6 Ways to Decide If You Have a Real Friend

Luminita D. Saviuc | Purpose Fairy

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“There is nothing on this earth more to be prized than true friendship.” ~  Thomas Aquinas

I got to a point in my life where I understand that you shouldn’t expect much from those around you, and that you shouldn’t make anyone responsible for your own happiness, health and well-being. And even though that’s the ideal way of living a happy, balanced and harmonious life, because there are people in our lives who call themselves our friends, people who say that they love and adore us, and people whom we ourselves love and care about, we inevitably start expecting to receive a “special treatment” from these people. We inevitably expect them to be there for us when the rest of the world is not, and we inevitably expect them to keep us company not only in our good, prosperous and happy moments, but also in our darkest and unhappiest ones. And that’s exactly why I decided to write this blog post.

Here are 6 ways to decide if the people in your life, the ones who call themselves your friends, behave as true friends. 

1. True friends honor their words with actions.

“The focus should not be on talking. Talk is cheap. It must be on action.” ~ Howard Berman

Love is a verb, and if someone wants you to know how much you really mean to them, and how important your presence and existence is in their life, they will prove it to you not just by using all kind of beautiful and colorful words, but also by making sure that they honor all those words with actions. People who love and care about you, true friends, they honor their words with actions. 

2. True friends find time for you in their busy schedule.

People who tell you that they love you but they rarely make themselves available to you know nothing about love, for that’s not true love. If you really love someone, and if the relationship you have with them matters to you, then you will make yourself available to these people. You will find a way to spend quality time with them. True friends find time for you in their busy schedule. 

“Your time is your life. That is why the greatest gift you can give someone is your time. It is not enough to just say relationships are important; we must prove it by investing time in them. Words alone are worthless… Relationships take time and effort, and the best way to spell love is “T-I-M-E.” ~ Rick Warren

3. True friends laugh with you, but they also cry with you.

I once heard someone say that when you laugh, the whole world laughs with you, but when you cry, you cry alone. And I don’t agree with this. From personal experience I can tell you that there are people in this world who know how to truly love. People who will be there for you no matter what. People who will laugh with you you, but who will also cry with you. People who will not leave you alone especially in those dark and painful moments when their love and support is what you need the most. True friends laugh with you, but they also cry with you. 

“If one day you feel like crying… call me I don’t promise that I will make you laugh but I can cry with you. If one day you want to run away Don’t be afraid to call me. I don’t promise to ask you to stop, but I can run with you. If one day you don’t want to listen to anyone call me I promise to be there for you but I also promise to remain quiet but… If one day you call and there is no answer… come fast to see me.. Perhaps I need you.” ~ Robert J. Lavery


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  1. 10207903501532975@facebook.com' Mar Saday says:

    Helen Hancock xx

  2. 796394153839709@facebook.com' Ghazal Noor says:

    Good article and true

  3. 10208682602530377@facebook.com' Carol Swick says:

    —-(♥)(♥)(♥)—-(♥)(♥)(♥) __ ɪƒ ƴσυ’ʀє αʟσηє,
    –(♥)██████(♥)(♥)██████(♥) ɪ’ʟʟ ɓє ƴσυʀ ѕɧα∂σѡ.
    -(♥)████████(♥)████████(♥) ɪƒ ƴσυ ѡαηт тσ cʀƴ,
    -(♥)██████████████████(♥) ɪ’ʟʟ ɓє ƴσυʀ ѕɧσυʟ∂єʀ.
    –(♥)████████████████(♥) ɪƒ ƴσυ ѡαηт α ɧυɢ,
    —-(♥)████████████(♥) __ ɪ’ʟʟ ɓє ƴσυʀ ρɪʟʟσѡ.
    ——(♥)████████(♥) ɪƒ ƴσυ ηєє∂ тσ ɓє ɧαρρƴ,
    ——–(♥)████(♥) __ ɪ’ʟʟ ɓє ƴσυʀ ѕɱɪʟє.
    ———(♥)██(♥) ɓυт αηƴтɪɱє ƴσυ ηєє∂ α ƒʀɪєη∂,
    ———–(♥) __ ɪ’ʟʟ ʝυѕт ɓє ɱє.
    Thank You there for being me

  4. 1481035618876924@facebook.com' Christie Gil says:

    So good. This will weed out who is wasting your time.

  5. 179345209112910@facebook.com' Reed Tee says:

    Rosie Marshall Murphy, Debb Noe.

  6. 1143833955657005@facebook.com' Debb Noe says:

    That’s how it goes!! ?

  7. 815812238564113@facebook.com' Eryn Withay says:

    This is true, but really sad…so many who I thought were REAL friends have basically cut me out after they got married and had kids ?

  8. 944622608918171@facebook.com' Paula Burke says:

    Instead of supporting you when you need to do your own thing they basically cut you out instead. They’re hardly true friends.

  9. 1636896506568673@facebook.com' Corinne Omeasoo says:

    Thank you Purpose Fairy and Conscious Life News

  10. 10209129140645210@facebook.com' Melissa Pittman says:

    Great article. So true. ?

  11. 10204594907070966@facebook.com' Rosie Marshall Murphy says:

    Anytime Treed! Love you

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