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7 Things All Women Need in a Relationship

Posted by on November 7, 2016 in Conscious Living, Relationships & Sex with 19 Comments


By Jordan Gray | Jordan Gray Consulting

Men and women are at an emotional stalemate.

We feel something’s lacking in our relationships. The majority of men aren’t able to penetrate their women fully, nor are women fully opening to their men.

Women aren’t opening because men aren’t giving them what they need. Women feel disappointed and resentful; they are suffering. When women suffer, and they feel like they aren’t being seen, they close off to their men.

Fortunately, you can learn the right tools to be able to more fully penetrate your woman. You can give your partner what she needs, allowing her to feel seen so that she will open again.

Take the time to read through these needs. Let them sink in. Understanding what you can do to help your partner fully open will not only improve your relationship, but it will improve your entire life.

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Here are the seven things that all women want in a relationship.

1. To Feel Loved

When women feel loved, they relax and open to us. The arguments dissipate, the sex is abundant, and their nurturing feminine energy flows throughout our lives.

Not feeling loved is the subtext of every argument that you and your partner have.

If she is unhappy that you are going out with your friends, or she’s upset about her day at work, or she is only responding to you with brief snippets of sentences, then the cause is most likely her not feeling loved enough.

Learn to see through her words, actions, and moods and see what the real root of it is.

2. To Feel Safe

There is a war being waged on women’s self-esteem, sexuality, and safety from a very young age.

Because of the barrage of disempowering messages being sent to women regarding their sexuality, women need to have a safe space where they feel that they can trust their partners.

She wants to trust your strength. She wants to feel like you can handle whatever she shows you.

She wants to feel like you will not judge her if she asks for something risqué. She wants to know you won’t collapse in defeat if she tells you to do it “This way” instead.

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By creating a safe space for your woman to open up to you emotionally and sexually, you will be giving her a very powerful gift- you allow her to grow within your relationship and undo old emotional damage.

3. To Feel Seen

Women want to feel seen.

She wants to feel you hearing her, and being aware of her emotional state.

She doesn’t necessarily want you to be affected by her emotional state, but she does want you to be witness to it.

If she is sitting across the room from you and you aren’t picking up on the fact that she is suffering emotionally and on the verge of tears, she will begin to trust you less. She will think, “If he can’t see that I am hurting now, how long will it take him to figure it out? Will I be suffering for days or weeks before he is aware of it or cares enough to help me through this? I guess I have to rely on myself for my own emotional support.”

Life can seem extremely lonely, even within a relationship. You have to constantly show your partner that at least one person will be witness to her and her journey through life. (Hint: that person is you.)

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4. To Be Allowed To Be Nurturing

Just as masculine energy has the need to protect, feminine energy has the desire to nurture.

Women want to see the cracks in our armour. They want to see that we trust them enough to open up to them. They want to be able to help us through our sadness.

An integrated, evolved man who has a balanced masculine energy as well as his own sliver of feminine would welcome his woman’s nurturing.

If you are a guy reading this, have you ever held open a door for a woman because it’s the polite thing to do (but more just because she’s a person and it wasn’t even a gender-based act) and she chews your ear off for it? “Oh what? I can’t open the door for myself because I’m a woman?! You sexist pig!”

That is an example of a wounded, unbalanced woman who doesn’t want to accept help from a masculine source. This is exactly how it feels to your partner when you push her away when you feel the most vulnerable. “I don’t need to lay my head down on your chest and tell you about my feelings because I don’t have any!” That is a lie. It’s a lie that serves your purpose of not letting your partner in. This lack of vulnerability and authenticity is what is making you and your partner suffer.

So let her in. She wants to love you.


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  1.' Dan Walper says:

    A house better than her friends.

    A more obedient husband than her friends.

    More money than her friends.

    Cuter baby than her friends.

    Nicer hair than her friends.

    A nicer body then her friends.

  2.' Ken Cabbage says:

    Fuk off

  3.' David Keenan says:


  4.' Sonia Bonner says:

    Do as your told and don’t answer back lol

  5.' Paul Bishop says:

    Lmao ? ? ? just 7 ??? Wtf

  6.' Jeremy Graham says:

    Seems to me the list applies to both men and women.

  7.' Linette Riber says:

    Nails it 120 %!! Man how I know that feeling. Every single of the seven points is like Jordan has been studying my marriage. I am in shock!Spot on and moving on…
    Love and light

  8.' Subrata Chakraborty says:

    But what d 7 things…

  9.' Violetta Nikolova says:

    Not only do women need these men do to….

  10.' Katy Elwood says:

    These things dont exist. Yes you are your own emotioal support. Expecting a man to love and protect you is foolishness. They dont do that. Ur job is to cook and breed. That is your value to a man. Once you are nogood for that you are cast out for something young and beautiful…that will breed and stoke his ego. Expecting anything more is your own lacking of self.

  11.' Teresa Elena Doniger says:

    This is completely ignorant.

  12.' Vincent Tan says:

    Cleanliness Inside Out…

  13.' Lynn House says:

    I would add for all relationships.. To be encouraged to grow, to be known and if not understood, accepted…

  14.' Ryan A Lopez says:

    most of these are general human traits.. I open doors for all.. but more women and my elders..

    never in my life did some one yell from an act of kindness.. did anyone else have that happen to them just curious?

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