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20 Surefire Questions to Uncover Your Passion

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Source: Soul Journeys

One of the things I love about teaching the Akashic Records and facilitating readings is that I have the privilege of helping people uncover their passion. So many of us stifle that energy for various reasons and it effects in our physical, emotional, mental and spiritual bodies when we do.

Related Article: The Akashic Records: What Are They & Do They Actually Exist?

– we may be afraid to be ‘too much’ for others when sharing our passion
– we may be afraid to ‘fail’ at it
– we may never have been encouraged to do so or given permission
– we may not have had real life models for passion in our lives
– we may have interference from other spaces and times that keep us frozen in a particular pattern that prevents us from lighting the flame
– we may have been violated and have shut down our creative centers (namely our sacral and throat chakras)

These are just a few reasons that we disconnect from our passion.

So, how do we reconnect? Well, there are a ton of ways including engaging our creative energy even if we judge ourselves to not be creative (ahem, we are all extensions of the creative life force energy).

There are also simple, yet profound questions we can ask ourselves to begin moving the energy and awakening/expanding this part of ourselves:

Related Article: 5 Things You Can Change For a More Fulfilling Life

1. What did I love to do in my childhood?
2. When do I feel like I’m in ‘the zone’?
3. When do I feel the lightest/most expansive?
4. Who/what brings me joy?
5. With whom or what do I feel most like myself?
6. What do I admire most about people who inspire me (list their qualities)?
7. When do I feel most present, where I have no concept of time?
8. What intuitive downloads/nudges continue coming to me?
9. What do I want to be known for, as in, if I walked into a conversation, what would I want to overhear people saying about me?
10. If I could be/do anything without the limitation of not enough time/money/energy/support, what would I do?
11. When do I feel the most aligned? What comes natural to me?
12. If I knew I was going to leave my body and transition in 6 months, what would I do with that precious time?
13. If my future self had a message for me about what I’m doing, how I’m spending my time and who I’m spending it with, what would it be?
14. How do I wish to feel day-to-day?
15. What’s asking to be released from my life to make that happen?
16. What’s asking to come in?
17. If I was my own magic wand, what would I be creating?
18. If I could participate in any cause, which am I most passionate about and why?
19. What’s my plan to get more involved in that cause and how does it feel when I take those actions?
20. What support do I need to call in to help me magnify my passion and share it with the world while staying out of my own way?

These are great starting points and are made even more powerful when accessing the Akashic Records – just read the types of things that have happened for others when they work in the Records to expand their passion and purpose.

Related Article: Tips and Guidance on Living Your Passion and the Most Direct Path to Your Intuition from the Author of ‘The Celestine Prophecy’

As I shared, this is our 10 year anniversary and I’d love for you to join our sacred circle of Akashic Record Consultants and express your passion out in the world and even help others do the same. I’ve got some celebratory 10 year anniversary bonuses, so click here to learn how you can participate.

Editor’s Note: The author of this article, Jennifer Longmore, will be holding a special Online Akasha Partyon February 9, 2016 where she will personally guide you through an introductory experience of accessing your Akashic Records. You can sign up for free here — and if you can’t attend, you will still receive a replay of the event. Also, when you sign up, you receive a copy of CLN Editor, Vicki Howie’s most powerful 3rd Chakra Activation-Meditation to beat procrastination and bolster your confidence.

Read more great articles at Soul Journeys.




11 Simple Ways to Live a Happier Life

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By Dr. Kelly Neff | The Mind Unleashed

Happiness is something that we all strive for, yet many of us find it challenging to grasp and even harder to maintain. Especially during these difficult economic times, happiness can feel like it is hiding just behind next week’s paycheck, a new job, or a distant raise. However, as Dr. Robert Putnam of Harvard University recently pointed out, “money alone can buy you happiness, but not much.”(1) It appears that happiness has less to do with money than we might imagine, and more to do with the people around us, how we live our lives, the way spend our time, and how we perceive ourselves and understand our life experiences.

Related Article: Study Shows That If You Want to Be Happy, You Need to Cultivate This

Based on the latest research in psychology and my experience as both a psychologist trying to understand happiness, and as a human being searching for my own happiness, here are 11 ways to live a happier life…that have nothing to do with money!

1) Practice Gratitude

No matter where they are or what they are doing, happy people recognize that they always have something to be grateful for. Research in the field of Positive Psychology has shown that people who practice gratitude are happier, less stressed and less depressed!(2) Happy people can easily find gratitude in the world around them, whether they are looking at the cracks in the pavement in the concrete jungle or the sun setting over the ocean. It is possible to find gratitude even in smallest of things, like a delicious meal, a good book, a challenging yoga class, or a smile from a stranger on the street.

Each of us has a choice on how we focus our attention. Choosing to focus on gratitude for the beauty and uniqueness of life instead the stressors and problems will make you feel happier and more relaxed.

2) Find a place of Flow

In Positive Psychology, the concept of “Flow” is defined as the “complete immersion in activity for it’s own sake.”(3) When we are in flow, such as when we are running a race, writing a song, or reading a great book, our self-awareness dissipates, time seems to stop, and we become focused, peaceful, and attentive to the task at hand.  People who frequently experience flow tend to be happy, productive, creative and focused.

You can reach a state of flow by putting special attention to tasks that you find intrinsically rewarding and enjoyable. In other words, carve out some time to do what you LOVE! For more information about how to find your flow, explore Dr. Mikhal Csíkszentmihályi’s book, Finding Flow.(4)

3) Smile More

If you are feeling down or having a rough day, it is possible to cheer yourself up by simply thinking of a person, place or situation that makes you smile! Indeed, research in psychology has shown that the physical act of smiling will make you feel happier, even if you are just flexing the muscles of your mouth and not intentionally smiling!(5)

Related Article: How to Smile More Every Day (Even If Life Isn’t Perfect)

While scientists are not yet completely certain why the simple of act of smiling makes you feel happy, it has been suggested that smiling contracts the facial muscles, leading to more blood flow to the brain’s frontal lobes, which in turn triggers release of dopamine, one of the pleasure chemicals in the brain.(6) So bust out the comedies and get your giggle on (or maybe let someone tickle you a little bit)!

4) Embrace Your Mistakes

We are all perfectly imperfect in this human form, and it is only natural that we make mistakes (sometimes very often!) Living in denial about your mistakes or getting wrapped up in your ego will only you make you miserable and block you from learning valuable lessons that will help you grow and improve.

By embracing your mistakes, you will be able to forgive yourself, and the bonus is that other people might actually like you more! According to Dr. Eliot Aronson’s “Pratfall effect” in Social Psychology, making mistakes makes competent people seem more attractive, and more human to others.(7) Happy people seem to intuitively know this, embracing mistakes as learning experiences and not judging themselves too harshly.

5) Maintain an Optimistic Attitude

Happy people tend to respond to negative events in a more optimistic manner than unhappy people. Positive psychologist Dr. Martin Seligman defines optimism as “reacting to problems with confidence and high personal ability,” specifically, recognizing that negative events are temporary and limited in scope.(2) Research has linked optimism with a plethora of positive outcomes including longevity, recovery from illness, overall physical health, enhanced coping skills and problem solving in difficult situations.

Related Article: What We All Really Need When We’re Struggling

Overall, optimism is a central component of staying happy and healthy, so when in doubt, look on the bright side.

6) Surround yourself with Supportive People

Even though this life can sometimes feel like an individual journey, we need other people around us in order to feel happy. In fact, recent research has indicated that social relationships are the strongest predictors of happiness, much stronger than income or wealth.(1) For example, according to Robert Putnam’s groundbreaking study, making a good friend causes an increase of happiness equal to tripling ones salary, belonging to a social club is equivalent to doubling one’s salary, and so on.

The take home message here is that social support is a huge indicator of happiness and wellbeing. People with perceived positive social relationships even live longer!8 So be social, surround yourself with people who make you feel good, and release those who make you feel bad.

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Are You Taking Life for Granted? Ralph Smart Brings You Back To Gratitude

Are you taking life for granted?

Ralph Smart of Infinite Waters (Diving Deep) says he used to. So he wrote down some poetic thoughts to remind him to be deeply grateful for life.

Here they are:

Hold it.

Don’t let it go.

Make it last forever.

Life, what’s it all about?

Live it and you’ll find out.

Everybody’s searching.

Greedy for knowledge.

But who’s to blame?

When there is no right or wrong.

Life is a journey.

Let it take you places.

Broaden your horizons

Don’t be narrow-minded.

Life is a miracle.

Don’t wonder why you’re here.

Have no fear.

Because you never know what you’ve got,

Til it’s gone.

So I’m holding onto it.

Grab the moment.

Never let it go.

Make it last forever.

Love.

Never stop loving.

Even if you love a tree.

How can it be?

They don’t know.

Love is the only answer.

I said it before.

Don’t make me say it again.

When the world is crying,

Just look at the rain.

It pours down.

It doesn’t fall down.

Where did we go wrong?

What happened to those sunny days?

Let the sun shine.

What happened to those sunny days?

Say it one more time.

Because you never know what you’ve got.

until it’s gone.

So I’m holdling onto it.

Grab the moment.

Never let it go.

Make it last forever.

They say you live in the world you’re thinking of.

So I think of love.

So I live in love.

You see, life is full of choices, big decisions, contradictions.

We started off as butterflies.

As children, we could fly.

No fence.

No barrier.

And some still flying, but most lying, head down, because they lost their wings,

Lost their hope, their sense of “I am.”

Caught up in the midst of madness, thinking, why is life filled with sadness?

I know there’s more.

I know there’s more.

When I look at a rose,

How can that not be love?

Make it last forever.




Laugh Out Loud -> Go Ahead -> You Deserve It!!!

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So much of our world and the information we consume is serious. Being Awake and Aware means we know we need balance.

A child laughs spontaneously and scientific estimates are that an adult needs 15-17 GOOD SOLID LAUGHS  a day to be healthy.  So here you are. Take a few wonderful minutes. Reduce your blood pressure, lower stress, release endorphins, oxygenate your blood, improve your cardiac health, and enjoy this chuckle. Go ahead. Laugh Out Loud!!! You deserve it!

And finally, from a good friend…

“Next time I come back I want to live my life backwards.  You start out dead and get that out of the way. Then you wake up in an Old People’s Home feeling better every day.  You get kicked out for being too healthy, go collect your pension, and then when you start work,  you get a gold watch and a party on your first day. You work for forty years until you’re  young enough to enjoy your retirement. You party, drink alcohol and are generally promiscuous and then you’re ready for high school.  You then go to primary school, become a kid and you play.You have no responsibilities, you become a baby and then you are born.And then you spend your last 9 months floating in luxurious spa-like conditions with central heating and room service on tap,  getting larger and larger quarters every day, and then Voila! you end up as an orgasm!”  

 




How To Let Go of Guilt and Set Yourself Free

We have all experienced that feeling of guilt at some point in our lives.

Guilt is that feeling of remorse or judging yourself negatively for things that you did or didn’t do in your past, some of which you feel had a negative impact on someone or something else.

We guilt ourselves for things like not working hard enough. For over eating. For not spending enough time with our kids. For thinking a certain way. The list is endless and it’s different for each of us depending on our upbringing.

There is a healthy guilt, which arises when you have ACTUALLY done something wrong, such as intentionally harming another person. Then you feel guilty from having developed a conscience. Those that have no conscience feel no sense of guilt and are called sociopaths.

Unhealthy guilt arises when you tell yourself that you have done something wrong when you have not!

It is a lie that you tell yourself.

Perhaps you take on false responsibility for how those around you feel, such as making it your fault that someone is angry when it’s not.

Give up trying to live up to other people’s expectation for your life. When you live the life they want you to live out of guilt, you live a life of suffering.

Even when we have done something wrong, we sometimes mistakenly think that by torturing ourselves with guilt it will somehow absolve us of what we did.

Not true.

You are already whole, perfect and complete.

You are loved unconditionally by life.

All guilt does is make you feel bad and keeps you stuck in the past. Judging or beating yourself up doesn’t change the past. What’s done is done. Guilting yourself is a waste of your time in the present.

Give it up. Drop your story. Go ahead. Let it go.

No matter what you did or didn’t do, ultimately you hold the lock and you hold the key to your freedom to set yourself free.

Remember that you are a human being with lessons to learn. And it’s inevitable that you will make mistakes, fall down, and sometimes hurt others.

It’s OK.

The issue isn’t whether you screw up or not. The issue is to meet yourself with compassion. It’s not easy being a human being, so cut yourself some slack and have some compassion for your humanity.

Make the choice to forgive yourself for judging yourself. This is one of the greatest gifts that you can give to yourself right now.

Choose it.

What do you need to forgive yourself for?

What’s the illusion that you tell yourself needs to be different in order to forgive yourself?

When is enough self-punishment enough?

What’s important is that you learn from each and every experience. As a result you become wiser able to use it as an opportunity to grow and make different choices next time.

Take responsibility for your actions, and if needed make amends with those you have impacted.

Life is a continual process of learning and evolution.

So stop shaming yourself. It serves nothing and no one.

Holding onto guilt just keeps you in a prison.

When you give up your guilt, you free the gifts within you.

You being your most authentic self is the greatest gift that you can give the world.

Love.Now

Kute

 

Kute BlacksonKute Blackson is an utterly unique visionary in the world of human potential. Unlike those who promise to simply help people “get” what they want, Kute’s life work instead reveals to people what they have to give, by liberating who they are most truly and deeply. The focus: Freedom. Acclaimed worldwide for his life changing, one of a kind, transformational experiences, he is considered one of the leading voices in the fields of transformation and spirituality. Kute is an inspiring modern day spiritual teacher and a bold voice for a new generation. He leads transformational journeys to Bali (get more info here).  He also helps women overcome any and all obstacles to love with his “The Man Breakthrough Experience” , the Women’s Seminar.




How to Get to Where You Want to Be

Red poppies and butterfly by Cherie Roe Dirksene

Get With the Program!

Simply put — the Law of Attraction states that like attracts unto itself.  Whatever you think about the most you attract into your experience. Whatever actions you take are reflected back to you in some way (some may want to call this bit ‘karma’).

For those who have been living their lives in a state of ‘whatever’, it’s time to get real and face the consequences of those unconscious creations. Well…only if you want to start living the life spectacular!

I have been practicing this concept for a good few years now and it is REAL. I’ve had my fair share of bumps and droughts along the way. Sometimes I fall off the wagon and sometimes I start to doubt…whenever I do this, my life starts taking on a fruity shape (yup, pear-shaped!).

When I look back into my past and ask ‘what I was thinking?’ — creating such chaos — I soon find that there definitely was a train of thought that led to certain events (albeit undesirable events).

You must take responsibility for what you have created in the past so that you can start creating a better future.

Get Your Good Vibrations Dial Tuned In

We co-create everything in our experience.  Not only through thoughts but through vibration — what we feel.

What we feel sends out a strong signal or frequency and that is mainly what the LOA works with.

It can’t decipher words as such — only the vibration or feeling behind the words.  So, to think that you don’t want something only reiterates that which is unwanted.

Huh?

Are you Holding your Fat Rolls in Discontent?

When you think about losing weight, for instance, you are most likely concentrating on how fat you are not how thin you want to be.  You are probably looking into the mirror holding your fat rolls and sending out a frequency of self-loathing and discontent.

What then happens is the Universe picks up on that which you are thinking about  — the fat and the contempt you have with your body — and sees to it that you receive more.

It’s not a punishment system — the universe is impartial. Think about that for a moment. The universe wants you to have more of what you are focusing on. Focus on better stuff!!!

Choosing From the Cosmic Menu

This is what I know:

  1. We are living in a Universe of abundance.
  2. The Universe holds the building blocks to everything.
  3. The Universe is continuously expanding to our every whim.
  4. There is enough abundance for all.
  5. The Universe is manifesting according to our will but it can only deliver that which it sees as being called into existence by us.
  6. We need to seriously filter our thoughts and emotions in order to project what we want to manifest in our lives — if we don’t do this, we still end up creating our experience through our random, unfiltered thought streams and feelings.

The Taming of the Mind

The first step to creating the life of your dreams is to get real about your ‘head space’.

  • What is going on upstairs?
  • Is it a continuous loop of worried thoughts or random streams of mindless pap?
  • Can you devote some time in your day (only 5-10 minutes is required to get you started) to meditate?

Meditation, in essence, only means sitting still in a quiet area and blanking out your mind.

Not thinking of anything and just being.  You don’t have to sport a lotus position or hum and chant if it does not resonate with you.  Meditation is allowing your self to just exist with no distraction.

If you find it hard to meditate then seek help, guided meditations or classes.  This is a paramount step to decluttering your mind and clearing the way for positive thought streams.

Jump in the Drivers Seat, Take Your Life for a Spin

When you can apply the breaks to your negative thought streams, you are in control.  When you have this capability, you are on your way to manifesting your dreams.

Pick up a glass and toast to your new co-creator abilities!

Related articles: 

Your Momentum Is Critical to the Law of Attraction!

Law of Attraction Challenge: 24 Hours of Happiness

Cherie Roe Dirksen

Cherie Roe Dirksen is a self-empowerment author and multi-media artist from South Africa. To date, she has published 3 self-help and motivational books and brings out weekly inspirational blogs at her site www.cherieroedirksen.com.

Get stuck into finding your passion, purpose and joy by downloading some of those books gratis when you click HERE. Her ambition is to help you to connect with your innate gift of creativity and living the life you came here to experience by taking responsibility for your actions and becoming the co-creator of your reality. You can also follow Cherie on Facebook (The Art of Empowerment).

Cherie posts a new article on CLN every Thursday. To view her articles, click HERE.

 




The Cure for Perfectionism (A Sneaky Name for Self-Judgment!)

Nanice Ellis | Wake Up World

Perfectionism is sneaky – on the surface it sounds like it could be a good thing. After all, what’s wrong with perfection?

It is true that perfectionism is a strategy for success, but when you measure success by your ability to be consistently perfect, success is perpetually out of reach. The strategy of perfectionism, sooner or later, does the opposite of what it was intended to do.

If you look closely you will see that, like a wolf in sheep’s clothes, perfectionism is just another name for self-judgment. In the name of perfection, we give ourselves permission to be self-critical and undermining every time we fall short. Never quite meeting our own standards of perfection, because good is not good enough, we become our own worst enemies. If there is such a thing as perfect, and we believe that we must live up to this unrealistic ideal in order to succeed, we set ourselves up for perpetual disappointment, failure and maybe even depression.

Why perfectionism is a terrible strategy for success…

Perfectionism is a Moving Target: If somehow you do reach the state of perfection, you will likely discover that there are still improvements to make, and what you thought would be perfect is full of unanticipated flaws – which, of course, must be corrected in order to really reach the perfect state. Perfectionism is a moving target, because what is perfect one day, may not be perfect the next. There is always another level, and, always, something more to perfect.

Sorting for Imperfection: Perfectionism makes you notice everything that is not perfect. If you are seeking perfection, you will not see perfection; you will see everything that is not up to par. When we are driven by perfectionism, we develop laser beam focus designed to pinpoint every aspect of imperfection. Even the slightest imperfection will stand out like a sore thumb, and, in fact, that may be all we notice; 99% of our work may be excellent by all standards, but, we only notice that 1% that isn’t. Even a slight imperfection impedes our ability to celebrate our work, and experience fulfillment. In this way, perfectionism is in conflict with peace and happiness. If our results are never good enough, we will never feel the deep satisfaction and joy that comes from a job well-done.

Perfectionism Creates Procrastination: Some might say that perfectionism motivates them to do their best, and this could be true, but, it also generates a tremendous amount of stress and pressure, which can contribute to procrastination. If your goal is perfection, and you criticize yourself for not measuring up, it might be a great deal harder to get started in the first place.

Impeding Inspiration: Inspiration is a result of our connection to Spirit. If we are judging ourselves in the name of perfection, we disconnect from the Source that inspires, cutting ourselves off from any possibility of Divine Perfection. When we are driven by perfectionism, we allow our fragile egos to run the show, and the result is action, or reaction, that is void of real and authentic meaning, and, in our attempt to control the process, or the outcome, we disconnect from the rhythm of the Universe and we block the flow.

Fear of Failure Causes Inhibition: It usually takes going out of your comfort zone in order to create a life that is most fulfilling and joyful, but the need perfection makes that comfort zone even smaller and more limited. Because perfectionism is driven by a fear of failure, if you are afraid to fail, you may avoid taking chances on things involving a learning curve, or that require feedback from experience. This means that you might base your life on the “sure thing” and never realize your potential for innovation and creativity.

Suppression is the Name of the Game: When we believe that anything less than perfect is not worthwhile, we limit our creativity and we suppress what might have been a brilliant work of art. The unfolding years show us that if you are waiting to produce perfection, you will never frame that painting or publish that book. How often do your standards of perfection keep you from expression?

Perfection is Subjective: Who is to say what is perfect anyway? Perfection is subjective, and what is perfect to one person is far from perfect to another. This is especially apparent when it comes to physical beauty. The perfect body in one culture is “too this” or “not enough that” in another. If you live in a culture where you can never be too thin, you might be surprised to find that other cultures consider a more rounded physique to be most desirable. Go to any renaissance museum and you will see that voluptuous women were the preferred subject of art and sculpture, because they were considered the most perfect.

A Matter of Worth: If you look even closer, you will see that there is a huge connection between perfectionism and self-worth. Perfectionism is a strategy to gain a sense of worthiness, but the conditions are usually so high and difficult to meet that the attainment of self-worth never comes. When your sense of worth is entangled with being perfect and/or producing perfect results, you must meet your self-imposed conditions in order to feel worthy. Even if you are able to meet your own standards of perfection, the sense of worth doesn’t last long, and you will need another perfect accomplishment in order to sustain or regain feelings of worth. Perfectionism is often an excuse to beat yourself up.

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How To Deal With Your Fear of the Unknown

Life is full of unexpected surprises.

Success is never a straight line.

There are no guarantees in life.

So the degree to which you can embrace the unknown is the degree to which you are free.

There’s this notion that you have to know where you are going at all times in life. That you must have all the answers for your life.

This is an illusion.

Chances are if you have all the answers for your life, you are not asking big enough questions and aren’t playing a big enough game.

The need to know exactly where we are going often paralyzes so many of us from taking the important first step. Life often reveals itself in the process of living. It can’t be completely figured out all in advance.

And if you look back at your life, most of your very best laid out plans never quite work out how you had originally intended.

The mind is constantly needing to know. To know where it is going. To know what will be. To understand everything logically. Whilst this is useful at times. It has its limits.

Sometimes you can think you know where you are going but in retrospect you really didn’t.

On the other hand, sometimes you think you are lost without any idea but in truth you are more on course than you realize.

We try to know because we want to be in control. And the reality is there is so much of life that is out of our control. There is so much that will never be understood with the mind.

Control is the master addiction. It’s when you surrender and let go of control that you open yourself up to the miracles of life.

Life is a beautiful mystery. Life is not a math problem to be solved, but a beautiful poem to be savored and celebrated.

When you are in the midst of the unknown it can be truly scary, especially if you allow the mind to take over. Most people freak out, and this only leads to you spiraling into worry. It’s totally unproductive.

In the midst of the unknown, breathe and get curious. Trust that there is something more that is seeking to unfold and reveal itself in your life. There is something bigger and better seeking to happen for you. The more you can surrender and stay open, the more you make yourself available to being in the flow.

Often when we don’t know what’s going on, we get afraid and resist the process that is happening. This fear can lead us into frantic action. When you act motivated by fear, you create more situations to be afraid of.

Rather than act from fear, be still and listen to your deeper knowing beyond the mind. If you become quiet, you will hear the intelligence of your soul guiding you. It will show up as intuition.

Your soul has an intelligence beyond the mind. Your soul has the ability to see beyond the physical eyes.

There is a part of you that always knows, if you really listen. Then you act from that deeper knowing and you will be in sync with life.

When you don’t listen and you act from fear, you only create more suffering for yourself and those around you.

So make friends with the unknown and welcome it. Use it as an opportunity to be fully available to life’s unexpected blessings.

What you can be sure of is that no matter what you are going through, the fact that you are going through it means you are ready. So know that there is a reason even if it’s not clear in this moment.

In the midst of the unknown. Don’t panic. Breathe. Center yourself and trust. Reassure yourself. Stay in this present moment.

Don’t fixate on the future and all the things that might happen but haven’t yet. Simply take one step forward focusing on doing what is in your power to do.

Know that the same force that is guiding the universe is guiding you at all times.

Trust your soul.

Trust life.

Love.Now

Kute

Kute BlacksonKute Blackson is an utterly unique visionary in the world of human potential. Unlike those who promise to simply help people “get” what they want, Kute’s life work instead reveals to people what they have to give, by liberating who they are most truly and deeply. The focus: Freedom. Acclaimed worldwide for his life changing, one of a kind, transformational experiences, he is considered one of the leading voices in the fields of transformation and spirituality. Kute is an inspiring modern day spiritual teacher and a bold voice for a new generation. He leads transformational journeys to Bali (get more info here).  He also helps women overcome any and all obstacles to love with his “The Man Breakthrough Experience” , the Women’s Seminar.




The Science of Joy: New Study Finds We Are Hard-Wired To Give & Benefit From Doing So

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By Alexa Erickson | Collective Evolution

Happiness. It’s a loaded word. We are constantly trying to understand it so that we can incorporate it into our lives. We try to define our happiness by all the little things that make up our existence. Does our appearance make us happy? Does our health make us happy? Do we feel fulfilled enough in our jobs to feel happy? Are we in love? Do we have a family? Do these things determine our happiness radar, too? And then, once we mull over these things, we measure just how much each aspect of our lives makes us happy. And then we question if we could be happier. It’s a strange and vicious cycle that, ultimately, has you asking many more questions than simply living from a place of peace.

Related Article: Does Happiness Really Help You Live Longer?

And then, of course, there’s the day-to-day things that give us bursts of immediate happiness. They are so different for each person. It could be as trivial as a bite of chocolate; as easy as curling up on the couch for a movie. Perhaps it’s stepping out for a long and indulgent run, rain or shine, the fresh air smacking you in the face as your blood pumps rapidly throughout your body. Happiness, as we know it, seems like something internal. Until now.

According to leading scientific research, the root of happiness has nothing to do with diving into a bowl of pasta, putting on makeup to enhance your appearance, pumping iron, or even taking advantage of a relaxing movie night. So, while we know that we enjoy external things wholeheartedly, apparently, there’s something much more practical yet surprisingly meaningful to take into consideration.

Related Article: The 3-Day Happiness Adventure: A Simple Guide to Getting Happy Fast

A new study conducted by Canadian psychologists says that our own personal joy is created simply by being nice — not in terms of being respectful or polite, but by bringing out the good in other people through kindness. One of the study’s authors, Lynn Alden, who is a professor of psychology at the University of British Columbia, says that we should focus on being kind to others in a selfless manner, not a selfish one. “It’s more of an attitude change – being alert of things you can do for other people and doing them spontaneously because you want to do them. It has a side effect of making you feel good,” she explains. She continues to say that we are actually “hard-wired” to appreciate others’ happiness.

Related Article: Why Compassion Is Necessary for Your Own Happiness & 3 Ways to Cultivate It

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How To Choose The Right Relationship For You

You attract into your life people that mirror aspects of yourself at that particular time.

You have things to teach and gifts to give each other.

I believe that you also have certain lessons that your souls have agreed to learn and karma to work out together.

Although relationships aren’t always easy, they are amazing vehicles for growth and evolution. Through the mirror of another you get to see, heal and love parts of yourself that you may not have been able to on your own.

Every relationship is going to have it’s challenges. This is not the issue, how you deal with them and with your partner is really the issue.

So much of the pain I see people experience in relationships is because they have chosen the “wrong” person. And it’s our conditioning that causes us to do what we do and choose who we choose.

One of the keys to a healthy fulfilling relationship that works is choosing the right person. (Watch the video above for the 4 key questions)

I believe that much of the pain and frustration in relationship is actually unnecessary. It doesn’t have to be this way.

However, in order to change, you must be conscious and aware, otherwise your unconscious programming will tend to run you and your choices.

Just because you feel what you think is an attraction and chemistry doesn’t mean he/she is the one you should be in a romantic relationship with. In fact, I think that you should actually be extra aware when you feel that irresistible pull or attraction.

We tend to seek out partners who remind us of our caretakers growing up. Many clients of mine have said, “I will never marry anyone like my dad!” Only to find themselves with a man who turns out to be just like their father, even though it may not have seemed that way at first.

Consciously we might look for partners who have positive traits but more often than not, we attract partners that also carry the negative traits of our parents.

Why you might ask?

Unconsciously we try to recreate the conditions of our childhood in order to be able to correct and heal them.

So before you decide to commit to a relationship, use discernment and ask yourself these 4 key questions:

1) Do I trust this person?  Do I trust their heart, intentions and integrity?

Could I trust this person with my life?

If you don’t feel a trust for them, why would you be in a committed relationship?

2) Do I feel I can grow and evolve more by being with this person than on my own? Will this relationship challenge and inspire me to grow and expand into more of who I really am?

If not, then be by yourself.

3) Am I compatible with this person? Are we both going in a similar direction, growing at a similar pace? Would I want to be with this person if I met him/her for the first time today?

If not, question yourself because in order for a relationship to work, compatibility is key.

4) Can I love and accept this person exactly as they are?

If they didn’t change, would I feel ok and at peace?

If you can’t accept who they are now, you are just setting yourself up for pain and suffering in the future.

To have the opportunity to be in relationship with and love another person is a profound gift. It is a privilege.

Choosing someone that isn’t compatible with you and trying to make them be what you want, doesn’t honor you or the other person. Instead choose someone who is already what you want, not someone you need to fix or change.

Life is too short to be unhappy.

Choose wisely.

Choose grace and ease.

Choose love.

Love.Now

Kute

 

Kute BlacksonKute Blackson is an utterly unique visionary in the world of human potential. Unlike those who promise to simply help people “get” what they want, Kute’s life work instead reveals to people what they have to give, by liberating who they are most truly and deeply. The focus: Freedom. Acclaimed worldwide for his life changing, one of a kind, transformational experiences, he is considered one of the leading voices in the fields of transformation and spirituality. Kute is an inspiring modern day spiritual teacher and a bold voice for a new generation. He leads transformational journeys to Bali (get more info here).  He also helps women overcome any and all obstacles to love with his “The Man Breakthrough Experience” , the Women’s Seminar.




The Book that Changed Everything- Farhana Dhalla

You-Are-Perfect-QuoteWe all have a ‘breakthrough book’. The book that shifted the way we saweverything... the way we saw ourselves.

Mine was Conversations with God by Neale Donald Walsch.

A few years ago when my marriage came to an abrupt end, I was able to stand in the crumbling of everything around me because I knew who I was.

I was able to be in the debris and claim bold visions about becoming the grandest expression of myself that I had ever known.

I could do that because the year before I had read the Conversations with God trilogy and nothing was the same for me after that.

Thank goodness.

People everywhere revere this work as that of the messiah. With over 15 million books sold and the amount of hands that each book would pass as people share these treasures makes the reach truly incalculable.

One fellow asked me if I thought Neale was a prophet equal to that of Jesus or Mohammed. He certainly has more followers than any of those did during their time he commented.

Hmm… interesting…

What I know is this…

If Neale heard that, he would cringe.

He would want us to heed the message, not the messenger.

I observed the tendency of people (including my own) who want to put him on a pedestal and when I attended one of his retreats, I observed his artful climb down over and over again.

Neale’s quick wit ensured levity and relaxation… not only in our relationship to him, but in our relationship to the material and most importantly, in our individual relationship with the God of our own understanding.

In refusing to take the pedestal, he does what true spiritual masters do; they remind us of our own divine nature and help unlock our mastery. All the while reminding us that:

You are perfect. No more or less than the next person.
You are deserving. No more or less than the next person.
You are worthy. No more or less than the next person.

These basic truths are sometimes hard for us to really believe.

Remember that TV show from years ago called Touched by an Angel? I remember hearing that it was the most popular show in prison. When it aired you could hear a pin drop from the inmates silence.

I remember wondering why and then I realized, that show offered redemption. In every episode the truth was revealed.

God loves you. As you are.

Guess what one of the most popular books in prison is? Yep, you guessed it, Conversations with God.

It too offers the truth: God loves you. As you are.

And if offers something else:

There is nothing to forgive.
Nothing ‘wrong’ has ever been done.

Woah!

I know it’s a biggie to take in but play along will ya?

Imagine for a moment that there are no victims and there are no villains.

What happens when you do that?

Suddenly everything opens up doesn’t it? And in that space, everything becomes available for interpretation that can only fall into one category… an act of love.

Are you game for a new way of being with your history?

Imagine experiencing a life without bars. Too many of us, incarcerated or not are in a prison of our making. Freedom inside is possible. It’s possible once we remember the true nature of who we already are. Free. All Love and Only Love.

Read Conversations with God. And if you have read it, read it again.

 

Farhana Dhalla 170x200 enhancedFarhana Dhalla is a #1 Best Selling Author, International Life Coach & Speaker, and Creator of the transformational Thank You for Leaving Me Journey. She is the visionary and leader of the enlightened divorce movement and  the ultimate ‘go to’ person for shifting perspective. As a ‘suddenly single mom’ to three small children, she intimately knows the overwhelming fear and pain – -and the liberation of stepping into the highest version of oneself. Check out her free webinar Divorce Is Not Your Fault and connect with her on Twitter and Facebook.




Personal Development Programs Aren’t Working for You? Here’s Why!

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Aimee Serafini is the host of Love Yourself, Love Your Life. She will be interviewing CLN Editor, Vicki Howie Monday, January 4, 2016. Vicki’s talk title is: Discover Your Chakra Type and Unveil Your Personal Path to Prosperity. You can register for free here.

You are reading this because you know your life can be even better, that there is more out there for you, and it’s just a matter of finding or discovering what that is, and releasing any blocks holding you back.

And so you try different techniques and programs from various self-growth experts. But, then most of them don’t seem to work as advertised.

Believe me, I’ve been there too. I am as much a self-growth junkie as anyone!

There are lots of logical things you can blame for your lack of success. Sometimes you are philosophical (it just wasn’t for me), sometimes you blame yourself (I must have done it wrong), sometimes you blame the person who sold you the program (I was duped!), and sometimes you’re fatalistic (nothing works for me).

Listen up. There’s a reason why so many self-growth programs fail to meet your expectations. I read something recently that helped me put my “failures” (and yours) into perspective. It’s from a book by Mike Dooley called The Top Ten Things Dead People Want to Tell You.

Dooley says our self-growth journey is like setting out on a trip to a new destination using a GPS in our car. We drive and make the recommended turns, continually moving towards our target. And 5 miles before we arrive at our destination, we give up due to our impatience. And, then we make excuses for giving up. We say things like:

· “That didn’t work for me.”
· “It works for everyone but me.”
· “I must have done something wrong.”
· “The program doesn’t work.”

We say these when all we needed to do was to just keep following the GPS for a little while longer to get where we wanted to be! But we give up and start driving a different road, hoping the new one will work. After driving for three hours, we again give up. This time we were only 3 miles from our destination. And we do that over and over again.

In cases like this, it seems like something is not working for you, because you never ended up at your destination. But, you just didn’t realize that all you needed to do was to perservere just a short while longer.

My take away from Dooley’s car trip analogy was that everything I do in the direction of where I want to go is useful, and prepares me for the next step I’m about to take. It might not be the final turn where I finally see the flashing lights saying “YOU MADE IT!” But the latest program or technique or book might be the turn just before that. Or maybe I’m still even in the middle of the drive and still have some distance to travel, who knows?

In the meantime, as I just keep driving and acting toward what I want, I just need to trust I’m making the right decisions and when I arrive, it will all make perfect sense.

Most importantly, I need to enjoy the ride: the scenery, the people I meet, and the interesting things I learn along the way.

Most likely, a few weeks or months after I finally “arrive” at my destination, I’ll probably want to go somewhere else anyway! That is, I’ll want to take things to the next level.
So, remember that even if the latest program doesn’t get you “there,” have faith you ARE making the right decisions and it is taking you further on your path. Stick with it and it will all add up.

Aimee Serafini is the host of Love Yourself, Love Your Life, the author of Loving All of Me: Even the Parts I Thought I Had to Hate, a certified Life Coach, and an advocate for women everywhere. She is a devoted traveler (who has backpacked through 50 countries and logged more than 5 years on the road) and a lover of personal growth. An NLP and EFT/Tapping Practitioner, Amy brings heart-felt intention and a whole lot of knowledge to the table as the host of her self-love summit. You can register for it free here.




Does Happiness Really Help You Live Longer?

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By Emiliana R. Simon-Thomas | Greater Good

Will happiness help you to live a long and healthy life?

Decades of studies have suggested the answer is yes, which makes the cultivation of subjective well-being  (a more technical term that researchers often use to talk about human happiness) seem like a matter of life and death. But a new analysis of data from the UK Million Women Study concludes that happiness has no bearing on mortality. The study examined whether electronically-collected survey data about health and happiness, from just under 720,000 women in their 50s and 60s, predicted them dying from any cause within the next 8 to 13 years.

Related Article: The One Decision Every Man Must Make to Live a Happy Life

The conclusions? If you have two people and one of them says they feel happy “most of the time” while the other says “rarely,” neither one is more or less likely to die sooner than the other. Further, the authors argue that lesser-happiness is the result, not a causal factor, in poorer health—and that health problems, regardless of happiness levels, are the real culprit driving differences in mortality. In other words, it doesn’t matter if you’re happy or not, it’s just the luck of the draw of whether you’ll get sick, which will probably make you unhappy, and also kill you sooner.

These data promise to add some nuance to our understanding to how emotions affect our health. But a closer look at the questions the researchers asked—and the nature of their conclusions—reveals that we shouldn’t be so quick to accept that happiness makes no difference to longevity.

What exactly is happiness?

The problem starts with how loosely people in general use the word happiness, and how the authors of this study measured happiness. Indeed, this definitional problem vexes nearly all studies of human happiness.

In the Million Women Study, researchers asked women to rate how frequently they felt happy, from “rarely/never” to “most of the time.” There’s nothing inherently flawed about this question, but it does frame happiness in a particular way—as a finite, repeated experience that occurs day-in-and-day-out, at a different rate for different people. It also relies on peoples’ retrospective assessment of their experiences, which are shaped to prioritize emotional salience both good and bad. This rendering of happiness aligns with a contemporary western cultural notion that happiness is akin to how many times we experience highly arousing personal pleasure on a given day.

Or, to put it in the terms of emotion science, The Million Women Study version of happiness amounts to the sum of felt positive emotions like joy, pleasure, pride, and enthusiasm—emotions that are about gratifying personal desires. In neuroscience terms, these states are signaled principally by the mesolimbic dopaminergic reward system. These do feel good, but evolution has sculpted this system to keep us looking for the next good thing; they don’t last.

Related Article: Is Optimism Actually Beneficial or Harmful?

Why is that a problem? Because theirs is only one among several frameworks for understanding happiness—and it might not be the best one for evaluating its role in health and mortality. Most human languages reveal the origins of happiness as an involuntary state that emerges from luck or fortune. “Hap” is an old German word that means “chance”—think of the implications of other words that involve “hap,” like “hapless,” “perhaps,” or “happenstance.” This linguistic bias might prime us to think about happiness as passively received, lucky pleasure, rather than a product of intention and effort—a bias that’s embedded in the way the Million Woman researchers posed their question to participants, which can easily be read as “How often does happy happen to you?”

The emphasis on chance makes happiness seem rather random and arbitrary. But throughout recorded human history, thinkers have also rejected this way of thinking. According to Aristotle, for example, happiness is best expressed as a life lived with meaning and virtue—a conception that suggests true happiness might involve sacrifice or duty—and not always be a momentarily pleasurable or joyous affair. It also suggests that happiness is something you need to earn.

Recent scientific inquiry suggests that Aristotle may have had a point, as we more and more find that lifetime happiness is entwined with meaningful social connections and a sense of belonging. I recently heard Richard Davidson, Director of the Center for Investigating Healthy Minds at the University of Wisconsin, define the four pillars of well-being as: Optimism, Kindness, Resilience and Awareness. (OKRA, anyone? It’s supposed to be good for you.) He suggests that a lifetime of neuroplasticity enables us to deliberately cultivate and strengthen these characteristics within ourselves in order to be happier.

Related Article: This Simple Practice Can Change Your Life – Gabrielle Bernstein

Davidson’s pillars, you’ll notice, are broader characteristics of a person’s way-of-being in the world, not a measure of how often a person can recall feeling something they’d call happy. Responses might have looked different if the Million Women Study researchers had asked questions like: “I am satisfied with my life” with the option to select “1=Strongly disagree” to “7=Strongly agree,” or “Some people are generally very happy. They enjoy life regardless of what is going on, getting the most out of everything. To what extent does this characterization describe you?”—from “1= not at all” to “7=a great deal.”

These are, in fact, questions selected from Ed Deiner’s Satisfaction With Life Scale, and happiness expert Sonja Lyubomirsky’s Subjective Happiness Scale; both of these research-validated scales have been shown to predict longevity in populations from all over the world in various states of illness and health.

There’s another issue with the questions that Diener, Lyubomirsky, and Sarah D. Pressman highlighted yesterday in an op-ed for the LA Times:

The happiness question was the 306th item in a 316-item survey. After answering so many questions about medications, diet and health history, a respondent might be a lot less happy than when she started, and a lot less cooperative. In fact, about 400,000 women in the Million Women Study apparently quit before reaching this question.

This fact considerably weakens the authority of the study’s conclusions about happiness!

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A Quantum Prayer of Manifestation for Peace

By Robert O’Leary

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I have previously posted some of the recent healing transmissions of Karma Singh. The first had to do with the subject of “do what you really want to [do]” and the other had to do with, as he puts it, “tak[ing] the air out of the warmongers’ sails.” If you didn’t catch them the first time, please check them out at the following links: www.hecrl.com/mpe and www.hecrl.com/fp respectively.

What I like about Karma Singh’s transmissions, which I have been following now for several years, is that they acknowledge the power within all of us to make positive change. Karma Singh has made many healing transmissions aimed at physical health conditions encumbering any of us, but he also takes time to make such transmissions to attempt to address such issues as GMO’s Fukushima Radiation, Chemtrails, Electrosmog, and poverty. Karma Singh is not afraid to look behind the veil to see that these issues source from certain individuals and interests who take advantage of their positions of power to harm and endanger most of the world’s inhabitants.
The awakened among us know who he is talking about, but choose to limit the scope of our tactics and opposition. This is to say that the concrete, Newtonian minds around us will only acknowledge the importance of action and activism of a concrete nature. On the other hand, more and more of us are acknowledging the potential of what I would call quantum activism. In my view, both Newtonian and Quantum methods are important. I have no doubt that activism on the ground and online can make a huge difference for positive change. Often this amounts to embarrassing world decision makers into doing the right thing or causing them to do the right thing out of fear of being unelected.
Yet, why would we not utilize every strategy possible when the fate of our future is at stake. While our concrete-minded friends will be tempted to dismiss all of this as too touchy feely for them, one need look no further than the Maharishi Effect for a good reason to give this a try. Source: “Maharishi Effect” This experiment has been used repeatedly to substantially reduce violence and crime rates, in various places, by instructing trained practitioners in transcendental meditation techniques to feel “peace” in their bodies.
In these experiments, it was determined that the square root of 1 % of the population could cause such a change. As of July 1, 2015, our world human population consisted of 7.349 billion people Source: “Current World Population” https://www.worldometers.info/world-population/  That means that a mere 8,572 people, thinking the same thought of peace at the same time could, effectuate meaningful change across the world [i.e., 7,349,000,000 * .01 = 73,490,000; the square root of which is 8,572.73]. Arguably, this could be used to address all of our other world challenges.

I would surmise that the readers of Conscious Life News, themselves, are well-meaning, conscientious, and plentiful enough to do this on their own – given the opportunity.

In that vein, Karma Singh has added a manifestation to supplement the above healing transmissions and thereby effect further change in support of the  above transmissions. It is as follows:

The Text:
I now lay my hand in peace upon all places and peoples where strife is aborning.
Everyone’s will for peace conquers and governs each new day.
The Vision:
All people everywhere raise their heads and clearly see that all wars, all strife, all jealousy and all resentment are solely imposed manipulations of a self-named “elite” which work exclusively to their benefit and advantage.
Everyone spontaneously decides to lay down their weapons, their anger, their hate and their jealousy and all smile at each other.
The Feelings:
Peace, thankfulness, relief and happiness.
It will be helpful to return to this article when you can during the coming days and read the text, visualize the vision and feel the feelings as shown above. Alternatively, you can print our the article or at least the manifestation, itself, and tape it up in a prominent place during the day so that you can do it. You can even send or hand it out to family and friends that may be willing to help.
The more people that participate with us in these efforts the better. If you want to learn more about this kind of manifestation technique, please check out Karma Singh’s “The Key to Luck” (previously entitled “The Anatomy of Luck”), at the following link:  www.thekeytoluck.com
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Robert O’Leary, JD BARA, has had an abiding interest in alternative health products & modalities since the early 1970’s & he has seen how they have made people go from lacking health to vibrant health. He became an attorney, singer-songwriter, martial artist & father along the way and brings that experience to his practice as a BioAcoustic Soundhealth Practitioner, under the tutelage of the award-winning founder of BioAcoustic Biology, Sharry Edwards, whose Institute of BioAcoustic Biology has now been serving clients for 30 years with a non-invasive & safe integrative modality that supports the body’s ability to self-heal using the power of the human voice. Robert brings this modality to serve clients in Greater Springfield (MA), New England & “virtually” the world, with his website, www.romayasoundhealthandbeauty.com. He can also be reached at romayasoundhealthandbeauty@gmail.com.




What to Expect From Your Everyday Expectations

The greatest thing I have ever learned in my life (dare I say, remembered…) is that everything is energy. And with that knowledge that SO awesomely is pretty main stream these days; we also know that nothing is truly solid. Matter only appears unmoving and compact, but on a molecular level we are now fully aware that the majority of our composition, of everything’s composition is pure, cosmic, universal energy.

The realms

We have so many different ways to get this energy moving in all of the realms, planes, etc. that reside within our 3 dimensional world of existence we call “Earth”; (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and etheric) and many methods of transporting this energy in motion…

In the physical realm we could get up off our chair and talk a way outside. Our muscles, blood vessels, and even the air around our bodies would be methods of transportation. We could simply observe birds in a tree. Our optical nerves and eyes would be the vehicles for the energy in this case. This is manifesting and moving energy in the physical world.

In the mental realm we could start planning tomorrow’s schedule on our mind’s mental chalkboard, and in this case our thoughts and intentions are the vehicles. We could think about someone we love and think amazing thoughts about a speedy recovery for a neighbor down the street. Again our thoughts, but also our virtues of love and compassion become the containers here. This is manifesting and moving energy in the mental world.

In the emotional realm obviously our feelings are the transporters and how we react to them would be the release or containment of that particular energy. We could shout at someone getting on our nerves or we could choose to be patient; either way we are moving energy. And this is manifesting in the emotional realm.

In the spiritual realm our magnetic heart space energy would be at play here. This is the good stuff that when you move it, it moves you right back in all the right places. There’s no wrong way to connect to it when in your heart space, in fact that is the only way you can. That doesn’t mean this energy is not heavy and dark at times for that is often where our greatest growth and lessons leading to the light reside. This is manifesting and moving energy in the spiritual realm.

In the etheric realm of the aura field, this is where energy tends to “hang out” if we aren’t actively moving it in the other worlds of our very own human existence. This is why it’s very important to regularly clear your aura (simple aura sweep) and to always brush your aura after an energy healing session to move any residual energy hanging around.

So, what does moving energy have to do with our expectations? Much more than you might imagine. I wanted to set the groundwork for you to imagine all of the different ways you are putting yourself out there to the world each and every day and all the millions of different ways that you can manifest in any given moment. All of the realms are giving you clues to how well you are managing your life and perhaps the simplest one to use to check in with yourself is to ask, “Am I happy?” If you are, you shouldn’t have to ask that question, but let’s play along here.

If you can honestly say you are happy then there’s an awesome chance that your expectation level is on par with how much you are willing to contribute to your OWN happiness! TA-DA! Isn’t that crazy how that works? 🙂

We sometimes take for granted those around us whether it be family, friends, new friends, colleagues, partners, spouses, kids, etc. Over time, we seem to have this idea in our heads of who they are and what to expect from them on a daily basis. If they show up a little differently one day, we might tend to get uncomfortable and judge them (hopefully that’s not the case, but hey it happens). We might try to mold them into something WE want them to be, rather than just letting them be. And lastly, we might presume we stand at a certain point in their lives, but it’s always wise to check and make sure that point wasn’t self-appointed to avoid any hurt feelings later on.

Expectations can be healthy when they come to holding yourself accountable for going after something you want. They can also be healthy when certain boundaries have been set among people and all parties lie in agreement. They can all expect of one another to honor the agreement.

But what about when there is no agreement and we put expectations on people anyway? I truly believe that set expectations that are not talked about are the number one causes of misunderstandings in all relationships. If you expect someone else to do something for you simply because of a story you are telling yourself in your head (mental realm manifestation lol), then you cannot get upset and offended when they tell you “no”. Well, you can get offended all you want, but we all know that doesn’t make it right, right?

In this case, you can expect people to question your motives, push back, and explain their stance and take on the situation. From there, it’s on you if you want to respect their reaction and understand where it came from, or if you want to ignore it. Each choice tells it’s own story, but luckily free will allows each party their own perceptions.

I think too often social conditioning has us believing that things have to be “this way” or “that way” and fit nicely into a certain box or it gets tossed out. I have always lived my life another way and people either love or hate that about me. I am the type of person where if you put an expectation onto me, where it’s something that is not honoring yourself, I most definitely will push back and challenge you to handle it yourself. Most would not see the love in that lesson, but a few special friends of mine have and continue to walk this journey with me. 🙂

Regardless, I am guilty of having my own expectations. I expect the best from people. But not for them to give ME their best, but rather to give THEMSELVES their best! I’m too busy giving myself MY best; I don’t have time to take offense to words or actions I may have misunderstood. I am just seeing levels of awareness and growth now in people instead of “rudeness” and if the fire gets too hot I simply love from afar instead. And man, how peaceful my world has become…

I EXPECT you all to have an amazing weekend! 😉 Much love… XOXO

 

tamaraTamara Rant is a Co-Editor/Writer for CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, heart-centered Graphic Designer and a progressive voice in social media activism & awareness. She is an avid lover of all things Quantum Physics and Spirituality. Connect with Tamara by visiting Prana Paws/Healing Hearts Reiki or go to RantDesignMedia.com

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