Have you ever asked yourself what makes you a great lover?
Do you remember the first time you actually made love? Do you still feel that passion even now? Do you enjoy making love or do you do it as if you are performing a ritual?
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Here are the Top 7 Mistakes Men Make in Bed Unknowingly.
1) BORING Routine
Making love is one of life’s greatest pleasures, but like everything else, it can quickly become a routine. Routines become boring because we are no longer able to express our sexual energy.
We start this way and we finish that way…time and time again. Where is the fun and playfulness in that?
When you have abundance of new ideas, you’ll re-discover sex and enjoy a more passionate connection with your lover.
If you surprise her on a Sunday afternoon, then you are adding an element of uncertainty. This heightens the intensity and pleasure of making love.
When you are playful, you reignite passion and rediscover the pleasure of making love without a script. The result? She’ll want more and so will you because it’s always a surprise.
2) Performance vs. Pleasing
Are you putting on a show to impress her? Do you picture yourself acting in a porn movie?
When you do this, you put too much pressure on yourself and how you perform. Instead, focus on giving and receiving pleasure.
Making love is sensual, not just physical. It’s not an exercise. It’s a sensual journey of discovery.
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Touch and kiss her in places you’ve never done before. Be aware of how she smells, the way she moves, her breath, her eyes and you will give more pleasure than you ever could by mastering a new technique.
Be relaxed, natural, and open. When you are being yourself, things just flow effortlessly.
3) Arousing Her vs. Convincing Her
One of the biggest mistakes you can make is trying to convince her to make love. When you are trying to convince her – in her mind, this translates into a job, something she has to do to please you vs. something she wants to do with you. Instead, focus on igniting her sexual arousal.
Try whispering something naughty in her ear then walking away. The thrill will drive her wild.
Sexual attraction is mostly emotional and often subconscious. Logic has no place in romance.
Deep passionate kisses are one of the best ways to turn her on. Looking in her eyes and touching her slowly and sensually builds emotional connection. There is no need to rush.
4) Focusing ONLY on Penetration
A woman’s sexuality is diffused all over her body. Penetration alone will not be exciting for her if she’s not properly aroused and ready to accept your penis.
For her, lovemaking is a full body experience, so take the time to find all her juicy spots and awaken her sexual energy.