12 Scientifically Proven Steps to Happiness_Featured_, Happiness Tuesday, September 25th, 2012
Here are the 12 scientifically proven steps to happiness discussed by Sonja Lyubomirsky in her book – “The How of Happiness.” Sonja is a Professor of Psychology at the University of California, Riverside and her work which at one point also focused on the possibility of permanently increasing happiness, has received a great deal on attention from TV stations, radio stations, magazines and newspapers all over the world.
The life you are now living, express your gratitude for it, the mistakes you made in the past and all the lessons you’ve learned, express your gratitude for them. Look for the good in your life and appreciate it.
“The single greatest thing you can do to change your life today would be to start being grateful for what you have right now. And the more grateful you are, the more you get.” ~Oprah
2. CULTIVATE OPTIMISM
Expect the best from life and you will receive the very best. Life doesn’t care whether you are a pessimist or an optimist, whether you focus on the good or the bad, whether you expect the worse or the best from life. Life will treat you exactly the way you expect to be treated and if that’s the case then you should definitely start cultivating your optimism.
“The optimist sees the rose and not its thorns; the pessimist stares at the thorns, oblivious to the rose.”– Kahlil Gibran
3. AVOID OVER-THINKING AND SOCIAL COMPARISON
Our lives and where we are right now are the result of all the thoughts we had since birth up until now. If you don’t like something, see if you can change it but if you can’t change it, don’t stress about it and just let it go. Change your attitude towards life and life will change its attitude towards you. Look for ways to be better than you used to be and not better than anyone else. Spend your time and energy improving yourself and your life and you will no longer feel the need to compete and compare yourself with others.
“Stop thinking, and end your problems. What difference between yes and no? What difference between success and failure? Must you value what others value, avoid what others avoid? How ridiculous!” ~Lao Tzu
4. PRACTICE ACTS OF KINDNESS
Be kind to others and to yourself and you will be happy.
“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” ~Dalai Lama
5. NURTURE SOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS
Go out and meet new people, socialize, get interested in what others are doing and they will automatically get interested in what you are also doing.