The Secret to Intimacy | The Science of Love

Source: SoulPancake

Love can be broken down into three categories; passion, intimacy and commitment. But what comes first and what leads to what? If you can’t choose to be intimate with someone, how can you make sure it sticks around? This week, Soul Pancake meets real couples and investigate the secret behind intimacy.

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Live for the Moment and not the Static that Surrounds you…

John C. Bader | all things healing

As modern, social creatures, we tend to surround ourselves with familiar objects, pictures, and furniture to make up our personal environments and feel at home. We feel comfortable at home, even if our living space is cluttered. Just as we become accustomed to the environments in which we live, we also become accustomed to people, social events, problems, and even impossible situations. Our struggles and challenges become so familiar that they become permanent fixtures in our lives. Social conditioning and the opinions of others tend to define our being all of which drives our happiness and emotional baseline, many times unknowingly!

There is another way…

Behind all the mental chatter; behind all the opinions of others; behind the static of the past and future is this surreal moment in time: The present moment…. Author, Eckhart Tolle has focused much of his energy and writing on the “Power of Now”. Tolle states, “Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have. Make the Now the primary focus of your life.” You might be thinking – “yeah, easier said than done”.

What if living in the present moment is easier than you think?

So what exactly is the present moment? It is that fleeting moment of NOW sandwiched between miles of thoughts of the past and future. It is that split second of thought and intent that is not muddled with fear and fantasy of the future or replayed images and thoughts of the past. It is the blink of an eye and yet it is the most powerful moment in your life; an endless precession of opportunities spanning to infinity. So why is the present moment so important? Because the past is gone; there is nothing more you can do or change. The future has yet to come so why build up anxiety about something that has yet to materialize? This is important: All you should try to grasp on to is the present moment: Shafts of sunshine streaming through the trees outside. The chirp of a bird; a lawn mower in the distance; wind rustling through trees; a creak in the floor; a tingle in your foot; a positive task completed at work; a hug or compliment; stillness in your mind; a smile for no reason…

It can be that simple.

We tend to unknowingly live for the challenges that inundate our lives. We tend to care what other people think. We bring our work home. We dream about our fears and fantasy. We worry about the past which is gone. We fret over the future that has yet to evolve. What a waste of time! When we think and live this way we live for the static that surrounds us. The result is mediocrity in every facet. One can never truly self-evolve and find happiness when we live this way. Look around and revel in the irony that most of the world operates this way. There lies an important step in self-discovery: When we realize there is another way; when we stop what we are doing and silence the mind by focusing on what is happening right now, something amazing happens. Your thoughts slow; your worries drop away, fear and anxiety disappear because they do not live in the present. Such ego facilities live in the past and future: Just memories and thoughts that have no bearing on the present. Notice how you have no control over the past and future and yet that is where most of our daily thoughts reside. Understand that the present moment is the only split second of conscious thought and action you can really control. Living in the moment is pure, unfettered and authentic. When you stop and silence the static of life you allow wellness and inner wisdom to arise from within.

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Because Only Time Is Capable of Understanding How Valuable Love Is

Luminita Saviuc | Purpose Fairy

A while back I shared a beautiful story here on the blog on Why the Greatest Gift You Can Give Someone Is Your Time. As a reply, one of our readers shared another beautiful story about time and about love. Because I know you will enjoy reading it as much as I did, I decided to share it here on the blog with all of you.


“Once upon a time, in an island there lived six feelings and emotions: Happiness, Knowledge, Love, Sadness, Richness and Vanity. One day they discovered that the island began sinking! So all of them built boats and canoes and left, one by one. Except for Love. Love wanted to delay abandoning her beloved island as long as possible.

When the island had almost sunk, Love decided to ask for help.
Richness was passing by Love in a boat. Love asked, “Richness, can you take me with you?”

Richness answered, “Sorry, Love, I can’t. There is a lot of gold and silver in my boat, so there is no place here for you. With both of us in here we will sink for sure.”

Love next asked Vanity who was also sailing by, but Vanity offered the same answer.
“I can’t help you, Love. You are all wet and might damage my boat,” Vanity answered.

Sadness was close by, so Love asked, “Sadness, take me along with you.”
“Oh . . . Love, I am so sad that I need to be by myself!”, sadness said in a gloomy voice.

Happiness passed by Love, too, but she was so preoccupied with her happiness that she did not even hear when Love called her.

Suddenly, there was a voice, “Come, Love, I will take you.”

It was an elder with a tattered head scarf. An overjoyed Love jumped into the boat. When they arrived at a dry land, the elder went her own way.
Love looked around and saw that Knowledge who was the first to have landed there a while ago…

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A Quanta of the Greater

Ida LawrenceContributor

The vast universe that is within you is a holograph… a quanta of the greater ‘All that is’, of which you are a part. How do I know that? I just know. I have seen it with my mind’s eye: a beautiful vision in which my spirit rests. There’s scientific evidence to it, and the experience of visionaries to verify it, but it’s still subjective. As above, so below and we want to Know, so we look within to see as much as we can see of ‘All that is’.

Self knowledge, i.e. knowledge of the divinity within, is what inspires the consciousness movement. No matter if our work is toward our own health, or the health of the planet, or the healing of the people, or the end of war, or the battle for truth and justice, or our own liberation from it all… we are driven to know how what is ‘inside’ of us relates to what is ‘outside’ of us, and how we relate to each other as humans… separate or One.

I’ve been thinking about our individual contributions to the whole, as each One small part does differ from all others. Every evolution is unique, as your experience in this lifetime and perhaps past lifetimes, has made you a certain package of energy/information as has mine. What does our information offer then, to the knowledge body of the whole, and how can our information help as we navigate through the density and the challenges?

Looking back I see that my experience as female has been a very significant part of my learning. We say we are spirit in flesh; and I am in the flesh of a female, with all the female parts, and with the desire to know/feel what exactly is feminine, i.e. what is our essence and our divinity. How does our essence vibrate in perfection with the male essence… how does that dual vibration feel?

This is not going to be a ‘masculine and feminine polarities within every human’ dissertation. We’ve already talked about that, and of course it’s very significant. But I don’t think we can skip on by the significance of having been born into a body that physically manifests one of those polarities. I am a woman… and that is different than I am a man.

And may I say, collectively we are in a sh*tload of trouble with regard to balance in this most vital relationship… the woman and man. Correspondingly, human society and the earth are utterly out of balance. Can we bring it back to balance by bringing ourselves back to our essence, and then living with reverence for ourselves, each other, and that divine force that is our union?

I am getting older, which means nothing except that I have lived through a time when women were looked upon as being reflections of the light of men, and not generators of light in and of themselves. That gives me some empirical knowledge, which is one ‘plus’ of age. Some might bemoan the women’s liberation movement, believing that it took something away from the woman, and from the man/woman natural balance. But if there is no balance spiritually, a movement does have to occur, and it did.

’Who am I’ is the bottom line question of any grouping that has experienced spiritual suppression and misinformation, social oppression, and physical domination. Please allow me to use Afrodescendants as a template, because their experience provides the perfect example of what I am attempting to express. Within the Western slavery experience we find something unique… the separation of the individual from essence. The ‘I Am’ of tribe, language, culture, spirituality is severed, and all that remains is ‘I am human’. Even that is then removed, and becomes… I am less than human. Recovery from that trans-generational devastation took the form of an enormous battle of ‘I am equal to you’.

Once that equality was proven, what remained? The realization… I am equal to you but I am Not You. Who am I? I am acting like you and speaking like you and believing like you, but somehow this feels like another person’s clothes – I can never be as good as you at being you. Now left with the question of who am I… really… Afrodescendants are tuning in to their own drumbeat, and they will succeed in Self transformation. The evolved individual emerges from such a ‘been through the fire’ experience as a shining light.

Now we’ll return to women, and the women’s liberation movement that I lived through. It certainly isn’t the only evolutionary balancing movement that men and women have gone through, but it is the latest, and one with which we are familiar. Being viewed as a reflection of the man’s light, rather than our own light, translated into many different forms, with the lowest being ‘you are mine to use’. Like Afrodescendants, we believed that our battlefront was the ‘I am equal to you’ one.  And so we set out to be competition.

We did learn some things, and gain vital ground, but something twisted happened in the battle. Equal doesn’t mean ‘same as’ and we lost it when we went there. I realize one might say we were directed there, as a lot of this was a manipulation… but still, it happened. And who can say it shouldn’t have happened. It’s a part of the evolutionary process. To get to where we ask the question ‘who am I’, we had to go through the equality push, and the finding out of ‘who I am not’.

As a wise friend once said, rebel against one matrix and bring it down, underneath the deeper matrix shows up. Now we are experiencing a couple of generations of women who can do anything a man can do: run any business, enter any profession, totally support themselves, wear whatever they wish, have sex with anybody they wish, say whatever they wish, create whatever they wish… BE the light… free, free, free. The question is, why are so many so mean spirited, controlling, teasing and hostile, demanding and diminishing. “I can take care of myself – I don’t need a man – you cannot use me,” has become the mantra of all too many.

Whose light are we being? Is it ours?

Evolutionary moment here: we have come through something, and now we ask the question of ‘who am I’. I am a female human. Can I feel my essence? Have I looked? What is my model? What is the nature in which I was created? I now have all of these new skills and competencies and powers, can I use them according to my own nature, and not attempt to replicate someone else’s nature.

It’s not a new suggestion, it’s an old one, but I’m going to offer it again and perhaps we can look at it in a more comprehensive way. My model is Gaia – she is the feminine principle. We know all about her: her receptivity, her fecundity, her utter beauty, her power of renewal, her wisdom, her transformative power, her grace, her softness, her gentleness, her ferocity, her destructive power.

Perhaps it will benefit us to look at the violence against Gaia and relate it somehow to the violence against the essence of womanhood. I have long felt there is something so pernicious in this, so manipulated, so wicked, so pervasive that women themselves refuse to look at their essence – their very nature – as glorious and divine. Of course I’m not talking about all women. There are many of us who can see, and we bring forth this message as best we can, in all that we do.

As we reach the end of the subject for now, I’d like to mention a way forward. Unlike Afrodescendants, who must reach deep into the soul to answer ‘who am I’, we women have the answer in our physical bodies. Giving birth and nursing an infant is considered by many women to be among the ultimate  of physical experiences… one that is replicated over and over in our lives as we give birth to and nurture our creations.

Receptivity to physical love is coded in our bodies too… we receive and transform energy as does the earth. I would go one step further to say that the embrace of a man whose heart/mind or energy/information is completely compatible, is like no other experience in bringing us to our feminine essence.

Some might call it the twin spirit, or the twin flame, and that could be true. Such an experience is rare, and we may not meet it in our lifetime. But then again, we may be too far away from ourselves to meet it.

The world in balance that we seek and envision… how could it not begin with the original union? First we find it within ourselves as we balance the polarities, then we find it within our male and female forms of existence, until finally we find it in our embrace. For to experience that is to know in a ‘feeling’ way our very nature as a human universe. What a perfect guide… the ‘feel’ of an embrace.

About the Author

cropped - IdaIda Lawrence is an author, blogger, copywriter and editor based in Atlanta, Georgia. She has contributed to and edited two books on racial justice and human rights, and numerous articles on human rights, self-empowerment and related subjects. Her latest book is entitled The Warrior’s Way to Heaven on Earth. Ida has also published a companion book of blog favorites from https://talk2momz.com/.

18 Things Highly Creative People Do Differently

Carolyn Gregoire  Huffington Post

Creativity works in mysterious and often paradoxical ways. Creative thinking is a stable, defining characteristic in some personalities, but it may also change based on situation and context. Inspiration and ideas often arise seemingly out of nowhere and then fail to show up when we most need them, and creative thinking requires complex cognition yet is completely distinct from the thinking process.

Neuroscience paints a complicated picture of creativity. As scientists now understand it, creativity is far more complex than the right-left brain distinction would have us think (the theory being that left brain = rational and analytical, right brain = creative and emotional). In fact, creativity is thought to involve a number of cognitive processes, neural pathways and emotions, and we still don’t have the full picture of how the imaginative mind works.

And psychologically speaking, creative personality types are difficult to pin down, largely because they’re complex, paradoxical and tend to avoid habit or routine. And it’s not just a stereotype of the “tortured artist” — artists really may be more complicated people. Research has suggested that creativity involves the coming together of a multitude of traits, behaviors and social influences in a single person.

“It’s actually hard for creative people to know themselves because the creative self is more complex than the non-creative self,” Scott Barry Kaufman, a psychologist at New York University who has spent years researching creativity, told The Huffington Post. “The things that stand out the most are the paradoxes of the creative self … Imaginative people have messier minds.”

While there’s no “typical” creative type, there are some tell-tale characteristics and behaviors of highly creative people. Here are 18 things they do differently.

They daydream.

Creative types know, despite what their third-grade teachers may have said, that daydreaming is anything but a waste of time.

According to Kaufman and psychologist Rebecca L. McMillan, who co-authored a paper titled “Ode To Positive Constructive Daydreaming,” mind-wandering can aid in the process of “creative incubation.” And of course, many of us know from experience that our best ideas come seemingly out of the blue when our minds are elsewhere.

Although daydreaming may seem mindless, a 2012 study suggested it could actually involve a highly engaged brain state — daydreaming can lead to sudden connections and insights because it’s related to our ability to recall information in the face of distractions. Neuroscientists have also found that daydreaming involves the same brain processes associated with imagination and creativity.

They observe everything.

The world is a creative person’s oyster — they see possibilities everywhere and are constantly taking in information that becomes fodder for creative expression. As Henry James is widely quoted, a writer is someone on whom “nothing is lost.”

The writer Joan Didion kept a notebook with her at all times, and said that she wrote down observations about people and events as, ultimately, a way to better understand the complexities and contradictions of her own mind:

“However dutifully we record what we see around us, the common denominator of all we see is always, transparently, shamelessly, the implacable ‘I,'” Didion wrote in her essay On Keeping A Notebook. “We are talking about something private, about bits of the mind’s string too short to use, an indiscriminate and erratic assemblage with meaning only for its marker.”

They work the hours that work for them.

Many great artists have said that they do their best work either very early in the morning or late at night. Vladimir Nabokov started writing immediately after he woke up at 6 or 7 a.m., and Frank Lloyd Wright made a practice of waking up at 3 or 4 a.m. and working for several hours before heading back to bed. No matter when it is, individuals with high creative output will often figure out what time it is that their minds start firing up, and structure their days accordingly.

They take time for solitude.

“In order to be open to creativity, one must have the capacity for constructive use of solitude. One must overcome the fear of being alone,” wrote the American existential psychologist Rollo May.

Artists and creatives are often stereotyped as being loners, and while this may not actually be the case, solitude can be the key to producing their best work. For Kaufman, this links back to daydreaming — we need to give ourselves the time alone to simply allow our minds to wander.

“You need to get in touch with that inner monologue to be able to express it,” he says. “It’s hard to find that inner creative voice if you’re … not getting in touch with yourself and reflecting on yourself.”

They turn life’s obstacles around.

Many of the most iconic stories and songs of all time have been inspired by gut-wrenching pain and heartbreak — and the silver lining of these challenges is that they may have been the catalyst to create great art. An emerging field of psychology called post-traumatic growth is suggesting that many people are able to use their hardships and early-life trauma for substantial creative growth. Specifically, researchers have found that trauma can help people to grow in the areas of interpersonal relationships, spirituality, appreciation of life, personal strength, and — most importantly for creativity — seeing new possibilities in life.

“A lot of people are able to use that as the fuel they need to come up with a different perspective on reality,” says Kaufman. “What’s happened is that their view of the world as a safe place, or as a certain type of place, has been shattered at some point in their life, causing them to go on the periphery and see things in a new, fresh light, and that’s very conducive to creativity.”

They seek out new experiences.

Creative people love to expose themselves to new experiences, sensations and states of mind — and this openness is a significant predictor of creative output.

“Openness to experience is consistently the strongest predictor of creative achievement,” says Kaufman. “This consists of lots of different facets, but they’re all related to each other: Intellectual curiosity, thrill seeking, openness to your emotions, openness to fantasy. The thing that brings them all together is a drive for cognitive and behavioral exploration of the world, your inner world and your outer world.”

They “fail up.”

Resilience is practically a prerequisite for creative success, says Kaufman. Doing creative work is often described as a process of failing repeatedly until you find something that sticks, and creatives — at least the successful ones — learn not to take failure so personally.

“Creatives fail and the really good ones fail often,” Forbes contributor Steven Kotler wrote in a piece on Einstein’s creative genius.

They ask the big questions.

Creative people are insatiably curious — they generally opt to live the examined life, and even as they get older, maintain a sense of curiosity about life. Whether through intense conversation or solitary mind-wandering, creatives look at the world around them and want to know why, and how, it is the way it is.

They people-watch.

Observant by nature and curious about the lives of others, creative types often love to people-watch — and they may generate some of their best ideas from it.

“[Marcel] Proust spent almost his whole life people-watching, and he wrote down his observations, and it eventually came out in his books,” says Kaufman. “For a lot of writers, people-watching is very important … They’re keen observers of human nature.”

They take risks.

Part of doing creative work is taking risks, and many creative types thrive off of taking risks in various aspects of their lives.

“There is a deep and meaningful connection between risk taking and creativity and it’s one that’s often overlooked,” contributor Steven Kotler wrote in Forbes. “Creativity is the act of making something from nothing. It requires making public those bets first placed by imagination. This is not a job for the timid. Time wasted, reputation tarnished, money not well spent — these are all by-products of creativity gone awry.”

They view all of life as an opportunity for self-expression.


Nietzsche believed that one’s life and the world should be viewed as a work of art. Creative types may be more likely to see the world this way, and to constantly seek opportunities for self-expression in everyday life.

“Creative expression is self-expression,” says Kaufman. “Creativity is nothing more than an individual expression of your needs, desires and uniqueness.”

They follow their true passions.

Creative people tend to be intrinsically motivated — meaning that they’re motivated to act from some internal desire, rather than a desire for external reward or recognition. Psychologists have shown that creative people are energized by challenging activities, a sign of intrinsic motivation, and the research suggests that simply thinking of intrinsic reasons to perform an activity may be enough to boost creativity.

“Eminent creators choose and become passionately involved in challenging, risky problems that provide a powerful sense of power from the ability to use their talents,”write M.A. Collins and T.M. Amabile in The Handbook of Creativity.

They get out of their own heads.

Kaufman argues that another purpose of daydreaming is to help us to get out of our own limited perspective and explore other ways of thinking, which can be an important asset to creative work.

“Daydreaming has evolved to allow us to let go of the present,” says Kaufman. “The same brain network associated with daydreaming is the brain network associated with theory of mind — I like calling it the ‘imagination brain network’ — it allows you to imagine your future self, but it also allows you to imagine what someone else is thinking.”

Research has also suggested that inducing “psychological distance” — that is, taking another person’s perspective or thinking about a question as if it was unreal or unfamiliar — can boost creative thinking.

They lose track of the time.

Creative types may find that when they’re writing, dancing, painting or expressing themselves in another way, they get “in the zone,” or what’s known as a flow state, which can help them to create at their highest level. Flow is a mental state when an individual transcends conscious thought to reach a heightened state of effortless concentration and calmness. When someone is in this state, they’re practically immune to any internal or external pressures and distractions that could hinder their performance.

You get into the flow state when you’re performing an activity you enjoy that you’re good at, but that also challenges you — as any good creative project does.

“[Creative people] have found the thing they love, but they’ve also built up the skill in it to be able to get into the flow state,” says Kaufman. “The flow state requires a match between your skill set and the task or activity you’re engaging in.”

They surround themselves with beauty.

Creatives tend to have excellent taste, and as a result, they enjoy being surrounded by beauty.

A study recently published in the journal Psychology of Aesthetics, Creativity, and the Arts showed that musicians — including orchestra musicians, music teachers, and soloists — exhibit a high sensitivity and responsiveness to artistic beauty.

They connect the dots.

If there’s one thing that distinguishes highly creative people from others, it’s the ability to see possibilities where other don’t — or, in other words, vision. Many great artists and writers have said that creativity is simply the ability to connect the dots that others might never think to connect.

In the words of Steve Jobs:

“Creativity is just connecting things. When you ask creative people how they did something, they feel a little guilty because they didn’t really do it, they just saw something. It seemed obvious to them after a while. That’s because they were able to connect experiences they’ve had and synthesize new things.”

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The Woman Who Dares To Be Great: “Earth Lawyer” Polly Higgins

Jini Reddy | Positivenews | March 2014

Polly Higgins (L) and journalist Jini Reddy (R)     Photo © Jini Reddy

Polly Higgins (L) and journalist Jini Reddy (R) Photo © Jini Reddy

Things I didn’t know about ‘Earth lawyer’ and leader of the Eradicate Ecocide initiative, Polly Higgins: she exudes enough energy to power up a stadium. She has, literally, howled at the moon. She practises body dowsing and has prophetic visions. Oh, and she was expelled from her Jesuit school for punching the art teacher.

There is something about someone so fêted and effective in public life – Higgins has been hailed as one of the world’s top ten visionaries by the Ecologist for her work advocating a law of ecocide – displaying such a disarming gentleness and humanity and a real openness to the mysteries of the universe, that makes you sit up and take notice. Could there be a more qualified candidate to lead a three-day course entitled Dare to be Great?

Or a more fitting venue? Hawkwood College, a sustainably managed estate in the countryside outside Stroud in Gloucestershire, with caring staff, gardens, woodland, a natural spring, a community farm, home-cooked food and an award-winning ecological water treatment system, certainly has its heart in the right place.

On the first evening, Polly bounds into the lounge, all hugs, mega-watt charm and warmth. We are 24 – the workshop is sold out – including a biodynamic gardener, a medical herbalist, a mum who practises Feng Shui, a Brazilian graduate of the ecology education centre Schumacher College, a carer, and people who aren’t too sure why they’re there. Oh, and three-quarters of us are female (and why is that, I wonder?).

Over the course of the three-day workshop, we dive into the big question: what does daring to be great mean to each of us? The answers are compelling: greatness, it seems, encompasses humanity, vision, authenticity, connection, radical trust and courage.

It becomes clear that this is a journey that Polly Higgins is on, every bit as much as we all are. How do we consciously co-create – in other words, deliberately choose to attract the experiences we want into our lives? What are the tools we can use to let go of patterns of negative self-harm? How do we choose a more meaningful, empowered way of engaging with this world? How do we seed change?

“Higgins displays such a disarming gentleness and humanity and a real openness to the mysteries of the universe, that makes you sit up and take notice”

The answers can’t be bottled, but we are given guidance on a process that invites us to migrate from the logic of our minds to the innate wisdom, and greatness, of our hearts.

Change, says Polly, occurs when we speak out on behalf of others, and when we are brave enough to say “this does not feel right to me.” Equally, it happens when we recognise what triggers us into reactive, unhelpful behaviours, so that we can let go of them and begin healing the wounds we each carry. “Everything is a mirror. Your inner state of being can create huge ripples across the world.”

Similarly, she believes that setting intent, particularly when voiced aloud, is a powerful act of faith; one that is rewarded by moments of synchronistic good fortune that can’t be explained in a rational way. The language we use in doing so is significant: keep it positive and for the highest good.

Feeling lost and uncertain is a valid starting point to greatness too: “When we step into the unknown, we create a space for something new to come in, and what comes in is wisdom. Try asking ‘what next’, listen, and begin to have a deeper conversation with yourself,” she says. The answers, she assures us, may appear as a vision, a glimmer of inspiration, the spark of an idea – or a fully formed one – a gut instinct. But trust and they will surely come.

The exercises we do around these questions are visceral and fun. Everything is enlivened by Polly’s levity: we literally take a giant step into greatness; with imaginary scissors, we physically cut away that which holds us back. “The less emotional baggage you carry, the more people will want to listen to you,” she says.

We walk barefoot on the muddy fields to connect to the Earth and amplify our creativity. We stand in the gardens and, aloud, speak of our intention to let go of specific issues that dog us. We do this many times over, using our voices to break cycles of harm. We pair up and share our dreams. We practice gratitude. We dance too – movement is cleansing – and Polly gives us a marvellous mini-tutorial in the art of hugging.

She likens the Ecocide law campaign to abolitionism, the US civil rights movement, and the anti-apartheid movement. All of these were thought to be impossible dreams, but those who she calls “innovators,” people like William Wilberforce, Martin Luther King Jr and Nelson Mandela, believed in them. They created momentum, then came a tipping point, the majority adopted the idea and the inconceivable became reality.

“When we put out a message, we may perceive it’s not been heard, but it has been seeded. Change happens subliminally. When we create bridges, a larger narrative can emerge.” she says. “Daring to be great means daring to believe the impossible can become possible.”

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A Brave New Reflection – 8 Examples of the Science of Nature’s Wisdom

Lewis Herridge | Waking Times

In Aldous Huxley’s enduring master piece Brave New World, you find that world controllers have created an ‘ideal’ society. They cleverly use genetic engineering, brainwashing, recreational drugs and sex to keep all it members happy consumers. Many people draw comparisons as to where our society presently is and where it is heading in our future. If you are like many of the thousands of people ‘waking up’ around the world then you too will draw this worrying comparison.

Having recently re-read this book, one small part stuck out to me. Human engineers where discussing their subject’s [humans] brainwashing, when this was said:

“Primroses and landscapes…have one grave defect; they are gratuitous. A love of nature keeps no factories busy. It was decided to abolish the love of nature, at any rate among the lower classes… We condition the masses to hate the country…”

This is exactly what is happening in one way or another. As a species we have become disconnected from the earth, from nature and our human roots. We no longer use nature’s wisdom. Children would rather play on a computer than run around amongst the trees. People will happily identify hundreds of corporate logos and celebrities but fail to identify a common tree or plant species. Many do not possess the clothing and footwear to take a muddy or wet walk and others do not possess the practical skills or fitness levels to make this possible. To make matters worse, we have almost entirely lost our connection with each other, our sense of community is nearly non-existent and this is all replaced by a superficial, materialistic and egotistical world that is hell bent on its own destruction.

How does the outdoors environment make you feel?

In a recent, deep and meaningful debate around a campfire with a group of adults, the question was asked, ‘How does the outdoors environment make you feel?’ Interestingly these were the main responses:

  1. It is good for the spirit.
  2. If offers adventure, we all want adventure, whether on a street corner or in nature.
  3.  Good to keep your head level. It has made me a calmer person.
  4. It has a bit of something for everyone… touches all aspects of life.
  5. Allows you to switch off from the rat race.
  6. Like you can work at a pace dictated by nature and not other people.
  7. You can just be.

From this response, it is clear that nature offers us something that is ‘real’ and much of this is supported by countless pieces of research. Many studies show that being in nature and amongst woodlands, ‘provides for the well-being of individuals, promotes recovery after illness, reduces stress, improves health, reduces obesity and promotes positive attitudes’, something that everyone could do a little of. It offers us adventure which excites us and brings us joy, an inner calm, peace and a place to find our own identity, away from the ‘someone’ that we are told to be through our high tech and ‘advanced’ society. It enable us to tap into our spirit, true self and awaken our true well-being. Let us now explore the science behind this.

1. Atoms are Energy, Frequency and Empty Space

Mainstream physics has discovered that everything around us is made up of atoms and one percent of every atom is composed of protons, neutrons, and electrons. The other 99% is empty space. To put this in comparison if the nucleus (centre of Atom) was the size of a penny the electrons would be whizzing around a large Cathedral and everything else is empty space. So how does everything appear so solid if it is 99% space? This is simple, atoms vibrate. They carry a certain frequency which decides their density. The world we see and our bodies are just energy vibrating. The Universe is a big collection of energy and frequency.

2. Schumann Resonance

The planet also vibrates and this is known as the Schumann resonance, the pulse of Earth or the pulse of Life and it has a frequency of 7.83Hz. This is a funny figure as it is the same frequency as the human alpha brain waves which are seen in wakefulness where there is a relaxed and effortless alertness. They are also heavily linked to creativity, peak performance, stress levels, anxiety and the immune system. In towns and cities where many of us live, this frequency is heavily disrupted due to our complex and sophisticated lifestyles, but as soon as you leave, it changes.

Now is it just a coincidence that the outdoor environment makes you feel so good or is this proof of something significantly deeper? Perhaps our natural energetic state is re-harmonizing with that of the planet, which returns our brainwaves to more natural states.

3. Light

Low levels of light have been associated with depression. People that spend a lot of time indoors and away from natural light will feel the effects of this. The retina picks up the darkness and sends a message to the pineal gland. This will secrete a sleeping hormone called melatonin which has a sedative effect. If it is light outside, the pineal gland will not secrete melatonin, and this process also happens in reverse. If you receive too much light, perhaps caused by TVs, computer screens or street lights before you want to sleep then your brain is not ready and you may experience trouble nodding off.

4. Circadian Rhythms

To put it simply, this is the natural internal body clock for humans, animals and plants. It determines sleeping and feeding patterns, but there are also clear patterns involving core body temperature, increased blood pressure, brain wave activity, hormone production, cell regeneration, and other biological activities in humans.

The rhythms of the earth and lunar movement are closely linked to the rhythms of the brain. But in our society we time ourselves by clocks of our own making and have forgotten the natural rhythms of the earth. Days, months and years are all marked with natural peaks and dips, which many of us simply ignore in the haste of modern life.

This circadian rhythm is a starting point in how we should engage with the world, but is far too often over looked in man’s sophisticated, modern and hurried lifestyle. We pay the price if we run against the natural cycles of this planet, and it can have damaging mental and physical effects. Science is now connecting many illnesses with an unbalanced circadian rhythm. Conditions such as obesity, depression, diabetes, mental conditions such as ADHD and bipolar disorder, organ disease and cancers have all been linked.

5. Creativity

Creativity can be defined as the process of producing something that is both original and worthwhile. It often involves the use of hands and mind together. By engaging in creative acts we can awaken our minds, and nature is an ideal catalyst.

Each side of the brain controls different types of thinking. People are said to prefer one type of thinking over the other. For example, a person who is “left-brained” is often said to be more logical, analytical and objective, while a person who is “right-brained” is said to be more intuitive, thoughtful and subjective.

Our society is moving further away from the right brain thinking and more into the left. We only need to look at schools and education in general to find that subjects which are right-brain dominate such as art, music and theatre are losing popularity and are under threat. There appears to be an imbalance and the left-brain has asserted itself as the dominate side.

6. Resourcefulness

Linked very closely with creativity, resourcefulness is being able to act effectively or imaginatively, especially in difficult situations. Learning how things work, starting to use your hands in a practical manner, cooking from scratch using basic ingredients, learning how to sow, knit, grow your own food and learning about the practical aspects of nature all count. But western society is rapidly losing this trait with potentially grave consequences.

But this skill offers much more, as it gives you a connection with your natural state which can put you in better touch with who you really are and how the world works. It can put you on the path to reclaim your sovereign nature that will be so important in times to come. In short, it starts to release the shackles that have been imposed on you.

7. Green Space Improves health

In Britain, Natural England has calculated that better access to green space would create an estimated saving to the health service of £2.1bn a year. This is a huge saving considering the dire financial times we are all faced with.

But this would go against the grain and would mean that people may start to like or even appreciate nature and this is a door that should not be opened. Imagine the consequences if the true power of nature was confirmed. It would be like opening a can of worms that our controllers do not want to set free.

The corrupt pharmaceutical multi-billion dollar industry would suffer, as people would return to natural healing methods (which have effectively worked for thousands of years), the entertainment industry would suffer as people would not need to constantly fulfill a restless mind, and the energy industry and oil and gas companies would be massively affected as greater emphasis would be put on preservation, protection and balance. It would turn our society upside down.

A Better World

Knowing this, we can help shape a better world. To get better re-connect with nature we must:

  1. Put ourselves amongst the calmness of the trees or the stillness of the mountains as regularly as possible.
  2. Get more natural light everyday.
  3. Harness the power of our creativity.
  4. Re-instigate our resourcefulness.
  5. Live more aligned with the rules of nature.

Through doing this we develop a deep bond with nature that has the power to show us the way home. The way back to our source, our spirit and our connection to true well-being that has been severed. Whether this has happened through the world controllers that Aldous Huxley describes in Brave New World, the global elite that many talk about, or by our own egotistical minds, the problem remains the same. It is time that we re-evolve and re-connect.

About the Author

Lewis Herridge is the founder of Re-Evolving Earth a globally aware organisation that uses nature wisdom to educate and awaken people’s spirit and true well-being. By using the principles of nature and of our past, we can all live happier, healthier and more contented lives. Please visit; https://www.re-evolvingearth.com/ for more information.

6 Reasons You Should Love the People You Hate

Jamie Flexman | Purpose Fairy

“Do I not destroy my enemies when I make them my friends?” ~ Abraham Lincoln

Love and hate are perhaps the two most powerful emotions in existence. They hit you when you least expect it and they can have a lasting, sometimes damaging, effect on our lives. Often we cannot have one without experiencing the other, and sadly, they can also co-exist when dealing with those closest to us.

So how do we learn to detach ourselves from hatred, especially when we are living with this inner rage on a daily basis?

It’s difficult.

People come and go. Joy turns into sadness. A destination can become a derailment.

When love turns sour; when our opinion of another person changes for the worse, it kicks us in the stomach and the overwhelming feeling that is left behind is a mixture of self-doubt and inner turmoil.

This doesn’t have to be the case.

We always live life in the present. What has gone before isn’t necessarily what will happen in the future. The only time is now, and you have the perfect opportunity in choosing how to use your emotional energy effectively.

Are you going to allow the past to kick your ass?

Are you going to blame yourself when something doesn’t work out?

Are you going to drag the hatred for your past mistakes along with you?

Luckily, we all have the capacity to say no. Failure is nothing but feedback. The path we take from this point forwards is entirely of our own design.

There is a simple and effective method for burying the past and eliminating your hatred; acceptance.

Letting go of your negativity and learning how to accept every waking moment, good or bad, is the only way to truly move forwards. Here are 6 ways in which you can channel your hatred for another person into a positive outcome that will serve you well in the future.

1. They are an inspiration

I often look back to my past to find the inspiration I need to move forwards. Relationships that ended on bad terms, friends I have fallen out with and even former employers who have treated me unfairly; there is knowledge to be gained. The beauty of hindsight is that it is freely available to all of us and we can use it as a barometer to check if we are currently doing the right thing.

2. You will learn to develop a stronger frame

These people are emotional vampires; we allow them to suck and drain away our positive energy. Whoever has the stronger frame is often the person who comes away from these interactions with their emotions intact. Be that person. Focus on who you are and behave with integrity. Do not allow yourself to be dragged down to their level. With practice, you will remain strong in the face of adversity.

3. Direct your anger towards a positive outcome

It’s easy to wallow in self-pity when dealing with your past but instead of playing the victim and letting your hatred get the better of you, learn to direct your anger and your hurt towards something that you are passionate about. Many people will use hatred as an excuse but you’re better than that. Use it to fuel change. Negativity is your slingshot to a positive future.

4. Use them as a reminder of how far you’ve come

Holding onto negativity is a sure fire way to fall back into old habits. Acceptance is the only way to banish these feelings forever. Memories make us who we are and are and help create the person that stares back in the mirror each day. By accepting your past, both the good and the bad, you’re allowing yourself the opportunity for present and future happiness.

5. Conflict is a two way process

We often attach blame to other people. It’s a natural instinct that we use to protect our ego and to blindly carry on as if we are somehow perfect. Obviously, this is not reality. 99% of the time, any conflict we have with another person is partly our fault. Recognising the flaws in ourselves as well as in others is the first step towards humility and a healthier mind.

And finally; always remember…

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Do Elephants Call ”Human!” to Alarm Herd Of Approaching Danger?

Source: Phys.org

Elephants flee the sound of local people whilst emitting the telltale 'human' alarm call rumble.

Elephants flee the sound of local people whilst emitting the telltale ‘human’ alarm call rumble.

African elephants make a specific alarm call in response to the danger of humans, according to a new study of wild elephants in Kenya.

Researchers from Oxford University, Save the Elephants, and Disney’s Animal Kingdom carried out a series of audio experiments in which recordings of the voices of the Samburu, a local tribe from North Kenya, were played to resting elephants. The elephants quickly reacted, becoming more vigilant and running away from the sound whilst emitting a distinctive low rumble.

When the team, having recorded this rumble [listen to the rumble here], played it back to a group of elephants they reacted in a similar way to the sound of the Samburu voices; running away and becoming very vigilant, perhaps searching for the potentially lethal threat of human hunters.

The new research, recently reported in PLOS ONE, builds on previous Oxford University research showing that elephants call ‘bee-ware’ and run away from the sound of angry bees. Whilst the ‘bee’ and ‘human’ rumbling alarm calls might sound similar to our ears there are important differences at low (infrasonic) frequencies that elephants can hear but humans can’t.




10 Reasons to Start Looking for a Better Job

Learning Mind

How many years have you worked on your job? Are you satisfied with it? Maybe it’s time to find a new job which would meet your desires?

Many people don’t change their current place of work because of being afraid of not finding better. But think about the time and efforts you spend doing something you don’t like and exhausting your mental and emotional resources. How long will you be patient? You deserve the best. You just need to believe in yourself and get rid of any doubt and fear! You’re not a tree planted in the ground. You are a human and have the right to change what you don’t like. Here are 10 main reasons which indicate that you need to consider looking for a new job that would better suit your interests and expectations.

1. You don’t enjoy your work

You wake up every morning without a smile because you have to go again in the place where you don’t want to be and do things you hate doing? Many people take up a vacant position only for money and don’t enjoy their work. This is the main reason to consider changing your job simply because there is no point of spending 1/3 of your life on something you don’t like.

2. Lack of understanding with your boss

Your boss often offends you or puts you in an awkward position? He/she is always dissatisfied and never appreciates your efforts? Don’t tolerate it! Quit and let him try to find such a valuable employee like you.

3. Bad working conditions and difficult schedule

Working conditions and the time schedule directly affect your ability to work and the quality of life in general. Often have to stay at work till late at night because your boss says so? Do you work all day and all week so that no time remains for yourself and your family and friends? Think about it.

4. Small wages

This is one of the most common reasons that make people change jobs. Do you feel that your work is not sufficiently appreciated and you get a small salary? Then, the decision to change your job is the most appropriate in this case.

5. Bad relationship with your colleagues

If the people you work with don’t support and don’t appreciate you, then there is no sense to continue working in a team without being a part of it.

6. Your work is underestimated

If you feel that you are working hard but nobody notices this, look for a place where your efforts will be appreciated.

7. Your opinion isn’t taken into account

Everyone feels important and necessary when his opinion is taken into account. But when a person’s initiatives are suppressed, he feels like being nothing. Do you feel this way? If yes, quitting your current job is the right decision.

8. Lack of career prospects

Everything in nature is constantly changing and developing. Human is part of nature, so he also tends to change and evolve. If the work doesn’t give you the opportunities to grow, do you really have to stay there?

9. Lack of personal development

This is as a result of the previous case. Career growth is an aspect of personal development, and when you don’t evolve as a personality, at some point you start feeling incomplete and stuck in your life.

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5 Myths About Enlightenment

Michael Jeffreys | Collective Evolution

1. Enlightenment is a long journey that takes many years, decades, or even lifetimes to achieve.

Enlightenment is realizing that what you are, have always been, and in fact cannot help but be is pure Consciousness. That you are not the “self-image” you have of yourself, nor your thoughts or even your body. Rather, your original nature, your unconditioned essence, is timeless Awareness.

Because it’s fully what you already are, you cannot “do” anything to get there. Thus, the journey to enlightenment is one of no distance. An analogy would be: How far does the ocean need to go to find water? The answer is no distance. It just needs to clearly recognize what it already is.

The reason it is so challenging to awaken to our original infinite nature is because we have been told/conditioned since birth that we are our body and/or the image we have of ourselves in our mind, i.e., our “self-image.” We are not. What are we? We are THAT which silently observes or is AWARE of everything we experience. This includes all thoughts, feelings, sensations, images and perceptions that arise within, as well as “the outside world” (in fact, we could say that we are not in the world, the world is in us!). For example, how do you know you have a body? You know because you are aware of it. How do you know you have thoughts? You know because you are aware of them. Simply put, your nature is AWARENESS itself.

2. I will be enlightened as soon as I learn how to stop my thoughts.

This is a common misconception. The reality is that you don’t need for your thoughts to stop to awaken; you just need to stop identifying with them. But this is not so easy because most of us have spent a lifetime doing just that. The key is to observe them; to silently watch them. Get some space between you and the arising thought and notice that you are present before the thought, during the thought, and after the thought, so the thought cannot be you. In fact, are you not fully present even when no thought is arising?

3. Enlightenment means I will be free of the ego.

The ego is necessary for the body’s survival and is what tells us when to run from danger or defend ourselves. However, although we rarely find ourselves in actual physical life or death situations, the ego approaches our psychological disturbances with this same fight or flight response. If someone insults us or cuts us off in traffic, the ego kicks in and feels threatened.

The key is to see that we are not our ego. By observing it as it gets triggered we can start to get some space between us and it. The more space, the less pull it has over us. Pretty soon the ego begins to feel like a spoiled child who is always whining and complaining because it wants what it wants when it wants it. The ego’s mantra is, “Me, me, me!”

Rather than get angry at “the child,” we can begin to love it and assure it that it’s safe. By not taking our ego so seriously, we literally begin to lighten up. Again, no need to get rid of the ego—clearly seeing it is not you is enough.

4. Once I am enlightened my life will be free of problems.

When one is awakened, it’s not that only “positive” things come your way, rather it’s that you stop labeling things as positive or negative because all is seen as Life unfolding exactly however it unfolds. You realize you are not in control of Life, Life is; and you are not separate from Life. (Even if we feel separate, that doesn’t make it so. A wave can feel separate from the ocean all it wants; that doesn’t make it so.) And so you learn to trust Life fully and completely. You learn to “go with the flow” and enjoy the journey. A roller coaster has both UPS and DOWNS. You cannot have a roller coaster with only UPS!

As you get older you realize that Life goes by very quickly, and so the urge to whine and complain about every little thing suddenly becomes a waste of energy—energy that you no longer take for granted.

Remember, everyone is a good captain when the seas are calm… so let us not shy away from storms. We can view a storm as an insurmountable problem or as a challenge to go deeper and find out what we are truly made of. As the saying goes, ships were not designed to stay in the harbor. Regardless of the outcome of the situation, you will learn something about yourself that you didn’t know. And when you awaken, you realize that what you are at your core can never be harmed. As the Bhagavad Gita says regarding your true nature:

“A sword cannot cut It, nor can fire burn It; water cannot wet It, nor can wind dry It.”

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Three Easy Steps to Change Your Life Today

Nicole Liloia | Purpose Fairy

“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” ~ Rumi

Everyone talks about want to change or improve their lives, but how often do you actually see people taking immediate steps to do that? Oftentimes people just want other people or their situations to change, but aren’t ready to take steps towards doing things differently themselves.  The thought of making changes often ends up scaring people because they fear what they don’t know and are worried that things may end up worse instead of better. People who are be able to start making positive changes in their lives are able to experience more fun and freedom.

Here are 3 easy steps to take so that you can bring positive changes into your lives.

1. Assess your support system.

Think about who you spend the most time with.  Are they people who you feel comfortable around?  Do you laugh and have fun with them? Do they encourage you and help you achieve your goals?  If the answer to these questions is no, then it is time to find some new people to hang out with.  We cannot make others change and be more positive or supportive of us, so we need to pay attention to who makes us feel good in our lives and start spending more time with those people and decrease the time we spend with negative people.

2. Add self-care into your schedule.

So many time we treat self-care like it’s a chore and only do it when it is absolutely necessary. Self-care needs to be scheduled so that it becomes a regular habit for us.   You will feel better when you are doing things that are good for yourself, and as a result you will treat others better too.  Think about what self-care habits you really enjoy and make them a priority.   Also make it a point to experiment with new self-care techniques and activities so that you can learn what makes you feel best.  Some self-care activities to try out and prioritize include: naps, exercise, meditation, dancing to your favorite music, reading a book or magazine, and enjoying time in nature.

3. Practice mindfulness regularly.

Practicing mindfulness regularly means making sure that you are living in the present moment, and not overthinking the past or future.  If you find your mind wandering, then just bring yourself back to the present in a non-judgmental manner.  You can do this by focusing on your breath and paying attention to the sensations and feelings you are experiencing in your body.  Being mindful in your daily life will bring about positive change by allowing you to see new things about the people around you and to come up with new solutions for the situations that you are dealing with in your life.

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The Holy Grail of Sacred Relationships

Michelle Walling | in5d.com

Every relationship we have is sacred, as it provides a mirror by which we get to know ourselves better.  As we grow spiritually, these relationships can change with the changes in ourselves. The ultimate goal in sacred relationship is to love yourself enough to feel complete, and to share your completeness with another. When this is accomplished the sacred fire is created and one can move closer to the place called “home” through the Holy Grail relationship.

Contracts with soul mates

We all set up contracts with our soul mates before incarnating to give each other experience. We chose our parents, our siblings, and our best friends. At one point in our awakening we realize what a gift this was as we look back at the lessons we learned from these loving souls, even if theexperience did not seem that way at the time it was experienced. Being in relationship with these people taught us how to be in relationship with others and we all have had our share of comings and goings with various people in relationship throughout our lives.

The purpose of all relationship is to be able to awaken to what needs to be worked on within yourself in order to grow spiritually. If something is mirrored to you the first time and you do not see it, then a pattern will emerge and another person will bring you the same experience and down the line until you finally see what it is you need to work on. This could be self love, judgment, righteousness, or something else that is in alignment with clearing the path to enlightenment.

Sacred fire

As we find ourselves in a time of spiritual advancement, we can look back see just how much we have worked on ourselves. We are now in the home stretch and something wonderful has happened that will give us the tools needed to make the final adjustments toward raising our vibrations into the next dimension.

The gift of sacred fire can be shared between two people who vibrate at the same level and join in lovemaking from the wholeness of the heart.

Being “in love” at this stage of the game of life is a wonderful gift and is the highest form of sacred relationship between two people whereby their final lessons can be learned from a higher state of consciousness. The sacred fire can burn away all lower vibrations and can keep one in a state of joy and bliss. It is a gift beyond measure, as love is eternal and is what we are truly made of.

How do I attract a soul mate of the same vibration?

The answer to this question is tricky, because like simply attracts like. You will attract to you someone who is on your level of vibration without having to do anything at all due to the Universal Law of Attraction. As we grow spiritually, we tend to have loved ones fall out of vibration with ourselves and new people come into our lives, like a revolving door.  For all intents and purposes, the real question is how to prepare yourself to attract the highest vibrational partner to have a sacred relationship with.

Loving yourself

One of the hardest things to accomplish is self love and self forgiveness. Many people were taught throughout their lives to seek love and material things from the outside world in order to fill the hole they felt in their hearts. That hole has always been the separation from our Creator and can be filled with love for yourself once you realize that you are a part of the Creator. That is really the one thing that could change this world; everyone realizing who they really are.

Beliefs and judgments have been entrained within us since birth that make us feel less than worthy. It has been hard to accept every part of our body as perfect, since unrealistic thoughts of what we think we should look like have ruled our lives through Hollywood. For some people, their whole lives have been a downward spiral of not feeling like they were ever good enough. Once we realize that most everything shown to us has had the sole purpose of making us feel like we weren’t good enough, we can overcome this lie and open our hearts to loving ourselves just the way we are.

Loving yourself takes practice. Take a look at yourself in the mirror and repeatedly tell yourself how much you love yourself. Many people do not take the time or effort to do this, and their relationships reflect it when they fall into fear of self worth or losing their relationship. At the same time, the person they are in relationship is probably having the same issues so it would be perfect of both people worked on the same thing at the same time, thus one would not outgrow the other and have to attract a different partner. Being aware of this and sharing with your partner makes it easier to stay in relationship as you continue to grow and learn about yourself and your mirror.

Being yourself

The ultimate state of being you can mirror to your partner is to be yourself. Being yourself does mean thinking I am going to act this way or that no matter what the consequences because I have been this way all of my life and no one should change me. It is having the wisdom, compassion, and grace to look at the things in your life that no longer serve you. It is making sure you are committed to yourself first and then project that wholeness to your partner by being the example. Beliefs and habits will fall away as your partner recognizes your perfection and chooses to resonate with you.

When it is time to change partners

Sometimes we outgrow our relationship if one person is doing the inner work of love and forgiveness and the other person is not consciously doing their work. The Universe will tend to pull the two people apart, and it will seem as though conflict is in the forefront as the one who did not do the work is getting their fears mirrored back to them. There comes a time that our inner selves will tell us that it is time to move on and that can be very painful.

The fear within us may want us to try to change the other person as a last ditched effort to try to help them. Sometimes this works depending on the overall plan the two of you had together, but unless both people are consciously aware of their own thoughts and behaviors and make the changes necessary, it usually turns into unhappiness for one or both in the relationship.

The best thing that you can do for yourself is to move on when it is obvious that you no longer resonate with the other person. Everyone is on a path of self realization and self empowerment, and no two people will get there at the same time.

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Journey to Enlightenment: Interview with Simran Singh

Author Simran Singh shares her journey from breakdown to a life of freedom and courage in this inspirational interview with Lilou Mace. She reminds us that every challenge is a gift from the universe, a unique reflection of something your soul wants you to see. The signs and symbols are everywhere, if you choose to see them. 


Stand Up for Yourself to Shift Your Life in 2014


When a friend wants support or simply a vote of confidence, you likely respond and do what you can. After all, compassion and support for others is wired into your nature. It’s encoded in your DNA to care about others and to step in when a loved one feels down or wants encouragement.

Acknowledge yourself for stepping in and being that rock of support. As you help others, in even simple ways, you lift your own energy higher and accelerate your spiritual progress.

Question for March 2014

The question this month is this: Are you able to stand up for yourself as you do for others?
If you haven’t considered this idea recently, March is an excellent time to do so. This month’s energies will catalyze a review of self-worth and self-love – perhaps triggering reflection of how true you are able to be with yourself.

It takes great courage to be true to yourself, regardless of the world’s feedback. Developing this type of courage involves a process over time. Some days will be easier than others.

The strength of character that you are building is rooted in self-love – standing up for yourself even when no one seems to see you or recognize your talents. It means that you step up and give yourself the acknowledgement and support you deserve. It also requires that you stop caring so much about what others think, stop pleasing people, and stop worrying about whether you have done enough to help others.

When you have enough self-love, helping others will become more of your active expression, not less. You won’t need a measuring stick. You will simply give, in appropriate ways, because that is the right thing to do.

Owning Your Power

You cannot stand tall and be in your true power to create when you have given all of your power away to others. You must own your power and live it. You must have the strength to do this in all sorts of situations – including challenging times and moments when you seemingly sit in the dark waiting for the sun to come out. This is what mastery is for you, the divine changemaker.

2014 – Year of Focus on Relationships and Values

In this Horse Year, there will be a big focus on relationships and values. You and everyone you meet will be reevaluating these things. In your own life, you will have ample opportunities to consider how you relate to others and yourself, and to explore the notion of what and who you value.

The “who” begins with you, of course. You must value yourself and respect yourself before you can feel truly valued and respected in life.
Energy is energy – you must house the energy you want to receive!

The Self and Others

Self-valuing is also essential for successful interactions with others. If you doubt your own value and give away your power, how can you see and respond appropriately to the value others bring? If you have friends in this situation, no doubt you have heard them dismissing the gifts of others – perhaps criticizing fees charged as an energy exchange. In other cases, you may have observed people acknowledging the value of other people, but holding back with themselves. Both types of response stem from lack of awareness.

Using the Fire Energy of 2014

Remember that the fire energy of 2014 will continually call upon you to take action on things that are out of balance or simply need a push forward. You want to use your fire intelligently. This means taking constructive actions that support your forward movement and help you to reclaim power you have unknowingly given away.

Use the rebirth energy of this fire to help you rediscover your true power. Use it to reclaim your voice. Use it to move into the self-love needed to stand up for yourself in a brand-new way!

About the Author

Selacia, internationally acclaimed author of Earth’s Pivotal Years, is an intuitive healer and guide to others on the path of spiritual awakening. A former foreign correspondent with The Wall Street Journal and other media, she has decades of experience in the areas of world politics, social change, healing, consciousness, and spiritual transformation. In her journalism career, Selacia covered the White House, US Congress, G8 meetings, economic summits, and world trade talks. In her global healing work, she has addressed the United Nations (SEAT). Her writings are read in sixty-four countries. She is a pioneer in DNA intuitive healing, serving people everywhere who desire wholeness and a heart-centered life. Selacia has dedicated her life to spirit, and to opening the way for others to progress on their path of enlightenment. Visit her at www.Selacia.com.

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