Acts of Heroism and the Evidence for One Consciousness

twohandsWe have all heard the expression, we are all one.  In fact many of us, especially in the “new thought” space have willfully considered the notion of a singular consciousness; the idea that we are all connected to a grand field of awareness.  We’ve even taken steps to employ this powerful mantra by joining with community groups in the spirit of altruism and seeking to find the bond that connects us all…and that’s a wonderful thing!   But still, despite our intrinsic understanding of the importance of community and cooperation on this planet of over 7 billion, are we truly taking into account what may be the stunning backdrop to the, we are all one framework?  Is this idea not just a figurative representation but a literal one?

Just recently, I spoke with Dr. Larry Dossey, renowned consciousness researcher and the author of twelve books, including his latest, One Mind – How Our Individual Mind is Part of a Greater Consciousness and Why it Matters, about the act of heroism and how this may provide astonishing evidence for this “one mind” idea.

In our conversation he gave two examples of heroic acts, one involving two men: a 50 year old construction worker named Wesley Autrey and a young 20 year old male named Cameron Hollopter.

It was 2007. Both men were in a NYC subway station waiting for their train.  After having an apparent seizure, Hollopter fell onto the train tracks, unable to get out.  In a knee jerk reaction, Autrey bravely jumped onto the tracks in an effort to save the young man.  While Autrey feverishly endeavored to pull the man out and back onto the subway platform, a train was barreling down toward them.  Merely seconds away, Autrey knew he wouldn’t have time to get out of the way so instinctively he pushed Hollopter into a small opening or gutter on the tracks and literally shielded Hollopter with his own body.  Noticing the two men on the tracks, the approaching train’s conductor tried his best to put on the brakes but was not able to stop in time.  The train went over the two men – a total of five cars had passed over them.  Miraculously, neither of the men were seriously injured, particularly Autrey, who managed to get out unscathed with merely grease from the train on his knit cap.

On its own, this is a stunning example as to how the altruistic instinct can kick in when one sees another in distress, but as Dossey points out in his book, there may be more to that process than meets the eye.  He highlights a point that the great mythologist, Joseph Campbell made regarding acts of heroism and what may be behind them.  Campbell observed a theory of German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer in which he commented, “There’s [a] wonderful question Schopenhauer asked.  How is it that an individual can so participate in the danger and pain of another that, forgetting his own self-protection, he moves spontaneously to the other’s rescue, even at the cost of his own life?  Schopenhauer believed that self-sacrifice for another occurs because the rescuer realizes that he or she and the individual in need are one.”

This is the postulate that Dossey upholds in One Mind.  In fact, he makes a wonderful point in our conversation in which he states, “Perhaps we need to reframe the old saying, Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.  Rather it should say, Be kind to others because in some sense they ARE you!”  

Dossey had his own life saving experience while serving as a battalion surgeon in Vietnam.  “One day in October of 1969, a helicopter crashed not far from my forward battalion aid station.  I ran to the crash site.  When I arrived, the upside-down chopper was ringed by a group of soldiers standing at a safe distance because of the expectation that it would explode.  The pilot was still conscious but was trapped in the wreckage…Without thinking, I began freeing the door of the inverted aircraft, entered, and cut the seat belts trapping the pilot.”  Finally joined by someone else from his medical team, they were able to carry the pilot to safety.

In both of these acts of heroism, Dossey points out the idea that the rescuer’s consciousness literally fuses with that of the person in danger. “…separateness dissolves and individuality is set aside…division is overcome and oneness becomes real.”

In the world of quantum physics and the now well documented evidence for the behavior of subatomic phenomena, notably Einstein’s spooky action at a distance, it has been observed that there is an apparent twin like behavior of particles, no matter their spatial divide – when one particle behaves in one way, the other will follow suit, despite their not being in direct contact with one another.  This has also been called non-locality, a term that Dossey made popular some years ago.  And certainly this would lend credence to the idea that in some way they are linked by a singular or underlying consciousness.  But when you see this idea played out with the human species (and I have a feeling that acts of heroism happen far more than is even documented), the idea that we are linked by this one mind becomes curiously fascinating.

In my forthcoming book release, Conscious Musings – Contemplations to Transform Life and Realize Potential, I point out that despite the temptation to continue to walk the path of service to self in modern times, man still has a primal instinct to involve himself in acts of altruism.  “…lending a hand to help another without expectation of a return favor demonstrates that service to others nets a gratifying experience that ultimately serves to warm the heart of the self!  Thus service to others is service to self!”

After speaking with Dossey on the idea of the One Mind in a literal context – I too have reconsidered this prospect with a renewed sense of understanding – “Be kind to others, because in some sense they ARE you!”

Although acts of heroism are admirable and moving reminders of our core link to one another, Dossey maintains that it certainly isn’t necessary to partake in such adventures in order to experience the One Mind, firsthand.  In our conversation we discussed the idea of Flash Mobs, an exciting and growing trend in which dozens and sometimes hundreds of people will emerge, often acting as chameleons in some public space and all-of-a-sudden they will stand up and put on a brilliant performance, surprising others in the crowd.  There are dozens of examples of these touching demonstrations of unity.  Here’s one that I found from 2010.

During these most unprecedented and challenging times – a time when one has to ask one’s self “what does the future hold for humanity?” Moving displays of community are popping up all over – a clear sign that we have perhaps come full circle and for some of us, we have opted to embrace a mindset of kindness rather than selfishness.  Whether we have rescued another from an oncoming train, saved a pilot from certain death or gathered in groups to share our creative talents, there is an inherent sense that we are indeed, all one!  Once this realization is played out on a grand scale, we are sure to see the tribulation of our times decrease exponentially, and a wonderful new vision of the future emerge.

One last thought I wanted to point out while learning of the heroic stories of both Wesley Autrey and Dr. Larry Dossey.  Something else occurred that may be indicative of this all-pervading and omniscient consciousness.  It seems that at the point of decision to dive in and save another, at the risk of losing your own life, fear of death completely disappears.  Perhaps in that split second, there is ultimate recognition (or re-memberance) that there is no death as we understand it, only a shift of focus, from the physical to the non-physical, and thus an instant knowing that it is impossible to annihilate consciousness.  This too would be suggestive of the One (never ending) Mind.

To be sure, regardless of the ultimate explanation of what our primal acts of unity mean – If we can manage to make these the rule rather than the exception – I’ve no doubt that mankind will make it through with flying colors!

An exhilarating and reassuring prospect to be sure!

Read my previous article featuring Dr. Larry Dossey: Creativity and the Nonlocal Mind

Alexis BrooksAlexis Brooks is a writer/researcher within the alternative and consciousness genre and the host of CLN’s Conscious Inquiry Radio Show. Visit her blog at: www.higherjourneys.com or visit her on her Facebook Page.




Popular Resistance: 4 Ways to Plug In

PopularResistance.org | Feb 28 2014

There is something for everyone to do in this movement for social, economic and environmental justice. Here are four opportunities. We hope that if you are not already plugged in, that you may find ideas here. This movement needs everyone and that includes you.

covered activist arts on Popular Resistance, but with CreativeResistance.org the many artists involved in the movement have a place to share work, find each other and inspire everyone.

Art can be transformative in ways other tools can’t.  As Tatiana Makovkin, one of the people responsible for CreativeResistance.org says, “The nonverbal emotional messages embedded in symbols, color, melody and rhythm, are intuitively received. Creativity is outside of control and ‘dangerous.’ The act of creating is subversive.”


People’s Puppets of Occupy Wall Street and so many others have done.

And, as Tatiana says “Art breeds more art, and cross-pollination erupts in a volcano of inspiration.” We’d love to see a growing positive spiral of art in the movement for social and economic justice because we know it will increase the impact of our actions.

monthly Art Builds in Seattle organized by our colleagues at the Backbone Campaign and others. Communities come together to make art that shows the vision of the future they want – a clean energy environment, everyone with access to healthcare, an end to war and poverty.  When people make art together – neighbor to neighbor, parent with child – it creates community bonding and deep commitment to our work. Imagine community art builds across the country.

Please get involved, let people in your community know about Creative Resistance and urge artists to submit art. The site includes music, visual art, poetry, performance art, animation, puppets and protest signs.


Economic democracy is sweeping the nation with increasing worker and consumer cooperatives, land trusts being put in place to provide affordable housing, new forms of money as people rethink how money is created and used and new decentralized sustainable energy systems as the country breaks the choke-hold of the carbon-nuclear economy.

ItsOurEconomy.US helps all of us to understand the potential for an economy that serves all of us and what economic democracy will look like.

facing felony assault charges and a potential 7 year prison sentence, even though she was the one who was assaulted.

you can do so here.  I hope you will share this page with everyone you know so we can continue to flood the DA with messages of support for Cecily. He needs to know people are watching how he pursues this prosecution.

There was some potential good news in Cecily’s case this week.  Her lawyer, Martin Stolar who has handled many cases involving protests in New York City, filed a motion for the personnel file of the police officer involved. This is a motion that is usually routinely denied, but this week we learned that Cecily’s case has been postponed and instead there will be a hearing on this motion on March 19. The motion in this case is more serious because we already know about some unethical and abusive behavior by the police officer that undermines his credibility.  His credibility is important because he is the sole witness to what occurred, of course, he is a witness because he is the one who abusively grabbed Cecily’s breast from behind.

We want to urge people to take action to help Cecily and get these unjust charges dismissed.  Here’s what you can do:

 Tell NY District Attorney To Drop The Charges Against Cecily

Justice for Cecily campaign website

Avaaz petition

https://www.popularresistance.org/drop-the-charges-against-cecily/ and urge them to join you in taking action for justice.

Finally, today is the one year mark for John Kiriakou’s 30 month term in prison.  John is the only person in government to go to prison for the illegal U.S. torture program.  He was imprisoned because he was the first to acknowledge the use of waterboarding by U.S. officials in illegal torture interrogations.

Prison officials have been mistreating him, punishing him for talking to the media and reneging on a deal to send him to a halfway house.  When he talks to the media he comes back to find his cell has been torn apart by guards. His cellmate’s areas are also turned into a mess, and one cellmate suspects they are trying to turn the inmates against John with these actions. Now there are threats of “diesel therapy,” that is when an inmate is moved from prison to prison so no-one can contact him or provide support.

On this page we provide you with a model letter to send to the Bureau of Prisons protesting John’s mistreatment.  And, we also provide John’s address so you can write to him.

We so appreciate the whistleblowers that risk their lives and freedom to get the truth out.  

Continue reading about whistleblowers and Popular Resistance opportunities


5 Ways to Benefit from Today’s New Moon

Selacia, Contributor

If you have been feeling uncertain or blocked making decisions or taking actions this month, the winds of change are bringing in some new energies starting with today’s new moon on 2/28.

5 Ways to Benefit from 2/28 New Moon and New Cycle

Here are five ways to benefit from the new energies coming in during the Pisces New Moon of 2/28 to 3/1.

First, create an intentions list of what you want to manifest. Consider five specific things that are short-term goals and five specific things that are a part of your larger vision. Examples:  “I intend to connect more tangibly with my inner voice, in the moment when I need to hear it.” * “I intend to have more recall of my dreams.” * “I intend to let go of past blocks with more ease.” * “I intend to use my energy to bring a heart-centered approach to my business and its employees.”

Second, work with your intentions at the New Moon and throughout the month for continued energizing. Add benefit by reading them out loud and placing them on a sheet of paper in clear view.

Third, we have some helpful energies coming for the forward movement you want. Remember, however, the overview of these times of great change when you begin to take actions. Success will come from skillful riding of the horse energies – apply patience, planning, divine timing, intuition, emotional intelligence, and persistence. You want to avoid getting ahead of yourself, or taking action just to feel like you are moving. This can backfire.

Fourth, enjoy this next phase more by taking things less seriously. Worry only magnifies your problems without providing clarity to solve them.

Fifth, move into increased confidence and a higher frequency by remembering just how supported you really are. It’s normal to sometimes feel like you are alone on your journey. At the deeper levels, of course, you know that this is not true. Want more tangible support from spirit and the universe? Invite a more tangible feeling of support today and regularly. Yes, you can ask for it. Keep in mind, as you do, that this support is always there – sometimes, though, you may be so distracted that you can forget.

selacia_min_400About the Author

Selacia, internationally acclaimed author of Earth’s Pivotal Years, is an intuitive healer and guide to others on the path of spiritual awakening. A former foreign correspondent with The Wall Street Journal and other media, she has decades of experience in the areas of world politics, social change, healing, consciousness, and spiritual transformation. In her journalism career, Selacia covered the White House, US Congress, G8 meetings, economic summits, and world trade talks. In her global healing work, she has addressed the United Nations (SEAT). Her writings are read in sixty-four countries. She is a pioneer in DNA intuitive healing, serving people everywhere who desire wholeness and a heart-centered life. Selacia has dedicated her life to spirit, and to opening the way for others to progress on their path of enlightenment. Visit her at www.Selacia.com.

Copyright 2014 by Selacia – All Rights Reserved *

Meet the College Student Who’s Turning Campus Leftovers Into Meals for Thousands of Hungry Neighbors

Source: NationSwell

At a time where fixes to America’s biggest problems often seem too complex, littered with red tape and protocol, college students across the nation are mobilizing to help feed hungry people in the most commonsense way possible — saving leftover food that would otherwise be thrown away. Meet Ben Simon, the founder and director of the “Food Recovery Network.”  Ben is a college student at the University of Maryland who started intercepting food before it was thrown away. Now a national network of college students are intercepting leftovers and feeding the hungry. So far, they have donated nearly 200,000 meals that otherwise would have been tossed away.

The Cookie Thief

Luminita Saviuc | Purpose Fairy

How many times did it happen to you to know something for sure and to believe that what you knew was the truth, the only truth, the supreme truth and later on to realize how wrong you were? I really believe there isn’t a single person on this planet that did not experience something like this.

We like to think we know everything and we like to know that we are always right. This is who we are, this is what we all do. This is one of the reasons that many of us get stuck and can’t really grow, can’t really improve themselves, their relationships, their environments and their lives. This is one of the many reasons we need to keep an open mind and be aware that what we know might not be the truth and what we know is very little and that as long as we will live, we will be ignorants.

We can’t be experts in all the areas of life and we need to accept this. We need to listen to what others have to say, we need to listen more and talk less. There is so much we can learn from being quiet, there is so much to learn from listening what others have to say. Let others share their ideas with you, let others share their beliefs and knowledge with you and try not to look for ways to criticize them. Try not to laugh at what they might have to say if what they tell you is not in accordance with your beliefs. You never know what truths you might find out later. You never know. I now want to share with you this beautiful poem of Valerie Cox called The Cookie Thief and I really hope we will all learn something from it. Enjoy:

“A woman was waiting at an airport one night,

With several long hours before her flight.

She hunted for a book in the airport shops.

Bought a bag of cookies and found a place to drop.

She was engrossed in her book but happened to see,

That the man sitting beside her, as bold as could be.

Grabbed a cookie or two from the bag in between,

Which she tried to ignore to avoid a scene.

So she munched the cookies and watched the clock,

As the gutsy cookie thief diminished her stock.

She was getting more irritated as the minutes ticked by,

Thinking, “If I wasn’t so nice, I would blacken his eye.”

With each cookie she took, he took one too,

When only one was left, she wondered what he would do.

With a smile on his face, and a nervous laugh,

He took the last cookie and broke it in half.

He offered her half, as he ate the other,

She snatched it from him and thought… oooh, brother.

This guy has some nerve and he’s also rude,

Why he didn’t even show any gratitude!

She had never known when she had been so galled,

And sighed with relief when her flight was called.

She gathered her belongings and headed to the gate,

Refusing to look back at the thieving ingrate.

She boarded the plane, and sank in her seat,

Then she sought her book, which was almost complete.

As she reached in her baggage, she gasped with surprise,

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Look Where We Live: Breathtaking Video Footage From The ISS Will Leave You In Awe

Arjun Walia | Collective Evolution

This is truly some spectacular video footage from the International Space Station (ISS) at night. We live on such a beautiful planet, and many of us would do anything to protect and preserve it. When you look at this footage, it truly takes your breath away and you can’t help but stare in wonder and awe. When you take a step back and put it all into perspective, we are a bunch of humans on a planet. We have the potential to create any type of experience we choose, so why not choose a society that works for everyone, one that is in balance and harmony with nature, one that will preserve planet Earth and see it thrive and move forward.

“You develop an instant global consciousness, a people orientation, an intense dissatisfaction with the state of the world, and a compulsion to do something about it. From out there on the moon, international politics look so petty. You want to grab a politician by the scruff of the neck and drag him a quarter of a million miles out and say, ‘look at that.’ – Dr. Edgar Mitchell, Apollo 14 Astronaut

Strange things are happening to astronauts returning to space, click here to see for yourself.

Human beings are capable of so much more than what we are currently experiencing. We have outgrown our current way of life, we have outgrown operating in a  fashion that is not harmonious with the planet and all beings who reside here. We have solutions that can easily be implemented, but we continue to give our power away to those whose interests are threatened by world change.

“Did you ever notice how we always kill the people who told us to live in harmony and try to love one another? Jesus, Ghandi, Lincoln, JFK, Bobby Kennedy, Martin Luther King, Malcolm X, John Lennon (the list goes on) …they all said: try to live together peacefully.” – George Carlin

Today, there are millions of Ghandi’s, King’s, and Lennon’s. There is nothing that those who oppose peace, love, cooperation and change can do to stop the massive collective desire of many people on the planet. There are too many activists around the world garnishing more and more attention, and together they are changing the world and bringing awareness to what was previously unknown.

So I say, watch this video, take a look at beautiful planet Earth from space and know that we live on a magical planet, in a magical universe with the potential to leap into a truly magical existence. One that far exceeds our current experience, it’s served us long enough, it’s time to take the training wheels off and fly.

“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.” – Margaret Mead

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” – Socrates

I’d also like to note the objects spotted in space (if you take your attention away from Earth) at 0:44. It appears to be a shooting star because it has a tail. The object at 1:01 – 1:02 has no tail and seems to make a quick turn to the left (could be the camera). I spotted an object at 2:35-2:36, and a couple at 2:45-2:46. I have no idea what they are, shooting stars, space debris, extraterrestrial craft, who knows, just thought it would be cool to note.

Three Unexplained Scientific Concepts That Can Make Us More Spiritual

Gary ‘Z’ McGee | Waking Times

“There is nothing you can learn from as much as a problem you cannot fully solve. Unsolved problems can be some of the greatest tormentors, but also the greatest teachers. Unsolved problems keep the mind hungry and the eyes open.” –Jonathan Zap

When it comes down to it, the universe is a baffling place. There is perhaps nothing more baffling than the fact that there’s even a universe to be baffled by. How many universes are there? Some scientists claim the answer could be anything between zero (this universe is an illusion) and infinity (multiverse). Nobody really knows the answer. And yet, the more we know, the more fascinating everything seems. The more baffling the question, the more exhilaration we feel. It’s the unanswered questions that pull us forward and bring a sense of the spiritual to the task of figuring things out.

Even the things we have figured out are minuscule compared to the things we can’t even imagine we can’t explain. Like Werner Heisenberg said, “The existing scientific concepts cover always only a very limited part of reality, and the other part that has not yet been understood is infinite.” Here then are four basic unexplained scientific concepts that seemingly bridge the gap between science and spirituality, and just might make us more spiritual in the process of trying to figure them out.

1.) Infinity

“We, aeronauts of the spirit! …it was our fate to be wrecked against infinity.” –Nietzsche

Infinity says we’re everything, finitude says we’re nothing. Between the two, we flow. From microcosm to macrocosm we are infinite beings perceiving an infinite reality using finite faculties. As such, infinity will always elude us. Infinity cannot be pigeonholed into finite scientific inquiry. The universe is infinite at every point. Every point is itself infinite, creating an infinite array of infinities: an infinite super-infinity multiplied by other super-infinities equaling an infinitely more infinite level of uber-infinity (Cantor’s Set Theory). And that’s just the infinite water molecule on the infinite ice cube balancing on the tip of an infinite iceberg, as this just speaks toward the spatial aspects of infinity. Once you throw in the temporal aspects of infinity then the brain-flipping really begins.

Temporal infinity leads us down a wormhole of infinite realities, where timelines are nothing more than quantized time-particles themselves. Every nano-second of every timeline is an infinite nano-second branching off into infinite timelines each with their own set of nano-seconds branching off infinitely through something outside of time. Huh? Toss in the never-ending irrational number Pi, which is so long that it cannot even be contained by our universe and may even contain the universe within itself, and then the brain-crushing somersaults really begins.

Are you baffled? Good, because that’s a healthy reaction. But there is a veritable boon of spiritual gold in the perplexing conundrum of infinity. I mean, as long as infinity is the rule, there can be no such thing as boredom. If spirituality means anything it means honoring the sacred and respecting the soul of things while also relating to the intellectual and higher endowments of the mind. It means having a genuine concern for that which is unseen and intangible as well as what’s physical and mundane.

If we’re bored we cannot be spiritual. There’s no space for spirituality if there is no awe, no astonishment, and no baffling curiosity to grapple with. The concept of infinity promises that we will never be bored. If there’s always something more to learn (infinite knowledge) then there can be no boredom, which brings up an interesting correlation between boredom and knowing. If we knew everything, we’d be cursed with eternal boredom and tedium. But since there’s always something more to learn, we’re blessed with eternal awe and fascination. It turns out that an infinite mind aware is infinitely bored, while a finite mind aware is infinitely enchanted.

2.) Quantum Mechanics (Space & Time)

“Science is not only compatible with spirituality; it is a profound source of spirituality. When we recognize our place in an immensity of light-years and the passage of ages, when we grasp the intricacy, beauty and subtlety of life, then that soaring feeling, that sense of elation and humility combined, is surely spiritual.” –Carl Sagan

Atoms consist of 99.9999999% empty space. That means: everything from the chair you’re sitting on, the computer you’re staring at, even you, are only 000000001% there. In all actuality, nothing can exist separate from anything else. Everything is needed for anything to be possible. Maybe intuiting “space” is the mind’s way of preventing everything from being in the same place. Maybe “time” is the mind’s way of preventing everything from happening at once. Either way, much spiritual abundance is here to be had.

Perhaps space-time is nothing more than the insomnia of Infinity. Perhaps our searching for an explanation to time is akin to a fish searching for water. The fact that scientists can’t even explain something as simple as why the “arrow of time” only seems to move in one direction is absolutely bewildering. Most physicists even go so far as to claim that time is an illusion. And that’s because most of the research is pointing in exactly that direction. Pun intended. From Einstein’s relativity theory to Heisenberg’s uncertainty principle, from Schrödinger’s equation to Gödel’s incompleteness theorem, from quantum tunneling to the now eleven dimensions of space, space-time is one giant conundrum. It screams paradox. But is it really?

We find ourselves looking back and wondering: if history has proven, time and time again, that human perception is inadequate for explaining the way things “actually” are (flat earth, geocentric solar system, uniform time, etc.) who is to say that our perceptions are not tricking us into seeing what we think is real, as opposed to what is “actually” real? Perhaps the paradox isn’t time and space. Perhaps the paradox is us. It’s not reality that’s begging the question. It’s us, we, the very things pointing at everything and screaming “paradox” that needs to be questioned, measured, and deemed fallible. When we grasp the utter futility and beauty of this conundrum, a sense of humiliation and joy combines to gift us a spiritual goldmine of cosmic proportions.

3.) Consciousness

“Human consciousness is just about the last surviving mystery. A mystery is a phenomenon that people don’t know how to think about – yet. There have been other great mysteries: the mystery of the origin of the universe, the mystery of life, the mysteries of time, space, and gravity… With consciousness, however, we are still in a terrible muddle. Consciousness stands alone today as a topic that often leaves even the most sophisticated thinkers tongue-tied and confused. And, as with all of the earlier mysteries, there are many who insist — and hope — that there will never be a demystification of consciousness.” –Daniel C. Dennett

Consciousness is the granddaddy of all unexplained scientific concepts, the be-all-end-all of all things unexplainable. I mean, we don’t even know how to go about thinking about not understanding it. Consciousness is the muddled soup of the previous two unexplained concepts combined, with the added bonus of being an unexplained concept itself, and the only tool we have to explain how unexplainable it is. Can you say Möbius-snake eating its own Möbius-tail? Can you say Schrödinger’s alive-cat chasing Schrödinger’s dead-cat around in a box that may or may not exist?

From Hugh Everett’s Many Worlds interpretation of the collapsing wave-function to the multiple histories in Feynman’s Diagrams, each and every particle (electrons, photons, protons) is in an infinite superposition across the multiverse of reality. The wavefunction of each infinite particle collapses only when something, a conscious observer, attempts to measure it. In fact, the research is showing that the particles are not even quantized particles UNTIL they are observed. Before observation, they are merely an infinitely smeared-out wavefunction quantum entangled with everything else.

Even stranger is how the research shows that each of us (who are also made up of protons and electrons), and every single object in the universe, are entangled in the superposition of each and every other particle. This means that not only are all particles spread out infinitely throughout the multiverse, but so are we. So is everything! It’s only conscious observation itself that is bringing tangibility to anything. Without conscious observation, everything is simply infinite, no beginning and no ending, merely infinite energy. With conscious observation, however, we have form and shape and texture and flowers and mountains and planets and galaxies and the universe. More importantly, we have ourselves, observing the absolute miracle of it all.

Consciousness is the medium by which reality, as we know it, exists. It is both the glue that binds all things and the force that separates things into conceivable constructs. It’s a matrix within a matrix observing and creating the matrix it’s in while branching out into an infinite amount of parallel matrixes in a multi-matrix which is spread out through the uber-matrix of time and space. Indeed, it is that which dares to count to Pi. Without conscious observation, everything is everything. With conscious observation, everything is separate, dynamic, beautiful, meaningful, and, yes, spiritual. And suddenly we are not so small.

About the Author

Gary ‘Z’ McGee, a former Navy Intelligence Specialist turned philosopher, is the author of Birthday Suit of God and The Looking Glass Man. His works are inspired by the great philosophers of the ages and his wide awake view of the modern world.

This article appeared at Waking Times.

Abundant Mystic Interview: How To Create Grounding & Prosperity

A while ago I was part of the Abundant Mystic Series and the host, Edward Mills asked me all sorts of great questions about what it means to be create material prosperity when you’re a more energetically and spiritually-oriented person. I think you’ll enjoy the interview, so I posted it above.

Just recently, I was invited to be part of the Abundant Mystic 2014 Series and I’m really excited about it, because I absolutely adore the way the host, Edward Mills interviews, and I think you will too! Ed is a lover of chakras and all things energetic, so it’s always a free-flowing good time. He specializes in helping people who are more spiritually-oriented, make their way in this very physical world of ours, and he’s really great at harvesting valuable take aways for his audience with every single interview. But don’t take my word for it, set some time aside and listen the interview above. It covers:

~ The story of how and why I created Chakra Boosters Healing Tattoos

~ How to tell whether you’re moving with the natural cycles of life (when delaying action on something) or simply being avoidant.

~ Why your beliefs about wealthy people may be keeping you broke.

~ Why the manifesting current is more important for creating wealth than the liberating current.

~ Why you should listen to your desires.

~ How to connect with trees for spiritual growth and abundance.

And much much more.

Ed and I are both curious, spiritual-seekers, so our ideas bounce off of each others’ nicely.

If you’re a “mystic” (upper chakra-oriented spiritual seeker) and you’ve had very little success with the “Law Of Attraction” as it’s typically taught, this interview may shed some light on the topic. Better yet, though, check out these two related blog posts I wrote. They may create a life-changing “aha” moment for you and help you start shifting your prosperity paradigm today. They explain why the Law Of Attraction is NOT one size fits all. You can access them here: Part 1 & Part 2.

I won’t be appearing on the Abundant Mystic until April 23, but there are lots of amazing speakers before me, so sign up now and start soaking up the prosperity vibes.

I’ll “see you” there!

Here’s to you manifesting love, joy, vibrant health, and all other forms of abundance!

Vicki HowieVicki Howie, MA, CHt is an International Life Coach, Singer and Creator of Chakra Boosters Healing Tattoos™, and the popular “Boost Your First Chakra For Grounding & Prosperity Audio Course.” Check out her new healing album, “Chakra Love” (which includes the Abundance Song).

CLN RADIO NEW EPISODE: The One Mind and Our Connection To It

Join Alexis for this fascinating episode of Conscious Inquiry Radio with her special guest Dr. Larry Dossey as they discuss the idea of the One Mind and how we are all “hard-wired” to it!

HAY.558.Dossey_cover_final.inddAfter having a series of personal experiences that prompted an exploration into the true nature of reality and of ourselves, esteemed physician, author and researcher Dr. Larry Dossey went on a quest to discover what he has now termed, the One Mind.

He is convinced that we are all part of this continuum of consciousness – hard wired to it in fact – and that gives all of us access to this infinite reservoir of knowledge.  Further, Dossey maintains that much of our own individual experience, including ESP, precognition and synchronicity may be indicative of this one mind.  This is all interesting information, but what’s more, it is his firm conviction that our survival may be dependent on our first understanding this concept and then living by it.  In his groundbreaking book, One Mind – How Our Individual Mind Is Part of a Greater Consciousness and Why It Matters, he brings stunning new light to the idea that we are All One!

This interview, recorded on February 18th happened two years to the day of the memorial service for Whitney Houston.  Synchronistically, our conversation includes a reference to her passing.

The subject of our discussion was so fascinating to me, I found myself saying “profound” a little too much!  Please forgive the repetition, but take a listen and you’ll see why I couldn’t help myself.  The One Mind concept is truly nothing short of – you guessed it…Profound!

Listen to this episode on demand!

LarryHome2Dr. Larry Dossey is a distinguished Texas physician, deeply rooted in the scientific world.  He has become an internationally influential advocate of the role of the mind in health and the role of spirituality in healthcare. Bringing the experience of a practicing internist and the soul of a poet to the discourse, Dr. Larry Dossey offers panoramic insight into the nature and the future of medicine.

Upon graduating with honors from the University of Texas at Austin, Dr. Dossey worked as a pharmacist while earning his M.D. degree from Southwestern Medical School in Dallas, 1967. Before completing his residency in internal medicine, he served as a battalion surgeon in Vietnam, where he was decorated for valor. Dr. Dossey helped establish the Dallas Diagnostic Association, the largest group of internal medicine practitioners in that city, and was Chief of Staff of Medical City Dallas Hospital in 1982.

An education steeped in traditional Western medicine did not prepare Dr. Dossey for patients who were blessed with “miracle cures,” remissions that clinical medicine could not explain.

“Almost all physicians possess a lavish list of strange happenings unexplainable by normal science,” says Dr. Dossey. “A tally of these events would demonstrate, I am convinced, that medical science not only has not had the last word, it has hardly had the first word on how the world works, especially when the mind is involved.”

The author of twelve books and numerous articles, Dr. Dossey is the former Executive Editor of the peer-reviewed journal Alternative Therapies in Health and Medicine, the most widely subscribed-to journal in its field. He is currently Executive Editor of the peerreviewed journal Explore: The Journal of Science and Healing. His colleagues in medical schools and hospitals all over the country trust him, honor his message, and continually invite him to share his insights with them. He has lectured all over the world, including major medical schools and hospitals in the United States –Harvard, Johns Hopkins, Cornell, the Universities of Pennsylvania, California, Washington, Texas, Florida, Minnesota, and the Mayo Clinic.

The impact of Dr. Dossey’s work has been remarkable. Before his book Healing Words was published in 1993, only three U.S. medical schools had courses devoted to exploring the role of religious practice and prayer in health; currently, nearly 80 medical schools have instituted such courses, many of which utilize Dr. Dossey’s works as textbooks. In his 1989 book Recovering the Soul, he introduced the concept of “nonlocal mind” — mind unconfined to the brain and body, mind spread infinitely throughout space and time. Since then, “nonlocal mind” has been adopted by many leading scientists as an emerging image of consciousness.

Dr. Dossey’s ever-deepening explication of nonlocal mind provides a legitimate foundation for the merging of spirit and medicine. The ramifications of such a union are radical and call for no less than the reinvention of medicine.

In 2013, Larry Dossey received the prestigious Visionary Award by the Integrative Healthcare Symposium, that honors a pioneer whose visionary ideas have shaped integrative healthcare and the medical profession.

Dr. Dossey lives in Santa Fe, NM, with his wife Barbara, a nurse educator and author of several award-winning books.

Click here to learn more about the work of Dr. Larry Dossey

Be sure to tune in to Conscious Inquiry Radio every 2nd and 4th Wednesday of the month, FREE and on-demand!

9 Reasons You Need To Be Giving and Receiving Hugs Everyday

Josh Richardson | Prevent Disease

Hugging helps the immune system, cures depression, reduces stress and induces sleep. It’s invigorating, rejuvenating and has no unpleasant side effects. It is all natural, organic, naturally sweet, no pesticides, no preservatives, no artificial ingredients and 100 percent wholesome. There are no batteries to wear out, no periodic check-ups, low energy consumption, high energy yield, inflation proof, nonfattening, no monthly payments, theft-proof, nontaxable, nonpolluting and, of course, fully returnable. Hugging is practically perfect, with the only exception that it can’t recreate the wheel. Here are 9 reasons you need hugs everyday.

A famous quote by psychotherapist Virginia Satir goes, “We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.” Whether those exact numbers have been scientifically proven remains to be seen, but there is a great deal of scientific evidence related to the importance of hugs and physical contact.

Oxytocin is a neurotransmitter that acts on the limbic system, the brain’s emotional centre, promoting feelings of contentment, reducing anxiety and stress, and even making mammals monogamous. It is the hormone responsible for us all being here today. You see this little gem is released during childbirth, making our mothers forget about all of the excruciating pain they endured expelling us from their bodies and making them want to still love and spend time with us. New research from the University of California suggests that it has a similarly civilising effect on human males, making them more affectionate and better at forming relationships and social bonding. And it dramatically increased the libido and sexual performance of test subjects. When we hug someone, oxytocin is released into our bodies by our pituitary gland, lowering both our heart rates and our cortisol levels. Cortisol is the hormone responsible for stress, high blood pressure, and heart disease.

Connections are fostered when people take the time to appreciate and acknowledge one another. A hug is one of the easiest ways to show appreciation and acknowledgement of another person. The world is a busy, hustle-bustle place and we’re constantly rushing to the next task. By slowing down and taking a moment to offer sincere hugs throughout the day, we’re benefiting ourselves, others, and cultivating better patience within ourselves.

Affection also has a direct response on the reduction of stress which prevents many diseases. The Touch Research Institute at the University of Miami School of Medicine says it has carried out more than 100 studies into touch and found evidence of significant effects, including faster growth in premature babies, reduced pain, decreased autoimmune disease symptoms, lowered glucose levels in children with diabetes, and improved immune systems in people with cancer.

Hugs strengthen the immune system. The gentle pressure on the sternum and the emotional charge this creates activates the Solar Plexus Chakra. This stimulates the thymus gland, which regulates and balances the body’s production of white blood cells, which keep you healthy and disease free.

Almost 70 percent of communication is nonverbal. The interpretation of body language can be based on a single gesture and hugging is an excellent method of expressing yourself nonverbally to another human being or animal. Not only can they feel the love and care in your embrace, but they can actually be receptive enough to pay it forward to others based on your initiative alone.


Hugging boosts self-esteem, especially in children. The tactile sense is all-important in infants. A baby recognizes its parents initially by touch. From the time we’re born our family’s touch shows us that we’re loved and special. The associations of self-worth and tactile sensations from our early years are still imbedded in our nervous system as adults. The cuddles we received from our Mom and Dad while growing up remain imprinted at a cellular level, and hugs remind us at a somatic level of that. Hugs, therefore, connect us to our ability to self love.

Everything everyone does involves protecting and triggering dopamine flow. Low dopamine levels play a role in the neurodegenerative disease Parkinson’s as well as mood disorders such as depression. Dopamine is responsible for giving us that feel-good feeling, and it’s also responsible for motivation! Hugs stimulate brains to release dopamine, the pleasure hormone. Dopamine sensors are the areas that many stimulating drugs such as cocaine and methamphetamine target. The presence of a certain kinds of dopamine receptors are also associated with sensation-seeking.

Reaching out and hugging releases endorphins and serotonin into the blood vessels and the released endorphins and serotonin cause pleasure and negate pain and sadness and decrease the chances of getting heart problems, helps fight excess weight and prolongs life. Even the cuddling of pets has a soothing effect that reduces the stress levels. Hugging for an extended time lifts one’s serotonin levels, elevating mood and creating happiness.

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26 Powerful Lessons to Learn from Nature

Tejal Patel | Purpose Fairy

“Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.” ~ Lao Tzu

I recently had the honor to hear the empowering Gabrielle Bernstein and Kris Carr speak  at the Crazy Sexy Miracles lecture in NYC. The evening was filled with many “AHA moments”  but one thing that stood out, in particular, was Kris Carr’s wise suggestion, “If you struggle with mastering patience, acceptance or any lesson, look to nature as your teacher. Kris said “Ask  how the stars do it? How does the ocean do it? How do the birds do it?”  Therein you will find  an illustration and answer of how you should handle your issue. That struck a strong cord in my  heart because I’ve had many deeply connected moments with nature and animals where time stands still and I feel one with a higher energy, yet I never thought to look to nature for answers.

It’s the moment you see a beautiful cloud formation while driving, taking in the magnitude of colors during a sunset, seeing autumn foliage, watching flocks of birds migrating or deeply looking into the eyes of your pet. I began to ponder what we are suppose to learn and what other messages I missed by our silent teachers. As I began to become present with nature, these are some of the humbling lessons and answers by tuning into nature and animals.

1. Trees

As seasons change, we are guided to learn acceptance and non-resistance. A green leaf doesn’t resist turning red when autumn approaches. Trees don’t resist leaves falling when winter arrives. They stand deeply rooted in the ground, with their vulnerability out in the open and branches spread wide, surrendering to the Universe. Do what you will with me, I trust it is for my highest good.

2. Ocean

The vast ocean can’t exist without each particle of water. Each human being plays its part in humanity. We are all one small part of the greater whole.

3. Birds

Birds soaring through the sky represents the limitless freedom and potential available to us if we release our fears. Taking off to fly for the first time can be scary and bring about feelings of fear. Without taking the risk of the first flight, we won’t find thinternal freedom we desire. We must dare to take our feet off the ground, spread our wings and soar.

4. Pets

Pets teach us more about love than any person or thing. We understand the true nature of unconditional love without expectations. The true nature of forgiveness is forgetting and letting go of grudges. We learn uninhibited, unreserved affection by giving our full attention. Understanding love is a feeling and doesn’t require words. Love is felt in the heart by making eye connection, being in someone’s presence and through physical touch.

5. Ants and Bees

The community of bees and ants all participate together to benefit all those in their community. We each have our own calling that is best performed by us. Each part is necessary for a functioning family, community, nation and world. Embrace your special responsibility, share it proudly with the world, and always do your best.

6. Bamboo and the Maple Tree

Who said that the bamboo is more beautiful than the maple tree and maple tree is more valuable than the bamboo because it gives out maple syrup? Does the bamboo feel jealous of the maple tree because it is bigger and its leaves change color? The idea of trees comparing themselves to others is ridiculous as should humans comparing themselves to one another. We must compare our growth to who we were yesterday not to the growth of another. Everyone is incomparably unique.

7. Flocks of Birds

I’ve never seen two birds run into each other when they are flying in a flock. Why is that if they never talk to each other? True communication doesn’t always need words. Body language, sensing other’s energy and tone can say much more than the actual words we speak. At all times we are communicating through our thoughts and the energy we dispel. Be mindful of your thoughts as the energy behind them affect others and the world.

8. Night Sky

Darkness is necessary to appreciate the light. We need to experience the opposite of what we want so we can appreciate and experience the thing we desire.

9. Sky

No matter what storms are passing, know it is always transient because beyond the clouds, the sky is always blue and the sun is always shining.

10. Rain

Water is required to cleanse negativity in the world and allow a space of clarity. It is through showering and soaking in a tub, where we clear our body from the stagnant, negative energy of yesterday and replenish our positive energy. Shower with the intent of cleansing your body, spirit and mind.

11. Clouds

The sky is the backdrop of our mind. The clouds with different formations, speeds and heights represent the frequency, types and speed of our thoughts. As clouds, our thoughts too shall pass. Glide through your thoughts like birds glides through clouds. Don’t resist the clouds, fly through them.

12. Stars

Stars bring beauty and light in the darkness. Instead of succumbing to the darkness of the world, be one of the radiant stars who shines their bright inner light. As we inspire others to be stars, we can light up the night sky with our intentional beams of star light.

13. Wind

Not all things that exist can be seen or heard. Some things need to be felt. Don’t be limited to your 5 senses. Use your intuition and develop the practice of believing in the things you feel.

14. Sunrise and Sunset

The breathtaking colors of a sunrise and sunset show us that colors vibrate energy and have the power to elicit certain emotions and feelings. Be mindful about the colors you surround yourself with.

15. Animals

Zebras do not look at tigers and wish they could hunt like tigers. Accept yourself as you are, know your weaknesses and strengths and embrace your unique beauty and gifts.

16. Preys

Animals who are prey don’t over analyze and plan in advance the ways they are going to outsmart a predator in the future. When the threat approaches their fight or flight kicks in, when the threat is gone, they go back to grazing without a thought in mind about the predator. Don’t dwell in a space of fear of the future and regret of the past when the threat doesn’t exist. That’s the breeding ground of stress, anxiety and regret.

17. Gardens

Have faith in tomorrow. We plant seeds of hope today, nourish them with love and attention with the faith that our labor will result in fruits in the future. We can’t impatiently force a garden to grow on our terms. A seed will sprout into a plant when the time is right. A fruit will fall from the tree when it is ripe and ready. They grow not because they are forced to, because they let go and allow divine energy and timing to run its course. Be persistent, patient and have trust in divine timing.

18. Natural Disasters

Our earth absorbs the negative energy humans expel as do our bodies. There are times when the earth and our bodies need to recalibrate and dispel the negative energy we absorbed. Mental breakdowns and hitting rock bottom will bring chaos, change and discomfort, but it can be the most positive, life changing event. Sometimes, we need to be brought to our knees to remember what we are grateful for and start on a new life path.

19. Mountains

Stand firm, poised and majestic like a mountain. Regardless of the external situations life will bring you, remain strong like the mountains do when faced with avalanches, rain storms, and water erosion. Your emotional guidance system should be tough like a rooted mountain, immune to the actions and reactions of others.

20. Flowers

We all carry a different fragrance, color and beauty for the world to enjoy. Flowers don’t discriminate who they share their beauty and fragrance with. They share with all friends, strangers and enemies. True compassion and love comes from sharing your beauty with all you meet.

21. Snakes

It’s necessary to shed your own skin and personality to allow an improved and better version of ourselves to emerge

22. Gravity

The Universe has its own sets of laws that are not man made and trumps any rule, law or limiting belief set by man. Figure out the Universal laws and make sure you are working with them and not against them.

23. Flow of Water

As we set sail in our life, we take sail through a calm stream. As our dreams get bigger, we are guided to a river with faster currents and more opportunities. Eventually, for our dreams to be realized, we must end up in the vast ocean. We won’t always have the protection of the river banks as our safety net. To achieve our dreams we have to lose sight of the land and sail into open waters, where there are unlimited possibilities for our dreams to manifest. Anything and everything is possible.

24. Butterflies

Butterflies symbolize our entire life cycle metamorphosis. Life is short and from the moment of birth we are constantly changing our form, inside and out. Don’t resist change. Some of the most beautiful wisdom and changes occur as you grow older and transform from a caterpillar to a butterfly. Appreciate each phase of your life before you transform to a new cycle.

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P.S. If you’re really interested in nature, these garden sheds for sale would the perfect birthday or Christmas present for yourself.

Love is Free – Everything Else Has a Price

Zen Gardner, Contributor

If you think about it, that is a profound truth. It is also an easy filtration system for truth in a world where discernment is both difficult and rare.

Try this simple formula. Examine your life simply for compromising economic enslavements, or even social relationships. What is the relative cost? Is it more parasitic than helpful? Are they obligatory relationships built on old, controlled patterns of thinking or behaving? It’s tough to realize what we’re in the midst of in a world so entrenched in these programmed mechanisms swirling about us.

Unconditional love, as ethereal-cereal as that may sound to some, asks nothing in return. Yet ironically, an exchange at some level always naturally occurs anyway.

That’s truth economics.

Are You Ensnared Outside of Love? Disengage

Who hasn’t been caught in the web? It’s a continual fight for anyone on this besieged planet. All of us have to deal with this sticky maze to some extent, and have been doing so all of our lives. It’s not always fun – it’s become a way of life, and survival. Discerning this changing world around us is our perpetual challenge, especially when our intent to change the flow and our reactions to this bombardment start to bring us to some serious revelations that contradict the narrative we’ve been sold.

It eventually becomes clear that the point of our realizations lead us to disengage. The whole system we’ve been sold is a lie, top to bottom.

Where did we go wrong? We fell for the cost system. Everything costs, so fight to gain more and the guy with the most toys wins. When this type of selfishness kicks in conscious awareness is lost. There is no more altruistic giving or helping those in need in their diseased paradigm, it’s back to a gain/cost game.

That might be a short summary of our condition, but the fact remains it’s time to wake up.

The key is not being in their game at all.

The Price of Love

It’s ironic how relationship love comes to mind for most when this subject of love comes up. That’s social programming playing on our instincts once again. Whereas, unselfish behavior is nothing new. It has been the natural response of cultures since time immemorial, caring for one another and extending that outwards. We just don’t see it today with corporatist totalitarian regimes clamping down on society as they are, and the reflexive responses of those trying to survive within their constricted climates of fear and insecurity.

This kind of fascist control has been the hallmark of every dynasty throughout our blighted history.

The point is, true love is free. There are no strings attached to true love. It gives without expecting in return. We all have it. It’s simply a matter of releasing and utilizing it.

And ironically it all comes back in spades.

The Difference

The key is recognizing what we’re up against, and responding accordingly. True love will always remain unconditional. The difference is in living up to this awareness. It’s not just simply to be observed, quantified and filed away. Loving interaction at work changes the entire dynamic of society, more radically than any other influence. We give and love because we care.

And Universe responds accordingly.

Blinding us from this wonderful truth is the reason for the harshness conditioning–war, hate, greed and most of all fear. These shut down our channels of connection to love. But only if we listen to them. When we learn to operate outside their matrix of deceit our powers blossom.

This is where we need to operate from, the standpoint of consciously aware love.

That may seem a bit esoteric for some, but it couldn’t be any more practical.

Stay in love.

Love, Zen

This article appeared at ZenGardner.com. Please visit Zen’s website for more consciousness-raising wisdom.


The Beginning: Experience the Divine! with Mystic Healer Sonja Grace

Sonja Grace

CLN’s Anjula Ram recently interviewed author and mystic healer Sonja Grace at the Conscious Life Expo.  Listen to the full interview here:

This coming weekend, you can join Sonja for a day of spiritual transformation. The Beginning: Experience the Divine!  is all about connecting with the energy of the fifth dimension.  Through meditation, micro- movement and sounding,  a bridge is created with the emotional body,  moving  blocks and resistance from the physical.   The four essential bodies are addressed at the same time connecting to energies with the Earth.   The Beginning is the Experience and transformation is the key to the Divine.  Sonja is a spiritual teacher who creates a profound understanding for her clients to better access their inner peace.  She explains the duality and how each one of us can better manage our energy,  no longer investing and  creating more karma.

This one day workshop is being held in Joshua Tree Retreat, Saturday, March 1, 2014 from 10:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. Lunch is included.  The cost is $295.00.  Experience the transformation of your energy and connect with the Divine!  For more information: 503.746.6525503.746.6525.  You can purchase tickets HERE.

Disappointed With Relationships? Change Your Expectations

Joe Martino | Collective Evolution

One of the biggest topics that comes up when speaking with people is relationships. Whether it be about finding the right person, feeling the butterflies, knowing when to move on or wondering how things are supposed to feel, relationships seem to be not only something we enjoy, but also something we base a lot of our happiness on at times.

Putting a lot of stake in our relationships can often lead us to obsess, be on an emotional roller coaster, miss out on focusing on ourselves and set ourselves up for disappointment. Hands down one of the biggest factors that causes relationship struggles once certain areas of concern are explored is expectations. In my view, a lot of self-help books and belief systems have created a counter productive method for dealing with relationships as they often touch on topics like sacrifice, honouring yourself, and fulfilling a list of qualities you think your partner should have. Unfortunately this type of exploration doesn’t get to the core issue as to why we are having struggles with relationships and instead are temporary solutions to the issue.

For example, how many times have we read that when one partner does something that doesn’t fulfill our needs we must honor ourself by retaliating back in some manner only to later find out that our needs were based on expectations to begin with? What about when we are told to write out a list of things or qualities a partner should have so that we don’t end up with someone who doesn’t fit what our idea of a good partner is? Does this not suggest expectations once again? Of course this can likely be why we end up dating the same type of person over and over again as well, because when we don’t learn our lessons and we continue to attract the same thing over and over.

The purpose of relationships can be viewed in a number of ways, but in  simple form, they are a means to share life with others on this planet. Different experiences, different roles, different lengths, there is no set definition for what a relationships looks like so it’s tough to say how one should be. Relationships can supply us with great times, tough times and anything in between, but most often, relationships provide us with growth, even though we don’t always view it this way.

I’ve been through it a number of times myself over the course of my life. Playing with the ideas of what a relationship should be like or should look like based on what we have always been told about relationships and what the “cloud 9″ mushy loves stories look like in movies. Here is what I came to learn in my own experience about relationships…


I believe that at the end of the day, expectations are quite possibly the one thing that hinders our ability to be at peace not just in life but in our relationships as well. We expect that our partners should act a certain way, think like we do, do certain things for us, or respond to things we do for them in a particular way. We expect that at certain points in a relationship certain things should happen, or that certain things should feel a certain way and if they do then great, if they don’t UH OH! How many people have read an internet column or Cosmo magazine and found their relationship advice is just a series of stories and beliefs that set you up for having a boatload of expectations? All of these expectations are nothing more than someone else’s ideas of what a relationship should be like. Maybe it’s time to re-think the advice?

When you begin by kicking out expectations as best as you can, you will begin to notice your relationships being very different right away. No longer will you find yourself in the past or future hoping or reminiscing that things should have been a certain way. You no longer will be trying to look for and read a situation but instead will be in the moment enjoying whatever happens for what it is. By not expecting we allow ourselves to love whatever happens instead of judging it and categorizing it as good or bad. We save ourselves a lot of heartache and ultimately live a much more peaceful and expansive life. We can never control what another does, so why try so hard to make them be a certain way or expect them to be  certain way? Would you want someone doing that to you?

To kick expectations it just comes down to looking at you, your actions and your thoughts. Ask yourself questions about why you might be sad, upset, worried or concerned about what is happening in a particular situation within any relationship you have. Is it based on your own ideas of how things should be? Are you not allowing the person to be who they are? Are you judging them? Judging the situation? Any time you reflect and observe in this manner, you get to the core of what your expectations are all about and then you can choose not to give them power. With more practice, your mind and emotions won’t jump to responding due to your expectations.

While expectations are a huge first step, there are a few more things/ steps within removing expectation that we can look out for in order to gain clarity on our relationships.

1. Learn to Love Yourself – In relationships we often look to them to fulfill a lack of love we have for ourselves. They can often times distract us from facing the inner sadness we have about our lack of self-love or self acceptance and when our partner is not doing something we expect, we respond out of a lack of self-love. Essentially, we are pointing the blame outwards.

2. Remove the categorizing and judging of everything that happens – It is easy to get caught up in the mind about almost anything with relationships. Did he/she say that with a tone? What did they mean by that? Why didn’t they do that? Shouldn’t this have been this way? We can look at almost any situation and judge or categorize it as right or wrong within a relationships and when we do we go right back to expectations. Avoid the judgement and allow things to be what they are.

3. See the ‘perfection’ in the relationship as it is – When you view challenges within  relationship as ‘perfect’ for the situation, you allow yourself to remain in the moment and see things for what they are for both parties. By perfect I don’t mean if you are in an abusive relationship it means you have to stay, but, it does present a situation that we can learn from an ultimately transform whether it mean confronting the issue or learning to step away.  Often times it is the perfect combination of things to have both people get the lessons and growth they need so they can move past needing to play with all of the stories and beliefs behind expectations. the more we see the perfection, the more we allow and are at peace with why things are the way they are.

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Authentic Happiness

Dorothy Ratusny | all things healing

When you create a life that is meaningful, happiness is effortless.

Authentic happiness is the natural state of our spirit. A central theme of Buddhist and Hindu teaching, happiness is a reflection of Dharma – living in accordance with our life’s purpose. When our choices and behaviours reflect our truth, we easily experience authentic happiness.

With the potential to experience a natural state of happiness, how is it that happiness seems to elude us?

The fact is that we work hard at making ourselves unhappy. We look for complex solutions to simple problems, and we create complex problems by overlooking simple solutions. Entirely unaware of our constant stream of irrational and critical self-talk, we impose unrealistic expectations on ourselves based on inaccurate and unhealthy comparisons of our self to others. We expend a vast amount of emotional and physical energy experiencing a plethora of unpleasant emotions (e.g. anxiety, fear, anger, guilt, shame) as the result of unconscious adherence to established rules and beliefs. We react by searching outside of our self for the illusionary “something” that we believe will make us happy.

When you look to material goods, physical pleasures, and other people to “make” you feel good, these external sources of pleasure and comfort only momentarily sustain you. You need to continue acquiring more material goods, more physical pleasures, and more external rewards to recreate these pleasant feelings. Without a clear sense of purpose, you continue to search outside of your self for what you believe will make you happy. Realize instead that what you need is to go within, to connect with your inner self, and to enjoy this moment.  Practice being as you contemplate what you would enjoy most, and what would contribute to your overall sense of well-being.

Essentially, we could learn a thing or two from the Tibetan monks who have consciously chosen to live a highly simplified but yet conscious existence.

Creating authentic happiness begins by focusing within. Carefully examine your life as it presently is. What aspects do you enjoy most? What do you feel gratitude for? What is the source of your happiness now? Do your answers highlight the simple aspects of life?  Does your heightened awareness of the causes of your happiness force you to re-examine how you’re currently living life?

Daily Practice: Observing My Current State of Happiness
To uncover the source of your authentic happiness, answer the following questions from a place of intuitive wisdom rather than using your analytic (thinking) brain. Do this by acknowledging the initial answer that resonates as what you know to be true, rather than the answer you think is right.

1.  “How does happy feel when I experience it throughout my whole being?”

2. “Am I happy with the person I am?

 3. “What activities and experiences contribute to my authentic happiness?” (List everything that comes to mind.)

4. What aspects of who I am (my ideas, beliefs, and actions both alone and with others) allow me to be innately happy?

 5. What aspects of my life might I improve in order for me to experience innate happiness more of the time?

6. “What would my life be like right now if I were able to make these changes?”

Given your answers, you might notice that authentic happiness is an intangible quality that comes from within. It exists out of the feelings of contentment and calm that come from connecting with your inner (Highest) Self.  Your Highest Self is your spirit – your life force.

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