The Matrix of Conformity – Top 9 Traps for Today’s Youth

Dylan Charles | Wakingtimes 

matrix-More than ever our world needs a new generation of youthful and caring people capable of comprehending the problems we face, while maintaining the clarity of mind and compassion needed to seek and find creative solutions to this morass. For this, our youth need to be healthy, energetic, and free from the myriad traps that our society offers today.

Our young people should be given every opportunity to lead healthy, free, and prosperous lives in our earthly world of abundance, yet the opposite is unfortunately the case in these times, as government grows beyond control, our health is assaulted at every turn, and predatory schemes of all types target us to entrap us in false belief systems and destructive cultural paradigms, such as the wanton materialism and greed that surrounds us.

The broad message to young people nowadays is to conform and submit to norms and phony authority rather than to develop personal integrity, personal liberty and true happiness. Society beckons our youth to imitate others, to compete with others for no end, to pick a team and stay with them till the bitter end, and to neglect the most important virtues in life like spirituality, intellect and compassion.

Leadership for our youth is needed now more than ever, but the wisdom of older generations is rarely coveted as tool for development for the youth. To right this in some degree, here is a comprehensive list of conformitytraps for today’s youth, to help them more easily identify some of pitfalls that lie between them and true success and happiness on their journey to maturity.

1. Debt – Debt is the modern form of the slavery of old. The amount of debt in America alone is staggering, and unfortunately the next few younger generations will feel the brunt of this impending disaster. There really is no way for an individual to mitigate the public debt incurred just by being born a US citizen, and right now, each American already owes something between $50,000 and $200,000 to the national debt, depending on how this is calculated. However, personal debt is within the control of the individual and stands as one of the most freedom-limiting and stress-inducing aspects of modern life.

Our predatory lending system deliberately targets young people at an early age to purchase anything and everything with easy credit and credit cards, and there is tremendous peer pressure to live a fabulously materialistic lifestyle. In addition to credit card debt, the amount of debt that young people take on to participate in college is exorbitant, and this system is intrinsically designed to generate heaps of profit for the banking system and the US government, and it unnecessarily saddles young people with life long financial commitments that can weigh them down for decades.

There are many free and affordable options for gaining a higher education nowadays, and with consideration and commitment it is perfectly possible for young people to live an enjoyable life without dependence on credit cards.

2. Materialism and Consumerism – Made possible by access to easy credit and triggered by a predatory marketing infrastructure, one of the greatest conformity traps for young people today is the encouragement to develop a lifestyle centered around the purchasing of goods that people don’t even need to survive. Often, the drive for materialism is born of an encouraged psychological condition that both creates unhappiness while covering up unhappiness. It is a road to nowhere, and the feelings of liberty that come from maintaining fewer material possessions is one of the truest and most attainable forms of liberty today.

Rejecting the consumptive and materialistic patterns that govern modern society is a keen habit to develop so that one can truly discover who they are and what their role is in this world.

3. Addiction to Drugs and Alcohol – Our culture strongly encourages people, especially our youth, to conform to a lifestyle centered around drinking, drug use, and ‘partying.’ While this certainly might be fun to a degree, there is tremendous pressure for young people to assimilate these rituals as lifelong habits, which can shamefully trap a person at an early age, and prohibit opportunities and good health later in life. Furthermore, this is an assault on positive mental and physical health, meaning that over-indulgence early on in life can cause serious health and psychological issues later on. Moderation has become a four letter word in our world, but should be developed at an early age so that one can live in balance with the social pressures we all face.

4. Hyper/Over Sexuality – Primarily a design of the marketing industry which sprang up in the early part of the 20th century as part of a push towards mass-consumerism, our culture is ridiculously overly sexualized and pornographic. Marketers and psychologists realized that sex and sexual images are the number one way to trigger false desires within a person to inspire them to desire needless material objects.

This problem continues to get worse with our insane mainstream media who ceaselessly produces shallow images of lust and hyper-sexuality that chip away at a young person’s self image and esteem, encouraging them to objectify others and allow themselves to be objectified by others. Life shouldn’t be this way, and sex and the human body should be treated with dignity and respect, both qualities that must be nurtured as a person matures to adulthood.

Recognizing the blatant effort to over-sexualize marketing and entertainment at an early age can give someone the opportunity to view these cultural pressures with skepticism and caution, preventing them from getting trap in shallow trap of hyper-sexualization.

5. Mediocrity – We have, sadly, become a nation of the mediocre, and the idea of American ingenuity and exceptionalism has been completely hollowed out. Young people are encouraged to fit in and conform to what others are doing, too often in resulting the over-achievement of the lowest common denominator, which is typically a sincere focus on base desires rather than on the development of virtuous qualities that bring opportunity. Entertainment based living has become the norm and now mediocrity in effort, mediocrity in ambition, and mediocrity in expectation are contributing to severe cultural decline. Human beings are capable of so much and to conform to mediocrity is to miss out discovering one’s true potential in life.

6. Corporate Work Slaves – The education system we have was designed by industrialists and social engineers to produce people who are more suited to be workers than free-thinkers and revolutionaries. More than ever, Westerners live meaningless lives of servitude to corporations, often performing mind-numbing and redundant jobs on an oppressive schedule without ever growing to know what true happiness and fulfillment really is.

Due to the economic stranglehold that a corrupt baking and monetary system has on our society, many people think that the only option they have in life is to get whatever job they can obtain, all too often forgoing self-examination, spiritual cultivation and worldly experience in favor of the false sense of security offered by corporate America. A life of corporate work is not exactly a life of service, and young people should instead be encouraged to set out on a path of self-discovery in search of creative inspiration rather than a mediocre life of commitment to robotic corporate work. The rat race is failing us all while keeping us boxed into the addictive consumer mindset that has dangerous ecological repercussions. Rather than being encouraged to ‘get a job’ people would be better suited to first figure out what they are good at and love, then pursue education and training based on the contribution they’d like to make to the world.

Not all jobs are bad, of course, but the societal design of pushing young people to be part of a frivolous workforce in order to contribute to an overly consumeristic and unhealthy society should be recognized for what it is, a subtle form of slavery.

7. Poor Health & Medical Dependence – The standard American diet and lifestyle breeds stress, disease, unhappiness and dependence on a corrupt health system and pharmaceutical companies to cope. Advertising and marketing are aimed at turning people into unhealthy dependents, but young people should instead be encouraged to care for and strengthen their bodies and minds rather than waste away in sedentary lifestyles consuming toxic poisons instead of real food. Habits are set an early age, and the sooner a person can adopt the habits that breed good health and a positive mental attitude, the happier and more enjoyable their lives will be in the short and long run.

8. Contemporary Consciousness – Human physiology supports amazing potential for consciousness and elevated perspectives. However, and without question, there is a war on consciousness right now that seeks to limit a person’s perception of what life can and should be about. This trap is set by government/corporate propaganda and Draconian laws, is reinforced by the psychological warfare that is mainstream media, and is traditionally looked over by tired religions and aging dogmatic assertions that grant phony authority to anyone who joins an agency or organization that issues fancy uniforms.

By seizing control of the mind and one’s consciousness, and learning to protect one’s self from unseen negative influences, young people can set themselves on an enlightening path that will forever offer solace and reward, preventing them from becoming prey to the conformist fear-mongering that defines modern Western culture.

9. Social Conformity – By far the most insidious conformist trap that keeps young people from developing to their full potential is the pressure that we as individuals put on each other. Seemingly a natural feature of the human psyche, people fear being different from other people more than anything else. This type of conformity has us policing each other on behalf of organizations that betray us all, and is the primary source of dangerous group-think. In these interesting times, when humankind seems to be determined to snuff itself out with its own stupidity, developing the self-confidence and assuredness to think beyond the box should be our most prized virtue.


Upon reflection, it is easy to see how all of these traps are all inter-related and part of a broader matrix of conformity that has the Western world locked in self-destructive patterns and harmful cultural traditions. The youth of today are the world of tomorrow, and it is sad to see so many destructive influences clouding their judgement and confusing their worldview at a time when such tremendous positive energy is needed to bring about a major shift in human evolution.

Perhaps pre-consideration of the conformist pitfalls built in today’s society may assist some in steering clear of the traps that so many of us have fallen in.

About the Author

Dylan Charles is a student and teacher of Shaolin Kung Fu, Tai Chi and Qi Gong, a practitioner of Yoga and Taoist esoteric arts, and an activist and idealist passionately engaged in the struggle for a more sustainable and just world for future generations. He is the editor of WakingTimes.com, the proprietor of OffgridOutpost.com, a grateful father and a man who seeks to enlighten others with the power of inspiring information and action. His remarkable journey of self-transformation is a testament to the power of the will and the persistence of the human spirit. He may be contacted at wakingtimes@gmail.com.

Disclaimer: This article is not intended to provide medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Views expressed here do not necessarily reflect those of WakingTimes or its staff.

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Removing the Veil

FLickr-Nebula-NASA-GoddardDr. Stewart Bitkoff
Waking Times

“You yourself are under your own veil.” -Hafiz

Q:  I have been traveling the road to higher consciousness for many years and it has been a long hard journey. Fortunately there have been occasional Divine Breezes along the way, but I cannot say I feel any closer to God for my efforts. Also, sometimes traveling gets so lonely and I wish I had someone to talk to about this struggle; can you help me understand, why the difficulty and mystery?

Earth Phase: Physical & Spiritual 

“The lower self prevents you from remembering God.” -Traditional

In the spiritual journey, each traveler is both question and answer; goal and door which blocks the way. That is the Design, or earth phase, that we have immersed our self in; one of physicality and spirituality. This duality of knowing and not knowing; seeking and finding are one of the universal laws of our earth experience. Yet beyond this duality of knowing and not knowing, is the first universal law: Oneness of Creation.  For you see, knowing and not knowing while at polar opposites are both part of the One; this Oneness may be experienced in spiritual states like the Beloved’s Caress or Oneness of Creation experience.  These are sublime experiences and many seek to repeat these states over and over; yet, when thinking and working this way, they miss the point of the journey

One day, I asked my teacher; why this struggle? Why this struggle between the ego (daily consciousness/lower self) and the wisdom of our heart (continual awareness of God).  Wouldn’t it simplify things if we were all born being continually aware of the Divine?

He answered, the ego serves as a boundary between this world and the next. Without the ego, we would all be lost, absorbed in the splendor of God and of no use in this earthly life. This journey is much more than being continually absorbed in God; the journey is about serving others as God’s Servant. Added spiritual capacity is necessary for specific tasks and functions; these are a tool to manifest something Higher.

Manifesting the Real

In order for that which is hidden behind the veil of our daily awareness, to be revealed, 2 processes must be at work. And the outcome of both of these processes is always dependent upon Grace; because in this endeavor, ‘love is never earned it is bestowed.’

Quieting the Lower Self/Ego. The first process involves working on and refining our worldly consciousness or what has traditionally been termed ‘the ego.’ Often our worldly consciousness (lower self) blocks the higher consciousness with its concern for our physical, emotional and intellectual well being. We are multi-level beings and to fully enjoy and participate in this earthly experience, there are many stimuli, thoughts and experiences which are necessary for daily life. So, in this journey, of both physicality and spirituality, the traveler must learn to still and quiet the lower self; in order to allow that which is deeply hidden to manifest.

Often this stilling or quieting of thought, for a time, involves unlearning many things, examining how our consciousness operates and practicing techniques designed to still the lower self. Stilling the lower self is much different than destroying it; this aspect of consciousness, because it is very complex, as indicated, is needed to function in the world. Typically we cannot not have a thought, but can learn how not to act on it and minimize its effect on our total consciousness.  This pushing aside by quieting, temporarily, for most travelers takes much work and guidance by another.

Awakening of Spiritual Centers. The second process involves awakening our inner spiritual centers (or chakras) which must be done gradually and in a certain order.  This awakening of our spiritual centers can be done while the traveler is learning how to still troubling thoughts which create noise in the consciousness. This stimulating of spiritual centers is often accomplished through exercises, guidance of one of the teachers and the Grace& Mercy of God.

When the traveler is ready, spiritual centers can be awakened or activated by the Light at any time or place. It is a question of readiness and the process has been termed organic and part of a natural maturation.

Enlightenment & Misconceptions

When done correctly, adding of spiritual capacity is accomplished gradually so it does not disrupt others portions of a traveler’s life.  This adding of ability is mysterious to most travelers, because they have limited exposure to this learning structure, further outcomes and processes are rarely discussed.  Often this structure cannot be accurately put in words, it is multi-level; and because few have limited exposure to what is actually required and how this is being done, there are many misconceptions and resultant frustrations.

Typically most travelers view this developmental process like other learning situations in their lives. For example, look I have read all the books, said my prayers, given money to charity and talked to every ‘teacher’ I could find. I have been at this activity now for 4 years and worked very hard; certainly if I was going to high school or college I would have my diploma. Yet mystical states elude me, I still get anxious and worried and I certainly don’t feel God/Light aglow in my heart when the kids start fighting and screaming.

Enlightenment, or added spiritual capacity, typically occurs within the ordinary human personality. Enlightenment involves bringing forward latent spiritual skills and capacity to operate alongside all our other skills and capacities. This coming forward is additional capacity that we consciously use to serve the situation and Higher Destiny.  Typically, this ability is not for oneself but to help others and the majority of work to enable this function involves removing from consciousness, for a time, those thoughts, ideas and hidden motives which stand in our way.

Measuring Outcomes

I remember one day, I asked my teacher, look I’ve been at this spiritual study stuff now for 3 years and really don’t feel anything is happening. How do I know I am progressing? With a smile on his face and a kind voice, he offered, “do you think about God now more than you did before coming to see me?”

And of course my answer was, ‘yes.’  However I was looking for outcomes of a different sort: reading minds, knowing the future, being God’s BFF and living in peaceful harmony. Because of my expectations, I had created my own frustrations.

Strangers & Loneliness

One of the technical terms for the followers of the Path, is that travelers are ‘strangers.’  Strangers to themselves and others, yearning for something they cannot define and must find.  Each traveler has an unsettling awareness that they don’t quite fit into the world as most people define it, and for a time may be unclear what the inner unease and burning is about.

If you find yourself on the long road and it is raining and dark, to ease your pain, consider the following.

  • Talk to God/Light. Tell God how you are feeling and what you need. God is inside all of us and listens to all our prayers. Tell God what you want and need, and in time, as God Wills, it will be Given to you. “Remember, if you take one step toward God, God will take ten steps toward you.’
  • Call a friend and find out how they are doing. Share your feelings and experience.
  • Help another. Reach out and assist someone who is having a difficult time.
  • Get-up, do something physical that is fun or helps another. Get out of yourself. A healthy mind and body thrives on activity.
  • If you need the company of like minded believers, reach out and contact one of the many organizations set-up for this purpose. Remember be careful in your choices, there are many who would take from you.
  • Ask the Universe for whatever you need. You are the son/daughter of a King and this has been promised to you.

Just because you do not see a thing
It doesn’t mean it ceases to exist.
The sun also shines in the night.
-A. Hussain

About the Author

Dr. Stewart Bitkoff, spiritual traveler, poet, is a student of Sufi Mysticism and the perennial philosophy. Professionally specializing in the healing applications of therapeutic recreation, psychiatric rehabilitation and mental health treatment; he holds a doctorate in education and served on the faculties of multiple colleges and universities.

Stewart is also the author of Sufism for the Western Seekerpublished in 2011, was nominated by ‘Foreword Magazine’ for Adult Non Fiction Religious Book of Year Book of the Year Award, placing 4th (honorable mention) and is a must read, as well as The Ferryman’s Dream. Both books are also in Kindle format and available on Amazon.com or local bookstore.

Register for an upcoming retreat weekend with  Dr. Steward Bitkoff atop Bangor Mountain, in the beautiful Pocono Mountains, Kirkridge Retreat Center on Sufism & Enlightenment, May 30- June I, 2014. For information is available here: https://kirkridge.org/programs/upcoming-programs/ – click on Detailed Information for full program highlights.

For more information about the author, please visit www.stewartbitkoff.com, and if you are interested in learning more about universal mysticism and Sufism contact: drbitkoff@yahoo.com.

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How Rewarding Is Love? Some Clues from Neuroscience

Dr. Judson Brewer | huffingtonpost.com 

What do those butterflies in your stomach feel like when you lean in for your first kiss? Good enough to go in for a second one?

Neuroscientists and psychologists have been trying to unpack the various components of love for decades. For example, a few years ago, two research groups studied the brain activity of individuals reporting to be ‘truly, deeply and madly in love’ while they viewed pictures of their loved ones. [1, 2] Both studies found that reward-based brain regions were activated, and concluded that this activation of reward circuitry may explain “the power of love to motivate and exhilarate.” [3] Stanford University took this a step farther and sponsored “The Love Competition,” in which they scanned peoples’ brains while they were “loving on” their special someone to see who could activate these reward centers the most.

From an evolutionary standpoint, this type of love makes sense. Without it, propagation of the human species might not go so well. From a practical standpoint, when it comes to forming relationships, this is the same type of circuitry that we use to learn a variety of things, including what food is safe to eat and which people to avoid. And from an experiential standpoint, it usually doesn’t get much better than being head-over-heels in love. Or does it?

Think back to the last time you began a romantic relationship. Suddenly, you were full of energy; life seemed wonderful. You’d go on and on about how amazing your special person was to anyone who would listen. You couldn’t get that person out of your head. And you couldn’t wait for that next text, phone call or date. Your friends may have even said that you were addicted to this person. This makes sense, given that the reward circuitry associated with love is the same as that which gets activated when we smoke crack cocaine.

In a TED talk, Helen Fisher summed it up nicely: “romantic love is one of the most addictive substances on earth.”

This also fits with the irritability that comes when your special someone doesn’t call you when he or she says they would, or the funk that you go into when that person is away for several days. All the highs and lows of being in love are just like being strung out on heroin. How great is this?

Now, contrast this to the type of love demonstrated by folks like Mother Theresa or The Dalai Lama. Described by Christians as agape or ‘selfless,’ this type of love seems a bit different. There aren’t records of Mother Theresa getting mad crushes and spending her days daydreaming about that perfect someone. We don’t see the Dalai Lama going into a funk when someone doesn’t reciprocate his affections (a good example here is his relationship with the Chinese government). He seems pretty content –all the time.

Not caught up in the personal highs and lows of romance, people like Mother Theresa and the Dalai Lama have a track record of getting a lot of work done — for the benefit of many, many people.

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How to Discover and Live Your Purpose

Cassandra Sturdy, Conscious Living Editor

what+is+my+life+purpose2Are you frustrated by the system? Do you realise you’re here for something more, but you’re not quite sure what or how to tap into it? Perhaps you’d like a meaningful career that allows you to do your bit for the global shift in consciousness, whilst being financially rewarded for it too?

Deep down, many of us know there’s something special we’re here to do. Whether you want to call it your purpose, your passion, your bliss or your soul’s task… it’s much more than a career or a job you enjoy; it’s your life’s work.

It’s that mission or project that inspires you. It’s the work you feel called to do. It’s the role that you and only you alone can do, based upon your unique journey through life, what you’ve learnt and the obstacles you’ve overcome.

how to discover your purposeIndeed. When you discover what your purpose is and start working towards it every day, your life becomes infused with meaning; you feel happy that you’re expressing you’re true self and deeply fulfilled that you’re living authentically.

So what is a purpose?

It’s believed by some shamans, mystics and healers that before we’re born, we meet with our spirit guides and decide what we’d like to tackle next as part of our overall ascension. We then choose a family and life circumstances that give us the best chance of carrying this out.

That’s right, we choose our families and life circumstances. Some people find this difficult to believe… our life circumstances and families often don’t feel all that supportive. Yet it’s precisely these energies that are required to give us the necessary learnings and experiences we need in order to carry out our purpose. As we move through life, we continue to attract situations and people like this, provided we remain aware and take action accordingly.

So how do you live your purpose?

The simplest way to understand the process of living your purpose is to think of it in two phases. I call these phases initiation and leadership.

living your purpose-1Phase One – Initiation

The first phase involves a somewhat challenging process of initiation, in which you awaken to the possibilities of who you are and master certain skills, insights and understandings.

This phase isn’t easy, and many people experience doubts, frustrations and setbacks, spending lots of time wondering if they are really meant to be living their purpose at all, or if they should just stick to an easy job in the system.

The trick is to take one step at a time and keep going. Nothing worth having in life comes easy, and as you undergo this initiation phase, the universe will give you everything you need to raise your vibration and transform into the person who can carry out the second phase.

Phase Two – Leadership

The second phase of living your purpose is where you apply what you’ve learnt and who you’ve become during the first phase to give back to the world. This role is unique to everyone. Whether you become some sort of leader, activist, social or spiritual entrepreneur, artist, teacher, coach, guide, practitioner… the second phase of living your purpose will be a fully self-expressive role and suited to your particular personality.

Like the first phase, the second phase of living your purpose comes with its own set of challenges. You’ll go through a gradual process of learning and refinement, but you will be well equipped to manage this, and if you remember that the entire process of living your purpose is really one of spiritual evolution, you’ll find a way to keep going, even in the trickiest of times.

what+is+my+life+purposeSo how do you discover what your purpose is?

At some level, you already know what your purpose is. The following questions will help you get more clarity. I’ve used them quite successfully with of all my clients over the years who have wanted to clarify their purpose and I highly recommend that you invest 45-minutes today to do this important self-discovery work.


Simply grab a pen and paper, spend three minutes answering each question in turn and write down as much as you can during that time. Trust your intuition and have fun. If you get stuck and would like further help, please email me at: cassandra@consciouslifenews.com

Questions to help you discover your purpose

1. What do you enjoy learning about and what are you interested in?

2. What types of books, magazines, documentaries and websites do you like to read, watch and engage with?

3. What groups, clubs or organisations are you a member of?

4. What ideas and topics do you enjoy thinking about?

5. When you were younger, what did you like pretending to be in games that you played and why?

6. If you had all the money you’d ever need, what would you still do for free?

7. What are your skills and what are you particularly good at?

8. Which question do you spend lots of time reflecting on or thinking about? Or if there was one question, what might it be? For example: How can I be happy? How can I raise my consciousness? How can I stand in my power? How can I uncover the truth? Tweak it until it feels right and resonates with you.

9. What message would you most like to share with the world?

10. How can you best give back to the world and help make it a better place?

11. Reflecting on all your answers, what might your purpose be?

12. What might the first phase (initiation) of your purpose involve?

13. What might the second phase (leadership) of your purpose involve?

14. What are you going to commit to doing now as a result of this?

Well done. Hopefully you’ve now got more clarity on what your purpose is. If you’re still unsure and would like some help, please send me an email and I’d be happy to help you clarify it further.


Living your purpose isn’t easy and it doesn’t happen overnight. I’ve been living mine for several years and it’s still incredibly challenging. But for all of that, nothing comes close to the sense of reward I get from being able to do what I’m most passionate about every day. I love being able to walk my own path through life, doing work that inspires me and that I believe helps makes the world a better place. If everyone on this planet took this approach, imagine how different life could be. So without further ado, I’d like to suggest that you discover and start living your purpose today. Namaste.

spiritual-awakening-global-awakening-movementAbout the Author

Cassandra Sturdy is Conscious Living Editor for Conscious Life News. She is an author and transformational coach who helps people discover their purpose, break free from the system and do their bit for the global shift in consciousness. You can get a FREE no-obligation consultation with Cassandra here, plus a FREE a copy of her debut spiritual awakening novel here. You can also connect with Cassandra on facebook.

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Eckhart Tolle TV: How Can I Find Work That Will Give Me Joy?


Eckhart Tolle answers this question:

I’ve been working for thirteen years in office and I feel that my job is boring and useless.  I learned to surrender, but I’d like to change my job but don’t know where to apply. How can I find out what will give me joy and happiness and a feeling of meaningfulness?

Coming Up on CLN Radio: Geoengineering, One Mind, The Bond and More!

Programming Note: Our normally scheduled interview for Wednesday, February 12th will air on Monday, February 17th due to travel and interviews on-location at the Conscious Life Expo in Los Angeles.


On location in Los Angeles at the Conscious Life Expo February 8, 2014

Alexis Brooks recently sat down with Dane Wigington, George Barnes and Dr. Doug Levine to discuss the implications of Geoengineering and what we can all do to address this massive assault!

Here are some highlights from the discussion:

According to researcher and solar engineer, Dane Wigington, there is no natural weather anymore!  So what is going on?  By best estimates, Geoengineering, the artificial manipulation of our global climate has been happening for sixty plus years and has created a total disruption of our weather system.

In this candid and sobering discussion, we talk about the global distraction that keep the masses in survival mode which has greatly reduced our ability to be aware of our surroundings, including and especially what is going on in our skies.

Learn how commercial photographer and creator of the documentary film Look Up, George Barnes noticed odd patterns when observing time lapse photography that led him to discover that something “not natural” was taking place!

Find out why  aircraft can leave blank lines (or voids) in some cloud cover.

Are heavy metals like aluminum directly affecting our cognitive abilities?

What is the connection between strong spikes in obesity, autism, Alzheimer’s and even cancer?

What is initiating the wide swings in temperature fluctuation like the well documented snow fall in Amarillo,  TX  in May of 2013 just after a record setting temperature of nearly 100 degrees?

The implications of a sustained weather modification program are huge and they affect each and every one of us!  But what can we do?  Answer: A lot!  Find out what you can do to address this issue and begin the process of putting a stop to this assault.  Stay tuned.  We’ll be airing this Conscious Inquiry Radio exclusive on Monday, February 17th!

And coming up on Conscious Inquiry Radio…

LarryHome2Esteemed physician and author, Dr. Larry Dossey discusses his new book, One Mind and how we can tap this omnipotent field for which we are all hard-wired!




lynne-mctaggart-picScience researcher and author, Lynne McTaggart will share her own experiences about “What doctors don’t tell you,” and how her vigilance and harnessing the power of social networks put her groundbreaking work on the map like never before.  We’ll also discuss her book, The Bond to learn how cooperation and community are central to human nature and are key to getting us out of “the thick of things” on this planet!



barbaralambRenowned crop circle investigator and regression therapist, Barbara Lamb will talk about her experience regressing alien abductees as well as share some of her own personal experiences with the ET realm!


MarkMincolla_croppedDr. Mark Mincolla, a natural health care practitioner and author of Whole Health will share amazing information on how to deal with the massive environmental disruption to our bodies.  We’ll also discuss the topic on everyone’s mind: GMO’s.  Can we escape them?

We’ve got quite the line up on Conscious Inquiry.  Make sure you stay tuned!

Communicating With Your Spirit Guide

Communicating With Your Spirit GuideBy Trish LeSage

Each and every one of us has at least one spirit guide. Spirit guides are souls that are no longer incarnated with a physical body on the Earth Plane, and they are usually highly evolved spiritually. They give us help when we need it through guidance, they provide us with needed information, and they may protect us. They also help us to grow spiritually and to fulfill our soul contract that details all that we are to experience and learn while incarnated on the Earth. Our guides can and do communicate with us. There are also numerous ways that we, ourselves, can try to communicate with them as well.

First of all, we do not need to be in a trance state, meditative state, under Hypnosis, nor unconscious to communicate with our spirit guides. Their guidance can come through in the form of Telepathy (thoughts in our mind), especially if we have an issue in our daily lives that we are having difficulty solving. They may also communicate with us through symbols, images, colors, odors, auditory sounds, and in other ways. As a matter of fact, some spirits and spirit guides may allow us to smell something that was unique to them like the cologne or perfume that they wore when they were incarnated on the Earth Plane.

Of course a lot of people would like to see their spirit guides with their physical eyes, but this rarely occurs. It has been said that it is hard for them and even uncomfortable for them to manifest into the denseness of the Earth Plane, because they exist at a much higher energy frequency. If they do manifest so that one can see them with their physical eyes, it is usually only for a very brief moment. When they do manifest physically, they may appear as the human form that they were last incarnated into on the Earth Plane, or they may appear as a streak of white light, pinpoints of light, orbs, colors, shadows, symbols, images, etc.

It is difficult to hear the voices of our spirit guides with our physical ears, because they exist on a higher frequency than our Earth Plane. I have heard the voice of my spirit guide verbally with my physical ears on a couple of occasions. His voice was very high pitched and sounded almost digitized due to the high energy frequency that he was communicating at.

Sometimes one can also hear their spirit guides communicate internally, within their mind, in the form of words as well. They can actually hear the voice of their spirit guide intuitively.

The messages that our spirit guides send to us are often like subtle intuition and are almost undetectable. However, our communication with them can grow stronger if we allow them into our life, and we ask for their help. The more aware we are of their existence, the more they tend to help. If a person is not ready to receive their messages and does not ask for help, however, they usually remain silent.

There are many ways in which we, ourselves, can communicate with our spirit guides. I will not touch on all of them, but I will elaborate on a few that I have found to be helpful. Automatic Handwriting, Telepathy, touch, guided meditation, and Hypnosis are a few of the methods that have been proven to work.

First of all, I have found Automatic Handwriting to be effective in communicating with spirit guides. Automatic Handwriting is when a soul who has previously departed the Earth Plane uses a pen or pencil to write. I learned how to do Automatic Handwriting from the book, “Spirit Guides & Angel Guardians: Contact Your Invisible Helpers”, by Richard Webster. The author suggests attaching a string with a piece of tape near the top of a marker, such as a “Sharpie” brand marker for example. The person holds the string in their hand and suspends the marker over a sheet of paper, letting the marker lightly touch the paper. Their elbow should rest against the table. A 90 degree angle should be formed between the person’s elbow and forearm. In other words, the forearm and hand end up being up in the air, but the elbow rests on the table. Try to concentrate on something else while doing it so that your subconscious mind does not influence it. For example, one could watch TV or  listen to music as they are doing it. If it does not work using the hand that you write with, you could try using the other hand. One could try asking questions to see if they receive an answer. I found that after gaining some experience with the method described above, I was eventually able to simply hold a pen in my hand and allow the spirits to write through my hand. Sometimes using Automatic Handwriting will not result in anything at all, and sometimes pictures or shapes may appear instead of words. The key is to be patient and be thankful for whatever is given.

Another way of communicating with our spirit guides is by asking for divine signs. For instance, if we have an issue that we are dealing with, we could ask for our spirit guides to show us a sign for guidance. The answer is often given on TV, the radio, on the internet, in a song, in a book, something a person said, etc. There are many different ways that signs could come to us, and they are often repeated more than once to get our attention. Synchronicities may occur in which a person is in the right place at the right time for something to happen.

Our spirit guides can also communicate with us through touch. One may feel a breeze on their skin when they are indoors with all of the windows closed. Additionally, they may feel like someone is touching them lightly. Also, they may feel a tingle on their skin, warmth, or coolness. I have been able to feel my guides actually massaging my hands. I have had them massage my right hand for a “yes” answer and my left hand for a “no” answer. On a few occasions, my hand even turned purplish blue because of the cold energy from my spirit guide, as spirit energy is quite a bit colder than we are.

Sometimes one can develop their psychic eye/third eye in order to see their spirit guides. This is a form of intuitive vision. There are books and CD’s that can help to develop this. Be patient. Sometimes things like this will not happen until we are ready for them to happen.

Hypnosis and guided meditation CD’s can also allow one to see their spirit guides and to communicate with them. One can ask questions in this way and can often get the answers they need. I have found that making my own cassette tapes is highly successful also.

One thing to keep in mind, however, is that our guides usually will not give us hard core data. They will not give us the winning lottery numbers for example. They usually will not give us information about our future either. There are certain paths that our life must take for our soul’s evolution, and learning about our future may affect the outcome in a way in which the soul lesson is missed.

I also wanted to mention that it is always wise to ask for the protection of the white light of the Holy Spirit or whatever one believes in before they try to communicate with their spirit guides. One should also ask that only spirits that are of divine light be allowed to communicate with them.

There are many reasons why a person may not be able to communicate with their spirit guides. Being tired, stressed, and having too many thoughts on their mind could affect communication. Others may be skeptical or afraid. Also, it might not be the right time for communication, because the person may not be ready.

There are many ways in which we can attempt to communicate with our spirit guides. They do and will communicate with us. We need to want to be able to do it, believe that it is possible, and take the time to try. Be patient, as it will happen in perfect divine timing. As the saying goes, “The teacher will appear when the student is ready.”

About The Author:

Trish LeSage is a best selling author on Amazon and is a writer of magazine articles on Metaphysics, self-empowerment, spiritual awakening, ascension, and body-mind-spirit topics.  More information about her work is available on her website at www.beyond3dbooks.com

Knowing Right From Wrong

Dr. Stewart Bitkoff | Wakingtimes | Feb 11th 2014

choose good badOn one level people want simple answers and to be told what to do. On another, they want freedom to choose and make their own decisions. People are multi-level and have the capacity to make their own choices as well as accept direction from others. Discord sets in when the guidance from others or authority does not fit what the individual wants or feels is right for them. In this case, the individual is in conflict and looks for something else.

Early Training

At a young age, most people are taught a philosophy of ‘right and wrong.’ Aspects of this protective mechanism are projected into daily life and are part of social and religious training. For example if you do not get-up and arrive timely at school this is bad. As an adult, being late will eventually result in loss of job. Or as a youth, if you take street drugs, this will lead to personal problems and addiction.

It is difficult to disagree with these two rules about daily life. Get to places on time and do not take potentially damaging street drugs. However to complicate matters other factors may be at play. Perhaps the individual is getting to work late because of an inner, hidden unease with this type of work. In time, after warnings by the supervisor, the worker realizes this and moves on. Or the youth experimenting with recreational drugs uses this learning in a future career, brain chemistry. Or in a more damaging scenario, after years of addiction the person sobers up and becomes a drug counselor; and because of personal experience helps dozens of others.

More Complex Training

From a higher perspective, looking at events: travelers are taught to take a longitudinal and holistic view of the effect of specific actions. In life, often it is not a simple matter of an action being ‘right or wrong.’ Actions are complex and involve others, having both a collective and individual effect. Before making many decisions it is wise to consider their long term and multi-level effect.

As an example, how about the common situation where your beloved asks- do you think I have put on a few pounds? Does this dress/suit make me look heavy? Sometimes telling the truth can be unnecessarily hurtful; particularly if the individual has been struggling with their weight. In this situation, I’ll leave it to you to figure out what is right or wrong; in most things, we are free to pick and choose.

Spiritual Criteria for Actions

Further, when viewing the effect of personal action, it is impossible to know all the variables involved; particularly over a long period of time and actions that affect countless others. However, for the spiritual traveler, it is possible to know some of this and begins by asking the question: will this action bring me closer or distance me from my higher destiny?

The answer to this question may be thought out as well as perceived. First we rationally consider and list the effects using what we term our common sense. Next we use our intuition, requesting if the action will bring us closer or distance us from our higher self. Perception is intuitive knowledge that emerges from our collective consciousness. By turning inward, the traveler unlocks this holistic awareness and uses this answer along with their rational thought to arrive at an action.

At an early age, it is important to learn about societal differences concerning right and wrong. It is important to learn that some things are good for us and some things are not. Yet spiritual teaching must go deeper, illustrating and considering the aspect of longitudinal effect and destiny. While one piece of chocolate may be tasty and even nutritious, twenty is not; particularly if we are diabetic or prone to dental problems.

Inner Knowing

Most spiritual training programs teach the traveler to pray or turn inward in some fashion before taking an important action. Within each person, there is an inner voice or capacity to know (called perception) if an action will bring us closer to our higher self and the higher destiny of the universe. Most people have forgotten to develop and listen to their inner voice and have relied upon others to teach them about right and wrong.

This early social, moral and  religious teaching, about what is useful in life, was intended as a beginning; and the traveler, as they matured was to be instructed on how to make their own more complex, intuitive decisions. For many, this has been omitted from their training and they continue to rely upon limited and simplistic learning constructs.

Many of these constructs have been tied to hidden and sometimes not so hidden ‘fear & reward’ systems. In a sense, for these travelers, their thoughts on certain subjects have become fixed, and engineered by others.

Humanity is conscious energy
Burning like sunlight.
By reflecting the Light into this world
Humanity neutralizes personal spiritual darkness.

Embrace your own inner beliefs
And then travel beyond them.
Embrace higher knowledge
And as the Source Wills
You will become a sun unto yourself:
Knowing right from wrong. Dissipating your own lower need and desire.

What some call religious training and tradition:
Often is based upon historical and no longer accurate,
Incomplete information; also in some presentations
There is tendency to misapply traditional exercises to their culture;
Further many sacred books include
Selective reportage by believers and historians;
With altered teachings to control desired behaviors
Which were insisted upon by the ruling entity and clergy.

Remember many cherished religious traditions and behaviors
No longer serve any real or spiritual function.
However they do increase people’s feelings of comfort/tradition
And need to be viewed within their emotional framework.


About the Author

Dr. Stewart Bitkoff, spiritual traveler, poet, is a student of Sufi Mysticism and the perennial philosophy. Professionally specializing in the healing applications of therapeutic recreation, psychiatric rehabilitation and mental health treatment; he holds a doctorate in education and served on the faculties of multiple colleges and universities.

Stewart is also the author of Sufism for the Western Seekerpublished in 2011, was nominated by ‘Foreword Magazine’ for Adult Non Fiction Religious Book of Year Book of the Year Award, placing 4th (honorable mention) and is a must read, as well as The Ferryman’s Dream. Both books are also in Kindle format and available on Amazon.com or local bookstore.

Register for an upcoming retreat weekend with  Dr. Steward Bitkoff atop Bangor Mountain, in the beautiful Pocono Mountains, Kirkridge Retreat Center on Sufism & Enlightenment, May 30- June I, 2014. For information is available here: https://kirkridge.org/programs/upcoming-programs/ – click on Detailed Information for full program highlights.

For more information about the author, please visit www.stewartbitkoff.com, and if you are interested in learning more about universal mysticism and Sufism contact: drbitkoff@yahoo.com.

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Benefit from February Energies & Tips for Success


February is a perfect time to reassess things and put in motion a makeover designed to lift your energies higher. This month’s energies, with the Mercury Retrograde and a host of other factors, support inner reflection and establishing new foundations for your life.

You aren’t the same being you were a year ago, and you certainly won’t be the same person by the time 2014 ends!

The Power of Self-Assessment

Your power right now is to assess where you are, what needs to shift, and how you will shift it – coming up with a plan to put in motion over the coming months. When you do this assessment and planning from an optimistic, heart-centered, and spirit-focused perspective, you raise your frequency and expand your view.

Higher-frequency energies and a bigger-picture view of current and future potentials will help you get and stay in balance and in touch with your intuitive knowing. Remember that spirit knows what you need, what your blocks are, and what you need to put in place to take the next key steps.

Working with Mercury Retrograde

If you question whether you are impacted by energy cycles like Mercury Retrograde, consider the collective and how this impacts your current and future life experiences. People you work with and people several steps removed from direct interaction with you are impacted by the same collective dance of energies you are.

At this stage of evolution, humanity cannot ignore the role of the collective and the interconnectedness of all beings. The Earth is truly a global connected place, no matter where you live or what technology you use.

Your next new relationship, work project, or other opportunity will come out of the collective soup of potentials – you sometimes benefiting from actions of strangers and sometimes delayed in a similar fashion.

Knowing there is so much going on behind the scenes, outside your awareness, you are best served by keeping up-to-date with your own energies. You benefit from regular energy maintenance, self-inquiry, and healing of DNA-level blocks as they arise. These blocks could feel familiar or like something you have already addressed numerous times. Trust that if they are arising, however, it is a new and deeper level of that same issue – showing itself to you now so you can address it within the DNA and access a whole new level of freedom!

Having Foresight about Cycles

Skillful energy maintenance requires understanding of energy cycles and having foresight about how they may impact you personally. Avoid applying fear-based superstition to any cycle. Instead respect the natural cycles and work with them to get and stay in balance. This means paying attention to things like moon cycles, eclipses, equinoxes, solstices, and Mercury Retrogrades such as the one of February 6-28.

With a Mercury Retrograde, for example, you may sometimes feel unsettled about plans and communications with others on sensitive or important topics. You also may totally forget an appointment or forget to mention a key fact in a communication. The phone line may go dead for no apparent reason. No need to get nervous about the probability of such things happening – simply take extra care with the details of life and avoid getting too serious about things outside of your control.

2014 Unique Energies

Each year has its own unique energies – partly because of natural cycles and partly because of where humanity is along the timeline of our paradigm shift. The last couple of years have stirred lots of reflection about where things are, how they got that way, and how to proceed in a different way.

With 2014 now in full swing – especially given that it’s a Horse Year in Chinese astrology – there will be a big push to take action. Stimulating that big push is some very fiery energy. That means taking action on your dreams, and taking action to stay balanced, spirit-connected, and on track.

Since fire can be used in both positive and negative ways, you will want to master your inner fire to get the most from this year’s action-oriented energy. Set the foundation for that now with the tips below.

5 Tips for Success

Use February for reflection and creating new foundations that can benefit you for a long time to come. Invite your higher self to connect with you as you consider these tips for success. Read them out loud if that helps you to anchor them. Post a copy of them somewhere in clear sight, as a helpful visual reminder. If additional ideas come to you, write them on the list and work with those, too.

First is your focus. Accelerate your momentum during February by focusing less on what you want to change about the world and other people – shifting your attention inward to what you can change about yourself and your response to external circumstances and people.

Second is your outlook. Imagine or visualize regularly throughout your day that you are surrounded by a benevolent universe. As you envision the world as a friendly and supportive place, you magnetize goodness and helpfulness.

Third is your discernment of energy. This means looking at the big picture and allowing for subtle movements that you cannot yet detect. This helps you to be patient when it appears nothing is happening to move you forward. As a divine changemaker, you are learning to sense the difference between a blocked energy and an energy that simply is not yet ripe. Keep in mind that energy is in constant motion and much can be percolating beneath the surface. Remain positive and focused on your goals, but allow for the percolation process and divine timing.

Fourth is addressing your own environment. This month is a perfect time to do this. You can experience more uplifting energies in the coming months by addressing your living space now. Answer these 3 questions, then take action to bring lightness of being into your home: (1) Does your home feel sacred to you? (2) Does it feel warm and inviting when you come home? (3) Have you intentionally brought the sacred into your living space?

Fifth is coming back to spirit. When nothing else makes sense, come back to spirit and the unbreakable foundation a spirit-based life provides.

About the Author

Selacia is an internationally acclaimed writer, author of Earth’s Pivotal Years, intuitive healer, and guide to others on the path of spiritual awakening. A former foreign correspondent with The Wall Street Journal and other media, she has decades of experience in the areas of world politics and social change, healing and consciousness, and spiritual transformation. In her journalism career, Selacia covered the White House, US Congress, G8 meetings, economic summits, and world trade talks. In her global healing work, she has addressed the United Nations (SEAT). Her writings are read in sixty-four countries. She is a pioneer in DNA intuitive healing, serving people everywhere who desire wholeness and a heart-centered life. Selacia has dedicated her life to spirit, and to opening the way for others to progress on their path of enlightenment. Visit her at www.Selacia.com.

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The Sin of Eve?

Ida LawrenceContributor

Our children are beyond us; even if they haven’t grown into it yet, they will take some aspect of us onward. At age five my mother asked me to pray to a male presence in the sky for forgiveness and mercy. I did as she asked. I don’t mind that I did that… it gave both of us peace.

Now let’s take the same moment forward and I’ll respond again: “Mom, how about if I pray to us instead. The universe is holographic and my mind is a hologram… so is yours: perfect and complete replicas of the whole. God is in Me and You too. Will you offer me forgiveness and mercy? I love you.”

Feeling is energy, and the transmission of feeling is much stronger than words. Had I been able to express the consciousness of divinity within as a child, my mother would have felt fear… both for herself and for me. Oh how she feared the specter of divine punishment for ‘diminishing’ God into human form… or did she? It’s possible she feared contradicting or diminishing my father’s belief. We want to be loved, we want to please, and we fear ‘deep-level’ revelations that may result in emotional pain.

Children will naturally do their best to accommodate the culture they are born into and they will absorb the feeling: they are vulnerable and an empty book… but not quite. They’re not empty of their higher selves. Someone is in there questioning, ‘knowing’ in an innocent way, noticing things, asking questions, and rebelling a bit. There is someone who wants to Be, but who doesn’t know ‘Battle’.

I’ve come to realize how fortunate I am in that my early upbringing offered parents that were just right for my journey; plus abundant nature, companionship and many spiritual concepts upon which to expand later in life. Returning within the spiral, after years of transmuting childhood experiences through adult relationships, what remains to be examined is my mother’s fear and my father’s heavy heart: the imbalance of masculine and feminine.

On a book stand in my home is a little ruby red candy dish. It’s one of my mother’s things… an object that I have carried with me for years. She, like the ruby candy dish, was a colorful container for sweetness and enjoyment. But something happened to temper her joy. I can look back and say imbalance… separation, made fearsome by a male God and the epic sin of Eve, but was that it? Was that all of it?

Every human is the sum of their aspects: only waiting to be re-membered. And, duality is the foundation of creation. We have believed ourselves separate… masculine and feminine. But within each individual we find both the masculine and feminine polarities: the yang and the yin, the light and the dark, the thought and the feeling, the single ‘I’ and the ‘I and I’. The kingdom of God is within. We have heard the masters say that… but do we all know that?

We must not know it quite yet. We are now in a world so far out of balance that we are facing obliteration. Why did the world begin to tip, and then tip more and more in order to reach this point where we actually see the devastating result and ask the question?

Did masculine reason and the thinking mind evolve and disassociate from feminine feeling? Let’s have a look. Which one of these ‘theologies’ is true: ‘I think therefore I Am’ (the ‘I’) or ‘Who feels it knows it’ (the ‘I and I’)? No… feeling is not emotion. It is the intuitive and instantaneous knowing of the energy and information of a thing. It is perception: information Felt. It is the perfect counterbalance to reason – the actual spark of creation. Even the revered scientist will state: I came to the question through reason, but the answer came through feeling, intuition, perception… suddenly I knew something that was beyond my thought.

Now we are coming into realization of our inner duality, and we are called to bring the poles together… to love the divine feminine, and love the divine masculine as equal forces in creation. Need I say that this ‘inner marriage’ doesn’t take away from the masculinity of a man or the femininity of a woman. Yes, women can reason and men can feel… this capacity to enjoy the ‘opposite’ polarity within doesn’t take away from who we are. It adds to our being, and makes us whole.

But we do have some lingering effects to clean up… actually, quite a few. Assertions that, “My mother did this to me, my father did that, women are like this, men are like that.” Many people experience their relationships as contests over whose will reigns supreme, and because of this, the really deep doors are closed. Oh that we could heal this separation! Seems the recovery of natural balance would then be possible.

And please don’t think I’m pointing the finger at men: we are equally as messed up. Imagine if the Queen of England could feel… if her ‘I and I’ were operational. She possesses enough wealth to feed every hungry child. If she could feel, would there be a starving child in her ‘realm’?

The feminine essence is the lover indeed, if only she can be reached. She is the content of my mother’s ruby candy dish, or better yet, the garden behind the gate. And what is the key to the gate? Not just a compatible energy between the polarities; but a refined, sensuous, compelling, loving energy.

I’m sure you have heard of the Biblical Song of Solomon. Most likely you also have read the love poetry of Rumi. Whether these men were adoring the feminine essence, or a female individual doesn’t really matter. What matters is what we see of the feminine: we see her receptive… calling forth and opening her deepest self to a particular quality of masculine energy.

Receptivity is the essence of the feminine, but it can’t often be found in this out of balance world. Thus the rape of the earth and the sad contest between men and women as to who will conquer whom. We’re in an agonizing state at the moment.

It seems that balance within the individual must come first: marriage of the polarities. No more fear, no more heavy heart… just a return with lessons learned as we come back around to the beginning.

Let’s conclude with a quote from the Song of Solomon… the Bride’s response: “Awake, O north wind; and come, you south; blow on my garden, that the spices thereof may flow out. Let my beloved come into his garden, and eat his pleasant fruits.”

About the Author

Ida Lawrence is an author, blogger, copywriter and editor based in Atlanta, Georgia. She has contributed to and edited two books on racial justice and human rights, and numerous articles on human rights, self-empowerment and related subjects. Her latest book is entitled The Warrior’s Way to Heaven on Earth. Ida has also published a companion book of blog favorites from https://talk2momz.com/.

5 Powerful ’Brain Hacks’ That Will Rocket Your Daily Productivity & Focus

Nash Ryker | Collective Evolution

If you’re like most people, you likely find yourself frequently wishing there were more hours in the day to accomplish all the important things on your To-Do list. It seems like no matter what you do there’s always more and more in life that calls for your attention, while many of the truly important things get put on the back burner when we run out of time in the day.

Does any of this ring a bell?

If so, then I’d like to offer you a few of the most powerful ’mind tricks’ that can help you dramatically increase your daily productivity and focus so that you can get more done in less time. If you’d love to learn how to sharpen your focus, be more motivated, and blast through your daily tasks so you have more time available to do whatever else you enjoy in life, please read ahead.

Brain Hack #1: Shrink Your Mental Deadlines

If you think something is going to take you an hour, give yourself 40 minutes instead. By shrinking your mental deadlines, you’ll be able to work much faster and with greater focus.

You should also schedule time on your calendar every week for focused, quiet concentrated ”Golden Hours” or ”Power Time” where you only work on your most important activities for a designated amount of time. To do this effectively, it’s important to close your email, silence your phone, and unplug from social media during these timeframes. That is, unless your most productive task happens to include any one of those mediums.

Brain Hack #2: Create a ”Stop Doing” List

A “Stop Doing” list is as important as a “To Do” list. We use a To Do list to help us gets things done, but how many counter-productive habits, rituals and routines are we allowing in our lives to continue robbing us of the results and lifestyle we truly desire?

By creating a ”Stop Doing” list, and committing to it, we can systematically purge out negative habits and replace them with more productive ones.

An easy way to do this is to get out a piece of paper and make a list of any/all the habits, routines or people in your life that are actually making you less productive and taking you farther away from your intended goals or desired quality of life.

Now, this requires you to be totally honest, truthful and transparent with yourself about what’s in your life that could be holding you back or stealing happiness in some way. But when you’re willing to step back and look at your own life and situation objectively, it becomes much easier to see the reality of our situation and be able to make rational decisions about what needs to be done in light of the bigger picture. Thus progress can be made where it otherwise could not.

Brain Hack #3: Review Your Productivity at the End of the Day

Try this: A powerful productivity strategy is to create an evening planning ritual where you select a few priority tasks to accomplish the next day. Every night before going to bed, take the time to write down the top 3-5 highest priority items that you resolve to complete the following day. These should be tasks that directly move you or your business closer to your goals, and that create a measurable result. Avoid busywork!

Then at the end of each day, before you create your new list for the next day, take some time to review your list from the current day and ask yourself what went well and what you could’ve done better. Congratulate yourself on what you did accomplish, but also apply a little constructive criticism to yourself for anything you may have slacked on or could have done better. Transer your uncompleted tasks to the next day’s list.

The most difficult aspect of being ultra-productive is you driving your day instead of your day driving you. Start your day by looking through your tasks in the morning and making a conscious decision to allocate your time and focus on the most important and highly leveraged tasks before anything else. Then review your progress at the end of the day and make adjustments where necessary.

Brain Hack #4: Avoid Multitasking

Don’t multitask. Multitasking is something we all do these days. The problem though is that our brains just aren’t cut out for it. When you multitask, you’re actually interfering with your brain’s ability to perform at it’s full-capacity.

Yeah sure, we can all walk and chew gum at the same time. We can can fold laundry while talking to a friend on the phone. Clowns can also ride a unicycle while juggling brightly colored balls.

These are all role tasks that don’t demand a lot of brain power. But in most cases where brainpower and creativity are critical, multitasking is inefficient. When you make shifts in your activity from one context to another, you risk dropping things from your short-term memory. You also disrupt the mental flow needed to perform at top-efficiency.

Do one thing at a time, minimize context shifts, maximize brain power!

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Tao Teaching: Your Cosmic Connection and Spiritual Contract

David James Lees | Waking Times

‘The sun will always set whether you watch it or not’

This is a wonderful spiritual teaching that I received from my wise Taoist Master in China on the ‘Tao’ or ‘Way’ of the Cosmos and its fundamental relationship and interaction with all our lives.

The teaching serves as a reminder that if you choose to disconnect from the flow of love and energy all around you, perhaps because of fear or distrust, the Cosmos will never judge or punish you, nor will it withhold its abundance and blessings from you. It simply keeps on flowing and giving even if you (consciously or subconsciously) choose to reject or close yourself off from all it has to offer.

Sometimes your misguided and harmful Ego mind may try to convince you that this is not the way of the Cosmos. Any negative thinking and self-talk such as ‘I’m not worthy…’, ‘I’m a bad person…’ ‘Life/the Universe  is against me…’, ‘I’m a victim…’ , ‘I’m being made to pay/suffer’… etc. will only disengage you even more from the ever-present, positive and nurturing energetic flow of Qi or spiritual energy available to you.

Just as the sun sets without fail, all the while the Cosmos lovingly and peacefully goes about its business. It patiently waits for you to readjust any extreme Ego thoughts you may have so that you can return to a more balanced and neutral Wu Wei mindset. When you do this you reactivate what I refer to as your ‘Spiritual Contract’ with the Cosmos.

This Spiritual Contract is your birthright. From the point at which you energetically manifested into human-form at birth, your contract remains your connection back to your spiritual Source. It’s a reminder of the place of divine energy and love that you came from and the same divine energy and love you are today. This contract can serve as your spiritual compass and steadfast guide through good times and bad, and it’s also your connection to the abundance the Universe has to offer.

An essential part of your Spiritual Contract with the Cosmos is your free-will as an adult to take responsibility for managing and balancing your human-centred thoughts, words and actions. The Cosmos will always support you if you want it to, but you alone must take personal responsibility for navigating your unique life journey so that you may reach your true spiritual potential and fulfillment.

It’s your choice whether or not you align yourself with the Way of the Cosmos and receive or reject the flow of love and abundance. The Taoist Masters call this harmonising and balancing of your spiritual connection: ‘Supreme Success’. They teach that when this is achieved the ‘Cosmic Helpers’ and blessings will flood into your life. The modern interpretation of this teaching on the flow of cosmic energy would be ‘The Law of Attraction’.

If you choose to rebalance and reconnect to the Cosmos, it has no interest in any past misunderstandings or indiscretions and it cannot judge you ‘worthy’ or ‘unworthy’. Such matters only have the value and importance that your human centred Ego mind places on them.  My Taoist Master taught me that the past should be viewed as a ‘walking dead person’ – this profound analogy reflects the spiritual truth that we only ever have this present moment and so we should always seek to live in the here and now.

Remember, you are a beautiful and divine child and spirit of the Cosmos. You will only learn spiritual lessons on your unique human journey by making ‘mistakes’ and then learning the Universal lessons from those misunderstandings. The Taoist principle ofOneness teaches that this same process of learning and enlightenment applies to everyone. This means no one is exempt from making mistakes, no one is superior or inferior, no one is special – we are all the same, yet all fabulously unique!

Of course your human centred Ego mind loves to view your spiritual journey and Cosmic connection in a totally different way. It mistrusts and doubts the unknown and unseen flow of Universal energy or Qi all around you. Your Ego’s ultimate fear is of being emotionally exposed or hurt so it will always strive and manipulate in order to protect itself from being vulnerable, confronted, found out, or embarrassed. It craves security and gratification from a narrower physical and material world: one that is more immediate, tangible, predictable and controllable. In doing so your Ego steers you further from your Spiritual Contract and truth as it diverts you onto its misguided journey of seeking perfection, approval, praise and superiority.

So the eternal human challenge (and one which keeps me very busy in my work as a spiritual therapist and coach!) is about finding what the Taoist’s refer to as Wu Wei. This is your unique ‘sweet spot’ of harmony between your human and cosmic energies. Finding this point of inner and outer balance in your life allows you to survive and thrive in human form within the collective Ego of society today, whilst remaining fully connected with the Cosmos and your spiritual truth, so that ultimately you may create your unique spiritual experience here on earth.

Next time your Ego’s self-talk starts criticising and nagging at you to achieve perfection… or complaining that situations are not moving quickly enough… or even that you’re not ‘enough’… pause, breathe deep, and reconnect to the beautiful sunset of your inner truth. This is the Tao nature of you and all things that can NEVER be destroyed or withheld from you. When your Ego shouts loudest this is absolutely the time to take-control, calm and rebalance your thinking, reaffirm your connection with your Spiritual Contract, and then open yourself up to receive the helpers and blessings the Cosmos has waiting for you.

The sun sets whether you’re watching or not… but why not pause and reflect on its magnificence with the understanding that you came from the very same place and are on the same magical Cosmic journey of transformation!

About the Author

David James Lees is a spirituality and wellness author, Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) practitioner, counsellor, hypnotherapist, NLP Master, and a Member of the British Acupuncture Council. David has a lifelong interest in Taoism, Taoist philosophy and Qigong, and was first taught meditation by Chinese Tibetan Buddhist monks when he was 16 years old, which helped him tackle a profound stutter. After qualifying as a TCM practitioner in the UK, David trained for a number of years as a Qigong instructor with Doctor Shen in London and Master Wan Su Jain in Beijing, and was later ordained as a Taoist Master in the sacred Wudang Mountains in China. Today, David is a trusted advisor and broadcaster on emotional health issues and alternative therapies in the UK. You can follow David on his blog: www.WuWeiWisdom.comFacebookTwitterPinterest and Soundcloud.  For the latest information on David’s therapies, classes, workshops and special events visit Peak House Practice.

This article appeared at Waking Times.

The Powerful Use Esoteric Knowledge While Keeping it from Humanity: Empower Yourself by Awakening Consciousness


There are forces that drag down spiritual knowledge, whether they are in the world or within a person.

Darkness opposes light, but at the same time it gives form to the universe, and it’s in this form that we both exist and learn. However when darkness is greater than light, less is seen and the opportunity for that which favors light can be diminished. Truth is of light and when it shines on the darkness of lies it exposes it. Whoever wants light in themselves and in the world should actively seek it. It’s the same for truth in the world.

You’re never going to discover why you exist, and what the purpose of your life is, if you don’t do something about it. By doing little or nothing the forces acting upon you and everyone are so great that it’s easy get caught in living a superficial life. To have a genuinely spiritual life requires rising above the forces that drag you down and acquiring your own wisdom and experience.

Reading, discussing, watching videos and belonging to groups might be helpful to begin with, but ultimately it’s not going to get you there. If you want to have a rewarding spiritual life you’ll need to experience.

It doesn’t matter what you think about consciousness, higher truths or different dimensions – it’s what you do and what you are that counts.

In my experience, planes of existence beyond this world exist, there are higher beings, heavens, demons, and hell, they are real phenomena; and many of the great realities can’t even be imagined or dreamed about.

If you wake up in your conscious awareness of life, you’ll see for yourself what’s really going on. But if you try to become more conscious in your life and learn from the dimensions beyond this, you’ll encounter an ingrained passivity that can stop you, and it’s likely that you won’t even realize it’s there.

That passivity is ingrained into the subconscious in all of us by society, and by the feelings and emotions that are part of nature’s program, which we were born with.

This will drag your inner state down when you try to elevate it to spiritual states, it will make you search for pleasure and satisfy animal drives, it will keep your life stuck in this plane of existence, locked on a mechanical track with few choices, and you won’t even know it’s there.

Esoteric Knowledge is Used by the Few and Denied to the Many

The passivity has developed over time in the human race to the extent that it has effectively become domesticated, and in many cases resembles passive sheep. Along with the specialization of work and the increasing size of societies, the pursuit of pleasure is a key driving force in that domestication, and when people live for pleasure many compromises have to be made. Not least is a reluctance to attend to the things that really matter. Corruption sets into society, greed becomes a virtue, the environment is frivolously destroyed, there are huge differences in the distribution of wealth, etc.

People have less inclination towards serious issues and are more willing for others to do things for them. Other people and institutions then make many of their decisions for them with the result that a huge number of people are only able to understand simple slogans, and are thus able to be manipulated by those in power. In terms of spirituality, the tendency is to follow the herd and accept what they have been brought up with or what others do without any deep questioning. But spirituality is far too important a subject to leave up to someone else, or to have as a blind belief. It’s an individual’s fate beyond this life that’s at stake and that’s a very high stake not to take a serious interest in.

If you look for knowledge far enough you’ll discover a maze of ideas, but are likely to come across some information on out-of-body experiences and symbols. The two are related since the language of the astral plane is in symbols. By learning to have out-of-body experiences, you’ll be able to learn much more of what life and the universe is about. But you’ll also start noticing that symbols from the astral plane are everywhere in society.

They are in movies, in the logos of corporations, in ancient art, in music videos, public buildings, religions, they’re all over the place. So why isn’t everyone familiar with them? And why is it that mostly people and institutions at the elevated end of society seem to use these symbols?

Suppressing Higher Knowledge

The answer is that it’s suppressed knowledge, it’s powerful and enabling. Those in power want to restrict it’s useand don’t want it falling into the hands of the majority. The establishment wants to have control over it. Many powerful institutions throughout history have not wanted people to have it. That’s been the basis of persecution of many people in the past. It was part of the reasons behind the inquisition, the witch hunts, the brutal suppression of early Christian groups and teachings by the church, and the suppression of many individuals and groups throughout the history of the world. Those behind religions don’t want anything new to arise to challenge their religion, and atheism doesn’t want religion. Society wants conformity, and profound spiritual knowledge doesn’t conform and can’t be controlled; it’s usually developed by small numbers of people who don’t fit in.

The result is that esoteric knowledge basically has been wiped out of societies repeatedly, and yet there are groups at the higher levels of society who obviously have some kind of knowledge of esoteric symbols and ritual and a wider esoteric knowledge too. But you’ll often find this knowledge is inverted, it’s of darkness and is being used as a vehicle for power and evil.

For most people though it’s taboo to even talk about higher spiritual knowledge in many places. Even if you were to try talking freely about a simple subject such as astral projection, you might get a lot of negative responses and strange looks.

Higher spiritual knowledge is demonized in many ways in society and has been for a very long time and yet its darker aspects are so common in the music industry and Hollywood. Most people take it as fiction, but not all of it is, and I believe there are agendas behind its use in the entertainment industry, some working to affect people at a subliminal level and used to direct peoples ideas and attitudes in ways the media, and influences behind the media, want them to go. This gives an extraordinary level of control over people and that’s not healthy.

Not All Secret Societies are ‘Bad’

There have been many types of secret esoteric societies. Some were created for sinister purposes, some out of religions to further their agenda, some were created with good intentions, and some today have well meaning people in them doing good.

Not everything esoteric or occult is from the dark side. Fundamentalist Christians often label everything esoteric as Satanic, but it’s not; some of it is actually a remnant of white ancient knowledge. Some societies began as fully fledged esoteric orders, but became watered down with time, lacking people with sufficient inner awakening to participate in them.

Many of these became infiltrated by dark forces as people motivated by greed and power took control of them. Their original good intentions were hijacked to fulfill sinister purposes.

It is necessary to have levels of secrecy in many areas of life, in some areas of government for example (assuming the government is working for the benefit of its citizens). Esoteric societies used secrecy out of necessity for their own protection. Have a look at a video of Gurdjieffs ‘Meetings with Remarkable Men’, look at the levels of secrecy in it – towards the end there’s a secret esoteric school. They needed that secrecy to protect themselves from people who would have destroyed their school. Not everything secret is bad; esoteric knowledge has been protected by hermetic silence.


You can’t have something like this today as people would ruin it. Pearls are not given to swine, as Jesus said, or they will trample them underfoot.

The Use of the Word ‘Cult’ to Stop People Forming Groups for Higher Spiritual Knowledge

The cult word today is being used as an instrument of suppression and it restricts your freedom. If you take an interest in something spiritual, say astral projection, and you get together with a group of interested people, and they elect you to be the head in some way, you’ll immediately be classified as a cult leader and your group as a cult. And if someone attends and they don’t like you, they can lie about you in public and be supported by a huge number of institutions, religions, groups of abusive anti-cult witch hunters, atheists, the media and society in general, and if you look for justice you’ll find it’s priced beyond the reach of ordinary people. How are you going to withstand that? Your life will probably be ruined.

The media fuels the witch hunt, the sheep in society follow, and the bullies attack. Society is not free. People with agendas control the media and this is dangerous. Heretic, blasphemer, witch, pagan, cult, are all bigoted words meant to shut people out of society and destroy them. There are always lawbreakers in every aspect of society including spiritual groups, but they are the minority and there are laws to deal with them. Yet the actions of a few become the brush to tar the many with.

What does the labeling of a person or a group with the word ‘cult’ make you feel about them? It probably brings instant negative connotations, and yet that’s part of your programming; you should look beyond it if you want to be objective. Even Jesus would be called a cult leader if he were alive today. Bear in mind there are people with agendas who are pulling the strings behind the scenes that don’t want you to study esoteric knowledge, nor do they want you to form groups around it. They don’t want challenges, and at a deeper level, the forces of darkness don’t want the forces of light to emerge to counter them.

They don’t want you to become empowered by consciousness and wisdom and be different. Behind the scenes they manipulate the media to make you believe these things are wrong, but they are not. You have a right to gather with others to stand together and face ignorance, to fight for truth and to know the secrets of spiritual and esoteric knowledge. If you care, you should empower yourself with truth and become active for the good of society. It’s an interesting statistic that the most persecuted religious minority in the western world today are not Jews or Muslims, they are modern Pagans. Society is not free.

Spirituality has been Commercialized

While some alternative spirituality is not allowed, one type is encouraged – that is commercial spirituality. The alternative health and lifestyle industry in the US in 2006 was worth $300 billion dollars. That’s where your interest is being funneled. True spiritual knowledge is not given for profit making; you’re being deceived.

The figures of commercial spirituality are not spiritual teachers of substance. They are celebrities, their messages are simplified and watered down to the extent they are populist and misleading. They often fish other peoples ideas and present that work as their own. They are usually talented writers and speakers, but they are businessmen and women, supported by a highly sophisticated industry. If you have a spiritual message to share, but you’re not up to making money for these corporations, you’ll be ignored.

The Source of the Suppression of Knowledge in Society

Religion, lots of different interests, corporations, individuals and groups combine and organize to create the world as they want it and work behind the scenes. It’s been going on for a long time in society.

It’s my experience that there are people of a religious persuasion who are able to go into the astral plane, they have awakened psychic faculties for evil, and they go into the lower regions, to the abyss where they get their knowledge, they access the intelligence of evil. This is the source behind a network of evil that is manipulating so much of the world today.

This spreads like the roots of a tree from secret societies through the upper scales of power and influence in society, until it’s influence permeates the lives of the unsuspecting majority.

Darkness has its hierarchical structure, which goes through society, to a small number of initiates of darkness, then through the hierarchy of evil out-of-the body to demons and the forces of darkness. A hierarchy of light also exists, but its lost its connection to society.

One of the results of this is that the different ventures of truth and good in the world have little or no understanding of the deeper esoteric principles of life. Lacking that common understanding they are split, weakened, dissipated and often become infiltrated by dark forces. Darkness has virtually won the war for the human race.

A Global Awakening is Not Happening in Consciousness

A lot of people today talk of there being a global awakening, but where is the awakening of consciousness? People are more asleep now than ever, there are no more societies based around esoteric knowledge like there were in ancient times, nor at this rate is there any chance of there ever being any. An awakening of information about important things in the three-dimensional world, though good, is not an awakening of consciousness. It may be that people are becoming more conscious of many important issues, but people are not becoming more awake in consciousness. The modern world is more asleep, and that blinds individuals to the wider realities of cosmic existence.

It’s easy to take the study of non-physical phenomena such as consciousness and the astral plane, using scientific methods as the way to understand spiritual realities, but science has its limits when it comes to the study of consciousness and it draws theories about what its practitioners have never experienced. Many relying upon science claim that non-physical phenomena are constructed by the mind alone, but as non-physical phenomena are not meaningfully measurable by the physical, this again this lacks credibility. The best way to study is by direct personal experience of the phenomena themselves. If you’re believing what science or the majority of people say, it may prevent you from searching for higher knowledge, such as learning to have out-of-the body experiences, while you’re stuck in inaccurate theories about the universe.

In my view it’s great that people search for truth in society, and I believe that each human being has a responsibility to work for the forces of light in the struggle against darkness. But there’s more a person can do, and that is to study spiritual and esoteric knowledge seriously and live it in life. There is a reality behind the initiations in secret esoteric societies. Whatever may have become of the society, the initiations are physical representations of inner initiations that take place in higher dimensions; they are part of the secret process of spiritual awakening. If people did become real initiates of light, even a small number in the world could create a powerful force for good.

Why You Need the Astral Plane to Understand Secret Symbols and Ancient Knowledge

Most of the symbols in use today have their origins in the symbols of the distant past, and they mostly have their origins in the symbolism of the astral plane. It’s unfortunate that so many people have not understood this aspect of ancient knowledge, but it’s not surprising considering the suppression that has been going on for so long.

When studying ancient cultures people draw all kinds of theories about their symbols, but they seldom understand that they are often looking at the symbolic universal language of the astral plane, probably because they have rarely if ever been there. Some interpret the symbols as the attempts of simple but uneducated people to understand or interpret the universe, or as entities and codes of evil societies, but most fail to understand that their source is often esoteric and without esoteric knowledge from the out-of-body worlds, you can’t read the language of many of the symbols. And to get profound esoteric knowledge usually requires becoming an initiate in the higher worlds.

Esoteric symbols are the language of the astral plane, and that is their origin, just as it is the location of ghosts, demons, angels, divine beings and much of the paranormal. Ancient peoples used the astral plane for knowledge and brought back it’s symbolism for use in their teachings and temples.

In the higher worlds there are initiates of darkness just as there are ones of light. People who become initiates of darkness get access to knowledge of evil, just as initiates of light get access to knowledge of light. While ordinary people get ordinary knowledge = dull.

Serpents are common symbols. There are ascending serpents (light) and descending ones (darkness). If you get higher knowledge, you’ll be more able to avoid falling into the trap of drawing conclusions from ideas that have no esoteric experience behind them. It’s easy to do that, but you’ll just stay blind to higher truth, even if you fight for truth on a physical level. It’s most effective to fight for truth on all levels and to empower yourself with the esoteric knowledge of light.

The Sleeping Majority Whose Destiny is Out of Their Hands

The consumer society with its indulgence in the lifestyle of greed has its price. Some of this is in the suffering and destruction that follows to people, animals and the environment. But it has a higher more subtle cost in the enslavement to the many corrupt structures and people that exist in society. And an even greater enslavement which is of the numbed, dumbed down sheep-like existence of a person who lives for their own pleasure, whose consciousness is asleep, who drifts through life in a semi-comatose state, oblivious to the major issues affecting their lives and to the wider universe around them, often with a tendency towards passivity, and having a Santa Claus like view of cosmic reality.

The average person doesn’t know the higher reasons for existence, nor what life’s spiritual purpose is, and their wider destiny appears to be out of their hands. The average person does what most do. Unfortunately that eventually involves moving on a circuit of lives from one to another until the last life is over, then submerging into the abyss (look up hellish near-death experiences if you want to get some idea about this). It’s unfortunate that the majority of people not only don’t want to wake up, but generally don’t want others to wake up either, thus almost everyone ultimately shares a similar fate.

Ignoring esoteric knowledge has a cost, a very high one, not only to society but also on an individual level, and most don’t realize what they’re missing.

Higher universal truth and esoteric knowledge is much more difficult to find and talk about than the truth behind events that happen in society. But it’s necessary to find them if you want true knowledge and a life with a spiritual purpose.

Know the Truth and the Truth Will Set You Free

If you don’t do enough to discover higher truths, you won’t get them. The best you can do is to get glimpses here and there, and try to be content with that. But why not be one of the few that wants to discover more about what’s going on, and be free in mind and consciousness?

One of the great problems in spiritual awaking is in knowing what to do and then making the sacrifices to do it – and then facing opposition from the many forms of the forces of darkness, and enduring the difficulties that arise along the way. The difficulties are the testing ground of life; we’re all in creation’s testing ground, and that’s why we’re here. Darkness enables us to see form, and opposition is necessary for awakening, and yet because difficulties and opposition arise, many people get discouraged and therefore few people actually try to self-realize. Moreover, the information on how to self-realize and reach higher levels of conscious awakening have become lost and obscured by the attitudes of many and by the efforts of some who have vested interests in suppressing it.

Therefore, study yourself and get knowledge from outside the physical world. If possible, become an initiate of light and go through an esoteric process of change. Be part of the struggle of the forces of light against the darkness, be aware of what traps you, be strong and set yourself free.

~ Belsebuub

About the Author

Belsebuub is an author and practitioner of esoteric knowledge. He writes primarily on the transformation and exploration of consciousness from over 30 years of dedicated metaphysical experience. He has authored a number of books on out-of-body experiences, consciousness, and spiritual awakening, including The Astral Codex andGazing into the Eternal, which are free to download on his website www.belsebuub.com

Belsebuub is the name of his spirit/soul/consciousness. Everyone has their own unique spiritual name; it’s a matter of knowing it.


7 Beautiful Ways to Build a Deep Friendship with Your Self

Luminita Saviuc | Purpose Fairy

“Above all, don’t lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love.” ~  Fyodor Dostoyevsky

We run around begging for love, attention and validation from everyone around us. We think that our salvation, our happiness and our sense of wholeness will come from outside ourselves. We look for “special” people that will make us feel “special. We buy all kind of expensive things, to make us feel unique and important. We live our lives in a way that makes sense for others but not for ourselves. We surround ourselves with people who make us feel so lonely. We engage in unnecessary conversations and we force ourselves into building meaningless friendships.

We look for love in all the wrong places; we cling on to all kind of unhealthy relationships and experiences and we get our sense of worth from all kind of weird weird places.

We clutter our lives with all kind of glorious, expensive and precious things and the more stuff we accumulate, the less we seem to have and the emptier our lives seem to get.

Until we don’t build the friendship we have with ourselves, none of these things will bring us long lasting happiness… none of these things will make us feel whole and complete…

We run in circles. We bump our heads from wall to wall. We’re sleep walking, unaware of the harm we are doing to ourselves and to others.

Life is easy, it really is but we choose to complicate it.

I have realized that the closer you get to your Self and the stronger the friendship you build with your Self becomes, the easier life gets and the happier you become.

“If you make friends with yourself you will never be alone.” ~ Maxwell Maltz

What I will share with you below are 7 beautiful ways to help you build the friendship you have with your Self so that you can attract all the love, happiness and abundance that you so much desire:

1. Spend quality time with your Self

How do you build strong, healthy, loving and supportive friendships? By spending quality time with the people you wanna be friends with. The same goes with the friendship with your Self.

Commit yourself to giving more of your time, your love, your energy and your attention to your loving Soul and lovable Self. Do more of the things that nurture your heart, your mind, your body and your soul. Engage yourself in activities that are meaningful to you, activities that awaken the Soul, rejuvenates the mind and renews the body.

2. Take time to renew, refresh and rejuvenate your Self

No matter how busy you are and no matter how many urgent and important things you have to do on a daily basis, it’s crucial that you make some time to renew, refresh and rejuvenate yourself. The world will not come to an end simply because you took a break to nurture your Self.

When you are centered and at peace with yourself and everything that is happening around you, it is a lot easier to be more present and more engaged in everything you do. You have a lot more energy to do many of the things you need to do, the quality of your work improves, your relationships seem to flourish, your partner is happier because of you and you just feel good.

Whenever you feel like you really need to take a break to renew, refresh and rejuvenate your Self, take it! It’s not just you who will benefit from you recharging your Self, but everyone around you.

3. Acknowledge your Self

We all want to be appreciated and acknowledged by those around us, for who we are and for what we do, but what about appreciation and acknowledgment from our own Self? We expect so much from others but not so much from ourselves. Does this make any sense to you?

We all have a little child within us that needs to feel loved, appreciated and acknowledged, not so much by other people but by our own Self. Take time to appreciate, acknowledge and express your gratitude for the beautiful being that you are and for the wonderful things you have done so far. Take time to love and nurture your Self. Take time to prove your Self that you really matter and that you are valued. Give to your Self the love, appreciation and acknowledgment that what you expect from others.

4. Give more of your Self

Each and every one of us has something unique and of great value to offer to the world. The more we work on connecting with who we really are at a deeper level, and the stronger the friendship with our Self becomes, the easier it will be for us to discover what our unique gifts are and the easier it will be to share these gifts with the world.

Giving is a sign of having and the more you give, the more life will give back to you. Give more of your Self to the world. Give more of your love and attention; give more of your unique gifts and talents; give more of your laughter, your joyful energy and give more of your beautiful presence.

5. Empty your mind of all thoughts

“Stop thinking, and end your problems. What difference between yes and no? What difference between success and failure? Must you value what others value, avoid what others avoid? How ridiculous!” ~ Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

They say that on a daily basis there are 60,000 thoughts that run through our minds and that 75% of these thoughts are repetitive and negative. We are damaging ourselves by allowing our minds to bully us into thinking that our lives are a lot worse than they actually are. We allow our minds to bully us into thinking that there is something wrong with us. As a result, we begin to look for love, validation and approval outside ourselves. We buy things we don’t really need to impress people we don’t actually like and we build our build our lives on a shaky foundation.

Step back from your own mind. Empty your mind of all thoughts. Detach from all the drama that your mind is trying to create and realize that you and your thoughts are not the same. Empty your mind of all thoughts. Spend at least 5 to 10 minutes every in silence. Focus on your breathing. Observe the thoughts that run through your mind and the noise that is up there. You are are that noise and you are not those thoughts, you are the one observing that noise and those thoughts.

6. Set your boundaries

By constantly saying “yes” when you know deep down inside that you actually meant to say “no”, and by constantly trying to please those around you just so you can feel loved and appreciated, you will continue to make yourself very unhappy. Why? Because you will continue to betray your own feelings just so you can please them…

People treat you the way you allow them to treat you, the way you teach them to treat you. Learn to say “no” when you feel like saying “no” and “yes” only when you truly feel like saying “yes”. Set your boundaries. Let people know what you tolerate and what you don’t. Honor your integrity and you will gain a lot respect, love and admiration from those around you because of this.

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13 Practices of an Awakened Person

Paul Lenda |Waking Times

Tog-me Zong-po lived nearly 800 years ago, yet his 37 Practices of a Bodhisattva is still considered a pinnacle list of traits that a person who wishes to become enlightened for the benefit of all beings has. The following 13 practices (which I’ve put into simpler terms to make them easier to understand) are what I consider the most practical and helpful out of the 37 and by applying these practices to our daily lives we can make a lasting, positive impression on the collective consciousness of humanity… a positive influence that is deeply needed in this time of transition from the old order to the new paradigm. Some of these are not easy, but for those of us that want to embark on the journey to awakened enlightenment, these are practices that will lead us there:

1.) Day and night, be fully alert and present. Listen, reflect, and do a lot of meditation.

2.) Attraction to those close to you catches you in their currents. Aversion to those who hate on you burns inside. Indifference that ignores what should be done is a black hole. Take a step outside your comfort zone.

3.) Some so-called friends take you further and further away from the path to awakened consciousness. These kinds of friends ridicule and discourage learning, reflection, and meditation. These kinds of friends make you lose kindness and compassion. Give up these bad friends.

4.) All suffering comes from wanting to please our own selves. Enlightened awakening arises when our thoughts and actions help others. So, in exchange for our selfish desires and neglect of our suffering humanity, replace thoughts of the self with concern for all others.

5.) If someone spreads ugly rumors about us with cruel words, and even if what that person has said spreads to others and gains wide acceptance as being the truth; wish for that person to overcome their troubles and gain peace of mind. Applaud all their positive traits and treat them with kindness.

6.) If in a crowd full of people someone exposes our faults before others and points out the flaws we still have; do not get angry or become defensive; just listen in silence and reflect on their words. Treat this person as a teacher.

7.) If someone we love and have cared for with kindness treats us with thankless resentment and treats us as if we are their most hated enemy, then see these acts as a terrible sickness that has infected and affected their mind. Treat them with even more love and affection.

8.) Even when you are famous, praised, and rich don’t be arrogant. Know that the magnificence of existence, as awesome as it is, ultimately has no substance. Cast out what pride you might have as a result of fame.

9.) If we are not able to take control of the anger inside of us, although we may overpower and conquer others outside, the anger will just keep coming. Turn inwards and tame the wild flow of your mind-stream.

10.) Whatever appears to be truly real is simply what a mind in delusion creates. This mind of ours is also from the beginning devoid of an essence inherently real. Realize Truth is beyond the conceptions we have known and beyond the knower as well. Dispel the belief in inherent existence.

11.) Abusive words and language that we say in anger cause others a lot of pain to them by disturbing their minds, and we who are striving to be enlightened will find that our practice will decline. So seeing the faults that arise from harsh language, abandon abusive and hurtful language.

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