of awareness, and that collapses the wave function from various possibility states into the ones we have chosen to observe for ourselves. Our limited lens of awareness creates perceptual biases that filter what we are able to notice and experience.
How we perceive life is a result of how we collapse wave functions. Our perspectives, our observations, our opinions, our thoughts, and our beliefs are continually collapsing the wave function from unlimited possibilities, to probability states, into what we actually observe and perceive as our experience. We seewhat we expect to see, and we are continually and consistently collapsing the wave function.
When we play in a powerful morphic field, such as ME, it is presumed that we are uncollapsing the wave function from a particle-based, fixed, immutable, limited-perspective reality. We are uncollapsing the wave function from a single causal reality, which is a state of no-change with no flexibility, into wave-based states of possibilities or a state of flux.[ii] From a wave-based state of flux, we are able to perform what is referred to as a second weak-collapse of the wave function into a new configuration of consciousness, a new state of change. We are able to move from a state of no-change with no flexibility, to a state of flux, to a new state of change or transformation.
The collapse of the wave function is what happens when we exercise choice. Consider that the field of consciousness potential is a coherent smear of infinite information and undifferentiated potential. Consciousness potential is all-inclusive and excludes nothing. Out of a coherent, undifferentiated infinite field, which is much like a motionless sea of potential, distinct possibility states well up as waves in the expanse that decoheres from the all into subsets. These subsets remain part of the all, but they have wavelike characteristics that are in motion and can be tracked by the intuitive right brain. From that state of decoherence, these possibility waves become even more probable in that some waves have more density or are more heavily weighted with information. Possibility waves that are more densely weighted becomeprobability states that are then more likely to collapse. When we allow for choice to enter through the left brain logic frame of the observer, there is a collapse of the wave function from multiple probable states into actuality, much like a drop of water coalescing with the sand. Wave transforms into particle, as consciousness, through individual observation, collapses into wave function, and what is noticed is matter, form, and experience.
Collapse of Wave Function and Torsion Fields
Torsion fields are everywhere, even in our personal fields.[iii]
When we collapse the wave function from possibility to actuality as a defined personal perspective (particle of reality), this particle of electron-perspective has a spin (an angular momentum of perspective). Each perspective or particle spin creates a torsion field in its wake.[iv]
An individual perspective, represented and reflected by the wave function collapse, also creates a torsion field that is encoded as part of collective consciousness. As we know, torsion fields can transmit and receive information anywhere at anytime. Thus, our personal perspective creates a torsion field that encodes the information of our angle or personal vantage point. This torsion field is then enfolded within the torsion fields of the ether, or the universal fabric of consciousness. Our unique spin on things is encoded in the hologram.
Our choices, thoughts, emotions, and consistently held states are available for others to resonate with, through torsion fields. This is perhaps why our personal thoughts, emotions, choices, and resonance can influence the world, which lends exciting understanding to Mahatma Gandhi’s famous proclamation, “You must be the change you wish to see in the world.”
When we become the change we wish to see, our individual body hologram of light emits torsion fields based on the spin of our particular electrons or personal vantage point. Change the spin, and you change what becomes more likely to occur for you and for the collective consciousness.
Our thoughts, emotions, and choices do not happen in a vacuum; they influence what is expressed from the vacuum of infinite potential. How we collapse the wave function, as well as how we uncollapse the wave function, influences everything, because everything is connected and everything is synchronized through reciprocal torsion-field communication by one, with the all.
Our personal perspectives, which can change in an instant, have an effect that reverberates out to collective consciousness. This ripple effect has no limits in the same way universal consciousness is unlimited in its potential.
Playing in Waves Changes the Tide and Current
Some speculate that an uncollapse of the wave function happens naturally when we play. Play puts us in our hearts and enables us to bypass our linear, logical, analytical brain, which constructs reality based on what is familiar. The logical part of the brain compartmentalizes and segregates information. It sorts through information, based on similarities, by categorizing and organizing what it encounters. It notices what is the same, not what is different. This part of our awareness separates, identifies, and names. The linear, logical part of the brain, often referred to as the left brain, is a serial processor that is capable of tracking little more than a few bits of information at a time. As such, the left brain maintains order in reality by collapsing the wave function from multiple waves of possibilities into just one choice. Each choice seems to follow the prior choice in a linear, sequential fashion.
The reasoning left brain part of awareness decides what to perceive, based on what it already knows, and then only what is familiar is noticed and subsequently experienced. The left brain appears to be governed by a separative, particle-based reality. The left brain is the mechanism that chooses. It subjects its awareness to only the limited drop of water, which has separated out from the wave into the sand. The left brain collapses the wave function; perceiving with limitations, to see exactly what it expects to see.
When we learn to expand our awareness into a state of playfulness, beyond any expectations, agendas, or attachment to outcomes, beyond what we expect to see, beyond thinking, then we enter into the domain of right brain awareness. By perceiving via the intuitive right brain, we are able to readily uncollapse the wave function into various possibility waves that await our further recognition.
The intuitive part of our brain, often referred to as the right brain, is a parallel processor that is able to track and follow multiple waves of possibilities simultaneously. The right brain can track patterns of information as probabilities before they become actualized. The language of the right brain is symbolic in nature and is very pattern oriented. It can track and follow connections that typically are not captured by the segregating serial processing of the left brain. The right brain appears to be governed by waves of interconnecting grids of possibilities. It is able to follow many waves prior to their becoming droplets of choice in the sand.
By dropping down into the field of the heart, we enter into a coherent state of awareness, thus bypassing the segregation and limitations of the mind and accessing the totality of consciousness before the wave collapses.
We go directly to the sea of coherent potential that resides in the field of the heart. We tap into consciousness potential by connecting to the most authentic part of ourselves that knows itself as whole, limitless, timeless, and dimensionless. We leverage coherence within a unified field when we drop into heart-centered awareness. There is no doing from that state of heart-centered being. It is an altered state of consciousness that, when embodied, becomes a vehicle for a new reality based in unity, love, and limitless potential.
Dropping into the torus field of the heart is as easy as breathing. We usually do not think about breathing, and yet it happens. Similarly, we often do not notice when we are in or out of our heart space. Noticing heart-centered awareness assists us in consistently and effortlessly accessing a space of grace where transformation is most likely to occur.
[ii] Swanson, Life Force: The Scientific Basis, 524.
[iv] Hammond, “Torsion Power.”
About the Author
Melissa Joy is the President of Matrix Energetics International and is also the Co-Instructor of the Matrix Energetics system of transformation. She has played an integral role with the organization since 2007 and began co-teaching seminars with Dr. Bartlett in 2008. Melissa embodies the principles of Matrix Energetics and heart-centered living and epitomizes that change is readily accessible to anyone. She loves teaching Matrix Energetics and sharing this work with others.
Prior to Matrix Energetics, Melissa spent 13 years in the pharmaceutical industry. She realized that a career in marketing drugs was no longer meaningful to her. This began her exploration into holistic health and alternative medicine.
Her search led her to a Matrix Energetics seminar in 2006. Intrigued, she began her study with Dr. Bartlett that same year and attended every seminar offered. In 2007, Melissa partnered with Matrix Energetics to offer business and organizational expertise. That same year she became one of the first Certified Matrix Energetics Practitioners.
She has a BA in Psychology from the University of California at Santa Barbara. She also completed graduate studies at Pepperdine University’s Graziado School of Business and Management.
As a respected expert, Melissa teaches and is a sought-after speaker at learning facilities like The Omega Institute, and conferences such as The International Society for the Study of Subtle Energies and Energy Medicine (ISSSEEM), The Association for Comprehensive Energy Psychology (ACEP), The New Life Festival, The Conscious Life Expo, The What The Bleep!? European Conference, The IAK Congress on “Leaps of Consciousness” and others. Her written work has been published in notable publications, such as VISION Magazine, Wisdom Magazine, Natural Awakenings, EdgeLife, Aquarius: Sign of the Times, and others. She’s a frequent guest on radio programs and known for her accessibility on social media.
**Excerpted and Adapted from: “M-Joy Practically Speaking: Matrix Energetics and Living Your Infinite Potential” By Melissa Joy Jonsson**
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June 2014 Energy Forecast With Lee Harris – What’s New and What’s Possible Now
Lee Harris: I feel to start this forecast by addressing grief, because this is an energy that is coming up collectively for everybody. And I‘ve noticed this is very much at the forefront of people’s issues right now.
CLN RADIO NEW EPISODE – Constructive Dreaming
Reed’s many years of research not only led to his overcoming some of his personal struggles but has literally turned the entire study of dreams on its head.
To say he has made a dent in the academic community of psychology is an understatement. Henry Reed has managed to convince some of the most ardent skeptics that dreams can be used constructively to literally change the paradigm of individuals and communities alike!
Henry Reed divides his time between being a goat rancher and being an independent scholar of psychology, involved in writing, teaching, consulting, research and counseling. His speciality is cultivating the creative spirit in others, working from both humanistic and transpersonal viewpoints.
He received his Ph.D. from U.C.L.A. and was Assistant Professor of Psychology at Princeton University and Professor of Transpersonal Studies at Atlantic University. He has authored several popular books and professional articles and produced several instructional videos.
Reed was termed the “Father of the Dreamwork movement” because of his creation of Sundance: The Community Dream Journal, that helped spark the national dreamwork movement. He had a one-man show of his dream inspired watercolor paintings at the Virginia Beach Center for the Arts, and created an annual “Dreams and Creativity” program for the City of Virginia Beach. He also consulted on a three hour series for the Discovery channel on dreams. He now leads people on home-based dream quests and paints watercolor mandalas for them as a channel of prayer support. The Smithsonian Institute invited him to give a lecture about his “Dream Solutions” method of creative dream work.
He is Senior Fellow at the Edgar Cayce Institute of Intuitive Studies where he regularly provides training, consultation and research. He is also a Licensed Professional Counselor with a private practice in Mouth of Wilson, Virginia, specializing in intensive, transformational work, centered in dreams, energetic healing, and creativity. He is the founder of Creative Spirit Studios, which is a collaborative of lightworkers involved in using creative spirit in healing, teaching, and innovative service projects and research. Their virtual headquarters is at www.creativespirit.net and Henry maintains a well-equipped studio at Flying Goat Ranch in the Appalachian mountains, where he breeds and trains work friendly goats who help out and entertain guests of the spiritual healing sanctuary that exists on the ranch. His most recent projects include creating an “Intuitive Heart Discovery Group” network around the country training people to become Intuitive Heartpractitioners and the development of the online “webzine,” Intuitive-Connections Network, located at www.intuitive-connections.net
“To Do” Or Not “To Do”
Dr. Lissa Rankin MD | Wake Up World
I recently attended an event with a coach who challenged us to stop dreaming so much and start DOING something about our dreams. He likened our big dreams to an acorn that had the potential to become an oak tree, and in scenario after scenario, he gave us examples about how “law of attraction” based inaction could thwart the acorn’s potential to become the oak tree. Sure, we could visualize the acorn as an oak tree. We could affirm the oak tree’s potential. We could even adopt a gluten-free diet and drink more green juice, in hopes that our efforts will help the oak tree grow. But unless we plant the acorn in fertile soil, nurture it with water, sunlight, and patience, that acorn is never going to realize its potential.
To demonstrate his point, he challenged us to an unusual form of “meditation.” Instead of sitting still and trying to calm our thoughts, we were invited to lift our arms over our head and bring the mind into present time while scissoring our arms together until our arms and shoulders got so tired and sore that we were ready to scream. Then, when we were all in pain and yearning to quit, he pumped the music up louder and dared us to keep going. Giving us permission to modify our movement if needed, he pushed us to keep up the pace if at all possible, to grunt and growl and cheer each other on. By the end of the exercise, I’m sure many people felt a sense of accomplishment and patted themselves on the backs as an acknowledgment of their determination, commitment, and self-sacrifice in the face of pain. As I looked around the room, most people were grinning with the kind of relieved, endorphin-laden “We did it!” looks you see when people finish running marathons.
But that’s not how I felt. I may have been the only person in the room of pumped up people who felt…PISSED- not with the coach, but with myself.
No Pain, No Gain
Maybe it’s because I endured the pain of twenty years of self-sacrifice during medical school, residency, and my medical practice that I find myself resistant to anything that forces me to hurt myself, especially if it’s fueled by the kind of peer pressure you feel when a group is pushing each other to keep going, even when it hurts. After years of living by the “No pain, no gain” philosophy, these days, I’m much more inclined to feel attracted to Martha Beck’s mantra- “Play until it’s time to rest, then rest until it’s time to play.”
After years of learning from Martha, I’ve realized that I was once saddled with a limiting belief that all good things required hard work, suffering, sacrifice, and pain. Yet I now know that when I move in the direction of EASE instead, things mysteriously begin to flow.
Be Less Sperm, More Egg
It may just be a matter of gender difference. In asking us to push ourselves beyond our comfort zones in order to maximize our potential, this very Divinely Masculine coach is making a valid point. As long as we fail to even plant the acorn, no amount of play or rest is going to make that seed grow into an oak. The masculine principle of ACTION is a necessary part of the realization of any dream. Sometimes you have to do what I call the “ass in chair” work. Sometimes the required next step is to DO something.
But I no longer think the “ass in chair” work needs to be painful or require sacrificing your self care. I’ve had to learn to adopt the feminine principle I was taught first by Christiane Northrup, who taught me to “Be less sperm, more egg.” This feminine principle has since been reinforced by my spiritual mentors Martha Beck and Tosha Silver. Martha taught me what she calls the “Four Technologies of Magic” (you can read my blog series about the Four Technologies of Magic here). Tosha instructed me on how to make an “offering” by turning over our desires and problems to the Divine and letting the Divine take the lead. (You can read about what I learned from Tosha here.)
These three very feminine but very successful women have all convinced me that we can thrive, fulfill our life purpose, be vessels for Divine work in the world, and manifest many dreams when we commit to surrendering our desires over to Divine Will, releasing attachment to outcomes, and letting the Universe work its magic.
It’s not that the masculine principle isn’t necessary and there’s not a place for the Divine Masculine, but in a culture dominated by the message that we have to push, strive, and make things happen, even to our own detriment, I tend to lean towards less pain, more flow.
What Are We Proving?
Perhaps this is why I bristle a little when I agreed to do something that left my shoulders so sore that I could barely lift my arms the next morning. Why did I not back off when I knew I should have? The very loving and concerned coach had even given us an out by suggesting that we could modify in order to avoid hurting ourselves. Why did I let myself get swept up in the pressure of it all? What do I have to prove? Where is the fine line between pushing beyond the limits of our comfort zones and hurting ourselves for the sake of achievement?
Don’t get me wrong- I’m all for working out, proving to ourselves that we can do hard things, increasing our endurance, and being brave. Discipline is an essential virtue necessary when we’re dreaming big. If we always quit the minute something got challenging, we’d never accomplish many of the big things we dream of creating in the world. The masculine principle of pushing ourselves when we must do hard things has its advantages. But when do we draw the line? When is too much of a good thing too much?
Embrace Inspired Action
I think the answer lies in what Tosha Silver calls “inspired action,” which is generated from the excitement and enthusiasm that bubbles up through your body and makes you DO something. Martha calls it “playing” when you take action that arises not from what you “should” do but from what feels so yummy you can barely keep yourself from doing it.
You can feel the difference in your body. The very idea of some actions makes you feel exhausted before you ever start. Other actions make you so excited you wiggle with delight and can’t wait to get started.
It may sound idealistic to suggest that you might only do that which feels yummy in your body, but I’m going to go out on a limb and suggest just that.
Don’t do it if you’re only doing it because you “should.”
Don’t do it because someone else is pressuring you to do it.
Don’t do it because you need to prove to yourself that you can survive pain.
Don’t do it because you think all good things arise from hard work.
DO IT BECAUSE OF THE LOVE.
Do it because you can’t NOT do it.
Do it because you’re being Divinely guided to do it, and Divine guidance tends to show up in the form of EASE.
And if you don’t feel that way, give yourself permission to stop doing it, not because you’re lazy, not because you’re a quitter, not because you can’t do it, but because you love yourself enough to grant yourself ease, happiness, joy, self care, inner peace, and shoulders that aren’t killing you.