6 Signs You Have a Strong Friendship That Will Stand the Test of Time

Written by on January 28, 2018 in Conscious Living, Inspirational, Relationships & Sex with 6 Comments

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By Faheem Omar | Tiny Buddha

“Friendship… is not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything.” ~Muhammad Ali

Doesn’t it hurt?

You develop a friendship with someone who appeared to be decent but turned out to be a huge problem in your life.

I’m not talking about those occasional slip-ups like keeping you waiting at the coffee shop until 4:10 when the rendezvous was scheduled for 4:00.

I mean those things that completely slash the fabric of your friendship—stuff that truly hurts, like harsh words that prey on your weaknesses and sensitivities, or complete betrayal of your trust and abuse of your goodwill.

We’re all vulnerable to being hurt by those closest to us, and I’m no exception.

Over the years, I’ve made friends with several people who turned out to be destructive to my well-being.


Some had spoken words to me that cut like blades. Others had coldly accused me of things I wouldn’t even dream of doing, just to save their own hide.

But despite the pain and anguish those experiences put me through, they were telling moments in my life because they forced me to rethink my understanding of the true meaning of friendship.

We often befriend someone because we see commonalities in them. They have shared interests, a common background, or a similar sense of humor. But while all those things are important, they’re not enough to build a deep-rooted, long-lasting friendship on, at least not by themselves.

I had lots in common with my friends, and they always cracked me up, so why did they end up hurting me? Something was obviously missing, and after some deep reflection, I found out what it was.

For a true friendship to form, it has to be mutually built on the essentials—strong pillars that burrow deep beyond the superficial stuff.

Here are the six signs you have a strong friendship that will stand the test of time.

 1. You stick with each other through the highs and lows.

You don’t desert each other when things get tough or suspiciously start spending less time together after a promotion at work.

Your relationship doesn’t fluctuate based on each other’s bank balance, the kind of people you hang out with, or any other trivial variables.

Your connection to one another stems from one creed—you are friends because you want to be.

2. You keep each other in the loop.

You have trust and confidence in each other, and you’ll come to each other directly if any problems arise between you instead of talking behind each other’s backs about it.

You try your best to avoid getting a third party involved if you do have problems because you cherish how your friendship is like a coin—it’s two-sided and in no need of a third to be complete.

You’re close enough to confide your problems in each other and come to a sensible solution between yourselves.

By doing this, you both show that you are actively eradicating any potential threats to your friendship’s survival and that you genuinely care about preserving it.

3. You view each other through a positive lens.

You both realize that you’re human and make mistakes, so you give each other the benefit of the doubt.

You forgive and pardon the petty stuff and don’t reignite the flames of bad memories.

One day, my friend came over with a gift to encourage me in my studies.

Now, I’m kind of quirky. I only do well in my studies if I stay focused through my own motivations, and I see outside encouragement as a distraction.

I know my friend meant well, but at that moment, I rejected his gift with some snappy comment without explaining my position. I regretted it almost instantly.

Thankfully, he gave me the benefit of the doubt and hasn’t mentioned that little blooper to this day. (Let’s hope he doesn’t mention it anytime in the near future!) Now that’s a true friend.

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