6 Excuses Your Ego Makes To Sabotage Your Spiritual Growth (Video)

Written by on March 25, 2019 in Conscious Evolution, Conscious Living with 8 Comments

Part of growing as a spiritual being is to be aware of the parts of us that DON'T want to change and grow. Our bodies are set up for homeostasis — and so is our ego identity. Throughout your life, your are growing and changing, but you still think of yourself as “I.” Your ego, the “I” part of you typically has a negative, knee-jerk reaction to anything that lies outside your comfort zone. Over time, it can be coaxed into cooperating with the process of transformation, but until it operates on that level, you need to beware of the ways it can trick you into not taking on the challenges that are best for your personal expansion.

In this video, I share 6 sneaky ways your ego tries to sabotage your self-growth. See which of these are most familiar to you — and make sure not to “fall” for them next time. A questioning mind is an expanding mind!

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6 Excuses Your Ego Makes to Avoid Transformational Opportunities

1) I need to (over) think about it.

Yes, you do need to do a little research for most big decisions. You probably want to weigh your options. But at some point, thinking you have to think about it more and more is just your ego's way of avoiding making a decision and taking action.

2) I tried it and it didn't work.

If you say this, ask yourself how hard you tried on a scale of 1 to 10 (with 1 being very little and 10 being the absolute maximum). I find that when my clients use this, they typically haven't tried very long or very hard. If you tried something with all your being, then this statement may be the truth, but in most cases, I find that the ego makes a cursory stab at something, just so it can say this and dismiss taking on the bigger task (or transformational journey) being considered.

3) This is stupid.

There's a little reverse psychology going on here. When I hear this one, it's usually coming from somebody who's intimidated. Instead of admitting that the path in front of them is a little scary or overwhelming, they dismiss it with a blanket judgment about how dumb it is. The default mode for the ego (which is different than a deeply conscious ego) is to keep things under control and to make itself feel superior. Your spirit, on the other hand, couldn't care less about your status or who's in charge. Your spirit just wants to play and grow, so beware of this trap.

4) I'm waiting for the perfect moment.

You may not say verbatim that you are waiting for the perfect moment. More likely, you'll say something like, “I'm waiting until… (fill in the blank). It could be when you graduate, get a different job, find a different partner, have more money, lose more weight. Whatever it is, it is an excuse, plain and simple. NOW is the only moment you ever have and it is always “perfect.” Likewise, the perfect timing you think you're waiting for will never come. It. Just. Won't. Come. Admit it. Deep down, it's just another one of your ego's excuses to not actually step up and start creating what you really want right NOW.

5) I can't.

This is a popular one many of us pull out when we're afraid to step up to the next level. But the truth is nobody can do something right from the start. So if you're ego uses this as an excuse, just remember that it's a totally normal thing that you can't NOW. That's why you are stepping up to learn or transform in some way — so that you can learn how you can. Most of us have the bad habit of assuming that if someone is good at something, it comes to them naturally. I'll never forget when I went to a small Picasso museum in Arles, France and saw the artist's earliest sketches. They genuinely sucked — dozens of drawings that were dreadfully bad. I could doodle better than that! So how did Picasso become, well… Picasso? He never said “I can't.” He just kept drawing and drawing and drawing until he was one of the best. “I can't” should never be an excuse to not do something, because with dedication and practice, we can develop almost any skill over time.

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6) I don't have the resources (money, time, etc).

You can always find a way to do what you really want to do. When it comes to transformational opportunities, the ego likes to make you think that there is some sort of external lack that is stopping you from stepping forward. That way, you can say you “would” step up if you “could.” Don't buy into that. You always can. Think of a time in your life when you were really resourceful and, against all odds, you made something happen. When you hear yourself making resource excuses, one of two things is happening: either you don't really want to do the thing you say you want to do, or your ego is sabotaging you. If it's the latter, fight back. You're ridiculously resourceful. Challenge yourself and make the thing you want to happen happen!

I'm sure this is not an exhaustive list of the ego's tricks, but these are the ones I hear pretty frequently, so knowing them should give you a leg up on your transformational path. If you know of some good ones that I didn't include, by all means, please share them in the comments section below so others can benefit from your experience.

Stay true to your path!

Love and blessings,


About Vicki Howie

Vicki-Howie-headshot-redVicki Howie is the Creator of Chakra Boosters Healing Tattoos™ (find out what inspired her to create them here). Check out her new book “The Key to Your Chakras” here on amazon.com. Vicki is also the Creator of Chakra Love and the Chakra Life Cycle System®.You can visit her website chakraboosters.com, facebook page and youtube channel for lots of free chakra info and gifts. Vicki’s biggest joy is to help you unleash your full chakra power and step into your highest potential.

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  1. r.h.smith1@hotmail.com' Roberta Smith says:

    You sweet georgous lady… Yet another little gem to break the walls of ego down.. Blessings of love and happiness to you x

    • admin@consciouslifenews.com' clnews says:

      Aahhh, Roberta, you’re so sweet. Thanks for taking the time to share. Love and blessings, Vicki

  2. oldnahele@icloud.com' Roz says:

    Wow! Just listened to this. I have never heard anything mentioned so spiritually and joyfully as what you have done here. Your words of wisdom honor the soul & spirit, and make me want to pay more attention to my inner self. Thank you!

  3. Sanjay Singh Sanjay Singh says:

    There is no god…each one of us have the potential to be god, god is no one but it is a pure consciousness whose basic nature is to feel compassionate towards all kind of lifes in this existance. Actually we are already a god/pue consciousness but we are under a kind of state in which our true powers are restricted because we are bound to this finite universe by this virtual/materialistic bodies. Maybe the purpose of this boundation is to protect us from ourselves. So the point is according to this finite perceptual existance we have perceptial consciousness i.e. our minds, so the truth of this existance must be understood by our mind by questioning the reality around us indivisually as a subjective manner rather than objective manner. Then only there will be no space for any kind of beliefs in your minds,(because belief and to know is two different things),you have to take a scientific approach here by raising questions, then a point will come when you dont just belief the god in you but you know and you will feel that you really are GOD.

    • Todd Speed Todd Speed says:

      Or maybe there is the concept of the ancient maya where we are equal particles in a universe moving towards perfection.
      For myself I would say god is a man made concept and until humankind moves away from their ego and realise we are all one. …well we’re all fucked? but that’s just my opinion

    • Sanjay Singh Sanjay Singh says:

      Us- just consciousness and god – consciousness+power of maya

  4. gndale49@gmail.com' Greg says:

    I can see from the comments, that are several years old, that this commentary has been published before. A new comment is necessary. I keep hoping that I will run across someone who writes about the ego who actually knows what they are talking about. The author of this article (and video) clearly does not. The ego is a fundamental part of human psychological structure. It is the source of our self-awareness, our personal boundaries, our ability to make decisions, our ability to conduct any kind of self-examination. We cannot be creative beings without it. The ego is the gateway to discovering all the wondrous things each of us contain and all the things that we need to face, embrace, and release. When the ego reacts in a self-protective way, it is simply trying to protect a wounded self and it is showing that there is a wounded self held inside that needs attention. The ego is not some kind of evil twin that needs to be kept on a short chain. The ego is not an aberration. We cannot grow and mature in our self-understanding without it. I sincerely hope that the author of this article discovers this fact and is able to use it in her journey of self-discovery.

  5. jeffhand409@yahoo.com' jeff says:

    Great post!

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