10 Reasons Why I Don’t Care Anymore and Neither Should You

Written by on February 11, 2014 in Awake and Aware, Conscious Living, Happiness with 16 Comments

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Can You Relate to These Questions?

There has been too much coincidence of people experiencing these symptoms for me to ignore this any longer.  Let me jump right in the deep end:

  • Are you feeling a great amount of detachment lately from things that would normally bother you regarding your career, home life, worries or life in general?
  • Do you have a ‘devil-may-care’ attitude all of a sudden (as in ‘I don’t give a hoot’ or you couldn’t be asked to bat an eyelid)?
  • Are you struggling to get going this year?  Like you’re stuck in neutral?
  • Do you try to shift gears and get things done but more stuff is piling up and you just don’t have the vooma to carry on?
  • Do you feel that nothing is worth the effort anymore and it’s time to throw in the towel?
  • Do you feel like you’re trying to fit a round into a square?  Things just aren’t fitting anymore and there you are huffing and puffing trying to make it fit!
  • Have you been asking yourself, ‘What’s wrong with me?’

You’ve just stumbled upon a major quagmire that has got most of us quasi-global citizensin it’s lethargic grip.

“What is it, what’s going on?”  I hear you cry!

I’m not 100% sure but I’m going to give it a shot filtering it through my own realizations of late.  We are experiencing a death and rebirth of our selves.

Goodbye Old Me and Hello New Who?

I’ve gone through the above questions like an old computer trying to scour for an answer to a rather outdated formula.  What have I come up with?  Here it goes:

  • I don’t care what people think of me
  • I don’t care what other’s expect of me
  • I don’t care if I die tomorrow
  • I don’t care about my career or where I thought I was heading just a few months ago
  • I don’t care if I end up under a bridge
  • I don’t care if this world is or isn’t experiencing a shift of paradigm
  • I don’t care if everything I believe to be true isn’t (ooh, there’s a big one!)
  • I don’t care that I don’t care (this is where I stick my tongue out)
  • I don’t care….well, yes, I’m sure you get the picture now

But the crux is, I think I just died to my former self.  Who am I?  No, just rather — I AM.

It feels like my mind, spirit and body have had a rather cleansing enima.  The moment I started detaching from what I wanted to manifest I, you guessed it, started to manifest all those things at a rapid pace.

I suppose you could call it your very own eternal sunshine of the spotless mind so you can start with a clean slate to create this dream life you’ve always wanted.

Why It’s Necessary to Experience Your Own Death (Metaphorically Speaking)

Because you have to truly and utterly — with every fiber of your body — die to your old way of thinking/operating/being to open up to the new paradigm that is practically kicking down your door to be let in.

You need to detach from past auto-responsive behaviours to make way for new neural connections that will allow you to react in a way that is grounded, balanced and coming from your heart and not your head.

You need to really detach from the expectations and opinions of others about you — there is no more need to defend yourself, your career (or lack of) choices, your partner (or lack of) choices, your beliefs (or lack of…lol), your version of reality (or illusion) or anything else you may have felt defensive about in the past.

IT DOESN’T MATTER ANYMORE AND YOU HAVE NO NEED TO DEFEND IT.

Phew!  What a bloody relief!!!

What Needs To Stay and What Will Depart

Those who will love and respect you enough to let you be will remain in your life and those who will not be able to bear not being able to manipulate you anymore will leave (albeit kicking and screaming).

Be the still presence and just watch how things unfold.  Don’t give in to external demands (not unless you’ve made peace with what is being asked of you) — just be silent. Eventually what needs to fall away will.

Where there is no two opposing energies feeding a situation, the energy will move on.

Walk the Talk and Dance the Tango

Now is the time to stop talking about what you know or believe and to LIVE it.  Show others by example and not by rabbiting on about it.  Dance like no-ones watching — even if it is down the aisles at your local supermarket.

Be the change you want to see (thanks, Gandhi) and live for joy and upliftment for yourself and those around you.

Books by this author include:

    Divine You — Redefining Love in the New Earth Book
author shot lo resCherie Roe Dirksen is a self-empowerment author, multi-media artist and meditation music composer from Cape Town, South Africa.  You can subscribe to her site here: http://wordpress.us2.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=de82d88d55984d721f7479aef&id=f442a64e3d
She has weekly blogs on her site www.cherieroedirksen.com where she discusses creativity, practical and insightful perspectives on taking responsibility for your actions and living the life you came here to experience. You can follow her on Twitter (@cheriedirksen) and Facebook @The Art of Empowerment.

 

 

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  1. wissl@myfairpoint.net' Richard says:

    You made it all the way to ” No, just rather — I AM.”………and then you went right back to analyzing , exp-lanations , how-to paragraphs and all the crap that FOR A SECOND………you had managed to leave behind.
    GO BACK to ….just Being

  2. You make a valid point, Richard.

  3. jenanne30@hotmail.com' Jen says:

    I can’t begin to tell you how much I relate to this post, I’m so glad I came upon it! I have been feeling so detached from life for the past couple of years and for awhile I was wondering if I needed to get on medication for depression. But I wasn’t really depressed, just tired of caring so much and expecting and trying so hard and going nowhere. The minute I stopped caring, I kid you not, things started to fall in place for me. I always come from a place of detachment when I look at things now. It’s not always easy, particularly in stressful times, but I usually come right back to it. I find it hard to relate to people anymore who are coming from a place of attachment, I often don’t understand what they’re getting worked up about, how they don’t understand that if they’d just go with the flow, things usually work themselves out. Anyway, just wanted to say, thanks for posting!

  4. skinnamoo@hotmail.com' Celeste says:

    This article echoes EXACTLY how I’m feeling this year. I think we start feeling like this because we no longer wish to be drones. And it feels good to just say eff it and let go. So thanks so much for posting this. It really hits the spot.

  5. katepowell31@yahoo.com' Frances John says:

    I don’t care to like you on Facebok because I don’t care for Facebook, but I do like you.

  6. hiphoppapotimis@yahoo.com' Luna says:

    Its not that I feel unmotivated or wouldnt care if I died. I just dont give a shit about drama or what people think of me or expect of me.

  7. p7daniel@hotmail.com' Phill says:

    I saw this post so I just had to say, “I like it.” It does seem to hit the spot, like another poster said. This is a recent feeling for me. I am curious what the future brings, but I do think it’s not worth it too ‘care’ about a lot of old ‘crap’ that has no long lasting value. Maybe it’s just my focus, that is curious for me now…

  8. pippafay@gmail.com' pippa says:

    I absolutely love this post.

  9. Nicole777@gmail.com' Nicole says:

    Your post resonates with me at so many levels. I’d be interested in following your future works. Your insight into this ailment ‘apathy’ seems increasingly prevalent in recent years. I can’t help but wonder if technological advances make escapism far too easy and appealing to brave the real world beyond TV, video games, internet, texting….
    For me, I’ve become so overwhelmed by the intricate convoluted complications in my life that I’ve lost the drive to manage them in a productive way. They suck my precious time; what I value most. Now my days are spent doing things I’m forced to do. I feel caged, defeated. I just don’t care anymore although i desperately want to. I’ve worked my ass off to build what I have now. But now id rather escape than deal with the mountains of BS that has become my life. I need to know that on the other side of those mountains is something worth fighting for. I can’t imagine it now. Maybe one day …

  10. quantumway7@yahoo.com' Tina says:

    I really needed this. I only had to skim the article to “get it”, because it’s where I am at right now, and I’ve been there before. But I’d always go back (Richard addresses this in his very sensible comment). I’d go back to “caring”, which really means “worrying, fretting, analyzing, judging, and freaking out about”. We can care about something, and yet accept that we can’t do a darn thing about it. I always went back to “caring” because society tells us its what we should do, and we’re lazy, we’re “giving up” if we don’t wear ourselves out with “caring”. Going back to all that is based in fear, I find-fear of what others will say, fear of losing friends, fear of being poor, unsuccessful, fear of the unknown. Well, here I am again, I just don’t “care” anymore…and I hope I don’t go back!

  11. Lmd46383@gmail.com' Linda says:

    Totally wore out and frankly I don’t care anymore. My whole life, I cared. In fact, I cared too much. I think I cared more, because others didn’t. Now, I am spent..wore out..don’t care anymore. Unfair that some assume the job, because others don’t or won’t!

  12. amberblee@gmail.com' Amber Lee says:

    Oh gosh I cannot say how much the article meant to me. I am at a point right now where I am finding my true self. I suffered so bad with Anxiety and depression and Ocd – all of it was based out of fear. So people pleasing is a huge sign of anxiety because we want acceptance, everybody does and having anxiety I would get fearful to say something stupid or look stupid in front of other people. So I met this man a year and a half ago who said, “you care too much.” Confused…. you know! I thought caring was always a good thing because it meant you were loving, but it actually means concern or worry. You are concerning yourself with what others think of you and it was causing me to NOT be my true self – or express what I really thought or felt. Well here is the kicker. This man who told me I cared too much – well I feel in love with him basically because he was the most genuine person I had ever met before. I was afraid he wasn’t going to like me – I cared right- well I did everything to be the perfect girl for him. I cooked, I worked out, I ate healthy, I got interested in things he liked, I was always nice to him…. anyway… here is what happened. None of it was working. It seemed the more I tried to get him to like me – the more I cared – the more I pushed him away. Dumbfounded, I asked god how do I get this guy to like me? The response I got was don’t fear – just be yourself. I was like yeah if that happens he won’t like me. Well my neighbors one day invited me over for dinner. I am a very observant person. Well anyway – long story short – my neighbors were identical to me and my roomate. IDENTICAL. The man didn’t care about anything and his fiance was exactly like me. I talked to this couple separately for about 3 hours to find that me and him were meant for each other if I had only not cared or worried about what he was gonna think of me. Imperfections and all. She wasn’t perfect and she didn’t care, but she was just like me. I am struggling with not caring. I honestly wish I didn’t because there would be complete freedom from it. To not worry about anything and just be your true self.

  13. 1kookiekat@att.net' Debra Santowski says:

    I am so glad I found you! I wanted to know the song lyrics for Phil Collins song “I Don’t Care Anymore” and I found You! I am a decades long time Coast to Coast listener and very fond of George Noory and [Art Bell]. Thank you for this post! This is so real! I am trying so hard to find answers to carry on with my life as a widow for the past 4 1/2 years. I was in therapy for 28 months and I find myself trying so hard to deal with not being able to see my therapist for the past year. She told me I did not need her clinically anymore and I agree. BUT, I am so attached to her and I really don’t understand why. I don’t agree with the transference concept. It is just pure “Love” to me. Thank you for your passion and perspective.

  14. herndon.m@gmail.com' herndon says:

    really? like i fucking care…
    imo its all bs and you are trying to hard to sound intelligent.. and no one cares what you think.. but thats imo like i would expect you to care anyway.

  15. koutasama1@hotmail.com' Conner says:

    I don’t think you notice, but nobody cares. Richard.

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