5 Unexpected Ways the Inflated Ego Enslaves, Dominates, and Fools You

Posted by on May 31, 2016 in Conscious Evolution, Conscious Living with 1 Comment

egoBy   | LonerWolf.com

One of the simplest truths of life is this: The bigger your ego is, the bigger your problems are.

In fact, the size of your ego directly correlates to the size of your struggles and burdens in life. So take a moment to reflect on your current life: how much are you suffering? If your answer is “WAY too much,” don’t worry, most of us feel the same way. Why? Because we haven’t learned to distinguish the voice of the ego from the voice of the Soul.

Sol and I sent out an email the other night asking you guys to share with us some of the most vital problems and topics of interest you have right now. The subject of the inflated ego came up so often that we just had to write about it today. 😉

Do You Have an Inflated Ego?

Ironically we cringe at this question so much that it instantly makes us go into denial mode. “NO … I have quite a normal ego thank you,” we are prone to think. Then, we might proceed to hunt for a person in our lives that we can feel angry and self-righteous towards, and start ruminating on how much we detest their inflated ego.

Funny don’t you think?

The ego denies the existence of the ego, and the ego likes to find someone else to blame, which is precisely why we continue ending up in the same depressing emotional ruts over and over again. When we refuse to acknowledge the extent to which our ego runs our lives, we fail to ever authentically grow or find deep peace in life.

But to acknowledge that you have a humongous ego is very hard. Oh yes!

It takes humility, openness and radical honesty to get to a point where you can say, “YES, I have a MASSIVE EGO, and it sucks.” It takes a lot of courage to admit that you are wrong and that you’re not as great or as righteous as you once thought. Why? Because for many people this spells D.E.A.T.H.; death of stability, death of certainty, death of confidence, death of self-esteem.

But hear me now … you don’t need to hate yourself in order to admit that you have an inflated ego! On the contrary, admitting this to yourself is one of the greatest acts of self-love possible, and it is a direct gift from the Soul to be able to admit your egotism, and yet still respect who you are on a soulful level.

5 Devious Tactics of the Inflated Ego That Keep You Asleep

When you are “asleep” you have not awoken to the truth of life – of your reality. When we speak of “waking up” or refer to an “awakening soul,” we are referring to a person who has tasted authenticity of being – not the lies and half-truths of man-made existence.

So have you woken up, or are you mostly asleep? Perhaps you are in the middle, and exist in a limbo between truth and lie, reality and unreality. Find out below:

1. I need anger and fear in order to enact change.

I have heard this so many times – even from myself – that it is mind boggling. Activists in particular suffer from this type of ego trick, believing that the only way to create real change is to approach people from a place of anger. I’ve seen and heard a lot of vegans, religious missionaries and animal right’s activists in particular use guilt, shame and fear to try and convert people to a “better way of life.” However, this often just results in ego-fueled arguments, resentment, and worst of all, denial.

The reality is that anger breeds anger. War breeds war. But love breeds love. Peace breeds peace. And love, true love in my experience, is not an inactive state of sitting in your own drool; it is active, and comes from a place of understanding.

Who would you most likely take seriously? A person who calls you a “sinner” or a “selfish murderer” who is “unconscious, unethical, and the scum of the earth,” or someone who teaches you empathy, true understanding, and compassion for not only yourself, but for all of life?

2. I need to be “more spiritual” in order to be happier.

When you think of a spiritual person, what do you picture? Perhaps you think of a yogi, or an energy healer, or a psychic. Images of crystals, chakra cleansing, or meditation might arise. And while all of these things are very useful and extremely beneficial, it is not actually necessary for us to “be a spiritual person” in order to find deep, abiding joy.

Why is this the case? Because the act of pursuing an image of spirituality takes away from the act purely experiencing Being. When we are constantly desiring and attempting to be something other than what we innately are, we create an immense dissatisfaction and rift in our lives. We constantly feel as though we are “almost there”; almost the epitome of spirituality, when all along we are chasing our tails in circles. In reality, what we have desired all along is already here beneath all the layers of our thoughts, beliefs, desires, conditionings and goals.

How can you know this for sure? Take a moment to stop what you are doing right now. Stop your searching, stop your running, stop your resistance to whatever is happening in your life in this very moment. Allow everything to be as it is. This doesn’t mean being a pushover or doormat; it means being smart and not fighting with reality. Stopping everything is the best way to experience the innate joy that has already existed beneath everything all along.

(Here I recommend the work of Darryl Bailey who is the perfect example of a non-pretentious spiritual teacher.)

3. I need to suffer in order to find fulfillment.

This mindset is similar to the Martyr complex way of seeing life. While it is undeniable that suffering helps us to grow and learn, to think that suffering is a prerequisite to experiencing fulfillment is like thinking that you must chop off your finger in order to have a really great day.

The reality is that you don’t need to suffer to find fulfillment, although finding fulfillment is often a result of suffering. Sound like a bunch of Dr. Seuss lingo?

Often we get extremely attached to our stories of righteous suffering. Why? Because they make us feel special and entitled. However, what we neglect to realize is that the ego is running the show here: you don’t need to be a martyr to experience the Soul. You don’t need anything but the cultivation of conscious presence, now.


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  1. gndale49@gmail.com' Greg says:

    This is a useful article, but only partially. It neglects a very pertinent and critical element when it comes to the ego. That element is that the ego is a fundamental part of our human psychological structure. It is the source of our self-awareness, our personal boundaries, our self-confidence. We are conscious because of it. Part of our task in this physical life is to learn to integrate it into our whole self. Certainly, taking responsibility for an out-of-control ego is an important and necessary step toward that integration. Anyone who thinks that we can eliminate the ego because it is some kind of monstrous, evil, thing is very confused. Anyone who tries is inviting serious mental health issues. The only way to actively integrate the ego into our whole self is through the self-examination that leads to self-understanding. If you want to be an active participant in the ongoing creation, it can only be done effectively as a whole person. The ego is part of that wholeness.

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