6 Ways To Boost Your Confidence

Written by on January 23, 2015 in Conscious Living, Thrive with 1 Comment


6 ways to boost your confidenceAnyone who tells you that confidence is an innate quality isn’t telling you the truth.

Confidence isn’t a trait that some people have and others don’t.

I am not a naturally confident person.

I used to worry about what people thought of me. I feared being awkward or saying the wrong thing. Many times, I was unsure of myself.

The good news is that I grew out of this.

I did so by building my confidence muscle, being around confident people and taking notes on effective confidence-boosting strategies.

In my previous life, I helped run campaigns for candidates seeking public office. I worked closely with some of the most confident people you can imagine.

I began to notice similarities among the political candidates I worked with. I also came to realize that not all of these people had been confident their entire lives. Sure, a couple had been, but many political candidates are continually building their confidence.

The secret about confidence is out. Anyone can be confident if they shift their mindset and constantly work at it.

You can be confident too.

As your confidence soars, you’ll stand out at work, easily carry on conversations at social events, meet more people and live a richer life.

Here are 6 ways you can boost your confidence to become the person you’ve always wanted to be:

1) Accept yourself for who you are.

The reason you’re not confident in yourself is that you don’t love and accept yourself.

It’s not your fault. Since your early days, you received conditioning from your parents and other adults who put you down and discouraged you.

You listened to negativity in the form of doubt and criticism.

You can’t go back and change the past, but you can avoid becoming a victim of it.

You can work on loving yourself. You can use positive affirmations that confirm all the wonderful things about yourself. You can remove negative people from your life.

You can treat yourself more kindly by finding work that suits you. You can find more inner peace by practicing gratitude and forgiveness daily.

You can feel your feelings and your pain more. You can embrace your vulnerabilities and manage the inner voice that halts your progress.

You can also live a more authentic life.

Live in line with your values and with what’s important to you as a person.

When you’re living your truth and not hiding behind a mask, you feel comfortable with yourself and present your true face to the world.

2) Delete the disempowering stories that you tell yourself.

In your mind, do you replay past mistakes, screw-ups and failures?

Do you unwittingly tell yourself that you are your past? And do you let past events create the belief system you hold today?

Consider past circumstances that you believe indicate you aren’t good enough, smart enough or competent enough.

Do you see how they were isolated situations? You’re not a failure just because you failed one time.

You’re not a reject if you faced rejection one time.

Acknowledge the stories you’ve created about yourself.

Know that the stories you tell about your lack of confidence are simply NOT TRUE.

You created the stories. You took individual situations, linked them together and created powerfully strong beliefs about yourself.

Once you realize it’s a story, you can change it. You can write the story of how, over time, you learned to be confident.

3) Change the script that goes through your mind.

Growing up, did you listen to parents and loved ones who put you down, doubted you and undermined you?

Or to teachers, authority figures and neighbors who thought they were mentoring you when they were actually destroying your self-worth?

People think they’re providing sound advice when they’re actually hurting you and creating an unhelpful script in your mind.

However, you can change this script.

Try a mindfulness practice that catches the various thoughts bouncing around your brain.

Try affirmations and neuro-linguistic programming to reprogram your subconscious mind.

Listen to positive, confidence-building words and statements to help you flip your internal script.

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  1. dawnsavoy@gmail.com' AdrianDawn Savoy says:

    Very helpful!

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