4 Ways to Use Drama to Your Ultimate Advantage


Tree Figures by Cherie Roe Dirksen

When I Was a Wallflower…

Last weekend I found myself in a bustling local pub doing door-takings for my husband’s band. To cut a long evening short, I overheard things — whilst sitting out on the venues veranda — that would make your toes and hair curl simultaneously.

I woke up the next morning wishing for a mind wipe (I know and have to interact with most of these locals — it’s a small town!).

It’s an interesting life being the wife of a musician. You get to go to all the gigs and meet a lot of versatile, interesting, fun people…and, of course, let’s not leave out the cutting-edge weirdo’s!

Then there are the bolsimus.

I’m Adding Bolsimus to Wikipedia

What’s a bolsimus?

It’s an acronym I coined that stands for ‘Bored Of Life So I Make Up Stuff’ (kind of like what I just did there with this acronym!).

These bolsimus people are like dynamite. They’re easy to set off and cause havoc in their wake — ‘cause let’s face it, they’re just plain bored. What else is there to do that’s fun (how about get a hobby? Or grow up? #JustSaying)?

They tend to thrive off drama, upset and sometimes even pain (especially yours).

They are usually ruled by the ego and have a fertile imagination (which can be a very dangerous breeding ground for utter nonsense). Most of what they do serves to elevate their agenda and self-righteousness and defame you.

The worst case scenario: They think what they’re doing is justified, true (somehow they convince themselves of their own bullsh*t) and morally acceptable. Nein!

They get so would up in their drama and what they think is happening (through assumption —  to ‘assume' definitely makes an ‘ass out of u and me’) that they isolate and destroy many a relationship.

I bore witness to this with my own eyes on that fateful evening. It truly amazed me to see the levels some people would go to to create a full-on stage production — drama 101.

The Bombshell

I heard a lot of ‘big’ talk (*rolling my eyes*), had to snigger at some intoxicated conversations (I’m only human), cringed at the level of detail some people went into at the top of their voices and witnessed some overt displays of immoral depravity whilst goggling at the gall of the most anti-social behavior.

The energy, at best, was helter skelter.

As I said before, I woke up the next morning feeling shell-shocked. I was trying to piece together what I’d heard and learnt and was drawing blanks.

I sat staring at my wall for about 2 hours, mouth open. What was the universe trying to tell me? Besides wanting to hop on the next UFO to get the hell out of here!

Okay, so this is what I eventually fathomed from this evening of gay frivolity:

You can actually thrive from other people’s dramas. Not in the way you may think however but by seeing and clearly acknowledging as the ‘silent’ witness:

  1. What you don’t want to be a part of or create in your life,
  2. what drama inevitably does to warp your relationships and alienate those who actually love and care for you,
  3. how sad it all is because most drama is made up — it doesn’t exist but in your own fantasy world and
  4. that you have a choice to engage or to cut off the ties that bind.

What in the name of the woolly mammoth do people get off on by creating such discord? I may never know the answer but what I do know is this: I don’t want to be a part of it!

I want harmony not discord!

Duck! Incoming…*Boom*

I want to be that mallard in Eckhart Tolle’s book, A New Earth.

Related article: 27 Life Changing Lessons to Learn From Eckhart Tolle

He spoke of seeing two ducks having a face-off. Once they had parted ways, he witnessed the one duck fluffing and shaking out his feathers as if to eradicate the negative energy of the confrontation. Then he swam off on his merry way and it was all over.

The duck didn’t keep looking back or feel it necessary to quack profanities from across the lake.

Why can’t we all take a feather out of this analogy?

We’re probably all going to be continuously tested on some level or another (no matter how much we think we’ve evolved or how enlightened we may be) — to be sucked into drama or not to be sucked into drama.

Thing is, it’s up to us to deal with it — shake our little tail feathers just keep swimming, swimming, swimming (thanks, Dori!).

So, next time you’re faced with an amateur dramatics enlistment, will you be able to detach and extricate yourself from the dynamite of an explosive situation and/or person before you get blown up?

I wish you luck.

Energy Cleansing Tips

Oh and BTW — a good, long, hot soak in the tub (with a few drops of lavender, sage, rose or frankincense essential oil and/or a cup of Epsom salts/Himalayan salt) and a half hour detachment/chord cutting meditation (if you don’t know how to do this, there's a link to a great Doreen Virtue meditation you can use below) helped me iron out the creases of my shattered psyche from that evenings shenanigans.

Related article: 5 Ways You Can Use Lavender Oil to Keep Your Children Healthy & Happy

I’m ready to take on the world again — with my tainted rose-colored glasses firmly on the bridge of my nose!

Life can deal some shockers but you can always hand it back and say, ‘no thanks’.

Cherie-Roe-Dirksen_172x200Cherie Roe Dirksen is a self-empowerment author and multi-media artist from South Africa.

To date, she has published 3 self-help and motivational books and brings out weekly inspirational blogs at her site www.cherieroedirksen.com. Get stuck into finding your passion, purpose and joy by downloading some of those books gratis when you click HERE.

Her ambition is to help you to connect with your innate gift of creativity and living the life you came here to experience by taking responsibility for your actions and becoming the co-creator of your reality. You can also follow Cherie on Facebook (The Art of Empowerment).

Cherie posts a new article on CLN every Thursday. To view her articles, click HERE.

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