7 One-Minute Relationship Boosters You Should Try

Alice Boyes Ph.D. | Psychology Today


Super quick tips to rev-up that lovin’ feeling.

Not all of these may appeal to you but pick what you think you and your partner would both be into, and get a quick boost to your feelings of love and connection.

1. Surprise your partner by doing a crappy task they normally do.

e.g., bring in the trash can, or refill the hand soap dispenser.

2. Compliment your partner’s parents. Make it something specific.

“I love how good your Dad is at…” “I love how you Mom is always…”

(Assumes your partner has a reasonably good relationship with their parents.)

3. Compliment one of your partner’s friends.

e.g., “I really like how smart Bridget is.”

Why? It shows you think your partner has good taste in friends.

4. Put a flower in a vase (or a jar) and put it on the table when you eat dinner.

Or, use the good tableware, candles etc. You get the idea. Make eating dinner together a little bit special and different.

5. Use a nickname you’ve stopped using.

Think back to the start of your relationship to any affectionate nicknames you used to use but have stopped using. Bring that puppy back. Your brain will associate the nickname with your initial heady, in love feelings.

Alternative version: Do any fun thing you used to do but have stopped e.g., you used to play Monopoly when you first started dating (OK: this will take more than 1 minute).

6. Thank your partner for something you usually take for granted.

e.g., “Thanks for cleaning off the plates sweetie”.

7. Bring up a positive memory of something you did together.

e.g., “I was just thinking about how fun it was to pick out plants together last weekend.”

Why? Thinking about positive events, even minor ones, enhances happy feelings.


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Dr Alice Boyes is author of The Anxiety Toolkit (2015, Perigee/Penguin)

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  1. Rambowrdxdi9@gmail.com' Aaryeum Dee says:

    So inspiring…

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