Facial Expressions Turn On Physiology of Emotions

Renowned psychologist and emotion-guru Paul Ekman describes how introducing conscious awareness to facial expressions can help one override and control their emotions.

Transcript– One of the most amazing discoveries, it completely surprised me, and that’s what I like most in research is when you learn something you didn’t you were going to learn. That’s very different from research where you prove something you think you already know. You have to do that too ’cause maybe you were wrong, but when you discover something you didn’t expect, that’s really exciting.

And what we discovered, published this more than 20 years ago, made the front page of the New York Times. We didn’t kill anybody. What it did was show that if you put on your face one of the universal expressions you will turn on the physiology of emotion. You will begin to experience that emotion. So the face is not simply a display system that tells you what’s happening inside me. I can self generate any emotion by making the movements on my face. 

Now some of them are harder to make than others, and wouldn’t you know it the one that’s the hardest to make is the one that turns on enjoyment ’cause a smile alone won’t do it. You have to be able to activate one of the muscles around the eyes and only about ten percent of the people we’ve tested can do it.

We are just beginning to use this discovery of how you can self generate emotion to teach people how to become more aware of what they’re feeling at the moment they feel it. Because it is my belief — and I want to underline the word belief ’cause I can’t prove this — it’s my belief that the way in which emotions evolved it was to deal with things like saber-toothed tigers. The current incarnation of which is the car that’s suddenly lurching at your car at a high speed.

You don’t have time to think. You have to do and make very complex decisions, think of what you do to avoid that car you make split seconds estimates of speed and angle and what you need to do with your feet and your hands. And if you had to think about what you were doing, you’d be dead. So it’s a system that evolved to deal with really important things without your thinking about it.

So that means that sometimes you’re going to be very inconsiderate, very thoughtless, sometimes your emotions aren’t going to fit the situation and you’re not even going to know it until someone says to you, “What are you getting so upset about?” And you think, “Oh, my God. That’s right. I’m really afraid. I don’t know why. Maybe I shouldn’t. Maybe I misunderstood the situation.”

Well these exercises that we’re giving people — moving their facial muscles, concentrating on the sensations that they then experience to make them more aware of an emotion when it arises, so that they will feel it at the moment and then can say, “Did you really mean to ignore me when she put the toast on the table? No. That was just an accident. Or maybe I shouldn’t jump to the conclusion that she doesn’t care about me at all. And why doesn’t she care about me?” That whole business, it takes the way in which we can improve our emotional life is to introduce conscious awareness into the process and that will take practice and nature did not want you to do that so you have to do it yourself.

Directed / Produced by Jonathan Fowler and Elizabeth Rodd

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Anjula Ram Converses with Gail Thackray on Spiritual Healing, Finding Your Soul Purpose, and Animal Communication

In this lovely discussion, spiritual educator and medium Gail Thackray talks to Anjula Ram about her trips to Brazil to visit John of God, working with spirit guides and animals, and finding your soul purpose. Also some fascinating dialogue about working with our triggers, healing across the world, and dissolving blocks to manifesting abundance.

Gail Thackray was raised in Yorkshire, England and prides herself on having kept her English down-to-earth sensibility. Her life changed at age forty when she discovered she was a medium and able to talk to spirits on the other side. Helping others connect to Source and to develop their own natural psychic abilities is her passion. Gail lectures at events worldwide, doing live appearances as a healer, medium, animal communicator, and educator. When at home in Los Angeles, she writes, lectures, and teaches about mediumship, healing, animal communication, manifesting, and other aspects of spirituality.

Gail also leads tours to Brazil to meet John of God, and crop circle tours in the UK. Her next crop circle tour begins on July 22. It’s not too late to sign up. For details, visit Gail’s website: GailThackray.com.

Visualizing the Future

Gray Scott | The Futurist

From printable foods to rights for robots, science fiction and science fact are becoming harder to distinguish. Both begin with pictures in the mind’s eye.

What if visualization, imagination, and art could change the future? Life imitates art, and life is now imitating science fiction.

Visualize this. Imagine a time in the future filled with “magical” technologies. Vertical farms, teleportation of 3-D printable food, and advanced biotechnology have eradicated hunger around the world. Age reversal has become possible, and human longevity has reached several hundred years. Automation, artificial intelligence (AI), and the new age of advanced self-replicating robots have freed humanity of the archaic idea of work. The word “job” has vanished from the human lexicon. Humans now spend their time in pursuit of higher realms of artistic, cognitive, and scientific exploration.

Imagine a future where we have become a multi-planetary species, with colonies on Mars, Titan, and Europa. Rumors of the first successful time-travel jump are circulating, and humanity finalizes its constitution of “Rules and Ethics of Time Travel.” Teleportation of people and goods has become common, and we are on the verge of becoming interstellar beings. We are projecting our consciousness into the cosmos. We are dancing among the stars.

Sexbots have begun to demand digital rights, voting rights, and the right to unionize. Pure-bio women are electing to use artificial wombs to birth their babies, and an entire generation of women never know what natural childbirth is like.

Advanced robotics and biotechnology in the future have allowed humans to create personal DNA replicant robots, known as clonebotsThese clonebots act as representatives in our absence and have the same rights as the original human. Clonebots have been capped at three per person, except for celebrities, who can pay a clonebot tax for each additional clonebot. The rigid membrane of personhood begins to become more porous in the future. Man and machine have become almost indistinguishable, and we have become transhuman.

This future is a post-privacy age of total cooperative and holistic transparency. Digitally assisted telepathy and brain–computer interface devices have forced hackers, corporations, and governments to drop the veil of anonymity. Nationalism is a thing of the past. The concept of the individual is rejected in many cultures in favor of digital hive mind. Freed from the burdens of maintaining the needs of the individual self, humanity begins to develop at an astonishing rate. Like any other evolutionary process, the future is becoming more complex.

Fiction or Fact? Dystopia Or Utopia?

This future visualization I have just described may sound like science fiction to most people outside of the futures and foresight field, but the fact is, technologists and scientists around the world at this very moment are trying to make these futures a reality. Is this future visualization the future we want for ourselves?

For some, the visualization described above may sound like a dreadful dystopian nightmare, but for others, it may sound like a true utopia. Governments, philosophers, and universities will be debating these scenarios for years. Wars will rage over what direction to proceed into the future, but one thing remains: The future begins to form by visualizing what we want, what we prefer, and what we fear. As philosopher Alan Watts once said, “Technology is destructive only in the hands of people who do not realize that they are one and the same process as the universe.”

Today, science fiction and science fact are becoming hard to distinguish. Science-fiction writers must almost play in the realm of fantasy to be ahead of our current science. Every new headline sounds like a parody or an April Fools’ joke. I often find myself checking the research from major news sources just to confirm that the stories are real. It feels as if we are slipping faster and faster into the future.

So where do these future ideas emerge from? What is the connection between visualization and the material world? Can we use the power of future visualization to influence our future?

I was first introduced to the concept of future visualization by a private art instructor—a gifted woman in her 60s with an amazing eye for light, color, and design. She talked of seasonal color and light reflected on hard surfaces. She talked of perception, contrast, and the mind’s eye. During our second session together, she leaned in over my shoulder to see what I was sketching and said, “You must see the finished image in your mind first. If you can’t visualize it in your mind’s eye, you will never be able to paint it.”

She asked the students to stop drawing, close our eyes, and “see” the image in our minds’ eyes. I had never heard of the mind’s eye. I had no idea what she was referring to. She began to lead us into a guided visualization. I had never consciously sat and visualized beforehand a picture in my mind. Suddenly, as she was talking, I was able to control the light in the landscape. I could move the sun around. I could change the elevation of the mountains and turn the sky into deep shades of gold and purple. I could see the sunlight reflecting off the water of a brisk stream. I could see the leaves twisting in the fall wind. I began to “see” the finished picture in my mind in vivid detail. She finished the guided visualization and said, “Open your eyes and draw what you see.”

Her words and this act of visualization changed the course of my life forever. I was 10 years old. Little did either of us know at the time, but she had just taught me to become a futurist. From that moment forward, I have used future visualization to see the outcome I prefer in my personal, professional, and social life. I have used it to visualize better future scenarios.

The best predictor of future visualization is past visualization—sort of. Most innovators, artists, and futurists know a great secret: To change the world, you need to see things in a new way. You must turn the world on its head and invert the status quo. We must travel into undiscovered territories of the mind and become a student of risk. Seek out the underdog and find out everything they know. Study the geometry in nature. Look for the hidden connections in every obscure pattern. This undiscovered cosmos of information is all around us, and it is the key to visualizing the future we prefer.

To visualize our future, we must bravely dialogue with our unconscious minds. We must jump off high intellectual ledges into the primal darkness. Not everyone will do this work and not everyone can survive this work, but if we ever hope to become an evolved species worthy of interstellar travel, our cosmos will accept nothing less. Black holes and supernovas be damned, we must visualize ourselves living long and prospering.

It is this counterintuitive approach to the future that has given us great technological advancements, brilliant minds, and visionary leaders. But now we face a world in great peril. The climate is a mess, our oceans are reaching toxic tipping points, and our children are mass murdering each other in schools around the world. How do we teach future visualization, bravery, and innovation to our children? How do we help our friends, clients, and parents to understand this process?

The best way is to develop programs, classes, and workshops based on preferred future visualization. Why should we accept poverty, pollution, and hunger as realities that cannot be changed? Why not teach our children to visualize futures they want? Most inner-city children have never been asked to visualize a utopian future for themselves. Sure, we ask them what college they want to attend, what they want to be when they grow up, and how much money they want to make. But when do we give them the freedom to visualize their very own utopia and then ask them to go out and make it happen? Why do we limit our imaginations when we now know that science fiction and fantasy are becoming realities?

The future will be built in the imagination of the brave people who believe anything is possible.

Read the full post here. 

Frontal Lobe: Center of Conscience and Creativity (Joe Dispenza video)

Source:  HayHousePresents

The crowning achievement of the human brain is the frontal lobe – the seat of our conscience and our creative center. Envisioning your clear intention with heightened emotion can define your new destiny. Is it possible to heal by thought alone—without drugs or surgery? The truth is that it happens more often than you might expect. In You Are the Placebo, Dr. Joe Dispenza shares numerous documented cases of those who reversed cancer, heart disease, depression, crippling arthritis, and even the tremors of Parkinson’s disease by believing in a placebo. Similarly, Dr. Joe tells of how others have gotten sick and even died the victims of a hex or voodoo curse—or after being misdiagnosed with a fatal illness. Belief can be so strong that pharmaceutical companies use double- and triple-blind randomized studies to try to exclude the power of the mind over the body when evaluating new drugs. 

Manifesting Reality: How We Make Things Happen

Todd Werner | trans4mind.com

At some level, each of us has always known that we have attracted people, things and events into our lives based on our thoughts. The recognition of that is in our daily speech, such phrases as: “What you put your attention on grows,” “Be careful what you wish (pray) for,” etc.

Thought is a quick, light, mobile form of energy that manifests instantaneously. It is now time in our evolution to consciously embrace our divine nature and to truly experience what has always been promised to us: “Ask, and it shall be given to you.” For me, manifesting is an active form of prayer in which we are more consciously aware and focused. It is what many call “co-creating.”

As many of us now know and understand, we are, along with the rest of what we see and experience, made up of a miraculous interchange of vibrating waves of energy. When we create something, we always create first in thought form. One law of energy is that energy of a certain quality or vibration tends to attract energy of a similar quality and vibration. Another important law of energy is whatever we put out into the universe is attracted back at us: “As you sow, so shall you reap.” Which means, whatever we think about the most, believe in the strongest, expect on the deepest levels, or imagine the most vividly about, shall be our experience.

I would like to briefly offer an outline of my interpretation and suggestions as you move toward a clearer understanding of manifesting. We know that our thoughts and feelings can alter our energy field and influence the collective experience of others. We are in a constant state of co-creating with the Divine whether we are conscious of it or not. Some early books which described the process of manifesting were oriented to obtaining more possessions and satisfying the ego’s desires. I believe this has been a necessary experience for us in the previous millennium as we began to recognize and appreciate our ability to co-create. However, as we evolve our understanding and remember who we are and our purposes here on earth, we can begin to consciously manifest our gifts that each of us bring. This paradigm shift along with this higher energy can now focus on transforming the world and ourselves for a higher purpose that reflects and expresses our souls desire(s).

Here are a few tips as you venture toward consciously manifesting.

  1. Know that you unconditionally deserve love, attention and miracles because you are a perfect creation of God.
  2. Find time to be quiet. Amidst the clutter and chatter of our minds and everyday life, it is very difficult to listen to the gentle messages that our soul gives us. Many people have lost touch with the inner direction that we are constantly afforded. It is then no surprise that we do not know what our true desires are. We are then left to listen to the constant demands of the ego, which eventually leaves us disappointed and feeling empty. Throughout the day remember to breathe and remember your Spirit.
  3. Instead of getting caught up in what you have created in the past, you can decide right now, at this moment, to start creating more of what you want in life. You don’t have to seek anyone’s approval or permission in order to claim your Divine Birthright. Your divine inheritance is abundance, peace, and your ability to create what you want. Your soul knows that these things make up it’s true existence. Choose now to accept these things as being part of existence at the personality level. For as you bring more of these qualities into your own life, you will be serving the Divine by making it easier for others to follow your example.
  4. It is important to set goals. Discover what you specifically want to create in your life that serves to bring you joy while serving others in some capacity. Do not focus on what you don’t want or want to get rid of in your life. Remember, what you put your attention on grows. However, be a little flexible and allow the Universe to guide you along paths that may bring you more than you have asked for. It is perfectly natural for goals to change and evolve as you grow and evolve.
  5. Visualize achieving your goal and experience the feeling, like it has already happened to you. Remember that we operate within the time/space illusion of the physical world. However, within our Sacred Space there is no such illusion.
  6. Continue to send your creation positive energy. Outside your meditation times, you can focus on your goals in a clear and relaxed way during parts of your day. It’s important not to feel like you are striving too hard for it, or put an excessive amount of energy into it, which tends to hinder things rather than help.
  7. Let it go. Let go of your desire to control or affect the specific outcome. Once you get an intuitive feeling that it is developing into a certainty, stop asking for it. Develop a faith that the universe immediately conspires to construct your vision, which happens in a way and a time that is for your highest good. We need to recognize that our attachment to the outcome comes from our ego. Our soul intuitively knows that we are never separate from our Creator, and everything we need is streaming toward us, now and forever.
  8. Be aware of the guidance you are receiving that follows the manifesting process, and be willing to follow it. If you are feeling stuck, ask yourself: “What guidance have I received that I’m not following?” Guidance comes in so many different ways which usually follows a pattern, such as “stumbling” across a book at the right time, a message that directly speaks of your condition unknowingly delivered by a friend or stranger, a song, a feeling, etc.
  9. Be Grateful. Many of us don’t stop to recognize the blessings we have in our lives in this moment, and acknowledge that what we have in our lives right now has been created by us. When we put our energy into recognizing our gratitude, we honor the creative process that we are a part of, and develop a sense of reverence for everything in our lives. Gratitude raises our energy to a higher vibration, thereby enhancing our ability to manifest.
  10. Don’t be afraid to ask for help and guidance from the spiritual masters that you relate to, such as Angels or your Guide, Jesus, Buddha, God or Goddess, etc. Think of yourself as a team member within the spiritual realm. All members of that team are working and helping to achieve a common goal.

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Watch: Insights on Finding and Living Your Life Purpose

Source: Lilou Mace


Some doors are closing while others are opening so that we can get clarity on what we really WANT.  Lilou Mace shares personal insights from her own journey to enjoying a purpose-driven life.

3 Things You Need to Stop Doing to Get Started with What You Truly Want to Do

Henrik Edberg | The Positivity Blog

“What is not started today is never finished tomorrow.”
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

“It is never too late to be what you might have been.”
George Eliot

Getting started with doing what you truly want to do in life can be hard.

No matter if what you want is to start exercising, create your own business on the side, write a book, see other parts of the world or something entirely else.

But often we make getting started a lot harder than it needs to be by standing in our own way.

So in today’s article I’d like to share 3 things you need to stop doing to step out of your own way and make it so much easier to actually get started instead of just keep dreaming about it over the summer.

1. Stop making it a huge and vague thing in your mind.

The more you think about whatever you want to get started with the bigger it tends to become in your head. And as you keep thinking about the various ways this could go it tends to become scarier and scarier.

So do this instead:

  • Get knowledge from the others who have been where you want to go.To defuse vague fears about what could happen if you got started and about the unclear unknown, get information from people who have already gone where you want to go.
    It is easier than ever to find them today. Look them up online and read what they have written and said or send them an email. Or go ask someone you know in real life that has done what you want to do.
  • Ask yourself: Honestly, what is realistically the worst that could happen? Take a couple of deep breaths to calm down your mind a bit. Then ask yourself this question. You’ll realize that in most cases the worst thing that could realistically happen is not that bad. It may sting for a bit. But it is something you can handle. And it is a situation you can find something to do about if this worst case scenario were to happen.
    The clarity you get from this question can – in my experience – reduce worries quite a bit.

2. Stop trying to control everything.

Being prepared and knowing some things certainly helps.

But it can become a trap when you try to control it all or think things through 50 times to be on the safe side and to not risk making mistakes, fail or look like a fool.

What to do instead:

  • Realize: you will stumble and that is OK. It happens to anyone who steps outside of his or her comfort zone. It has happened to everyone you may admire and who have lived a life that is inspiring. It is simply a part of a life well lived. And if you reflect on what you can learn from a mistake then that will be invaluable to help you grow and improve.
  • Learn to set time-limits for small decisions at first. If you have trouble with overthinking then set a time-limit for when you have to make a decision. This might seem a bit scary though. So start small and set a 30-60 second time-limit when trying to decide if you are going to work out or reply to an email. Do that for a while and then move on to slightly bigger decisions. And then even bigger ones after that.

3. Stop thinking that you have to get started in a big and spectacular way.

If you have a big goal or dream or even a medium sized one then it is easy to think that you have to take an action of the same size to get started or to get where you want to go.

That is most often not true though.

What to do instead:

  • Go small. Just ask yourself: what is one small step I can take today to get the ball rolling with my goal/dream? Then take just that small action. And tomorrow or later on today you can do the same thing again. If that question still lands you in procrastination then ask yourself: What is one tiny step I can take to get the ball rolling?

Read the full post here. 

Fast Fix: Gratitude and Timeline Therapy

by Carol Solomon, PhD

Lately I’ve been practicing a quick technique that I call “The Gratitude Timeline.”

It’s quick and easy, and I don’t need to be near my gratitude journal. See if you agree.

First – I think of something I am grateful for that happened in the past…any area of my life where I feel fortunate that things happened as they did.

Next – I think of something in my life right now – “the sun is shining…it’s a perfect temperature…I am free to do as I want today, etc.”

Next – I think of gratitude in advance for something that I wish to have happen in the near future, eg. “I am grateful for meeting the perfect contacts today at this conference.”

This gets your subconscious mind working for you in the desired direction of what you want.

Spend a little extra time savoring each item on your timeline.

Over time, this practice helps you to be able to recall events to mind and be in the sacred space of gratitude more of the time.

If you keep the process light and fun, it also helps you to think about and clarify what you want without being attached to it or getting into conflict over it.

CarolSolomonAbout the Author: With 25 years experience in helping people find solutions and make positive life changes, Carol Solomon is a natural teacher and coach. She enjoys helping people incorporate a healthy lifestyle, decrease stress and strengthen their resources. Carol has written 5 books and produces a weekly email newsletter with over 16,000 subscribers.

CLN RADIO NEW EPISODE – Constructive Dreaming

Alexis Brooks interviews one of the top researchers in dreams, Dr. Henry Reed to discuss the process of “constructive dreaming.”

henry-reedDream researcher Henry Reed is called “The Father of the Dreamwork Movement,” and for good reason!

Reed’s many years of research not only led to his overcoming some of his personal struggles but has literally turned the entire study of dreams on its head.

To say he has made a dent in the academic community of psychology is an understatement. Henry Reed has managed to convince some of the most ardent skeptics that dreams can be used constructively to literally change the paradigm of individuals and communities alike!

Guest Bio:

Henry Reed divides his time between being a goat rancher and being an independent scholar of psychology, involved in writing, teaching, consulting, research and counseling. His speciality is cultivating the creative spirit in others, working from both humanistic and transpersonal viewpoints.

He received his Ph.D. from U.C.L.A. and was Assistant Professor of Psychology at Princeton University and Professor of Transpersonal Studies at Atlantic University. He has authored several popular books and professional articles and produced several instructional videos.

Reed was termed the “Father of the Dreamwork movement” because of his creation of Sundance: The Community Dream Journal, that helped spark the national dreamwork movement. He had a one-man show of his dream inspired watercolor paintings at the Virginia Beach Center for the Arts, and created an annual “Dreams and Creativity” program for the City of Virginia Beach. He also consulted on a three hour series for the Discovery channel on dreams. He now leads people on home-based dream quests and paints watercolor mandalas for them as a channel of prayer support. The Smithsonian Institute invited him to give a lecture about his “Dream Solutions” method of creative dream work.

He is Senior Fellow at the Edgar Cayce Institute of Intuitive Studies where he regularly provides training, consultation and research. He is also a Licensed Professional Counselor with a private practice in Mouth of Wilson, Virginia, specializing in intensive, transformational work, centered in dreams, energetic healing, and creativity. He is the founder of Creative Spirit Studios, which is a collaborative of lightworkers involved in using creative spirit in healing, teaching, and innovative service projects and research. Their virtual headquarters is at www.creativespirit.net and Henry maintains a well-equipped studio at Flying Goat Ranch in the Appalachian mountains, where he breeds and trains work friendly goats who help out and entertain guests of the spiritual healing sanctuary that exists on the ranch. His most recent projects include creating an “Intuitive Heart Discovery Group” network around the country training people to become Intuitive Heartpractitioners and the development of the online “webzine,” Intuitive-Connections Network, located at www.intuitive-connections.net

Listen to the interview FREE and ON DEMAND here!

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“To Do” Or Not “To Do”

Dr. Lissa Rankin MD | Wake Up World

I recently attended an event with a coach who challenged us to stop dreaming so much and start DOING something about our dreams.  He likened our big dreams to an acorn that had the potential to become an oak tree, and in scenario after scenario, he gave us examples about how “law of attraction” based inaction could thwart the acorn’s potential to become the oak tree. Sure, we could visualize the acorn as an oak tree. We could affirm the oak tree’s potential. We could even adopt a gluten-free diet and drink more green juice, in hopes that our efforts will help the oak tree grow. But unless we plant the acorn in fertile soil, nurture it with water, sunlight, and patience, that acorn is never going to realize its potential.

To demonstrate his point, he challenged us to an unusual form of “meditation.” Instead of sitting still and trying to calm our thoughts, we were invited to lift our arms over our head and bring the mind into present time while scissoring our arms together until our arms and shoulders got so tired and sore that we were ready to scream. Then, when we were all in pain and yearning to quit, he pumped the music up louder and dared us to keep going. Giving us permission to modify our movement if needed, he pushed us to keep up the pace if at all possible, to grunt and growl and cheer each other on.  By the end of the exercise, I’m sure many people felt a sense of accomplishment and patted themselves on the backs as an acknowledgment of their determination, commitment, and self-sacrifice in the face of pain. As I looked around the room, most people were grinning with the kind of relieved, endorphin-laden “We did it!” looks you see when people finish running marathons.

But that’s not how I felt. I may have been the only person in the room of pumped up people who felt…PISSED- not with the coach, but with myself.

No Pain, No Gain

Maybe it’s because I endured the pain of twenty years of self-sacrifice during medical school, residency, and my medical practice that I find myself resistant to anything that forces me to hurt myself, especially if it’s fueled by the kind of peer pressure you feel when a group is pushing each other to keep going, even when it hurts. After years of living by the “No pain, no gain” philosophy, these days, I’m much more inclined to feel attracted to Martha Beck’s mantra- “Play until it’s time to rest, then rest until it’s time to play.”

After years of learning from Martha, I’ve realized that I was once saddled with a limiting belief that all good things required hard work, suffering, sacrifice, and pain. Yet I now know that when I move in the direction of EASE instead, things mysteriously begin to flow.

Be Less Sperm, More Egg

It may just be a matter of gender difference. In asking us to push ourselves beyond our comfort zones in order to maximize our potential, this very Divinely Masculine coach is making a valid point. As long as we fail to even plant the acorn, no amount of play or rest is going to make that seed grow into an oak. The masculine principle of ACTION is a necessary part of the realization of any dream. Sometimes you have to do what I call the “ass in chair” work. Sometimes the required next step is to DO something.

But I no longer think the “ass in chair” work needs to be painful or require sacrificing your self care. I’ve had to learn to adopt the feminine principle I was taught first by Christiane Northrup, who taught me to “Be less sperm, more egg.”  This feminine principle has since been reinforced by my spiritual mentors Martha Beck and Tosha Silver. Martha taught me what she calls the “Four Technologies of Magic” (you can read my blog series about the Four Technologies of Magic here). Tosha instructed me on how to make an “offering” by turning over our desires and problems to the Divine and letting the Divine take the lead. (You can read about what I learned from Tosha here.)

These three very feminine but very successful women have all convinced me that we can thrive, fulfill our life purpose, be vessels for Divine work in the world, and manifest many dreams when we commit to surrendering our desires over to Divine Will, releasing attachment to outcomes, and letting the Universe work its magic.

It’s not that the masculine principle isn’t necessary and there’s not a place for the Divine Masculine, but in a culture dominated by the message that we have to push, strive, and make things happen, even to our own detriment, I tend to lean towards less pain, more flow.

What Are We Proving?

Perhaps this is why I bristle a little when I agreed to do something that left my shoulders so sore that I could barely lift my arms the next morning. Why did I not back off when I knew I should have? The very loving and concerned coach had even given us an out by suggesting that we could modify in order to avoid hurting ourselves. Why did I let myself get swept up in the pressure of it all? What do I have to prove? Where is the fine line between pushing beyond the limits of our comfort zones and hurting ourselves for the sake of achievement?

Don’t get me wrong- I’m all for working out, proving to ourselves that we can do hard things, increasing our endurance, and being brave. Discipline is an essential virtue necessary when we’re dreaming big. If we always quit the minute something got challenging, we’d never accomplish many of the big things we dream of creating in the world. The masculine principle of pushing ourselves when we must do hard things has its advantages. But when do we draw the line? When is too much of a good thing too much?

Embrace Inspired Action

I think the answer lies in what Tosha Silver calls “inspired action,” which is generated from the excitement and enthusiasm that bubbles up through your body and makes you DO something. Martha calls it “playing” when you take action that arises not from what you “should” do but from what feels so yummy you can barely keep yourself from doing it.

You can feel the difference in your body. The very idea of some actions makes you feel exhausted before you ever start. Other actions make you so excited you wiggle with delight and can’t wait to get started.

It may sound idealistic to suggest that you might only do that which feels yummy in your body, but I’m going to go out on a limb and suggest just that.

Don’t do it if you’re only doing it because you “should.”

Don’t do it because someone else is pressuring you to do it.

Don’t do it because you need to prove to yourself that you can survive pain.

Don’t do it because you think all good things arise from hard work.


Do it because you can’t NOT do it.

Do it because you’re being Divinely guided to do it, and Divine guidance tends to show up in the form of EASE.

And if you don’t feel that way, give yourself permission to stop doing it, not because you’re lazy, not because you’re a quitter, not because you can’t do it, but because you love yourself enough to grant yourself ease, happiness, joy, self care, inner peace, and shoulders that aren’t killing you.

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What You Are Not Being Told About The Secret & Law Of Attraction

Joe Martino | Collective Evolution

Whether you have been perusing the self-help or personal development section of the book store, been around people who are looking for personal success or whether you are part of or know of people in spiritual circles, The Secret or Law of Attraction is a big topic and has been for years. Some of us know a lot about it, some a little, for some of us it works and for some it “doesn’t,” either way, this article will explore a bit about The Secret or Law of Attraction and will touch on some key factors we are often not told about it.

What Is It?

For simplicity sake, I’m going to use the abbreviation LOA throughout the article when I’m speaking about the Secret or The Law of Attraction. Simply put, the LOA is said to be a universal law that states every person has the ability to attract things into their life with their thoughts and intentions. If someone is thinking and believing negative things all the time, they will attract them into their experience. If someone is thinking positive things all the time, they will attract that into their experience. In theory someone could also use the LOA to attract situations, experiences and material objects into their lives.

Made most popular by books like The Secret and Ask & It Is Given, the LOA has grabbed the attention of many and for good reason, it can work very well and even when viewed scientifically, there is some interesting stuff to back it up. When you note the fact that everything is energy and that our thoughts and consciousness do impact and create reality, as quantum physics has shown, making the leap that we can attract what we want isn’t too difficult to assert.

The Methods

Without going into huge detail, the methods are rather simple. One uses their thoughts and intentions to attract things they want. You can use affirmations, vision boards, words and so on to set out what you are looking to obtain and you go from there. In more day-to-day applications, one might watch what they say and avoid negative words, self-defeating words or attitudes and instead replace it with more positive and affirming statements and attitudes.

The theory behind some of the affirmations and vision boards is that the more you say something or see something, the more it imposes itself into your subconscious where it begins to create the reality.

Many have reported these methods to work often and many have claimed that they do not work at all. In any case, there can be a number of factors involved as to why it might work or not work, but most books don’t go too far into covering this and often times the whole subject of LOA has become a cliche.

What We’re Often Not Told About The LOA

I’ve personally seen some interesting results when I have practiced the LOA.   Some of my friends would say that the LOA failed at times for me and other times it succeeded, but the way I see it is that it was successful every time. Why do I see it this way? Because I believe there are other factors involved in the LOA that we often don’t realize because we get too caught up in creating from our minds and ego desires. Simply, we are missing the bigger picture.

Right away I can hear the questions, “how do we know what an ego desire is or not?!” We will get to that shortly. Drawing from personal experience, I have used the LOA and was able to attract what I wanted into my life, but there were other times it didn’t come into being. Why? Simply because there is a larger factor at play – YOU have a say in determining whether or not a specific reality might play out for you. But when we are engaged in mental and ego desires, we often don’t see the perfect reason as to why we didn’t bring about what “we” wanted.

Each of us is on our own unique journey and we, in some way, have a path we are on for our own individual growth and experience. At a deeper level, often called a soul level, we are choosing aspects of our journey so we can learn what we set out to learn in each lifetime here. So how could this interact with the LOA?

In a simple example, let’s say you wanted to attract a certain experience into your life, say becoming really rich, but you, at the soul beyond the mind, had a journey set out for yourself where you would learn to detach from money and that money does not define who you are nor your level of success in life. Then, no matter how hard you might try to attract this into your life, you would notice it not playing out simply because there is a bigger lesson you are trying to learn. You can’t use your mental creative powers to dictate your life as intensely as your own bigger picture that your true self sees.

Think about it. How many times have you had a situation happen in life that you didn’t like at the beginning only to find out a few days, weeks, months or years later that you grew and learned so much from it? Guess what, you attracted this experience but in a way that we often don’t understand. It’s not as though we sat there and said “Oh yay let’s have this “crap” come into my life!” It was more so that at a deeper energetic level we knew we could grow from it.

Another Personal Anecdote

Before creating CE I was working in finance for a short period of time. I was using the LOA to attract money into my life so I could one day impact the world and become rich within a certain company. I had several deals on the table that were all on the edge of closing and making me a very large sum of money, but suddenly they all fell through. At the time it seemed like a pain in the ass that this would happen, but my soul and life had a very different path. I ended up leaving finance very shortly after as my personal journey was unfolding quickly. CE got started and this became what I do full-time. Now I have money I require to live and we are able to do projects we need to do to make an impact but its all coming through a very different avenue than in my past.

What did I take from this? Why did I not attract the money even though it was for the “higher good?” Simply because there was A LOT I needed to learn first and looking back at it all, it was very clear as to why none of it played out that way. I learned so much about my perception of money, my own internal belief systems and self-worth etc. It wasn’t that the LOA did not or does not work, but rather I was looking to create something specific and I just needed to learn a few things first. After all, it all came into place but through different avenues. If I didn’t take the signs and hints and change life paths, I would have potentially missed out on my journey with CE.

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Healing the Planet with the Power of Mass Intention

LynneMcTaggart.com |  May 23 2014

Since 2007 I have been asking a few seemingly stupid questions:  Can the thoughts you think about things actually change them?  And is the effect even greater if lots of people are thinking the same thought at the same time? Is it powerful enough, say, to heal another person – or even the world?

To answer these questions, I enlisted a team of physicists, biologists, psychologists, statisticians and neuroscientists from prestigious international universities and, in total, several hundred thousand of my international readers to carry out 26 of the largest mind-over-matter experiments in history.  I’ve run experiments on leaves, plants, seeds, water, hotspots and now individuals in need of our help.

And now, after our first Healing Intention Experiment on a human being, I have my answer, which I’m going to share with you tomorrow.

Tomorrow, over a two-hour broadcast on Quantum TV, we will reveal the latest and possibly most ambitious of our experiments: to heal a Gulf and Afghanistan war veteran suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder.

The Healing Intention Experiment, was double-blind, which means the neither the patients suffering from extreme anxiety nor the scientist himself studying them knew which patient we chose.

Neuroscientist Dr. Jeffrey Fannin, a psychologist with expertise in ‘brain mapping’ states of mental disorder such as anxiety, depression or attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder, who organized the experiment, hooked up our two patients with an EEG machine and then monitored their brain waves plus the brain waves of one ‘intender’ sitting in another room, who would participate with us in sending intention to the chosen target.

Over the month since our experiment, he has monitored all three, clinically and through brain mapping. The results will blow your mind, as it did ours. We’re still reeling from the result.

On tomorrow’s show, you’ll have the opportunity to:

  • See a video of our target, Todd Voss, ‘before’, during  and ‘after’ the Experiment
  • Observe his brain patterns in real time during the Experiment
  • See Dr Fannin’s scientific findings
  • Find out what happened to many of our participants, who describeecstatic, transcendent experiences of oneness, often life-transforming changes and personal healings
  • See one of the ‘intenders’ as he describes what happened to him
  • Join in with another Healing Intention Experiment to heal another patient with anxiety
  • Get to experience this transcendent moment (and even the chance to heal yourself)
  • Listen to Russian physicist Dr. Konstantin Korotkov, who has worked with me on a number of Intention Experiments
  • Ask questions of me, Dr. Fannin and Dr. Korotkov via the Quantum TV live chat, monitored by Quantum University’s Dr. Paul Drouin
  • Connect afterward with others to compare experience

It’s free to all, and this time we have a simpler entry system, to ensure that no one is locked out.

But you need to register: https://quantumworld.tv/second-intention-experiment

If you have registered already, or did so for the April 26th experiment, you will automatically be sent a link to the program tomorrow, four hours before.  And do make sure to login early so we can fix things if you can’t get on.

Here are those times again.

The 2nd Healing Intention Experiment May 24, 2014

7 am Hawaiian DST

10 am Pacific

12 pm Central

1 pm Eastern

6 pm UK summer time

7 pm rest of Europe

Register here: https://quantumworld.tv/second-intention-experiment/

The Art of Prayer – 7 Keys to Intentional Manifesting

Jon RasmussenContributor

Do you know how to pray?  There is more to it than just asking God for something that you want.  In order for a prayer to be answered, it must be done well; it must be mastered.  It is like a novice picking up a guitar and trying to play a song.  If the novice has not learned how to play the guitar, they may get lucky and produce something resembling music, but most likely, the sound will be nothing more than irreconcilable noise.

What would it take to produce the beautiful music you would like to hear out of a guitar? The answer is that in order to consistently create the desired sound from a guitar, you will have to learn and practice the art of playing the guitar.  The laws of physics will not allow you to haphazardly bang away on the strings, and have the vibrations re-compose themselves before they reach your ear.

Likewise, in order for the Universe/God/Nature to answer your prayer, it must receive the precisely accurate and coherent vibrations of the experience that you are asking for. In other words, you have to become good at the art of prayer, if you want it to work well.  Most of the ways that we have been taught how to pray by parents or religion are not very effective.  It is as though they have told us, just pick up the guitar and ask it to play like Jeff Beck, and you just start strumming the strings.  The guitar cannot make up for your lack of skill and your ability to artfully express yourself.  Instead, the instrument is a benign channeler and enhancer of your desire and effort.

This is the way to look at God or that which you are praying to; a benign force that channels and enhances and gives you a manifestation of that artful prayer that you have initiated.  I will share with you the seven keys to mastering the art of prayer.

First Key: Ask for the Experience, Not the Specific Form You Think Will Provide It

Whenever you have a desired experience relative or in contrast to your current experience you have picked up the instrument and begun strumming whether you are aware of it or not.  The trick is to be aware and send your signal, your prayer, artfully.  I speak of experience instead of a literal manifestation because the first key to praying well is to understand that you are not asking for a specific thing, person, or event to come into your life, but you are really asking for the experience that you think a specific thing, person, or event would give you.

Not understanding this key greatly reduces the possibility of your prayer being answered.  Just as thinking that you will enjoy the song from a guitar if an only if the player produces a very specific sequence of notes, and only those notes.  Whereas, if the guitarist were allowed to vary the notes, chords, and timing, she may actually be able to give you the truly enjoyable auditory and emotional experience you want.

A simple example would be that you may desire a warm, loving, and fun relationship, and you are certain that the person you just met is the one to fulfill that desire.  So you may be praying, consciously or not, for that specific person to want to be with you in the same way.  The problems come in when you realize that person is not available or doesn’t seem as interested in you.  Now your signal, or prayer, unconsciously transforms into how you cannot and may never have the relationship experience you desire.  And since that is more the obvious current reality, that signal is pretty clear, and the Universe just keeps giving you that.  You end up with the opposite of what you thought you were praying for.

Also very important here is to  feel and think about how what you are asking for will benefit others as well. It is important to remember the interconnectedness of all of life.  It adds great power to your signal to take into consideration how it will positively effect everyone and everything else.

Second Key:  Feel, Feel, Feel the Experience and Use Ritual to Engage the Body

The second key is that you are able to feel the desired experience even though it is not there yet.  This is a great skill and perhaps the most challenging part of the art.  It requires a honed imagination, and a powerful connection to your body. Just imagining or visualizing is not enough.  You must feel it in your body, both physically and emotionally. 

This is very similar to what a great actor or performer must be able to do in order to convince the audience that the drama or part is real.  A great theater artist knows that if at any moment the audience doubts the validity of the role, they have failed in their art.  Likewise, you must fully convince God/All-that-Is, that you have already received the answer to your prayer; that you are already experiencing it.  If you fall back into the role of you current contrasting experience, then your prayer is negated, or indeed swung around completely.

That seems very difficult, in fact almost impossible doesn’t it?  Well perhaps that explains why we are not all capable of composing like Mozart, or painting like Monet, or that most prayers seem to go unanswered.  It wouldn’t be an art, if it didn’t require that you through all that you are, and all that you are capable of into it.

This is where the shamanic arts of ritual and ceremony, movement and acting out are of great help.The movement, images, and symbols required in ceremonies, vision boards, and role playing bring us into our bodies making it easier to feel the experience and engage our subconscious in the process as well.

Third Key:  Start With Something Easy

One of my first great martial arts teachers put it so well when he said, “the key is not that practice makes perfect, instead you need to understand that practice makes permanent, so only perfect practice makes perfect.”  Like mastering any art, start with small and simple steps first, then gradually increase.  Start by thinking of an experience that really doesn’t matter to you whether you have it or not.  Make it something that you are not currently experiencing any contrast around.   Keep it very much close to the current realm of possibility within a short time period. 

Make it easy for the Universe to answer. For example, imagine something like finding something unexpected today.  You might say to yourself, “it would be nice if I was pleasantly surprised today”, and then remember with your mind, your emotion, and your body what it feels like to be pleasantly surprised.  And if you can’t remember, just pretend that you do know how it feels, and feel it.

Do this for a while to build your confidence in yourself and in the Universe.  It has been so long since we have known and practiced this art well, that it may take some time to rebuild the confidence and trust required to continue on toward mastery.  Focus on the successes, and let the rest go.  Focusing our thoughts, attention, emotions, and body on the positive outcomes is also an important part of the process.  It aligns with the inclusiveness of the natural Universe.

Fourth Key: Ask for What You Want, Not for What You Don’t Want

No matter how much you don’t want an experience, or the person, thing, or event that is providing it, the Universe ignores the “not wanting” part.  Just like in physics and the guitar, there is no vibration or note that you can prefix to the note you are about to play, that makes that note come out the opposite.  There is no exclusion switch in reality, only in our language; so looking at an experience and saying “no, no, no, not that!” gets read as “yes, more of that!”  This is in large part because what you are feeling in the moment is the experience you don’t want in spite of the words.

Two-year old children are another great example of this phenomenon. Tell them not to touch something, and they head right for it. The theory is that two-year olds have not yet learned the intricacies of the language.  They instead behave much like the benign natural Universe from whence they very recently came. It isn’t until the age of three or four that they begin to understand that “don’t do that,” means “do something else.”  But that which answers your prayers, doesn’t bother with the trickiness of language, and instead responds to pure vibration.  It really is key that you maintain the vibration of the desired experience, or at least a neutral or no vibration regarding the experience once the prayer has been sent.

Fifth Key: Diversionary Prayer – The Art of Distraction

I learned a little trick when once helping a very strong minded friend get the weather he needed to sail a notoriously difficult stretch in a limited window of time.  He is a very experienced sailor, having circumnavigated the Earth twice single-handed; the kind of guy that has all the answers and advice, and could smell a storm from a thousand miles away, not to mention cheap whiskey, but that’s a whole nother part of the story.

Furthermore, he had sailed that stretch several times already, and was fully prepared for the same wretched experience.  I, of course, in the spirit of the relationship, had already bragged about what a great shaman I was, and how its shamanism 101 to change weather.  If I couldn’t give him a highly unusual south wind and calm seas within a couple of days, I might as well hang up my rattles.

I have always succeeded at changing the weather, but I had never tried teaching a hardened old sailor a new trick.  I needed a diversion.  I figured that if I could get him focusing on praying for something else for the next couple of days, we had a chance with the weather.  So first I got him to remember a day out on the sea when all the conditions where ideally in his favor.  No problem, he had plenty to choose from.  Then I said, “Look, forget about it, regardless of the conditions, you know you are tough enough to make it anyway, so who cares.”

Then I changed the subject to work to help him forget about the weather.  He had a few prospective job possibilities, but he was not very encouraged from the interviews.  I suggested that we do the feeling-based prayer around him having good and gainful work.  I told him to focus on how he always ended up finding work, some way, some how during his tumultuous life.  I used the prayer for work in this instance to take him off of the more entrenched subject of what his sail was going to be like in a couple of days.  And of course it worked, or I wouldn’t be writing about it.

I got the text message from him on his journey a few days later reading – “South wind 7 knots.”  He even calls me his shaman now – at all the bars.  I’m not sure that helped him get a job though; although the next diversion eventually did.  This method is also somewhat analogous to musicians and writers who find themselves blocked going out and focusing on something completely unrelated to their project. It takes an otherwise counter-productive signal, and cuts the power to it, allowing its vicious cycle to dissolve into neutrality. 

Sixth Key:  Staying in a Receptive Attitude and Allowing the Mystery, or Feminine over Masculine

Just as in the example above, once I got my friend to send the original prayer, the art shifted into the ability to not get in the way of receiving the desired experience.  It is true that the Universe/God works in mysterious ways. Not only can you not be sure exactly what form your experience will come in, you may not know exactly when either.  So much depends on what the rest of All-that-is is asking for, as well as the momentum required to rearrange things.

Again, it takes mastery to be able to wait and be open to what the Universe has in store.  There is a degree of surrendering that whole spiritual practices and religions are devoted to.  Do you really know the ONLY way you can possibly get your desired experience?  If you really think so, you may already be in trouble.  Like the old master filling the student’s teacup until it overflowed; if you do not empty your teacup first, the Universe cannot fill it. 

If you do not tame your mind by reminding it that it has limits, it will not allow you to receive new possibilities, and the possibility of receiving the answer to your prayer.  Your mind can be your best ally in the art of prayer, and it can also be your worst enemy.  Train yourself to let your heart and body rule your mind.  Make the feeling more important than the thought. This is what I have referred to in many articles as the Return of the Feminine as it takes charge over the Masculine.

Like the rudder on a boat, the mind may precisely point in the right direction for where you want to go, but is completely useless unless the boat is propelled forward by your feelings.  And if the boat is allowed to be propelled backwards by feelings of what you don’t want, then the rudder takes you in exactly the wrong direction.

Likewise, allow your emotion and guidance, which comes from you heart and gut, to determine the effectiveness of your mind.  The direction or focus of your thought should be as though you have already reached the goal of your prayer.  This is also true for steering a boat on the ocean.  You must keep your eye on the point of shore that is your desired destination, because simply pointing the rudder in that direction will not account for the influence of the wind and tides.  The rudder must be adjusted to compensate for these external influences.  Likewise, the mind must be flexible and allow for new possibilities and new paths. 

Seventh Key: Be Adaptable and Allow Yourself to Change

The experiences you desire move around a lot.  Old desires become launching pads for new desires, and Nature waffles; as a part of Nature it’s what we do.  Allow yourself to change your mind.  As we take in new observations and new contrasting data, our desires change.  Everything eventually changes in Nature; stones more slowly than viruses, but it is natural to change and to want to change.

We want new experiences and greater complexity.  Don’t be confused if your life has been more of the experiences you don’t want, or has been overly complex.  This may make you pine for the old good experiences and simpler times.  Certainly anything would be better than a life of mostly pain.  But when life is working well for you, when you are creating more of the experiences that you do want then you will continually seek greater complexity new experiences, just as Nature does. 

Let’s go back to the guitar analogy.  As you begin to master the guitar and together you are producing good music, you will find the natural desire to try new songs, new ways of putting notes and chords together in more complex ways.  We measure the level of virtuosity of any great artist, by the level of complexity they have attained without losing the quality of their art.  So allow yourself to continue to pray for more and new experiences.  Allow yourself to change your prayer even before it is answered.

Final Note: Help is Available and There is Nothing Serious About It

And finally, there is no score keeper or judge, no authority above you to determine whether or not you are doing all of this right, or living life correctly or not.  It is your gig, your sandbox to play in as you wish.  It’s just as valid to go through life letting the winds of influence blow you to and fro and just see what happens.

And if you do try to be more intentional and it just seems to difficult, this is also where the gentle, yet powerful work of the shaman can help to release the deeper influences that may be flowing against your practice and progress.  There are infinite possibilities in the eternity of this play of consciousness, and you can find them all in the center of your heart where laughter originates.  Laugh without moving your lips, and you will feel it.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jon Rasmussen

Jon RasmussenAbout the Author

Jon has over 35 years of experience in the fields of ancient and modern shamanism, healing, science, spirituality, and consciousness. He’s the author of the book Dreaming Your World Into Being, the CD’s Shamanic Journeys to Empower your Life and Practical Meditation for the Modern Lifestyle, as well as the DVD Let Success Find You. After several near death experiences at an early age, and extensive shamanic training and initiation, Jon leads a life of service for the healing of humanity primarily through the principle of the return of the powerful Feminine as spoken of in the prophecies of his Q’ero shaman lineage.  He travels extensively to conduct sessions, teach, and lead ceremony for individuals, couples, families, groups, and organizations.  Learn more about Jon’s work at dreamingintobeing.com and connect with him on Facebook. You can book sessions with Jon in person or by phone and Skype by sending an email to jon@dreamingintobeing.com.

Gratituding — Accessing the Divine Life-Force

Keith Gregory | Wake Up World

Of all the magic potions, secret formulas and arcane wisdom of the ages, when it comes to getting out of my sh*t, the quickest way to shift the imbalance and come back into my open and empowered Heartspace is to get into Gratitude. Nothing works like GratitudeNothing.

It’s a simple matter of physics or science or something progressively sensible… In that whatever we focus upon and put our attention towards, gets more … of itself. One of the most preferred ‘afterglow’ feelings to have in relation to anything in your life is being thankful for it. To cut to the catch – the choice to simply be grateful for whatever you’re going through (no matter what) will automatically upgrade the experience as being beneficial and good for you.

As we’ve now come to understand that energy follows thought — like attracts like, you get what you give, what goes around, comes around — doesn’t it make perfect sense to put your focus on the bestest best feeling you can possibly have? This is also called ‘pivoting’ or shifting your attention in any given situation to line up most favorably with what feels good to you.

Is it really this simple? In my life, it has proven so, over and over again.

In these times of accelerated Lifeforce flow, the velocity by which our thoughts come into manifestation are quicker and quicker. The lag time between an intention set and a direct manifestation in my life has decreased significantly. However, this isn’t to say I get everything I ask for (I don’t), although when my request is aligned with my highest and greatest good, it sure does.

Like most Spiritually ignited people, I want to keep finding ways to increase the feelings of being connected with my Higher Self and the Love juice that flows from this union between my human awareness and my Divine consciousness. Hey, I freely admit it – I Am a Lifeforce junkie! I just Love to Love. And I totally want to rest in The Beloved’s Love. Always.

This marvellous turn of perception has saved me so many times from taking a wrong turn down memory lane, or in more present times, a trip into and through my emotionally hellish tight spots that up until now used to own me. These often and eventually disappointing experiences were called ‘Intimate Relationship’. Does this sound familiar to anyone, I wonder?

The Monkey Mind

Perhaps there is just a wee bit of mental manipulation going on here. And yet, we’re going to think of something anyway – it is the nature of the mind to think – so doesn’t it make sense to think of things that make you feel good? It is always a choice where your mind goes and how long it stays there.

More often than not, most of us do not exercise our conscious thought or intention process. We just follow our monkey mind wherever it happens to take us. This eventually becomes exhausting. Sooner or later in our Soul’s evolution, we just get worn out.

This process of moving in a less challenging or rather, more joyful direction is what has moved me along in my own Spiritual development. I believe this can be so for all of us. In short: I’ve learned to do what I want to do by having done things I never want to do again. It is indeed a gradual process of elimination, isn’t it? As the layers of ‘not Self’ are stripped away, what remains is our true Essential Nature, shinning eternally radiant.

It Do What It Do

On a personal note, I’m currently in an intimate relationship of sorts with a Lovely woman here in NYC. She has so many qualities I admire, our sexing is wonderful and we share many similar interests. And yet, it really isn’t what I most want, relationship-wise. For her own understandable reasons, she prefers to see me only on the weekends, citing that I distract her from attending to her especially full plate of concerns. I too have a great deal to steer through in my life these days, so I can easily relate. In this respect, mentally, I get this loud and clear. In truth, I sincerely want for her what she most wants for herself – I just wish it was me more often.

However, through the trials and tribulations of my fertile relationship history, I’ve learned the hard way (is there another way!?) that doing what I say and saying what I do really goes a long way with my partner… Unlike M who texted me earlier today saying she would call as soon as her flat mate left for the day (that was 6 hrs ago). Although she surely has her reasons (as do we all), in learning to keep my harmonic balance, emotionally speaking, I no longer hold her to what she tells me in this regard.

Even though my partner and I match up really well on many essential levels, the way we relate with each other is more different than I prefer. Oh well, that’s life – and here comes the grand Gratitude Blessing – clearing the way for me to to streamline forward, or perhaps just to be more resolved and content with what is. And as always, it is only what it is. As my friend Michael Lightweaver is fond of saying – it do what it do.

This is the huge gift I’m now choosing to give myself in this interpersonal dance. I consciously choose to free myself from disappointment by not biting on how she does or does not show up for me. This is because I Am now focusing on showing up for myself by not being so affected by how she behaves.

As we all have experienced in relationship – the ever ready solution (in our ego’s eyes) is “I just wish she would do what I want”. Good luck on that fantasy, big boy! Each moment is our opportunity to either see life half full or more and more empty. It certainly befits me to slice out the nonsensical monkey thinking by consciously aligning with my Soul Stream and coming back into living contact with the God “I Am” Lifeforce, here and now.

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Finding Your Calling in Life: Why Taking the Road Less Traveled Will Take You There

Luminita Saviuc | Purpose Fairy

“…it sounds like life is calling you to do something BIG and you haven’t picked up the phone.” ~ Manifest Your Potential .com

When I first started writing on this blog, I had no idea what I was doing and whether anyone was going to read what I was writing. I just knew that I had to write and so I wrote.

My mind and many of my old friends kept telling me to cut the nonsense and get a life because I had no right to talk about the things I was writing since I wasn’t an “expert”. But my heart kept telling me not to pay attention to those self-defeating thoughts nor to those people and just write. And that’s exactly what I did. I continued to write.

I wrote about all the things I personally needed to know more about and the more I was writing the more I was learning. You know what they say, you teach that which you yourself need to learn. And I desperately needed to learn about all of the things I was writing.

I started writing about forgiveness, about how to be happyhow to love everything and be attached to nothing, about the things that are holding us back in life, how to find your purpose and calling in life, and so on. 

I started writing about all the things my heart and Soul were thirsty and hungry for, and by doing so I was able to resuscitate my Soul and bring my true self back to life. I was able to discover who I really was. I was able to find my calling and purpose in life.

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.” ~ Steve Jobs

If I would’ve listened to my mind and if I would’ve followed the “good” advice of those around me I would’ve stopped writing and my life would’ve been a lot different from what it is now. But luckily I didn’t. I was too tired to follow the crowd and live my life the way everyone else was living it and decided to do thing differently instead.

I took the road less traveled by, and that made a huge difference in my life.

“Unless someone can look into the core of your heart, and see the degree of your passion, or look into the depths of your soul and see the extent of your will, then they have no business telling you what you can or cannot achieve. Because while they may know the odds, they do not know you. Nor do they know the power of your angels.” ~ Sandra Kring

In life, people will try to convince you that what you feel in your heart is not what you should apply in your life and that to dream is to be naive. That you should look for safety and stability, always “behaving” and doing what everyone else is doing and it’s so important to stop for a little while, take  a few steps back and ask yourself: “What do I want? How do I want my life to unfold?”

“A question that sometimes drives me hazy: am I or are the others crazy?” ~ Albert Einstein

Everything changes so fast nowadays and those who are rigid, resisting change and clinging onto old and outdated ways of being/ doing things, will be left behind.

Things are changing, life is changing, and thank God they are because we can’t continue to live the way we used to anymore. We need to wake up and we need to start claiming, embracing and living the lives we are meant to be living and no longer the lives we were led to believe that we should be living.

If you feel you are being called to do something new, something different; if you hear your heart calling you, begging you to do things you have never done before and explore worlds you have never explored before, do it!

Your heart, your soul, your intuition, your inner gps… they are a lot wiser than you think and they know things that your mind does not. Dare to trust their wisdom. Dare to take the road less traveled because that’s how you will find your purpose and calling in life. Taking the road less traveled will take you there.

Learn to learn to listen to your own inner voice, to do what you yourself feel in your heart is right for you and not what the majority thinks you should do. If you follow the crowd you will go no further than the crowd.

Don’t be afraid to let go of familiar places and familiar faces to explore new lands. Don’t be afraid to take the path less traveled and do things that nobody else dared to do before.

Find the courage to take risks. To get out of your comfort zone and go the opposite direction from where everyone else is going. Simply because your heart is asking you too. 

Give up the need to live your life the way everyone else expects you to live, raising and lowering yourself to the level of their expectations. Start living life your own way. Know that it’s not the world you should try to impress but rather your own Soul, your own inner being and by doing so, you will effortlessly impress the world around you.

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