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26 Powerful Lessons to Learn from Nature

Tejal Patel | Purpose Fairy

“Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.” ~ Lao Tzu

I recently had the honor to hear the empowering Gabrielle Bernstein and Kris Carr speak  at the Crazy Sexy Miracles lecture in NYC. The evening was filled with many “AHA moments”  but one thing that stood out, in particular, was Kris Carr’s wise suggestion, “If you struggle with mastering patience, acceptance or any lesson, look to nature as your teacher. Kris said “Ask  how the stars do it? How does the ocean do it? How do the birds do it?”  Therein you will find  an illustration and answer of how you should handle your issue. That struck a strong cord in my  heart because I’ve had many deeply connected moments with nature and animals where time stands still and I feel one with a higher energy, yet I never thought to look to nature for answers.

It’s the moment you see a beautiful cloud formation while driving, taking in the magnitude of colors during a sunset, seeing autumn foliage, watching flocks of birds migrating or deeply looking into the eyes of your pet. I began to ponder what we are suppose to learn and what other messages I missed by our silent teachers. As I began to become present with nature, these are some of the humbling lessons and answers by tuning into nature and animals.

1. Trees

As seasons change, we are guided to learn acceptance and non-resistance. A green leaf doesn’t resist turning red when autumn approaches. Trees don’t resist leaves falling when winter arrives. They stand deeply rooted in the ground, with their vulnerability out in the open and branches spread wide, surrendering to the Universe. Do what you will with me, I trust it is for my highest good.

2. Ocean

The vast ocean can’t exist without each particle of water. Each human being plays its part in humanity. We are all one small part of the greater whole.

3. Birds

Birds soaring through the sky represents the limitless freedom and potential available to us if we release our fears. Taking off to fly for the first time can be scary and bring about feelings of fear. Without taking the risk of the first flight, we won’t find thinternal freedom we desire. We must dare to take our feet off the ground, spread our wings and soar.

4. Pets

Pets teach us more about love than any person or thing. We understand the true nature of unconditional love without expectations. The true nature of forgiveness is forgetting and letting go of grudges. We learn uninhibited, unreserved affection by giving our full attention. Understanding love is a feeling and doesn’t require words. Love is felt in the heart by making eye connection, being in someone’s presence and through physical touch.

5. Ants and Bees

The community of bees and ants all participate together to benefit all those in their community. We each have our own calling that is best performed by us. Each part is necessary for a functioning family, community, nation and world. Embrace your special responsibility, share it proudly with the world, and always do your best.

6. Bamboo and the Maple Tree

Who said that the bamboo is more beautiful than the maple tree and maple tree is more valuable than the bamboo because it gives out maple syrup? Does the bamboo feel jealous of the maple tree because it is bigger and its leaves change color? The idea of trees comparing themselves to others is ridiculous as should humans comparing themselves to one another. We must compare our growth to who we were yesterday not to the growth of another. Everyone is incomparably unique.

7. Flocks of Birds

I’ve never seen two birds run into each other when they are flying in a flock. Why is that if they never talk to each other? True communication doesn’t always need words. Body language, sensing other’s energy and tone can say much more than the actual words we speak. At all times we are communicating through our thoughts and the energy we dispel. Be mindful of your thoughts as the energy behind them affect others and the world.

8. Night Sky

Darkness is necessary to appreciate the light. We need to experience the opposite of what we want so we can appreciate and experience the thing we desire.

9. Sky

No matter what storms are passing, know it is always transient because beyond the clouds, the sky is always blue and the sun is always shining.

10. Rain

Water is required to cleanse negativity in the world and allow a space of clarity. It is through showering and soaking in a tub, where we clear our body from the stagnant, negative energy of yesterday and replenish our positive energy. Shower with the intent of cleansing your body, spirit and mind.

11. Clouds

The sky is the backdrop of our mind. The clouds with different formations, speeds and heights represent the frequency, types and speed of our thoughts. As clouds, our thoughts too shall pass. Glide through your thoughts like birds glides through clouds. Don’t resist the clouds, fly through them.

12. Stars

Stars bring beauty and light in the darkness. Instead of succumbing to the darkness of the world, be one of the radiant stars who shines their bright inner light. As we inspire others to be stars, we can light up the night sky with our intentional beams of star light.

13. Wind

Not all things that exist can be seen or heard. Some things need to be felt. Don’t be limited to your 5 senses. Use your intuition and develop the practice of believing in the things you feel.

14. Sunrise and Sunset

The breathtaking colors of a sunrise and sunset show us that colors vibrate energy and have the power to elicit certain emotions and feelings. Be mindful about the colors you surround yourself with.

15. Animals

Zebras do not look at tigers and wish they could hunt like tigers. Accept yourself as you are, know your weaknesses and strengths and embrace your unique beauty and gifts.

16. Preys

Animals who are prey don’t over analyze and plan in advance the ways they are going to outsmart a predator in the future. When the threat approaches their fight or flight kicks in, when the threat is gone, they go back to grazing without a thought in mind about the predator. Don’t dwell in a space of fear of the future and regret of the past when the threat doesn’t exist. That’s the breeding ground of stress, anxiety and regret.

17. Gardens

Have faith in tomorrow. We plant seeds of hope today, nourish them with love and attention with the faith that our labor will result in fruits in the future. We can’t impatiently force a garden to grow on our terms. A seed will sprout into a plant when the time is right. A fruit will fall from the tree when it is ripe and ready. They grow not because they are forced to, because they let go and allow divine energy and timing to run its course. Be persistent, patient and have trust in divine timing.

18. Natural Disasters

Our earth absorbs the negative energy humans expel as do our bodies. There are times when the earth and our bodies need to recalibrate and dispel the negative energy we absorbed. Mental breakdowns and hitting rock bottom will bring chaos, change and discomfort, but it can be the most positive, life changing event. Sometimes, we need to be brought to our knees to remember what we are grateful for and start on a new life path.

19. Mountains

Stand firm, poised and majestic like a mountain. Regardless of the external situations life will bring you, remain strong like the mountains do when faced with avalanches, rain storms, and water erosion. Your emotional guidance system should be tough like a rooted mountain, immune to the actions and reactions of others.

20. Flowers

We all carry a different fragrance, color and beauty for the world to enjoy. Flowers don’t discriminate who they share their beauty and fragrance with. They share with all friends, strangers and enemies. True compassion and love comes from sharing your beauty with all you meet.

21. Snakes

It’s necessary to shed your own skin and personality to allow an improved and better version of ourselves to emerge

22. Gravity

The Universe has its own sets of laws that are not man made and trumps any rule, law or limiting belief set by man. Figure out the Universal laws and make sure you are working with them and not against them.

23. Flow of Water

As we set sail in our life, we take sail through a calm stream. As our dreams get bigger, we are guided to a river with faster currents and more opportunities. Eventually, for our dreams to be realized, we must end up in the vast ocean. We won’t always have the protection of the river banks as our safety net. To achieve our dreams we have to lose sight of the land and sail into open waters, where there are unlimited possibilities for our dreams to manifest. Anything and everything is possible.

24. Butterflies

Butterflies symbolize our entire life cycle metamorphosis. Life is short and from the moment of birth we are constantly changing our form, inside and out. Don’t resist change. Some of the most beautiful wisdom and changes occur as you grow older and transform from a caterpillar to a butterfly. Appreciate each phase of your life before you transform to a new cycle.

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Love is Free – Everything Else Has a Price

Zen Gardner, Contributor

If you think about it, that is a profound truth. It is also an easy filtration system for truth in a world where discernment is both difficult and rare.

Try this simple formula. Examine your life simply for compromising economic enslavements, or even social relationships. What is the relative cost? Is it more parasitic than helpful? Are they obligatory relationships built on old, controlled patterns of thinking or behaving? It’s tough to realize what we’re in the midst of in a world so entrenched in these programmed mechanisms swirling about us.

Unconditional love, as ethereal-cereal as that may sound to some, asks nothing in return. Yet ironically, an exchange at some level always naturally occurs anyway.

That’s truth economics.

Are You Ensnared Outside of Love? Disengage

Who hasn’t been caught in the web? It’s a continual fight for anyone on this besieged planet. All of us have to deal with this sticky maze to some extent, and have been doing so all of our lives. It’s not always fun – it’s become a way of life, and survival. Discerning this changing world around us is our perpetual challenge, especially when our intent to change the flow and our reactions to this bombardment start to bring us to some serious revelations that contradict the narrative we’ve been sold.

It eventually becomes clear that the point of our realizations lead us to disengage. The whole system we’ve been sold is a lie, top to bottom.

Where did we go wrong? We fell for the cost system. Everything costs, so fight to gain more and the guy with the most toys wins. When this type of selfishness kicks in conscious awareness is lost. There is no more altruistic giving or helping those in need in their diseased paradigm, it’s back to a gain/cost game.

That might be a short summary of our condition, but the fact remains it’s time to wake up.

The key is not being in their game at all.

The Price of Love

It’s ironic how relationship love comes to mind for most when this subject of love comes up. That’s social programming playing on our instincts once again. Whereas, unselfish behavior is nothing new. It has been the natural response of cultures since time immemorial, caring for one another and extending that outwards. We just don’t see it today with corporatist totalitarian regimes clamping down on society as they are, and the reflexive responses of those trying to survive within their constricted climates of fear and insecurity.

This kind of fascist control has been the hallmark of every dynasty throughout our blighted history.

The point is, true love is free. There are no strings attached to true love. It gives without expecting in return. We all have it. It’s simply a matter of releasing and utilizing it.

And ironically it all comes back in spades.

The Difference

The key is recognizing what we’re up against, and responding accordingly. True love will always remain unconditional. The difference is in living up to this awareness. It’s not just simply to be observed, quantified and filed away. Loving interaction at work changes the entire dynamic of society, more radically than any other influence. We give and love because we care.

And Universe responds accordingly.

Blinding us from this wonderful truth is the reason for the harshness conditioning–war, hate, greed and most of all fear. These shut down our channels of connection to love. But only if we listen to them. When we learn to operate outside their matrix of deceit our powers blossom.

This is where we need to operate from, the standpoint of consciously aware love.

That may seem a bit esoteric for some, but it couldn’t be any more practical.

Stay in love.

Love, Zen

This article appeared at ZenGardner.com. Please visit Zen’s website for more consciousness-raising wisdom.

 




The Beginning: Experience the Divine! with Mystic Healer Sonja Grace

Sonja Grace

CLN’s Anjula Ram recently interviewed author and mystic healer Sonja Grace at the Conscious Life Expo.  Listen to the full interview here:

This coming weekend, you can join Sonja for a day of spiritual transformation. The Beginning: Experience the Divine!  is all about connecting with the energy of the fifth dimension.  Through meditation, micro- movement and sounding,  a bridge is created with the emotional body,  moving  blocks and resistance from the physical.   The four essential bodies are addressed at the same time connecting to energies with the Earth.   The Beginning is the Experience and transformation is the key to the Divine.  Sonja is a spiritual teacher who creates a profound understanding for her clients to better access their inner peace.  She explains the duality and how each one of us can better manage our energy,  no longer investing and  creating more karma.

This one day workshop is being held in Joshua Tree Retreat, Saturday, March 1, 2014 from 10:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. Lunch is included.  The cost is $295.00.  Experience the transformation of your energy and connect with the Divine!  For more information: 503.746.6525503.746.6525.  You can purchase tickets HERE.




Disappointed With Relationships? Change Your Expectations

Joe Martino | Collective Evolution

One of the biggest topics that comes up when speaking with people is relationships. Whether it be about finding the right person, feeling the butterflies, knowing when to move on or wondering how things are supposed to feel, relationships seem to be not only something we enjoy, but also something we base a lot of our happiness on at times.

Putting a lot of stake in our relationships can often lead us to obsess, be on an emotional roller coaster, miss out on focusing on ourselves and set ourselves up for disappointment. Hands down one of the biggest factors that causes relationship struggles once certain areas of concern are explored is expectations. In my view, a lot of self-help books and belief systems have created a counter productive method for dealing with relationships as they often touch on topics like sacrifice, honouring yourself, and fulfilling a list of qualities you think your partner should have. Unfortunately this type of exploration doesn’t get to the core issue as to why we are having struggles with relationships and instead are temporary solutions to the issue.

For example, how many times have we read that when one partner does something that doesn’t fulfill our needs we must honor ourself by retaliating back in some manner only to later find out that our needs were based on expectations to begin with? What about when we are told to write out a list of things or qualities a partner should have so that we don’t end up with someone who doesn’t fit what our idea of a good partner is? Does this not suggest expectations once again? Of course this can likely be why we end up dating the same type of person over and over again as well, because when we don’t learn our lessons and we continue to attract the same thing over and over.

The purpose of relationships can be viewed in a number of ways, but in  simple form, they are a means to share life with others on this planet. Different experiences, different roles, different lengths, there is no set definition for what a relationships looks like so it’s tough to say how one should be. Relationships can supply us with great times, tough times and anything in between, but most often, relationships provide us with growth, even though we don’t always view it this way.

I’ve been through it a number of times myself over the course of my life. Playing with the ideas of what a relationship should be like or should look like based on what we have always been told about relationships and what the “cloud 9″ mushy loves stories look like in movies. Here is what I came to learn in my own experience about relationships…

Expectations

I believe that at the end of the day, expectations are quite possibly the one thing that hinders our ability to be at peace not just in life but in our relationships as well. We expect that our partners should act a certain way, think like we do, do certain things for us, or respond to things we do for them in a particular way. We expect that at certain points in a relationship certain things should happen, or that certain things should feel a certain way and if they do then great, if they don’t UH OH! How many people have read an internet column or Cosmo magazine and found their relationship advice is just a series of stories and beliefs that set you up for having a boatload of expectations? All of these expectations are nothing more than someone else’s ideas of what a relationship should be like. Maybe it’s time to re-think the advice?

When you begin by kicking out expectations as best as you can, you will begin to notice your relationships being very different right away. No longer will you find yourself in the past or future hoping or reminiscing that things should have been a certain way. You no longer will be trying to look for and read a situation but instead will be in the moment enjoying whatever happens for what it is. By not expecting we allow ourselves to love whatever happens instead of judging it and categorizing it as good or bad. We save ourselves a lot of heartache and ultimately live a much more peaceful and expansive life. We can never control what another does, so why try so hard to make them be a certain way or expect them to be  certain way? Would you want someone doing that to you?

To kick expectations it just comes down to looking at you, your actions and your thoughts. Ask yourself questions about why you might be sad, upset, worried or concerned about what is happening in a particular situation within any relationship you have. Is it based on your own ideas of how things should be? Are you not allowing the person to be who they are? Are you judging them? Judging the situation? Any time you reflect and observe in this manner, you get to the core of what your expectations are all about and then you can choose not to give them power. With more practice, your mind and emotions won’t jump to responding due to your expectations.

While expectations are a huge first step, there are a few more things/ steps within removing expectation that we can look out for in order to gain clarity on our relationships.

1. Learn to Love Yourself – In relationships we often look to them to fulfill a lack of love we have for ourselves. They can often times distract us from facing the inner sadness we have about our lack of self-love or self acceptance and when our partner is not doing something we expect, we respond out of a lack of self-love. Essentially, we are pointing the blame outwards.

2. Remove the categorizing and judging of everything that happens – It is easy to get caught up in the mind about almost anything with relationships. Did he/she say that with a tone? What did they mean by that? Why didn’t they do that? Shouldn’t this have been this way? We can look at almost any situation and judge or categorize it as right or wrong within a relationships and when we do we go right back to expectations. Avoid the judgement and allow things to be what they are.

3. See the ‘perfection’ in the relationship as it is – When you view challenges within  relationship as ‘perfect’ for the situation, you allow yourself to remain in the moment and see things for what they are for both parties. By perfect I don’t mean if you are in an abusive relationship it means you have to stay, but, it does present a situation that we can learn from an ultimately transform whether it mean confronting the issue or learning to step away.  Often times it is the perfect combination of things to have both people get the lessons and growth they need so they can move past needing to play with all of the stories and beliefs behind expectations. the more we see the perfection, the more we allow and are at peace with why things are the way they are.

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Authentic Happiness

Dorothy Ratusny | all things healing

When you create a life that is meaningful, happiness is effortless.

Authentic happiness is the natural state of our spirit. A central theme of Buddhist and Hindu teaching, happiness is a reflection of Dharma – living in accordance with our life’s purpose. When our choices and behaviours reflect our truth, we easily experience authentic happiness.

With the potential to experience a natural state of happiness, how is it that happiness seems to elude us?

The fact is that we work hard at making ourselves unhappy. We look for complex solutions to simple problems, and we create complex problems by overlooking simple solutions. Entirely unaware of our constant stream of irrational and critical self-talk, we impose unrealistic expectations on ourselves based on inaccurate and unhealthy comparisons of our self to others. We expend a vast amount of emotional and physical energy experiencing a plethora of unpleasant emotions (e.g. anxiety, fear, anger, guilt, shame) as the result of unconscious adherence to established rules and beliefs. We react by searching outside of our self for the illusionary “something” that we believe will make us happy.

When you look to material goods, physical pleasures, and other people to “make” you feel good, these external sources of pleasure and comfort only momentarily sustain you. You need to continue acquiring more material goods, more physical pleasures, and more external rewards to recreate these pleasant feelings. Without a clear sense of purpose, you continue to search outside of your self for what you believe will make you happy. Realize instead that what you need is to go within, to connect with your inner self, and to enjoy this moment.  Practice being as you contemplate what you would enjoy most, and what would contribute to your overall sense of well-being.

Essentially, we could learn a thing or two from the Tibetan monks who have consciously chosen to live a highly simplified but yet conscious existence.

Creating authentic happiness begins by focusing within. Carefully examine your life as it presently is. What aspects do you enjoy most? What do you feel gratitude for? What is the source of your happiness now? Do your answers highlight the simple aspects of life?  Does your heightened awareness of the causes of your happiness force you to re-examine how you’re currently living life?

Daily Practice: Observing My Current State of Happiness
To uncover the source of your authentic happiness, answer the following questions from a place of intuitive wisdom rather than using your analytic (thinking) brain. Do this by acknowledging the initial answer that resonates as what you know to be true, rather than the answer you think is right.

1.  “How does happy feel when I experience it throughout my whole being?”

2. “Am I happy with the person I am?

 3. “What activities and experiences contribute to my authentic happiness?” (List everything that comes to mind.)

4. What aspects of who I am (my ideas, beliefs, and actions both alone and with others) allow me to be innately happy?

 5. What aspects of my life might I improve in order for me to experience innate happiness more of the time?

6. “What would my life be like right now if I were able to make these changes?”

Given your answers, you might notice that authentic happiness is an intangible quality that comes from within. It exists out of the feelings of contentment and calm that come from connecting with your inner (Highest) Self.  Your Highest Self is your spirit – your life force.

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Your Past Lives and Relationships in 2014

Selacia, Contributor

Within you from past lives are the seeds of your current and future relationships. If this sounds like a stretch of the imagination, consider the following.

From the time you were in your mother’s womb, you were being conditioned by the world – learning how to relate to your circumstances, to other people, and even to yourself. Woven between much of this conditioning were seeds from your ancient past.

These seeds, holding potentials of what you could and would become, came with you. They were part of a package of energy encoded in your very DNA. Some are quite beneficial, such as those helping you to be patient with others. Some seeds can hold you back – like those causing you to distrust others without justification. 

Seeds from Your Past Lives

Where did these seeds come from? They originated from your past – including your own past lives, ancestral material from your family lineage, and even from the vast evolving mass consciousness of humanity. That last category is really huge, and must be considered part of your past, present, and future potentials.

Everyone you meet also carries seeds of potentials impacting relationships. This doesn’t automatically mean that each person in your life is from a past life. However, given the immense interconnections people experience during a series of lifetimes, it’s actually quite common to reincarnate with many of the same people.

Aunt Mary today could have been your sister Elizabeth in the 1800s. Your current boss Steve could have been your father John in the 1600s – your neighbor Sylvia today being your mother Rebecca that same life.

Likewise, your significant other this life could have been your romantic partner or family member in several other key lifetimes. Your cat could have been with you in another life, too! These examples are all part of the dance of reincarnation, you being energetically drawn to certain people and situations.

Importance of Past Life Seeds in 2014

If you are already familiar with this concept – perhaps having had numerous tangible déjà vu experiences – why is this more important now in 2014?

First, this is a Horse Year with lots of fire energy. This means increased momentum and an accelerated wake-up call timetable. To translate this on a personal level, it means that you will likely feel an intense drive to clean up unfinished past business so you can have good relationships. Intuitively, you know that how you relate to others will be instrumental in your overall success.

When you understand that your past is more than just this life, and that the person you are interacting with quite likely was in some key past lives, you have an enhanced perception of the bigger picture. This can make it easier to pinpoint issues, including DNA patterns that need to be resolved before you can have loving relationships. The more loving you become in 2014, the higher your frequency – this helps you manifest success on numerous levels.

Second, a fire year like 2014 can bring you countless opportunities you didn’t have access to before. You will benefit most from the open doors of opportunity when you can hold and broadcast a loving energy – within you, to loved ones, to colleagues, and to strangers. You never know where the next opportunity may come from! Relationships are the catalyst to your forward momentum.

If you could energetically track opportunities, you would notice that many times they originate with a person far removed from your personal circles. Something that person does or says catalyzes an idea or an action in someone else. There is then a cascading effect, beneficial openings seemingly arriving at your door in a direct way. At first, they may not even look like opportunities.

Example:  you may be offered a job training program that on the surface seems interesting, but it may not speak to your heart. Perhaps you have your sights set on a whole new line of work, and it’s difficult for you to get inspired by anything at your job. If you check in with your heart, though, you may sense that there is a bigger purpose to accepting the training. At the training or perhaps because of taking the training, you could meet a helpful person you had a close bond with in another life. This person, without even knowing why, could be energetically drawn to assist you now.

Third, this year will be understood in hindsight as one of great changes across the world and within people. It’s like the dial on the “change meter” moved to “high” – or at least the highest experienced in a half century. As a divine changemaker, your role is to be at the forefront of this accelerated phase of change.

No matter what other jobs you have, or what you do with your time, your most important activity is to master loving relationships. This begins with you – as you develop increasing self-confidence, empowerment, and self-love. Those qualities are developed as you uncover and clear past life patterns involving love and relationships.

You then have access to the most powerful antidote in existence – love. You then apply the love antidote in your life, to each and every relationship. Do not underestimate your power to change your personal circumstances and the world. Trust that spirit right by your side – bringing you the people and situations needed to create an amazing life.

About the Author

Selacia is an internationally acclaimed writer, author of Earth’s Pivotal Years, intuitive healer, and guide to others on the path of spiritual awakening. A former foreign correspondent with The Wall Street Journal and other media, she has decades of experience in the areas of world politics and social change, healing and consciousness, and spiritual transformation. In her journalism career, Selacia covered the White House, US Congress, G8 meetings, economic summits, and world trade talks. In her global healing work, she has addressed the United Nations (SEAT). Her writings are read in sixty-four countries. She is a pioneer in DNA intuitive healing, serving people everywhere who desire wholeness and a heart-centered life. Selacia has dedicated her life to spirit, and to opening the way for others to progress on their path of enlightenment. Visit her at www.Selacia.com.

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The Collective Evolution III: The Shift

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fAE6zX5wlt4

Source: Collective Evolution

The Collective Evolution III is a powerful documentary that explores a revolutionary shift affecting every aspect of our planet. As the shift hits the fan, people are becoming more aware of the control structures that prevent us from experiencing our full potential. CE3 uses a different level of consciousness and scientific facts to bring clarity about the shift while dispelling myths about our true nature. It offers practical steps that we can implement right now to transition out of survival mode and into our more natural state of peace and co-operation . CE3 includes fascinating interviews with revolutionary speakers and people who are already opting out of the current socioeconomic system. The film examines hidden technologies and exciting alternatives for a bright limitless future. This is the most exciting time in the history of our world.




The Powerful Gift of Emotion

 

Sam WelsbyContributor

I had an exchange with a stranger last night that I know I’ll remember forever. We looked intensely at each other while I touched his arm before walking away. Tears of gratitude were beginning to form in his eyes and tears of sadness in mine.

With my train ticket paid for I was heading to the platform when a middle-aged man dressed in warm but scruffy winter clothes said, “Excuse me, Miss.” I unplugged my headphones, stopped and smiled at him. “You have a lovely smile and lovely teeth.” I smiled a little wider, knowing what he would ask next, and said wryly “What other compliments would you like to give me?” He look mildly embarrassed but carried on, “I just wondered if you had any loose change, I’m not an alcoholic or anything but…” He trailed off, looked down and saw I was giving him a five pound note. “You’re not serious?” he said as we looked at each other properly for the first time. I pushed it into his hand, gently touched his arm and could see tears forming in his eyes. I abruptly looked away so he wouldn’t see how his humility and surprise had affected me. As I started walking I could hear him call after me, “You’re such a lovely thing.” And all for a five pound note.

What’s the benefit?

For the price of a latte and a muffin I stirred a man to tears and felt sick about it. With the touch of my hand on his arm I wanted to communicate that he didn’t have to explain anything to me. If he was an alcoholic it was none of my business, how he found himself on the streets didn’t even cross my mind. He made me smile, I saw myself in his eyes and wanted to give him what I could. I’ve had enough coffee and cake to last me a lifetime and these small, spontaneous acts of kindness fill me up more than food ever would. I wish I could have given him more to make up for all the other times I’ve passed him by. Maybe he had a different face, but how would I know? Like most of us who are busy and concerned with our own lives, I rarely bother to look. Any real or imagined problems of mine disappeared when I saw the pain within him. He was thanking me when I really should have been thanking him.

Truth is in the eye of the beholder

This shift in perspective when I connected with him is something we all need from time to time. To have empathy for others, to move our attention away from our needs, our rights, our wrongs, our wants and really understand someone else is a skill not many of us use. If we did our lives would be completely different. If we felt other people’s pain instead of trying to understand it with our minds there would be no war, no homelessness, no poverty, no cruelty and no deceit. We could live by the principle “Do no harm”. That statement would be our only guide because we would know that what we do to others we do to ourselves. So why are we so often ruled by our heads and not our hearts? Our inbuilt protection mechanism, otherwise known as ‘the ego’, is always standing guard to stop us from being hurt. It will defend our rights and beliefs to the death because without them it doesn’t exist. Without duality; right and wrong; good and bad; me and you; them and us or distinctions of any kind our mind cannot make sense of the world . Many a war has been fought over the ego’s perception of separation and our need to be right.

Let your guard down

If we can move past the sentinel of our feelings we would remember it’s all a matter of perspective. We see what we want to see through our own unique lens of the past. This can lead to misunderstandings because we find it so difficult to understand what it’s like to be in someone else’s shoes while we’re justifying our own position. We understand that being homeless in London during winter would be a harsh place to be, but really connecting to how it would feel would render many of us immobile. And we don’t have time to feel, we’ve got our own lives to live, our own problems to deal with, why should we help someone else when we are struggling to help ourselves? On some other night I may have walked right past this man, music blaring, head down focussing on my thoughts alone, my perception being that he’s unimportant to me right now. Someone else may have become angry because they associate begging with people who are too lazy to work. We often hold on to our beliefs so tightly that we lose relationships, our feeling centres being so shut down because we don’t want to empathise with others lest we experience more pain.

Opening Pandora’s box

But suppressing our emotions means we reject the aspect of ourselves that connects us to others. We have all loved deeply, known gut wrenching loss, abandonment, betrayal and disappointed yet we push our feelings away, shove them into a box that becomes so heavy it weighs us down. We then self medicate or distract ourselves with smoke and mirrors that convince us we like our lives just the way they are. But we can only hide from ourselves for so long. Everyone has their breaking point, the day when the house of cards begins to fall. And on that day surrender to it. You’ll be grateful for it later because you cannot live and inauthentic life and be happy. What that life looks like is yours to create. To be yourself, or selves, released from the perceived judgement of others is liberating. To be able to say the words, “This is me, what of it?” is when you are finally free. So in your darkest times when you feel sad, misunderstood, unsupported and empty know that you are are never truly alone, many others have experienced the same. Understand that we all have the strength to face our feelings and not be carried away into an abyss never to return.

Passing through the eye of the needle

If we can learn to swim in the depths of our emotions we will find we are cleansed by them. To speak, cry and fall down on our knees is to allow our inner selves to be heard. When we begin to listen to our hearts and silence our minds we can see the ego has had it’s day. Look around and witness what has been achieved. Disconnection, disaster and disease. These are the consequences of all our thoughts and actions, but we need not chastise ourselves endless, it’s no longer about assigning blame. Let us remember that we all have the capacity for great compassion and forgiveness when we look though someone else’s eyes. I was taught a wonderfully simple meditation by a friend of mine called Ho’oponopono. Whenever you need to forgive yourself or others simple breathe and recite these words “I Love You, I’m Sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank You.” They dissolve the hardened shell of the ego and connect you with something far more powerful: love.

Know that you don’t always get what you want but you do always get what you need. These gifts sometimes come in surprising packages. Don’t throw them away before opening the box.

About the Author

Sam WelsbySam Welsby is a teacher of conscious evolution, freelance writer, social activist and healer helping people bridge the gap between their physical and spiritual selves. She offers guidance on how to navigate the catalysing energies of change through her articles, personal healing sessions and mentoring programs. Her healing techniques help people to release emotional trauma on multiple levels, so they can live life with clarity and purpose.

Through a practical approach of grounding spirit into physical reality, she teaches people to be their own gurus and supports them in taking inspired action to create the life they want. For information on how you can you can work with Sam, please visit. www.samwelsby.com

She has a BA in Education, Diploma in Hypnotherapy and Holistic Counselling a lifetime of study of esoteric information, the nature of consciousness and what it means to be spiritual.

Copyright 2014 Sam Welsby
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Raymond Aaron: Developing A Short Bridge Into The Unknown Is Key To Success

Listen to this awesome interview,  learn, and apply.

Source: CuttingEdgeConscious

Bestselling author, entrepreneurial genius and renowned trailblazer, Raymond Aaron shows up for a great conversation about moving past self-imposed limitations and making life a grand adventure. Barnet and Freeman jump off the bridge with Raymond and have a pretty fun conversation on this episode of Cutting Edge Consciousness.




Dreaming Big : Sudha Menon Shares Her Inpirational Story

Source: TEDxTalks

Ms. Sudha Menon is a former journalist and author of two very popular non-fiction books, Leading Ladies: Women Who Inspire India, and Legacy, a compilation of letters from inspirational Indian men and women to their daughters.  Watch and listen as she shares her inspirational story.

Ms. Menon is a seasoned journalist who has worked with prestigious publications such as The Independent, The Hindu Business Line and Mint. She is also an invited speaker to educational institutions and corporate campuses where she talks to women’s networks about women’s leadership and diversity issues. She is currently working on three other books two of which have subjects related to women.




What a Difference a Day Makes (music by Moby)

Source: Animal Aid

“What a difference a day makes” is the title and main theme of a beautifully produced motion graphics film launched by national campaign group, Animal Aid.

If everyone in the UK committed to just one meat-free day a week, this would result in greater carbon savings than taking five million cars off the road. Reducing the amount of animal products in our diets will also help to boost our health and, of course, help to end animal suffering. What more incentive do you need? So start with Meat-Free Monday and then try Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday. And dont forget to tell your friends and family!

What a difference a day makes was created by award-winning, London-based design and motion company, Taylor McKenzie (https://www.tmck.co.uk) and features Mobys iconic track, “In my heart”, as the soundtrack to the film.

More info: https://www.meat-free-monday.com




6 Ways to Bring More Presence and Connection to Your Relationships

Source: By Dani Miller | Purpose Fairy

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“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection. Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them – we can only love others as much as we love ourselves. Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare.” ~ Brené Brown

When was the last time you looked into the eyes of a stranger such as the guy taking your order or the woman at the checkout and really acknowledged their presence? Actually, when was the last time you looked into the eyes of your partner or your children for a prolonged stretch of time?

In our hectic lives we are always so busy trying to accomplish one thing or another, that it’s easy to become distracted and disconnected from the people around us. Here are my 6 top tips on how to bring more presence and connection into our everyday encounters with people. These things don’t take much time but have the potential to transform any relationship.

1. Make eye contact

“I see you.” ~ Na’vi greeting in Avatar

It seems simple and obvious but check how often and for how long you actually make eye contact with the people you encounter during your day. Then consciously try to increase that time. Eye contact creates instant connection and intimacy, even with strangers. Not only will it make you really see the other person, it will also allow them to really see you. Give people the gift or your presence.

2. Listen

“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” ~ Stephen R. Covey

Don’t be one of them. How often do you find yourself already coming up with an answer in your head before the other person has finished talking? I know I do sometimes. When I do and I notice, I consciously stop, clear my mind and try to listen without an agenda. I make sure I really understand the other person before thinking of my answer and if necessary, I feed back what I understood and check with them to make sure I understood correctly.

3. Drop your agenda

“Postpone result/solution thinking until later; it’s through connection that solutions materialize – empathy before education.” ~ Marshall Rosenberg, creator of Non-Violent Communication

Often we engage in conversations and encounters with other people with set agendas in mind and we focus on the outcome we want to achieve rather than on connecting with the other person. It’s okay and natural to have a preference for a certain outcome but if we are able to keep our minds open and aim for connection and understanding first and foremost, we might just be surprised at the solutions that emerge from that openness. They tend to be better and more effective than the solutions either person could have come up with on their own.

4. Be vulnerable

“Staying vulnerable is a risk we have to take if we want to experience connection.” ~ Brene Brown

For real connection to happen you have to have the courage to let yourself be seen. People instinctively know when you are speaking from the heart and when you are holding back. Most people will happily accept your invitation and reciprocate your vulnerability if they feel safe. It is an incredibly healing and fulfilling experience to meet another person without hiding behind masks. By realizing that we have very similar fears and needs we already feel less isolated and more supported in our daily struggles.

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Do Violent Video Games Destroy Human Empathy?

Overexposure to violent video games decreases empathy towards others and blurs one’s sense of what is right and wrong, according to arecent study at Brock University. The results of the study showed that this was not the case for casual gamers, but that it mainly held up for teenagers who play violent video games for an excessive amount of hours per day. Lissette Padilla and Elliot Hill discuss how moderation can prevent these negative effects, in this clip from the Lip News.




Cats, Dogs Have ‘Superpower’ Vision: Study

A new study suggests the household pets can see things that are invisible to humans. A house cat’s bizarre antics may be more than just feline folly. The kitty may be seeing things that human eyes can’t. Unlike humans, many animals see in ultraviolet, and a study now suggests that cats, dogs and other mammals can, too. Knowing these animals see things invisible to humans could shed some light on the animals’ behavior, the researchers say.  Read more: Cats and Dogs May See in Ultraviolet




Unite and Conquer: Fighting Back Against the Oligarchy

https://youtu.be/y_sqsM1q6UM

By James Corbett
BoilingFrogsPost.com

In recent weeks, the Eyeopener has been examining the politics of division. In our first report, we looked at how the left/right political spectrum is used as a wedge to divide the people against themselves. In our second report we showed how this has been accomplished in recent years to defuse the anti-war movement. And in last week’s report we examined how the corporate welfare state is maintained by way of these phony divisions.

As important as the political spectrum is in keeping the people warring with each other, it is of course by no means the only wedge issue that is used to keep the public at each other’s throats. Other tools of division include race, religion, class, and a whole host of issues that do not intersect with the political sphere at all, but nonetheless effectively help to group people into warring camps.

The end result of this constant appeal to tribalism is to pit neighbor against neighbor, family against family, coworker against coworker, and even friend against friend so that our lives consist of ever-dwindling spheres of people with whom we can agree totally on every issue. Meanwhile, the people in positions of very real control over the lives of those masses go unscrutinized, their actions lost under the 24/7 babble of nonsense being generated by the politics of division.

There is, after all, a reason that the pyramid has historically been seen as a metaphor for social control. At the bottom lie millions of stones, atomized, divided against each other, but all acting in unison to support the layer above it. The further up the pyramid one goes, the fewer the divisions between the components of that layer until, finally, the capstone reveals itself as the single, unitary ruler of the entire system. This is the image of the oligarchy, rule by the few over the masses through the age-old technique of divide and conquer.

If divide and conquer is the technique that keeps the people oppressed, however, it is obvious that the one thing that the ruling class fears above all else is that the public will unite against them. If the people were ever to put aside their doctrinal differences and coordinate their efforts, the results would be staggering.

This is not mere theory, but a political fact born out by centuries of example, and one that is continuing to have dramatic effect on the world around us…

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