10 Reasons Why I Don’t Care Anymore and Neither Should You

Elegance by Cherie Roe Dirksen BannerCan You Relate to These Questions?

There has been too much coincidence of people experiencing these symptoms for me to ignore this any longer.  Let me jump right in the deep end:

  • Are you feeling a great amount of detachment lately from things that would normally bother you regarding your career, home life, worries or life in general?
  • Do you have a ‘devil-may-care’ attitude all of a sudden (as in ‘I don’t give a hoot’ or you couldn’t be asked to bat an eyelid)?
  • Are you struggling to get going this year?  Like you’re stuck in neutral?
  • Do you try to shift gears and get things done but more stuff is piling up and you just don’t have the vooma to carry on?
  • Do you feel that nothing is worth the effort anymore and it’s time to throw in the towel?
  • Do you feel like you’re trying to fit a round into a square?  Things just aren’t fitting anymore and there you are huffing and puffing trying to make it fit!
  • Have you been asking yourself, ‘What’s wrong with me?’

You’ve just stumbled upon a major quagmire that has got most of us quasi-global citizens in it’s lethargic grip.


“What is it, what’s going on?”  I hear you cry!  

I’m not 100% sure but I’m going to give it a shot filtering it through my own realizations of late.  We are experiencing a death and rebirth of our selves.

Goodbye Old Me and Hello New Who?

I’ve gone through the above questions like an old computer trying to scour for an answer to a rather outdated formula.  What have I come up with?  Here it goes:


  • I don’t care what people think of me (there opinions are none of my business)
  • I don’t care what other’s expect of me (I’m doing my best!)
  • I don’t care if I die tomorrow (acceptance rather than denial)
  • I don’t care about my career or where I thought I was heading just a few months ago (it’s not really that important in the greater scheme of things)
  • I don’t care if I end up under a bridge (bridges can be quite nice actually)
  • I don’t care if this world is or isn’t experiencing a shift of paradigm (such hype!)
  • I don’t care if everything I believe to be true isn’t (ooh, there’s a big one!)
  • I don’t care that I don’t care (this is where I stick my tongue out)
  • I don’t care….well, yes, I’m sure you get the picture now

But the crux is, I think I just died to my former self.  Who am I?  No, just rather — I AM.

It feels like my mind, spirit and body have had a rather cleansing enema.  The moment I started detaching from what I wanted to manifest I, you guessed it, started to manifest all those things at a rapid pace.

I suppose you could call it your very own eternal sunshine of the spotless mind so you can start with a clean slate to create this dream life you’ve always wanted.

Why It’s Necessary to Experience Your Own Death (Metaphorically Speaking)

In my humble opinion, I think one has to truly and utterly — with every fiber of your body — die to your old way of thinking/operating/being to open up to the new paradigm that is practically kicking down your door to be let in.

This entails detaching from past auto-responsive behaviors to make way for new neural connections that will allow you to react in a way that is grounded, balanced and coming from your heart and not your head.

Detach from the expectations and opinions of others about you — there is no more need to defend yourself, your career (or lack of) choices, your partner (or lack of) choices, your beliefs (or lack of…lol), your version of reality (or illusion) or anything else you may have felt defensive about in the past.

IT DOESN’T MATTER ANYMORE AND YOU HAVE NO NEED TO DEFEND IT.

Phew!  What a bloody relief!!!

What Needs To Stay and What Will Depart

Those who will love and respect you enough to let you be will remain in your life and those who will not be able to bear not being able to manipulate you anymore will leave (albeit kicking and screaming).

Be the still presence and just watch how things unfold.  Don’t give in to external demands (not unless you’ve made peace with what is being asked of you) — just be silent, bask in the stillness. Eventually what needs to fall away will.

Where there is no two opposing energies feeding a situation, the energy will move on.

Walk the Talk and Dance the Tango

Now is the time to stop talking about what you know or believe and to LIVE it.  Show others by example (how cool would that be?) and not by rabbiting on about it (unless someone asks you for your opinion).  Dance like no-ones watching — even if it is down the aisles at your local supermarket.

Be the change you want to see (thanks, Gandhi) and live for joy and upliftment for yourself and those around you.  If someone or something tries to drag you down — alchemize them/it.  What does that mean?

Keeping You in Suspenders (a Phrase my Father Would Say in Lieu of ‘Suspense’)

How to alchemize a situation?  Ah, that’s for next weeks blog.

For now, be kind to yourself if you are going through this death/rebirth stage.  Drink plenty of water, eat wholesome foods, meditate, do yoga/go for a walk, be in nature (ground yourself!) and keep setting your intentions to feel bliss every day.

UPDATE:  Read ‘3 Ways to Flow Through Chaotic Times’ HERE
CRDCherie Roe Dirksen is a self-empowerment author, multi-media artist and musician from South Africa.

To date, she has published 3 self-help and motivational books and brings out weekly inspirational blogs at her site www.cherieroedirksen.com. Get stuck into finding your passion, purpose and joy by downloading some of those books gratis when you click HERE.

Her ambition is to help you to connect with your innate gift of creativity and living the life you came here to experience by taking responsibility for your actions and becoming the co-creator of your reality. You can follow Cherie on Facebook (The Art of Empowerment — for article updates). She also has just recently launched her official art Facebook page (Cherie Roe Dirksen – for new art updates).

Cherie posts a new article on CLN every Thursday. To view her articles, click HERE.

This article (10 Reasons Why I Don’t Care Anymore and Neither Should You) is published here under a Creative Commons license with attribution to the author Cherie Roe Dirksen and ConsciousLifeNews.com. It may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this Copyright/Creative Commons statement.

 

Save

Tags: , , , , , , , , ,

Subscribe

If you enjoyed this article, subscribe now to receive more just like it.

Subscribe via RSS FeedConnect on YouTube

69 Reader Comments

Trackback URL Comments RSS Feed

  1. wissl@myfairpoint.net' Richard says:

    You made it all the way to ” No, just rather — I AM.”………and then you went right back to analyzing , exp-lanations , how-to paragraphs and all the crap that FOR A SECOND………you had managed to leave behind.
    GO BACK to ….just Being

  2. You make a valid point, Richard.

    • shinethrulove@aol.com' ChaNda says:

      Wow!!! This has helped a lot only I’ve always been sooo upbeat & happy (4 the most part) suffered w depression bt always bounced back now I’m mainly down n not myself… I love caring! n I don’t think I like this change of not wanting to care like usual

    • mikewilliams788@yahoo.com' Mike says:

      “I AM” I like that, but it’s just my opinion.

    • tjperette@gmail.com' TJP says:

      He doesn’t….But good for you being gracious. The article was very helpful to someone going through this right, so no, it didn’t need to stop at “I Am,” because it helped break down how you got there for those of us having trouble…so Thank you for this article!

  3. jenanne30@hotmail.com' Jen says:

    I can’t begin to tell you how much I relate to this post, I’m so glad I came upon it! I have been feeling so detached from life for the past couple of years and for awhile I was wondering if I needed to get on medication for depression. But I wasn’t really depressed, just tired of caring so much and expecting and trying so hard and going nowhere. The minute I stopped caring, I kid you not, things started to fall in place for me. I always come from a place of detachment when I look at things now. It’s not always easy, particularly in stressful times, but I usually come right back to it. I find it hard to relate to people anymore who are coming from a place of attachment, I often don’t understand what they’re getting worked up about, how they don’t understand that if they’d just go with the flow, things usually work themselves out. Anyway, just wanted to say, thanks for posting!

  4. skinnamoo@hotmail.com' Celeste says:

    This article echoes EXACTLY how I’m feeling this year. I think we start feeling like this because we no longer wish to be drones. And it feels good to just say eff it and let go. So thanks so much for posting this. It really hits the spot.

  5. katepowell31@yahoo.com' Frances John says:

    I don’t care to like you on Facebok because I don’t care for Facebook, but I do like you.

  6. hiphoppapotimis@yahoo.com' Luna says:

    Its not that I feel unmotivated or wouldnt care if I died. I just dont give a shit about drama or what people think of me or expect of me.

  7. p7daniel@hotmail.com' Phill says:

    I saw this post so I just had to say, “I like it.” It does seem to hit the spot, like another poster said. This is a recent feeling for me. I am curious what the future brings, but I do think it’s not worth it too ‘care’ about a lot of old ‘crap’ that has no long lasting value. Maybe it’s just my focus, that is curious for me now…

  8. pippafay@gmail.com' pippa says:

    I absolutely love this post.

  9. Nicole777@gmail.com' Nicole says:

    Your post resonates with me at so many levels. I’d be interested in following your future works. Your insight into this ailment ‘apathy’ seems increasingly prevalent in recent years. I can’t help but wonder if technological advances make escapism far too easy and appealing to brave the real world beyond TV, video games, internet, texting….
    For me, I’ve become so overwhelmed by the intricate convoluted complications in my life that I’ve lost the drive to manage them in a productive way. They suck my precious time; what I value most. Now my days are spent doing things I’m forced to do. I feel caged, defeated. I just don’t care anymore although i desperately want to. I’ve worked my ass off to build what I have now. But now id rather escape than deal with the mountains of BS that has become my life. I need to know that on the other side of those mountains is something worth fighting for. I can’t imagine it now. Maybe one day …

    • petertonfacc@ymail.com' Nam T says:

      All you have to do is lose what is most precious to you (spiritually)., pride/ego , how do you lose it? Give yourself to a person that really matters. Sit foward and brace yourself. Remember, this is about losing, not so when you finally lose it, you are free from yourself.

    • smendoza097@gmail.com' Sam says:

      Never related more

    • hope48elinor48@gmail.com' elinor says:

      Nicole ~
      I could not have said it better myself. Awesome comment that resonates with me on every level !
      What I can say is the other side of that ‘Mountain’ is:
      Bliss, Freedom, Peace, Compassion, Abundance and L O V E ~
      Trust Me – NO – Trust in
      The Divine
      Our PRIME CREATOR
      The Universe ~
      We shall get back 1000 for what our hearts put out so as another poster said …
      Just ‘ B E ‘
      EVERYTHING we’ve been forced to endure and all that we are currently experiencing …
      It IS WORTH ALL OF THIS
      & SO MUCH MORE 🌷
      ” I AM ‘THAT’ I AM ”
      … and …
      ” SO IT IS ”

      ~ The Owning Of …
      ‘ Our Divine Spark Within ‘
      ‘ Self Empowerment ‘
      Mastery of All !!!
      ‘ We Are Creators of
      Our Own Reality ‘
      Right inside of Us
      Patiently waiting for us to Awaken …
      To this and all TRUTHS !
      🕉

  10. quantumway7@yahoo.com' Tina says:

    I really needed this. I only had to skim the article to “get it”, because it’s where I am at right now, and I’ve been there before. But I’d always go back (Richard addresses this in his very sensible comment). I’d go back to “caring”, which really means “worrying, fretting, analyzing, judging, and freaking out about”. We can care about something, and yet accept that we can’t do a darn thing about it. I always went back to “caring” because society tells us its what we should do, and we’re lazy, we’re “giving up” if we don’t wear ourselves out with “caring”. Going back to all that is based in fear, I find-fear of what others will say, fear of losing friends, fear of being poor, unsuccessful, fear of the unknown. Well, here I am again, I just don’t “care” anymore…and I hope I don’t go back!

    • rattleknocker@gmail.com' Punchy McFeckoff says:

      Thank you!
      Finally the most non bullshit straight to the point description of how it truly is.
      And, I don’t give two shits to what happens to anyone/everyone in this world after I’m done living in it. Out to make the biggest “kiss my ass” carbon footprint I can, along with a quick self crotch-grab and a double middle finger solute, I say BITE IT!!!
      Too bad I won’t be here to see the
      looks on the faces of all the surviving retards in the family
      When my lawyer reads them my living will!
      Hahahah….SUCKERS!!!!!!!

  11. Lmd46383@gmail.com' Linda says:

    Totally wore out and frankly I don’t care anymore. My whole life, I cared. In fact, I cared too much. I think I cared more, because others didn’t. Now, I am spent..wore out..don’t care anymore. Unfair that some assume the job, because others don’t or won’t!

  12. amberblee@gmail.com' Amber Lee says:

    Oh gosh I cannot say how much the article meant to me. I am at a point right now where I am finding my true self. I suffered so bad with Anxiety and depression and Ocd – all of it was based out of fear. So people pleasing is a huge sign of anxiety because we want acceptance, everybody does and having anxiety I would get fearful to say something stupid or look stupid in front of other people. So I met this man a year and a half ago who said, “you care too much.” Confused…. you know! I thought caring was always a good thing because it meant you were loving, but it actually means concern or worry. You are concerning yourself with what others think of you and it was causing me to NOT be my true self – or express what I really thought or felt. Well here is the kicker. This man who told me I cared too much – well I feel in love with him basically because he was the most genuine person I had ever met before. I was afraid he wasn’t going to like me – I cared right- well I did everything to be the perfect girl for him. I cooked, I worked out, I ate healthy, I got interested in things he liked, I was always nice to him…. anyway… here is what happened. None of it was working. It seemed the more I tried to get him to like me – the more I cared – the more I pushed him away. Dumbfounded, I asked god how do I get this guy to like me? The response I got was don’t fear – just be yourself. I was like yeah if that happens he won’t like me. Well my neighbors one day invited me over for dinner. I am a very observant person. Well anyway – long story short – my neighbors were identical to me and my roomate. IDENTICAL. The man didn’t care about anything and his fiance was exactly like me. I talked to this couple separately for about 3 hours to find that me and him were meant for each other if I had only not cared or worried about what he was gonna think of me. Imperfections and all. She wasn’t perfect and she didn’t care, but she was just like me. I am struggling with not caring. I honestly wish I didn’t because there would be complete freedom from it. To not worry about anything and just be your true self.

  13. 1kookiekat@att.net' Debra Santowski says:

    I am so glad I found you! I wanted to know the song lyrics for Phil Collins song “I Don’t Care Anymore” and I found You! I am a decades long time Coast to Coast listener and very fond of George Noory and [Art Bell]. Thank you for this post! This is so real! I am trying so hard to find answers to carry on with my life as a widow for the past 4 1/2 years. I was in therapy for 28 months and I find myself trying so hard to deal with not being able to see my therapist for the past year. She told me I did not need her clinically anymore and I agree. BUT, I am so attached to her and I really don’t understand why. I don’t agree with the transference concept. It is just pure “Love” to me. Thank you for your passion and perspective.

  14. herndon.m@gmail.com' herndon says:

    really? like i fucking care…
    imo its all bs and you are trying to hard to sound intelligent.. and no one cares what you think.. but thats imo like i would expect you to care anyway.

  15. koutasama1@hotmail.com' Conner says:

    I don’t think you notice, but nobody cares. Richard.

  16. catpeach55@yahoo.com' jessie says:

    This is how I am feeling. I just turned 24 and I just don’t care about things that I used to care about anymore. Maybe it is me just maturing. Or, maybe I am dead and don’t even know it…I doubt it. This helped a lot though.

  17. robertthegreek@yahoo.com' robert says:

    I am 65 and feel this way. Im lost.

  18. stathamite@aol.com' J says:

    I think the world is just too far gone at this point, and this is just us realising it.

    We can’t save it at this point. Too many people hate too much, and it’s become normality. The only appropriate response for someone who realises this is to psychologically break.

  19. rdcardoza@netscape.net' Robert says:

    Yeah sure, no shit, Sherlock… You’re on-point, but are you just another “life coach”, shilling for a fee? Here’s the rub: I don’t care about any of these things that I’m supposed to shed, like a snakeskin, and I’m re-searching for Eden. But what? Am I supposed to become homeless now? Because that’s close to where I’m at… Who’s (or how are you) paying YOUR bills? Trust fund baby? I’m practically unemployable at this point, and just got fired from my fourth “successful” career (even though I just went back to college and almost got a 4.0 GPA.) Can I crash on your couch, when I get put out to the curb, Cherie? Are you just another internet fraud blogger, or are there any REAL answers here? I’ve got weeks; maybe 3 months, tops… *tick, tick, tick*

  20. rdcardoza@netscape.net' Robert says:

    I didn’t mean to sound quiiiite so dour, Cherie… After looking at your website, I see that you are a talented, hard-working artist and writer, who has built something tangible and meaningful for herself. I hope that is all going well for you. I used to be that same artist, designer and writer; that same professional, and contributor to our world. Now it’s slipping away (again) and I can’t seem to get up from the canvas – not one more time(?) 10 count *ding, ding* I’m out… But all the best to you! Too bad you don’t follow this blog any longer, it would seem…

  21. mehrtanvir@gmail.com' Sadaf says:

    Insightful thought; I believe that is a catalyst for coming into this state..

  22. mehrtanvir@gmail.com' Sadaf says:

    @J… what said about the world being “too far gone” at this point…
    Very helpful article

  23. jimkapper@juno.com' Jim says:

    It’s interesting after 59 years, that I would feel this way. Just getting to retirement age, I have to “not give a shit” to be able to collect what I have been paying into for years.
    People have called me many things…..depressed, negative, a “grumpy old bastard”…..but my self defense mechanisms have kicked in and I say “Fuck you”.
    I have a lot to offer, but because I don’t fit into the corporate mold, I am not a “team player”.
    Well….I have 3.5 years to go and I can play the fucking game until I punch out for the last time. After that, it’s up to the mountains and a peaceful life in the wilderness.

  24. astronomical11@gmail.com' Scruff McGruff says:

    Written by someone who really doesn’t know what it feels like to not care. If I had to read one more sentence that started with “You need to…” YOU NEED this and YOU NEED that….The last thing “I need” is some douchebag internet journalist telling me what I need. You’re a joke, and you have no idea what real depression is like. This article didn’t help, it just made me more pissed off. That’s real depression. There is no magical formula to get undepressed that everyone can follow. It’s different for everyone, but I understand you gotta make a living bullshitting everyone online.

  25. thadrought19@yahoo.com' Tre says:

    I use to be this way also. I am a born again Christian. Ever since God saved me I have had such peace in my mind body and spirit. The feelings of being rejected or the patterns of people playing childish child hood games just doesnt bother me anymore. I use to curse alot and call people names and now I don’t curse at all. I acted it out and when I was done wrong. Now when it happens I just play it cool and finese the situation and keep it moving. People ask me am I stressing I tell them no all the time I am calm because God has changed me. I care for people but I won’t let you run over me in a graceful way. It’s a very peaceful experience and God really has shown me the patterns of this world. I thank him for removing people out of my life and putting me in a better situation.

  26. roland_yng@yahoo.com' Roland Young says:

    This was the most real thing I have read for a while, a long while and inspired me not to care more, but I do care about being real and authentic – very rare. some advice given – not bad advice – but we do not know , I do not know. I get a glimpse of ineffable beauty and love, more than a glimpse of stupidity, ignorance, greed hatred, unspeakable acts of cruelty, and the killing/destruction of pretty much everything on our beautiful planet. I know which I prefer. It is no longer possible for me to operate within our insane obviously unsustainable system. Where to now, I do not know. Already beyond the last crossroad? One last tango not a bad way to go – where/

  27. silvodene@gmail.com' Pete says:

    I just don’t care. I’m closer than ever to getting the Mossberg 500, a box of rifled slugs and putting one into my brain. No one cares. My wife hasn’t had sex with me in eight years, and she really doesn’t fucking care any more. I just want this torture to be over.

    • stacygilbert63@yahoo.com' Stacy says:

      Am sorry that your going through such hell! I do understand as I too have danced with taking my own life and well have tried a few times in the past. And for me there was only two reasons I wanted to take my own life one pain sucks ass I was so tired of trying and feeling pain just didn’t want to feel anymore pain! But if I had to be honest I wanted the other person who hurt me to suffer with knowing that he was the reason for my sorrow that drove me to take my life! Like many of us I was one that cared to much my goal was to please everyone I always put myself last. I still remember the day I woke up and said damn I just don’t give a damn anymore. The day he left he even said you just stop caring about everything and I did. It wasn’t that I didn’t love him I just didn’t feel the need to bend over backwards anymore for him or anyone else for that matter. See everyone in my life was use to me doing for them so when I stopped doing that is when he left! And yes its painful as hell when your in a loveless marriage or relationship. I myself do believe that when you feel lost hopeless and that nobody gives a flying fuck its normal to feel alone like its over and you wish to end it all! But there’s a lot of freedom when you say I just don’t give a fuck anymore! I myself am thinking about just walking right out of my life meaning just pack a few clothes and some pictures and all this material crap that’s here well am leaving it behind after all its just things. Most people would say oh no what about a place to live,money,job, fuck that we are taught that we should do certain things in our life to insure our happiness and all that crap! And after being in this world for almost 43 yes it hasn’t worked for me yet so this time am gonna do it my way if it means am living in a tent by the river then so be it just know that what your feeling is normal it doesn’t mean your messed up in the head it just means your human with a heart and NO your not alone am here if you just need to talk

    • gogoaim@yahoo.com' i dont give a fuck anymore says:

      im sorry but i dont care either

    • Memi2u@aol.com' Memi says:

      I’m so sorry
      Hang in there please
      Hugs

  28. seanspiering@gmail.com' sean spiering says:

    nothing matters? what about nothing mattering? does that matter?

  29. suerobertson33@gmail.com' sue robertson says:

    Pete, please don’t do anything final. I’m from OZ and feel similar. Contact me for support x don’t give up you are NOT alone

  30. hayretiny@hotmail.com' somebody says:

    How is this empowering? To me “I don’t care” is the same as I have no idea what I want because if you don’t care about anything that is you don’t have any desire of anything, no clue where and what you want to be. So how would you get empowered by dumping all when you have no idea what you want? On the contrary, I believe it is empowering to have a goal whichever that is, aligned with your own ideals, and do whatever it takes to get at least closer to it. This brings meaning. Otherwise, one is let floating without any direction and influenced by people and circumstances.

  31. sandino@bigpond.com' Sand says:

    I don’t even give a fuck about reading this……….

  32. bitchinmoves@gmail.com' bitchin moves says:

    You boring self obsessed egotistical douche stain

  33. cameronjac@yahoo.ca' Titus says:

    Oh ya whatever, ask someone that gives a flying fuck in a rolling doughnut.

  34. jimmyjaimes1988@gmail.com' James says:

    Thank you so much for this.

    I realised I had removed a lot of worry, but not entirely.

    I know the path for me now is to just be constantly in the moment and not care about achieving anything or what other people think of me or worry about what to say to people.

    Just live in the moment and whatever happens happens.

    Cheers

  35. kimworia@sevencoltd.com' Kimzi says:

    well you kinda got me the first part… then you started telling me what to do.. I don’t want empowerment. ..I just want to be alone for eternity. I don’t want advice.

    you see for too long I was was the nice guy… doing everything for everyone. Blood sweat and tears blah blah blah…

    and I get jack shit. no one would ever think of helping me out whenever I had issues. . not even my family. they think once I graduated with my hospitality degree I should have looked for a job. my ex expected me to be able to hook us up with those amazing discounts and complimentary rooms and vaycays…

    but what about me? just me? and this isnt sulking nooo…
    I know at this point no one and nothing else will prevail.

    so I guess we’re the ones they say are here to ‘exist’

    I say I have a one track mind and refused to let the world suck me in to things that are routine.

  36. dgggg@msn.com' thisismyname says:

    You must have read the book The Power of Now. I read it, and everything you mention about I am and being is explained in the book. Any hoot, love the humor in the beginning!

  37. Bill@aol.net' LetTheRealTruthBeTold says:

    Especially what a Career woman makes for a Salary which i really Don’t give a Crap at all since Most of them are very Spoiled and very Selfish today as it is Unfortunately which is the Real Reason why many of us Good men are still Single now.

  38. bursty@gmail.com' Bursty says:

    I’m glad I found this, because that’s how I feel right now. I gave up on making people to do something for a change, because it was really tiring. I literally killed my old self and now I’m just figuring what kind of person I really am and what are my life goals.
    If you can’t revolutionize the world, then revolutionize your own.

  39. Magesh97@ymail.com' Does_it_matter says:

    1. Am I responsible for my own sufferings or happiness (thoughts)? If so, am I in control of my mental well-being?
    2. If I stopped caring, what am I? Is it possible to care for others without expectations of any kind?
    4. How to go about doing one’s own duty without really caring for the fruits (good/ bad) of its labour?
    5. This is related to the first challenge…..Is it possible to stop thought? If so, how (without killing oneself!)?

    You figure these out and you will know how to end your frozen stupor!

  40. coosa1944@yahoo.com' Carol says:

    You miss spelled enema – but that notwithstanding, what you said is right on target and exactly what I needed to hear. Or read. It explains what has been happening to me internally since before my Mom died. I’m assuming that I picked up the cues from her late last year and did not realize it. She is my blood and there must be a direct connection between her emotions and mine after all. As she was preparing to die, I was morphing into my own “death.” As she was being resurrected into heaven, I was being changed into a new and stronger “self” on earth. Thank you for putting it into words and validating what’s been going on with me internally. I AM in charge of my life and I will say “no” when asked to do something I no longer care to do! And I will do my own thing! I’m 71 and I’ve earned it and my parents have made it possible!
    (Now I’ll read the other comments!)

  41. Sarahb73@live.co.uk' Sarah says:

    You may find your answers in Buddhism. Not only will you learn to dissolve the sense of self and the ego through recognising the interdependency of all things, but alongside, you will learn to develop loving kindness and compassion for all living things. You can care and be loving whilst not expecting anything in return. This is the way to true happiness.

  42. iyad.rifai@hotmail.com' Iyad El Rifai says:

    You had me until you said spread the empowerment and uplifting. I do not have energy for that anymore. I do not care. And I think few people deserve that. I know what you are going to say, be nice because you are nice not because others deserve it and stuff like that. But I simply do not care. I just do not care.

  43. Chancechristensen96@gmail.com' Chance says:

    So I feel like I related to this post, but I’m not sure. But if I’m gonna explain my particular predicament I guess I gotta start from the beginning. So back when I was a kid I grew up on my parents ranch with my brother, mother and father. As a kid I can remember doing all kinds of things and carrying on like a wild child. Shot guns, rode 4 wheelers and dirt bikes and was always doing something potentially dangerous and getting in trouble a lot. Fought with my brother a lot, like argue and even got into physical fights often (we are now very close and get along really well) in elementary school I was always wild and trying to show off, obviously to be seen as “cool” by my peers and to get attention. I feel like I was compulsive and erratic, easily distracted by other kids goofing off in class or what not and joined in the behavior, or started it myself. Maybe it was to get attention? Idk. My mother was told I showed signs of ADHD, because of how easily distracted I got by silly things and acted out in very obnoxious ways. In junior high and high school I liked to be liked and accepted (I mean who doesn’t, right?) and this meant by everyone. I feel like I went out of my way, acted differently around different groups as if I was conforming my own behavior to mimic theirs to relate to what they did or were talking about to get attention and feel accepted by everyone. Scary part is I got very good at it. I could switch my behavior and personality on a dime, from being loud and obnoxious around a certain group or clique to being calm and cool and not seeming to give a dam about anything around others. Reason I bring this up is I feel like I still do this, and idk if this makes sense, but in all the chaos of me constantly switching my attitude and behaviors, I feel like I lost a grip on who I really am, just me and how I act when no one else is around, when I can relax and just do my own thing. I go out of my way to help others with things like moving stuff from their house, etc, and I feel like I do it for approval or for their acceptance or to feel like they accept and like me as their friend. I would drop everything I was doing (it could be minor to major tasks I needed to get done for myself) to go and help others with their things. Spending a lot of money in fuel to run around everywhere, not finishing homework assignments to go party, etc. I feel like I was more concerned with them liking me and feeling accepted than doing things for me. This has lead me to go into debt because of compulsive buying of things like a fancy truck so people would always want to hang out and ride with me, etc. I would also lie about things I said i have done when I really haven’t to impress others. I feel so drained nowadays, all these bills cause of this debt I’m in because of the compulsive spending I have done, focusing on messing around instead of doing the things I needed to do so I can have the future I want, everyone still wants me to do a ton of stuff for them all the time but never want to help me out, and I can’t cause I either don’t have enough money to put enough fuel in my car to go to where they are and then get up and make it to work without running out of fuel, I have to turn them down and I hate that cause it makes me feel like there opinions of me go way down when I don’t do what they ask me to do. I hate caring about all of this. I hate how I have an automatic response of “yeah I’ll come help you with that, let me drop all the extremely important things I’m doing to come do that for you” and I don’t stop to think how what I’m doing is more important. I can’t seem to get myself to stop and think and say no. I hate that I care and am always stressing about what other people think. I want to just not give a dam and tell everyone “nope sorry figure it out on your own” and not feel bad about not helping them. Idk if any of that makes sense but hopefully someone can relate.

    • alee87941@gmail.com' Angel Lee says:

      Im not saying im right, this is just my opinion. I understand where you’re coming from you are a people pleaser. I think you should do something from the goodness of your heart, not to please people. If they’re your true friends they will like you no matter if you’re able to help or not. If you’re unable too it’s okay. Don’t go out of your way to do stuff for other people if they aren’t your close friends or family because you don’t know if there selfish and only care bout themselves anyway. Why would you want friends like that? Be true to yourself you sound like a nice person. Learn to love you and your own company. If you don’t know who you are then how will anyone be able to like you because you don’t have your own true personality and try to adapt to there’s jus to please them.

  44. MERRICKRONAN1@gmail.com' Ro says:

    I’m going through this at the moment and I needed to read this. it feels kind of surreal. if I didn’t know better I would think that I’d had some sort of psychedelic experience but I know I haven’t. it feels good. I’ve always sweated the small stuff and now I feel like I’m letting go.

  45. Anonymous@aol.net' AW says:

    All i have to do is just worry about myself to Survive.

  46. winthrop1969@aol.com' FadingOut says:

    I get it. Believe me. After 48 years of knocking myself out to please family, bosses, friends, coworkers, only to have them turn around and snap and snarl at me, I am done. I’d like to divorce myself from humanity and lie on a sunny beach somewhere, gazing at the sparkling blue water and thinking of nothing. These days, the only motivating factor in my life is my cats, whom I love dearly. I will take care of them till they pass. After that, I’m looking for alcohol and pills, and I’m going to retire permanently.

  47. AKaiser93@googlemail.com' TC says:

    I normally don’t even leave comments when it comes to articles but I’m experiencing a huge synchronicity (coincidences that fit to current events in your life) right now. The fact that this article has been published JUST when I’m actually feeling exactly how the author described it is simply NUTS.

  48. jmolejojo@gmail.com' James says:

    Same here and I think I just start thinking like just I don’t care because of depressions, caring too much, and a highly stress i had it before in my life when I was a kid until i become an 18 years old, so i just feel like I’m a cold person and there’s no feeling anymore, and that is not what i like, i want to be a very serious, motivated, full of feelings and love, smart, and like to live the beautiful life, and as soon as I found something or solution of this problem i will typed here 🙂 .

  49. Katie.towers@yahoo.com' Me says:

    I just cried after reading this. I knew I wasn’t depressed but when I say to people that I just don’t care…they say that I’m depressed. I’m not. I have a rewarding job that doesn’t make a lot of money. I’m a single mom. I have a very supportive family. I just don’t care anymore. I just AM! Me.

  50. shewhoasks@comcast.net' Connie says:

    This post fell into its own mind trap.
    Nice effort though.

  51. visa.lehtinen@yahoo.com' Maailma says:

    Spot on! my excat feelings, nice synchronization event flowing with the slightly chaotic rapid change of spring. Living from heart, miracles are achieved. <3

  52. prbybrittany23@gmail.com' Brittany says:

    Thank you for this article. I suffer from depression and anxiety at its worse. I use to worry out the ass, but for the past year or so, im finally saying screw it anymore. Life has kicked me around, and knocked me down countless times to me getting right back up. Its not worth it anymore. My life is completely different from others and now im seeing that. Ive realized that nothing really matters anymore, and im done trying to be perfect. And planning things. Things are going to turn out the way theyre going to be. My attitude these days is “it is what it is”.

  53. a211@hotmail.co.uk' alan says:

    I am glad you were an inspiration to many.
    I think its all bollocks what you say.
    Your article does not even come to helping me and any way.
    But thanks for trying to help the unfortunate’s like me.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

FAIR USE NOTICE. Many of the stories on this site contain copyrighted material whose use has not been specifically authorized by the copyright owner. We are making this material available in an effort to advance the understanding of environmental issues, human rights, economic and political democracy, and issues of social justice. We believe this constitutes a 'fair use' of the copyrighted material as provided for in Section 107 of the US Copyright Law which contains a list of the various purposes for which the reproduction of a particular work may be considered fair, such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship, and research. If you wish to use such copyrighted material for purposes of your own that go beyond 'fair use'...you must obtain permission from the copyright owner.

The information on this site is provided for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for professional advice of any kind. Conscious Life News assumes no responsibility for the use or misuse of this material. Your use of this website indicates your agreement to these terms.

Paid advertising on Conscious Life News may not represent the views and opinions of this website and its contributors. No endorsement of products and services advertised is either expressed or implied.
Top

Send this to friend