Shifting Perspectives: Being the Neutral Observer

Posted by Heartmind _Featured_, Spirituality Wednesday, August 22nd, 2012

Lynn Zambrano
Om Times

The facts, without the emotions that are often attached to a situation, we can enter the role of neutral observer.

A neutral observer can examine a situation from the detached space of not being invested emotionally in the outcome. This overview allows us to decide if our stance in the situation is going to benefit us. We can then view each perspective in the situation and understand.

There is a difference in reacting and relating.

-When we react to something it says that there is a belief system in play. It is often necessary to evaluate that belief system. Is it negative or does it support us in a beneficial way?

-When we relate we are connecting with others. There are times we also need to reflect on how and why we relate. Is it healthy? Does it support us in a positive way? Is this a situation we need to explore, are we reacting legitimately? Are we relating and the other participants reacting?

When we see just the facts we gain understanding of the situation and can choose how we respond. It is impossible to be a neutral observer all the time. We all have thoughts and beliefs that weave into story. What is important is developing neutral observer as a skill for our toolbox.

When we suspend our judgment, we no longer have prejudice in the situation. This frees us to choose another way to respond and participate.